Ok, so i have a phobia, or many I guess, that is related to anything medical... Like, doctors, deseases, even pregnat ladies make me uncomfortable.
And it's really hard because if you notice, everything nowadays has medical stuff. Like on TV, there are so many hospital/doctor shows, like House and ER... And the commercials, like the anti-smoking commercials where they show details the inside of someones lungs or something, im not sure.. i can't watch it or i'll have a panic attack.
When I was younger, I thought it was just a phase and that i'd get over this when i'm older, but now i'm 19 and it's gotten so much worse... I'm even scared of dentist now and therapist.... I don't even know why!!!
But I can't take pills, I'm too paranoid for that.
I can't have sex because i'm terrified of the thought of getting pregnant..
So what happens when I encounter all this stuff is that I have panic attacks and pass out!
And I want help, BUUUT I have too much anxiety to get any help also.
I'm getting older and this anxiety is holding me back on a lot of things...
So my question is, does anyone know what this/these phoia's are called??
Also, how can this be cured? I know therapy, or something, but what are the steps that you go through??
Thanks, so much.
hello, my name is nina. i am not sure excacly how else to help, except, i did some research and found these links with answers of what your phobias are called, and hot to treat them. so try these out, and i hope they are some help to you. Good luck sweety, and remember to keep smiling!
niner :)
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phobia of pregnancy: http://www.changethatsrightnow.com/problem_detail.asp?SDID=3376:1895
phobia of desieses:
http://www.changethatsrightnow.com/problem_detail.asp?SDID=3157:1759
phobia of doctors:
http://www.changethatsrightnow.com/problem_detail.asp?SDID=833:1616
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i'll try not to make this too long. so there's this guy named joe, and he just got out of a relationship with this girl, they were together for about 5 or 6 months. (we r 15 by the way). anyway, he and this girl gave each other oral sex. recently, me and joe have been talking and flirting, and we like each other. i think his friends know that. well recently he became kind of popular. i'm in between popular and like...normal. anyway so he was grinding with me at this dance a few nights ago. online we have been having really intense talks about like, how far i would go with a guy and i said i wouldn't go past feeling up for a while. he said that that might eventually push us apart because he has such a high sex drive (this was like a week ago). anyway, he came to my house this weekend and we made out a lot and stuff. and it really seemed like he liked me, he would randomly come up and hug me really tight and just sort of nuzzle into my neck. well since then we haven't really been talking too much. online i will try to start conversation and he will just answer and say nothing else...and at school he has been flirting with other girls (but he's a really big flirt and we aren't official yet or anything). also, 2 nights ago he told my friend that he was going to ask me to our homecoming dance...but he hardly talks to me. should i ask him if he is still interested? i fell for him really, really hard and i'm so scared that if i ask if he's not interested, he will admit that that's true, and i'll lose him. what should i do?
honestly, if he has a big sex drive as you put it, and you like to take it slow, then that in itself is gonna get in the way. i think if you want to take it slow now, then you should. and if he can't understand that, then you need to move on and fine someone else. also, if he is completely agnoring you, then that probebly hurts. and if it is hurting now, then if you got in a relationship with him, it will just keep esculating. i know you like him, but i feel that you would be better off finding someone who shows more interest in you. and allthough he might really like you, he is acting that way for a reason. and if he is flirting with other girls, then that probebly won't stop in the future. so, my advice to you, is try to move on, and find someone who is worth your time. and remember to keep on smiling.
nina :)
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I'm 15, going to be a sophmore in high school. I'm already engaged to an 18 year old man who's in the army right now. We planned on getting married when I was 17, the beginning of my senior year. If my parent's don't sign me over however we're going to elope on my 18th birthday. I'm going to move to Colorado and attend college there and live with him. He's also going to pay for me to go to college. My question I guess is basically just looking for an opinion on if you guys think this is an ok thing to do. I know I love him and I know I'm young but this is what I want. Everyone keeps telling me I'm stupid though.
i definitly do not think you are stupid. there is nothing stupid about being inlove. and you are never to young to fall inlove. however, you shouldn't rush anything. marraige is a big thing. and all though you two are head over heels for eachother right now, you both have a lot of learning and changing to do. you guys can still be together, and be inlove, but you don't have to get married to do it. take your time. "love is patient, love is kind. follow your heart, but respect your mind." is an old saying. it means that if you two are meant to be, then my advice to you is not to get married until you have your life together. finish highschool, go to collage, do what you would have done before you met him. and don't move out of state for him just yet, wait till you start your own life, and let him start his. let him go to colorado for school, and if you two can work it through the distance, then you will have a better idea if this is right for you. but if things end up not working out, just remember, that at least you didn't get married, and someone else is out there meant to be with you as well. so follow your heart, but respect your mind, and never do something that will break your parent's heart, becuase they more important. but always trust yourself, and remember to keep on smiling.
nina :)
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When I am with my boyfriend and he does something I really like sometimes I feel like I could throw up. For instance he will kiss my neck and after a while I feel like, not nauseous but... well this will sound gross but whatever is in my stomach feels like it will come up and I have to like take a break from doing that for a minute. Is there anything I can do to stop that? It's weird and I wish it didn't happen!!
here is the answer that will blow your mind. the reason why you feel sick when being parshly intimite with your boyfriend, is because your consients is trying to tell you that you need to slow it down a bit. in your mind, you are thinking that this feels good, and you are ready to take that small step. but in reality, in the back of your mind, you know that you are not ready. your body knows it, and it is telling you to slow down. it is really funny how that works. but i know that feeling. it is the feeling where the pit of your stomach is just aching, and you are afraid that your boyfriend is gonna be wearing your lunch. when i felt this feeling, i would take a break. and then i would start again. and eventuelly you get a little used to the feeling, thinking its supposed to be like that. but really, for me, it never went away. and it is because i wasn't ready to take that step. my advice to you, is to take it slower then you are. let your body get used the fact that you have a boyfriend, and then when you really know without a dougt you are ready for all that neck-kissing, then try again, and if you still feel sick, you might consider who your boyfriend is. because your body could be telling you to back off of him. but don't jump to conclusions, just take your time, and make the sick feeling go away, because thats not a normal reaction to have. and remember to keep on smiling.
nina :)
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ok so i can have sex....but i have never actually kissed a guy and i have waited so long that now i am terrified to do this...any tips for this ??? like i dont even know how to make out
ok, so, here it goes. the most important question you need to ask yourself is, "do i really want to do this?" "am i ready?" if you have to ask yourself this question, then the answer is no. i think it is very cool and wanderful that you haven't kissed anyone. my advice to you, is wait unil you are ready to kiss. if it feels right, and gives you butterflies, then it was a "meant to be" kiss. but, as for sex, or going any farther, my advice to you, is wait until you are inlove. and are really sure you are ready. your best bet, is to wait till mariage, because it is more then likely, you will have no regrets. Sex is a powerful word for such a one sylable word. it has a lot of connections. first, it feels great. but that feeling doesn't last forever. but heart break will feel like a lifetime. you wanna make sure this person is really worth the risk of getting hurt. the best way to know, is to wait as long as possible. and focuss on your first kiss, before worrieng about sex. sex is a big thing that should only be within to people who are inlove and in my oppinion, it is more sacred if you are married. so, wait for you first kiss, and wait for your first love, and always keep on smiling.
nina :)
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so I've only been in school (college) for like 3 weeks, but i've already gained like 30 pounds off of the dining hall food. I can't control myself- they always have ice cream and cake and brownies and fries and all their salad dressing and milk is the full-blown calorie version. So what should I do? I can't handle this!
How can I stop gaining weight and get back to the weight I was before I came! I'm going to like die of a heart disease now! I'm soooo fat! omg! help
honestly, between the pressure of collage, and the stress, your body is telling you to eat. but, if you eat constantly, and don't watch your weight, there is a good chance you could get sick. but don't put yourself down. this occurs in a lot of people with stress or angsiety. either, they starve themselves, or the over eat. my suggestion to you, is to find something else to occupy your time. when you feel you want to eat, and can't stop, go do something else. try not to eat so much. think about your health. and as for the weight now, try excersizing, and go on a healthy diet. but just keep in mind, that you are not alone, this is a common and fixable thing, and don't be so hard on your self. and always, keep smiling.
nina :)
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Ok I have anemia to be more specific iron deficency but I take this pill and whatever but I feel so weak and tired during the day and dizzy should i go on a different pill? also I don't eat that much meat is that the reason? what foods should I eat?
it is possible that the pill you are on is not strong enough for the type of anemia you have. you might consider asking your doctor for another prescripton or possibly if b twelve or other anemic shots would be best. or possibly reconsider your diet. and yes, meat is a very important factor in keeping your iron level up. it is a very good source of iron. also, drnk plenty of water. well, i will pray that your anemia gets straightened up. take care of your self, get plenty of sleep, and remember to keep smiling.
nina :)
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Why do young girls come on here to ask about sex when they can't even spell right? I find this to be a very sad look at young girls in american society today. Do you agree?
to be honest, most girls ask about sex because they are curious. and it would be uncomfortable to go to their parents. and all though i do agree, they are kinda young to be asking, in this generation it is not unlikely for a young girl to lose their verginity at a very young age. so, as adults of this sociaty today, it is up to us to give them the right impression and knowlage about sex. not to excacly tell them about it, but to encourage them to be safe, and to make good decisions about it. and try to through in the whole "saving it" theory, all though sometimes it is hard to depending on the topic. but remember when dealing with a young girl, to always try to teach them about respecting their body. and always tell them to keep smiling.
nina :)
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15/f
This guy tells me, "You got a lot prettier from last year."
I think (and say), "What the heck?"
He says, "I'm just kidding. You couldn't get any prettier than you are now."
What am I supposed to think about that?
-Signed,
Extremely offended/glad?
well, honney, welcome to flattery. well, in this case, the guy does need a little more practice in that area. but he means well. in fact, he was complimenting you, allthough he could have done it in a much more sencible manner, however, it is the thought that counts, and obviasly, he thinks your pretty.so keep on being pretty, teach this guy what flattery is, and always keep on smiling.
nina :)
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I am 26 and my husband is 28years old. I want to have a baby. My husband and I are trying since five months still I am not becoming pregnant. Now it is two months still dint get my periods. I did a test. It shows negative. I am very disappointed. So what can we do?
just because you haven't concieved yet, doesn't mean your not meant to be parents. you can always have a test done to see if there are any complications to why you might not be pregnant. if there happens to be a problem there is always other ways. there is adoption, there is serigasy, but there is always a way. and none of these are bad. because no matter how the baby comes into the world, you will still love it, and he or she will still be yours. love is in the heart, not the blood. so, i hope there is nothing wrong. keep trying, and remember, there are always a way to have something so precious. and always keep on smiling!
nina :)
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how to get over an ex? because he wants to be friends with me and stuff but it makes it harder for me to get over him its been a year and im still not over him because he get my hopes high and stuff and it hurts please help?
one of the toughest things a person has to go through in life, is love. it is verydifficult to get over someone who you love. you don't nessisarely have to stop loving or caring for them in some way, and they won't for you, but it is definitly important to know, just because you love someone, doesn't mean its meant to be. you can love someon with all your heart, not meant to be from the start. but how do you get over the ex? well, the best thing, yet the hardest thing is to stop being his friend. at least till you are over him completely. when i was in this simular situation, the guy kept my hopes up as well, but i came to the conclusion, that being friends can't work right now,until i have gotten over him. so i wrote him a goodbye letter. and sent it to him. ever since i did that, i haven't heard or seen him. and it has been so much easier and gave me so much peace inside, that now i can truely heal. if its meant to be, you two will find each other again in the future, but for now, you should consider writing him a goodbye letter, or talking to him. tell him how you feel, and why you feel that way. i wish you luck and i know your pain, but you will be happy again, i promice, and your heart will heal. so keep on smiling.
nina :)
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im 15/f, and though i dont think i've ever had an anxiety attack, lately, when i feel uncomfortable, my body gets hot [specially my chest], and even though i take deep breaths i end up having to go outside to get some cold air. i sweat a little because of the heat but i dont tremble. i also feel my heart skip a beat and then beat faster, out of nowhere. i dont know what's wrong with me,i suffer from depression but i dont think this is serious, but i would still like some advice. thanks in advance =].
if you are suffering from anxiaty attacks, and it sounds like you are, your best bet is to go to the doctors and let them diagnos you. because it sounds like you might have some kind of anxiaty dissorder, and will need medication to prevent it. this is not something to worry about, and it is very common in woman, even teenage girls. so, please tell your parents about it. state your concern and plead your case that it would be your best bet to get treatment for this situation. all though it might not be serious at the time, anxiaty attacks, and panic attacks, can cause othe complications. so, go to the doctors, seek help, and try not to be too stressed out. and always remember to keep smiling.
nina :)
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i feel soooooo lonely.... i have, or had friends... but "my" values don't let me have any. outside people are strictly for formal favors and contacts u c.. but that is besides the point. imagine if you couldn't make any friends or you live on an island with a wild donkey or jackass. you can't talk to them you can't tame them and you u surely can't eat them.....
i am so alone and so many things are running in my mind and it hurts so much. and everyday i discover a small piece of glass in my hart that is pricking harder and harder.
my grandfather died yesterday... and i really love my parents but they and i don't get along.
i am hurting so much i feel like committing suicide in fact that is precisely what i need to do right now.
i can't keep things bottled anymore or else i would die a slow and morbid death.............. when i was a child i was capable of bottling years and years of shit... and now i can't control it its either thoughts of death takeover to get rid of those voices in my head or i just tell the world all the things i shouldn't be saying to shut those voices up..........
yesterday i was dancing to a song by nickodemus... and yesterday my grandfather died... but its not because he died i danced. usually i'm like that... one day i am happy and dancing and hyper and the next day i am about to throw myself off of a building... i get so sad when i am alone... because those voices arrive.... even if the jackass is the only option of not staying alone, i'd rather him run over me than those voices... and that jackass killed all the other prettier animals that i loved and left me there with it... i don't know why... am i a jackass too? like don't kill like...
i hate myself, i can't live with it... i do things i am not supposed to.. i have sexual urges i can't repress and i've never been intimate....and i don't want to.... i pick things that are "not fit for" me.... always things that are "beneath me" or out of reach.... i really feel alone and ugly from the inside.. i am want to throw up the puss... i need to cry... this is the millionth question i've asked...
but no one gets how it is... i can't find the damn answer i am looking for... but still i rate 5 to be nice to those who give a damn...
i am really feeling bad...
please someone just for a minute.... my heart is covered in shreds of glass.....
i hate myself. i hate the voices in my head. help...
honestly, keeping all your feelings bottled up inside tends to catch up with you. if you truely are having thoughts of ending your life you need to go to the hospital. i am not trying to make you feel bad. in fact, i also have gone through a time where i tried to kill myself. all i wanted to do is end the pain. but God didn't let me die. i lived. and amediatly i began to relize that nothing in this world is worth killing yourself over. i know you feel like you have been let down, many times. i know you feel alone. like everyone in your life dissapointed you in somehow. the truth is, you are never alon. God is there, and he loves you. And he is your friend, and will never leave your side. it is hard to have faith when you feel you have nothing left. pray to God how you feel. it is not selfish to pray about person things. he is your friend. you can talk to him about anything. and i will be your friend to. all you have to do is write to me anytime you want on here. i will be your friend. you are not alone in this world. i know exacly what you are going through. dig deep inside your heart, agnore the voices in your head, that is just the devil, but God's voice is louder. he can scrape the glass out of your heart, and heal it with comfort and peace. But he has a purpose for you, and it isn't death. you are not worthless. you are amazing person with true feelings and emotion. don't give up. please, don't harm yourself, love yourself. because you are definitly worth loving. and God has people out there who will love you in return. so keep praying, keep fighting, know that God loves you, and try to keep smiling.
nina :)
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16/f
I've only really made out alot and stuff with one boy, pathetic..I know. Well, now we've been broken up for about 1 and half years and I got a new boyfriend. He wants me to kiss him and stuff but I told him that I'm not ready for that yet. I'm absolutly terrified of kissing him. I'm even scared of giving him a little peck. I know that I'm scared for two reasons:
#1 I'm afraid that by kissing him our realationship will get really serious and I know from past experiences that as soon the realationship gets serious I get freaked and dump him.
#2 I'm sooo scared that I'm a really bad kisser. My current boyfriend has had a ton of experience and I'm afraid I won't meet up to his standards.
How can I overcome this fear?!
Sorry that this is so long!
Thanks for your help
"love finds those who take their time in searching." that is a quote that i try to live by. fist of all. i know excacly what you are going through. i have gone through the same thing. it is not uncommon to put your gaurd up after being hurt. in fact, by not kissing your new boyfriend right away, you are stating that you have will power. if this guy was smart, he would understand were you are comming from. if he does not, then he isn't worth it. you need to find someone who understands your pain and your concern. just tell him, you have been hurt before. you want to take things very slow, or else you might be scared off. take the time and get to know him. let him be aware of how you feel. remember to let your gaurd down just a little, but keep it up enough to know when something is wrong. and always keep on smiling.
nina :)
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okay my friend's crush told her to sing front of him and shes a shy girl and i thought she wouldnt do it but then she sang true by ryan cabrera and she had a great voice and after that she said that she picked true by ryan cabrera because shes trying to drop hints that she likes him what do you think about this? and would you ever do that to the guy you like?
i think that is one of the most romantic hints you can give someone to show them how you feel about them. that is why most love songs are written. all they are is someones emotins being heard with simple hints of how they truely feel. your friend did an amazing and daring thing. not all people have enough courage to do that. i did. i have done that before and so has the guy. it is a romantic gesture that i think everyone should try, wether you can sing or not. so, tell your friend to keep singing and keep smiling.
nina :)
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This is a bit lengthy! Sorry!
I have this "friend", but I don't want her in my life.
We met in college and got along OK on a superficial level, but when we got to know each other more, I just didn't like her. I think she's arrogant, self-centered, and judgmental, and I think she just really brings out the worst in me.
After we graduated, I thought we would just naturally lose contact. When she would contact me, I would be polite, thinking I would never see her again so there is no point in being mean and telling her to leave me alone.
Time passed, and I kind of forgot about her and what I thought of her. We recently got in contact again when she moved to my area. Since I was also new to the area, I thought we could be friends.I thought maybe people change, or that I had been to hard on her.
Anyway, these old feelings of how I think she is came back and I just want her out of my life. She has said so many hurtful things to me. It's just like college. She criticizes in this hurtful way, but acts like she's been a helpful friend.
I have tried to tell her that some of the things she says to me hurt me, but she gets super defensive, and I just end up feeling like the bad friend.
I would just cut ties with her with no regrets, but it's not that simple. Here's what makes the problem more complicated: She's befriended my friends, and I don't know what to do. She kind of weaseled her way into my group of friends. (Completely my fault because I'm the one who introduced her) I so desperately want to talk to my other friends about how I don't want her in my life, but I don't want to come out as the b*tch who bad-mouths people. They seem to get along with this girl (although they haven't had the same 1-on-1 time with her as I have.). If they truly get along, I don't want my dislike for her to jeopardize their friendship. I think they are still in that "superficial" level of friendship that I was in with her when I first met her. I want to stay friends with my other ones, but I don't want there to be tension. I don't want them to have to choose between us. Do I have to get rid of all my friends to get rid of her and start fresh? I really don't want to lose my other friends. So far, I have just been fake with her, trying to be as nice as I can. It makes me feel like a hypocrite, though.
I also want to add that these other friends are still a bit new to me as I have just moved to the area. That is another reason why I don't feel comfortable confronting them about this problem with the other girl. I've tried talking about this problem to my family, but they just say to "ignore her." If that is the only solution, how do I manage to ignore someone that makes me feel bad about myself?
Thanks so much for any help!
the truth his, you can't agnore someone who is constantly causing you to feel bad. the best thing for you to do is stop all communication with her. all though your family means well, they don't understand how you are feeling inside. i do, because i have gone through the same thing. the hardest thing about friendship, is when it is time for it to end. you are afraid of losing your new frinds. but to be honest, if they are your true friends, they will completely understand. maybe not at first, but they will eventially come around. you can't worry about them right now. if you let this girl hurt you, continuessly, the situation is bound to get worse. a true frind won't hurt you. she might like you, but she is obviasly facing some pursonal demons, and is taking it out on you. your best bet is to write her a goodbye letter, explaining why you can't be her friend. and then write one to your friends, explaining why you can't be her friend. if it is easier to talk to them, you can do that. but you should be honest with them all, even the girl hurting you. just remember, true friends will stick by you know matter what, friends who hurt you aren't worth it, and it is better to stand up for yourself then get hurt, and always keep on smiling.
nina :)
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ok so i have a question what does getting hit on mean exactly?
is it the same as flirting?
could you give me examples?
ok. so we are clear, flirting and getting hit on are two different things. in flirting, you are more sincere and you have a better way of showing them how you feel. when getting hit on, the person is basicly feeding you lines, and trying to impress you, and most of the time, they don't have good intensions. for example, flirting: a guy and a girl are taking a walk together, just as friends, but they like eachother. the guy starts to mess her hair up, and the girl acts angry, but she is not. and the guy replies, " aw, your angry face is kinda cute" "i like it" and the girl in reaction, gently and flirtatiously, pushes the guy's chest, or arm, and they keep on doing that to eachother. that is a little example of flirting. now, getting hit on isn't so innocent. example: a girl walks into the bar....ya,ya, i know, but bare with me. anyway, a girl walks into a bar. she sits down and orders a drink. she goes to hand the money to the bar tender, and a guy who sits right next to her,hands the bar tender the money instead. the woman says "thank you" and the guy turns around and says, " what is a beautiful lady such as yourself, doing in a crummy bar like this? you should be at a fancy five star resturant with me. what do yah say, georgious"?. how do you reply to that, i have no idea. but that is the difference between flirting and getting hit on. i prefer flirting, because they are mor sincere, and romantic. so just remember, flirt more, try not to get hit on, and always keep on smiling.
nina :)
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hey!! i'm 15 and a female. I REALLLLY like this guy named Jake. We spent all of last night with our jewish youth group on a cruise boat "partying like a rockstar". WE danced together and everything,and i think he might possibly be interested. the problem?? well, there's actually 2.
#1) he goes to a different school. i only see him through this youth group thing, but i still REALLY like him.
#2) I CAN'T FLIRT...meaning, when i'm around guys (especially ones i like) i get SO nervous. I mean, i get so tongue tied, i sometimes shake, and it really sux because i want to flirt with him, but i just don't know how
I've also never had a boyfriend (in case you couldn't tell) or even a date to a dance (except for turnabout, where my friend made me go wtih this creep guy)so aka, i really don't quite know what to do in this type of situation
i reallly need help, so thank you and sry this is SO long!!♥
love is all about taking chances. so, if i were you, i wouldn't give up hope. but the problems you are having, i might have some advice for you. first, lets focuss on how you would get to see him. you guys can always talk on the phone. and even know you guys go to different schools, maybe you can talk to your parents, and he can do the same, and you guys can make urangments to spend time together, wether its with family, friends, or group dates. second of all,ah, the flirting problem. well, here is a tip. for a beginner flrt, you must learn that they key thing is to always smile. and laugh at him, when he says something funny, and when joking around, or if the oppertunity comes up, always come up with something witty and sacastic to say. not too sarcastic, but a little. and always give the looks. give him unexpected glares, and show him your many facial expressions. Guys think that is so cute. and, lastly, give the playful touch and tickle once in a while, that shows them you are interested in them. and it is the key ponent to flirting. so good luck, go to dances, and keep on smiling. :)
nina :)
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What traits do guys look for in a girlfriend? Physical or mental/emotional, just curious.
well, most guys look for physical traights. but the guys who are worth your time, are the ones who knows that beauty isn't everything. that when it comes to the end of the day, all that really matters is what is inside a person's heart. and yes, there are guys out there who know this. they do excist. but are hard to find. my advice to you is that if you like a guy, and you wanna make sure they like you for the right reasons, start your relationship out by talking on the phone, hanging with them in groups, and just spending time with them in conversation, and pick there brain. in other words, avoid any physical contact, until you feel that they are sincere.
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