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ok so i can have sex....but i have never actually kissed a guy and i have waited so long that now i am terrified to do this...any tips for this ??? like i dont even know how to make out
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ok, so, here it goes. the most important question you need to ask yourself is, "do i really want to do this?" "am i ready?" if you have to ask yourself this question, then the answer is no. i think it is very cool and wanderful that you haven't kissed anyone. my advice to you, is wait unil you are ready to kiss. if it feels right, and gives you butterflies, then it was a "meant to be" kiss. but, as for sex, or going any farther, my advice to you, is wait until you are inlove. and are really sure you are ready. your best bet, is to wait till mariage, because it is more then likely, you will have no regrets. Sex is a powerful word for such a one sylable word. it has a lot of connections. first, it feels great. but that feeling doesn't last forever. but heart break will feel like a lifetime. you wanna make sure this person is really worth the risk of getting hurt. the best way to know, is to wait as long as possible. and focuss on your first kiss, before worrieng about sex. sex is a big thing that should only be within to people who are inlove and in my oppinion, it is more sacred if you are married. so, wait for you first kiss, and wait for your first love, and always keep on smiling.
nina :)
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I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, its not meant to be in any way..but it seems to me as if something DRASTICALLY wrong has happened.
you MAY have left out some detail but im under the impression youve had sex, and you've never kissed a guy.
I can't understand how that works :S
...how can you have sex and NOT have kissed someone?
It sounds as if you didnt have emotional sex (which is the whole point of "making love" )..you just had...sex (with no meaning).
Have you not kissed a guy because you didnt like them, or you didnt have a chance( ?!), or for some other reason?
I think you need to choose your choice of guys very carefully from now on because it seems to me that youve been used :(
If there is no emotional act, before , during and after sex..then it couldnt have meant anything to HIM...(or you?).
I dont know how old you are, but it does sound as if youre confused and so have had sex under false circumstances.
when you say "KISSED" do you mean youve never even had a peck on the lips? Because that does count as a kiss..it just doesnt qualify as making out haha.
When the time does come for you to have your first kiss, do your best to relax. you dont need to KNOW how to make out. It DOES come naturally.
When youre used to it, you'll be fine.
Do what you wish, but consider my advice to not sleep with anyone until you KNOW youre emotionally ready, COMFORTABLE with them and in love (or have some sort of feelings for them, KNOWING they are mutual!)
I hope this has widened your eyes a bit.
If you dont take action now, it will become far more difficult to stop :(
Good Luck!
Alex
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You can have sex... but you are scared to kiss a guy? It looks like you're getting ahead of yourself. Why don't you start by not having sex, and start on small things, first,eh?
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