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Cheers! I enjoy giving advice and I think I'm good at it. Is it pretentious to say I refuse to answer questions about "Love" from people who are under age 16? I don't think love is real when you're 14, and I don't think you can fall in love in a month. I won't dignify that kind of stupidity with an answer. I also won't answer questions with terrible grammar. I just make fun of them on myspace! I know that's not nice, but it's just SO easy. And it's so unfair for me to give them a good, honest answer when they haven't asked a good, proper question. Ask me a real question and I will give you a real answer!
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Hi everyone. Well I don't live in Los Angeles, CA and I haven't been very up-to-date with the elections for mayor. I was wondering who won? I think it was Antonio Villaraigosa vs. Hahn. If anybody knows the results or a website I could get info it would be great. Thanks everyone for your time!!!
Try LATimes.Com under Politics/US News. I do believe Hahn lost at 23%; Villaraigosa had 33% of the votes.
Ok so I have a guy friend, and he's one of my best friends. We have a really good friendship, he's like a brother really. And I love him, and I'm pretty sure he knows it. But he's really hot n heavy with this girl, who I can't stand. She's one of those girls who are really pretty, and knows they are really pretty. I'm not sure what I'm trying to do really, it's just a problem, and it hurts. He'd never do anything to intentionally hurt me, I know that. I'm open to any advice! Thanks!
Are you jealous? Do you want to be like her, or do you want to be with him? Or, do you just not like the girl? Is she bitchy?
There has to be a legitimate reason for not wanting them to be together, and the most important thing is figuring out why you don't want them together. once you determine your answer, talk to your friend. Don't forget to tell him that you love him, and that you only want what's best.
Good luck.
i want to decorate my bedroom for my sweet sixteen! i am up for any ideas but i have to stay cheap. can any one give me ideas or good websites?
try HGTV.Com.
So, just for kicks, I want to video tape my friend acting stupid. She's one of those real proper types who hardly ever acts crazy. So when she does it's really a sight to see.
So my question is.. How do I hide my digital camera so that she wont notice it?
Oh and dont worry, this is all in good fun. I would never do anything to intentially hurt her.
Unlike a lot of others, I rate! So please respond!
Wear a hoodedn sweater with a pocket in the front. When she goes nuts, pull your cam halfway out and film away.
ok me and my boyfriend hve been together a while. and we hve done most everything but, sex. alot of my friends hve already had sex. i know some people might say im too young but me and my boyfriend love each other and i know we are both physically and emotionally ready. well he comes over often but everytime im on my period [ kinda wierd? ] but we both hve tlked about this.. and sometimes i want to and others im jus like idk.. but i think i am ready but im so scared i might get pregnant but most people i know of hve had sex and used a condom and hve not got pregnant. seriously what are the chances. do you think im ready? and how would i let him know while we are together that i want to..? PLEASE DONT SAY IM NASTY OR NETHING IM REALLY NOT! please answer asap
Only you can decide if you're ready. Are you only ready to go when you're turned on? If that's the case, then I don't think you're emotionally and mentally ready. If you're really ready to do the deed, then you'll know without having to ask anyone else.
Pregnancy can always happen when you have sex, but a condom GREATLY reduces the risk. Don't double bag--that doesn't work. It's an urban myth, and I'm not sure how anyone would believe it would work. If you have sex (with a condom, of course), but you're still afraid of pregnancy, try the morning after pill. It's available by prescription only, so you'll need to talk to your doctor.
does it mean someone is gothic if all they wear is black? and they dyed their hair pitch black?? thanks
Being gothic is not that simple. The Gothic lifestyle is just a subculture in today's society, and you should not stereotype all goths together. "Goths" are NOT satanic--they do NOT worship the devil; being Gothic is not a religious life--to say so without knowing is ignorant. I have No idea where people came up with that one, but it's not true. SOME Gothic people are also WICCAN, which is a religion, but A does not always equal B. You can be Wiccan and not gothic, and you can be gothic and not wiccan.
Wiccans do not worship the devil, either. That's just a filthy lie told by those who are ignorant.
So long answer short: No, it does not mean someone is gothic if they were all black and dye their hair the same color.
hey well here is the problem.. sorry might be long! ok well the guy i am goin out with i like him alot! and i mean i kno i love him.. i hve never felt this way about ne guy ever!.. we hve been goin out for a while now. but the problem is like at school or somewhere wher there are 'certain' people or something i jus act diff around him..and at school he says i act like i dont like him but when we are alone everything is perfect.. i mean i kno im not embarrassed of him! he is not the kind of guy u would be embarrassed of! i love him soo much but we hve been gettin into alot of fights about this and i dont kno what to do i tell him all the time i wil try to act different but i never do.. i dont want to loose him over something like this!! if you hve any help at all please answer or leave ur sn and i will IM you! thanks soo much!!
Maybe you're just not comfortable with the idea of Public Displays of Affection. Tell him that you do appreciate him and that you're not embarrassed whatsoever, but you aren't sure about some of that good old fashioned PDA.
If this is a huge issue, then start slow. Hold his hand a little in front of your friends. Touch him enough to let him know you're interested, but don't go overboard. You don't need to crawl on his back or anything, but it's the little things that count.
On Friday, I had asked (in an msn message) my friend Christine if she and my friend Jenn were going to a concert that night, because I wanted to go with them. She replied with a big long msn message (summarized) saying she and Jenn are better friends with each other than with me, they just wanted to hang out with each other this weekend. Also, Christine said she feels like I don't listen when she talks to me and that I don't care, so it's hard to want to be around me. Basically, I've been dumped as a friend. She said she didn't mean to put this all out on msn, and I could call her if I want to talk about it. So my question is, should I call her? What do I say? Is it worth repairing the friendship? Should I bother? (note- I did email her Friday thanking her for being honest with me, instead of just ditching me w/o reason, which they've done before)
Honestly, talking with your friend Christine may not resolve anything, but if it did, wouldn't it be worth it? I think calling her would be a good idea--what's the worse that could happen? If they've already dumped you, then what are you losing? If they aren't, then you could be taking a vital step toward restoring a friendship.
My sister is 18 and has recently been kicked out by my mother due to dumb issues. Now I love them both, but my sister is telling me crap about my parents and my parents are telling me crap about my sister. They basically want me to pick sides. Do I pick my parents that have raised me and that I will be stuck with for at least 4 more years? Or do I pick my sister because shes like my best friend?
Your parents and your sister should both be more mature than this! Neither your parents nor your sister should be putting you in the middle. Remind them that you love both of them, no matter what the other does, and if they loved you, they wouldn't try to make you the center of their pettiness. Tell them that because of your precarious position, you think it's unfair to be asked to pick sides, especially since you have nothing to do with the central issue--that is between your parents and your sister only.
IF they insist, tell them you will not make a single comment, but if they want to work it out, you'll be more than happy to play mediator.
This is for all you lovely ladies out there.
- What types of things do you like to hear.
Example. "You're beautiful"
What other things do you like being told.
Thanks!
I think if you're trying to figure out what a lady likes, you should probably get to know the lady individually, instead of trying to mass compliment them.
I am in my fifties and have been married for 25 years. My husband's family, who all live within 20 miles of us, are very close, except for the relationship between our family and the others. We are frequently excluded, especially by the one brother's wife from get-togethers, celebrations, etc. The other three sisters-in-law go shopping, take short trips together, etc.; in 25 years I've been asked one time. Our children are also basically ignored, but not as badly. My husband does get asked for the guy things, but I am totally left out of the group my mother-in-law calls "the girls." About 15 years ago my husband and I separated for a short time and I was estanged from the family for about a year after that, since it was the separation was at my prompting.
But that was a long time ago and the problems really existed prior to that. I'm at the point now of feeling really, really tired of feeling hurt by it and want to just see my husband's parents occasionally by ourselves, and forget the rest of the family. Is this out of line or should I just keep swallowing my pride and acting like all of this doesn't hurt. One sister-in-law that I'm closer to than the others asked the other two one time if they'd call me for one shopping trip and got as far as, "Well, we'll see if we ever ask her."
I think you've been biting back your tongue for long enough. It's been 25 years since all this has started--time enough for any grudges to be water under the bridge, and more than enough time for your in-laws to grow up. You can talk to the other two and ask them why they've been so rude all these years, but I would suggest talking to your husband about all this--just give him a heads up on what you're going to say. Remind him that you've been apart of the family for a quarter of a century and that, if nothing else, should be some ground to stand on.
Because I'm a headstrong, rash person, I know I would rather confront the other two sisters-in-law and demand some kind of respect. If they have some problem with you, shouldn't they do the mature thing and try to resolve the issue instead of ignoring you and treating you like a second class citizen? (However, I understand that not everyone would choose to react the same ways I do.)
If you feel like there is no other way, you dear, patient lady, then so be it. There's no rule that says you must see all of your in-laws. If you want to see only your mother-in-law on occasion, then go ahead. You've done your part, and if no one else appreciates it, then that is their fault.
i dunno where to start or how to explain it but me and my mom have a very close relationship, like we tell eachother everything and could talk about anything. well when i was little my dad died and she was with this real jerk that hit her and all this other stuff, she went back to him maybe like 10 times and that was hard for me. then finally she realized that that was enough. but the problem is i think shes actually going through it again. she was with this other guy and they seemed happy together and everything. but he had a problem with everything about my my mom, he even yelled her for her job?! she finally broke it up with him cuz she said she couldnt it anymore. but then last night she had told me she was going over his house and i just kept my mouth shut cuz i like to see my mom happy. but he just has a very bad attitude and he scares me. i just dont want her and me to go through this again. i need some great advice..plz and thank you
They say that a woman who was abused will often find herself in similar relationships over and over. It takes a great deal to break a cycle such as that. Sit down and have a serious talk with your mom. Tell her how you see it and that you don't want her to go through this again. She deserves better than to be in an abusive relationship. She can choose to break free of these kind of guys and meet someone she really deserves.
well lately my friend has totally been flirting with my boyfriend.She knows she does it but she just shrugs it off.I hate it!!like we will be walking in the halls together and she will come right between us and rather close to him i might add.i dont wanna ruin our friendship, but me and this guy really love each other.we've been together through thick and thin.Please help me and i hope this wasn't to long.
Talk to your friend once more and if she doesn't listen, then there's probably not much you can do on that end. If this is the case, then talk to your boyfriend. Ask him to make it clear that he's not interested in your friend and to move away from her everytime she approaches him. He should make it perfectly clear that he's yours, and that he wants to keep it that way.
to those of you who go to college: is 18 hours a semester a little too much? i'm a highschool senior, graduating early, and i also want to get through college as fast as possible too. i also want to work while i'm there... does this mean that i'd have no social life whatsoever? i don't want to kill myself with schoolwork like i have been this whole year but i also want to get out of there asap, i have my reasons.
18 hours is hard, but... it may be doable. Just remember that for every hour of class, you're supposed to do 2 hours of study time. You more likely than not won't be able to work AND have a social life.
Hi,
I like this guy that one of my friends are going out with and she really likes him. I don't know what to do .should I be selfless and let her be happy or should I put my self first and take a chance on braking them up and losing a friend?
Think about it this way: which relationship do you think will last longer? Are you willing to break up a friendship for a guy who may not even be into you, and even if he were, probably wouldn't even stick around that long?
Let's say that he does break up with your friend for you. What guarantee do you have that he won't turn around and do the same thing to you? Where will you be then? Without a boyfriend, and branded as a boyfriend thief.
And remember, he may tell you everything you want to hear, but it's just as likely he told your friend the same thing.
You might like this guy a lot, but chances are, if you're going to ask a question like this, you're not that old--which means you have plenty of time to look for someone else. So don't worry about this particular guy and try looking for someone else. It'll be worth it in the long run.
A year or two ago i went out w/ this girl. i liked her, she liked me. i dumped her ,because i relized that she wasn't that actractive, and she hated me. she wouldn't talk to me look at me etc. now i see her in the halls and at dismissle. now she really actractive. i don't want to go out w/ her or anything, i just want to be her friend again.what should i do?
p.s. she has a boy-friend now
I don't think you should talk to her. You strike me as shallow and superficial, and if you really cared about her, you would leave her alone. She deserves better than that. You had your chance, but you dumped her because you thought she was ugly, and now she's not, you want to be her friend. That is Fucked up. Leave her the hell alone. Maybe when you mature a little, you could try not to be as dumb with another girl.
Okay, I actually think I have ADD. I've secretly researched it for a few months now, and I have a lot of the symptoms majorly. I used to be really good in school, I used to be able to focus and concentrate most of the time. Now, I have SO many things going on in my head and I seem to act like I'm listening, but really my head is off in like, a million different places. I told my friend that I had it and she's the type of girl that will just not concentrate because something is "boring". She thinks that she has ADD too. Everytime we talk about it, she starts laughing ("I have ADD, lol!"). It pisses me off so much. How is anyone going to take me seriously after she tells EVERYONE she has it, and starts laughing after? Its kids like her who use out the term ADD. I bet many students like her go to their doctor and say they have it. But what about us who actually think we have it? I feel like the doctor is just going to turn me away and say "yes, you think you have ADD along with the rest of the student body at your high school...". I NEED to get help quick, but how am I supposed to approach help, and how do I convince my friend that she doesn't have it, and not everything in this life is "fun". I can't even concentrate on the things I enjoy anymore...
I don't think you should self-diagnose Only your doctor can do that; that's what they're trained to do. If you think you have ADD, then talk to your physician about it to get whatever help you may need.
As for your friend, whether she has ADD or not is completely unrelated to you. Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't but she's dealing with it in her way. Ask her to have a serious talk about it, and if she doesn't want to, then that's her problem. She can giggle and laugh at the idea, but that may just be her way of dealing with it.
I can understand why you're frustrated with her, but forget her girlishness. If you are diagnosed with ADD, then your teachers and your parents will be told and it will be acknowledged as an issue, but that will be entirely between you and them--with no nevermind to your friend.
Ok here goes, I am an advice giver and everything but I can't fix this problem. I go to a school where there is a whole bunch of guys. I have a major crush on one of them but every time I make a move on a guy I like, I get these kinds of remarks such as "You should jump off a bridge and save yourelf the embarassment of actually having a love life". Remarks like these are said to me everyday and somehow they have etched themselves into my head and they won't go away. Now it seems like the only way to get rid of them is to commit suicide. I have thought about it many times but I want help. Please answer back. I don't know how much more of these remarks I can stand.
Do not hurt yourself. First and foremost, if you are seriously considering suicide, then you should talk to someone you trust. It doesn't have to be your parents or a teacher, but talk to someone. Suicide is not normal and depression does NOT have to be apart of your life.
And as for those guys, I wouldn't ignore them. To ignore them is to give them the idea that it's okay to berate people for no other reason than personal amusement, and that is NOT okay. If the guy you like doesn't have the cajones to stand up for you (or for anyone at all), then he doesn't seem like that great of a guy.
Be clever. Make quips. Defend yourself. If they insult you, insult them back. You don't have to put up with their shit, but you will as long as you don't make a stand.
Good luck.
what is the "Kegal Excercize???" Im confused..I hear people talking about it but I never know what it is specifically...please help!
Kegal exercises are used to strengthen the walls of the vagina, often used to increase sexual pleasure. In order to do one, sit on the toilet and pee. Then squeeze the muscles in your lower body to stop. Those are the muscles that you work out with Kegals.
I'm 22/m and my sister just turned 16. We're very close with one another and usually can share anything. Recently, however, she has become more sexually explorative, which is fine, but now seems to be obsessed by it. She told me yesterday that she wants to hook up with this 19 year old freshman in college that I know. They're not dating, but are considering getting to know each other. My sister used to be so righteous and moral and I feel that she's going to just end up hurt with this new sexual discovery. She's thinking about getting ahotel room with this guy this weekend. What should I do? I don't want her to get hurt and frankly, I don't want her to turn into a slut. Thanks =Concerned Brother=
Talk to her. Sit down and tell her that you love her and that you're concerned by her behaviour. Don't be accusatory, and do let her know that you find nothing wrong with her being sexually liberated, but let her know how hard it is to sit back and watch her change so drastically. Ask her to slow down her behaviour, not for your sake, but for hers.