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okay,here is the scenario
i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:
1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.
don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff. (link)
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yes. it counts as love.
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okay, so heres the deal. i want to lose weight, maybe like 20 pounds-ish [im like 165 right now] by spring break, or sometime around there.
i dont have access to a gym or anything, but at my house i do have an ab lounge, a total gym, a treadmill, and a weight lifting machine thing [[its called the "weider pro" or something.. it has three arm workout things, and one leg thing]].. and i know my mom has stretch band things, and like two 2-pound weights..
so basically what i am asking, is what kind of work out things can i do to get more in shape and everything.. that can include going for runs or whatever outside.. but any suggestions? please & thank you (link)
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okay, 60 minutes of cardio a day. get your heartbeat up.
also, you don't have to cut out all junk,but keep it in moderation.
the whole thing about lower fat and calorie meats is good, but keep the dairy up, and don't eat less than 1,500 calories a day, or your body will go into starvation mode. also, a little chocolate won't hurt, and nachos with cheese if fine, just don't overdo it. stick to serving size.
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i want to make a whole wall in my room the shiny side of cds. how could i hang the cds on the wall, without glueing them?
also, ive heard that the cds scare away birds. i have a bird, so would this be a bad choice with a bird?
thanks!! (link)
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you can hang them on nails or tacks, or use sticky tack(that blue stuff) to put them up. the cd's are shiny, so birds should be attracted to them... ?
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im 14/f
my face is REALLY pale.
and im going to las vegas in may.
so im thinking about going tanning a couple times before going to las vegas so that my face will become a natural color, and so that i wont burn really badly in las vegas.
is this a bad idea?
im not really for the tanning bed, i know that they can cause skin cancer, but so can the sun. and im not going to get TAN.
and about how many time would i need to go just to get my fae a natural color? (link)
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Okay, I know you might rate me down for this, but tanning beds are horrible for your skin. Yes they cause skin cancer(my mom had to have the entire left side of her nose removed and replaced with other cartilage) but they also cause sun spots and wrinkles. Unless you're planning to laser them off and get facelifts, you'll be stuck with them forever. If you're worried about your face being burned, use a face sunscreen, like Solar Sense Face Sense. its greaseless so you shouldn't break out, and waterproof. I think its like $5, and the container will last you for the whole summer, if you put it on every time you're gonna be in the sun.
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There is a boy at my school who i seroiusly adore, and sometimes he flirts with me, but other times he just blows me off. Hes my friend, but we never get in any 'friend talks' just flirting. Is he into me? Is he playing hard-to-get? I need love advice! (link)
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It seems like he might feel like you do- that there's no REAL friendship, just a lot of flirting. sometimes(not always mind. some guys are just in it for the flirting) a guy wants more than someone he can flirt with, he wants someone he can hang with too. Flirting's great, but friendship is good too. Try to work in a little of both!
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how do facial masks help your skin? (link)
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Well, the one's I'VE used dry up your skin. they clear out oil and bacteria to help keep it clean. just some side advice: even if it SAYS you can use it every day, start out with once a week and work up to it, because your face(like any other part of your body) can get flakey. trust me, you don't want that. ;)
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ok so i have a lot of zits lately
and i barely EVER got them!!!
and i got this really ad one on my nose
and the type where its under the skin and its hurts REALLY bad
i dont wanna get pro active cause i dont want to have to spend that kind of money when it only works on some people
and i have this clean and clear fighting pimples all day stuff- that doesnt work
and i have this neutroguena rapid clear 8 hour thing and it doesnt work either
i dont know what to use!!!
but i want it to go away
anyone have good stuff that i can use??
that like you can buy at walgreens or jewel
something like that!!
not that you have to order and all the trouble =] (link)
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okay, this proly sounds really stupid. But the rapid clear stuff only works on the littlish bumps that aren't REALLY noticable. One that does work(and I don't know the name brand, because I've tried and its not the same) is equate from walmart. and I tried the whole proactive thing, like a trial, and it didn't work, then I tried the "acne free" thing(I have no clue where it got purchased) and that didn't work either. my skin seems to be immune to that kind of stuff. But Clearasil deep pore cleansing pads clean all the crap off your face really well to let the medicine work(I had to go to my bathroom and check what brand it was, LOL)
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13 female.
well,
i just started a new school wednesday. it's really great and i made a lot of new friends and i'm actually getting pretty popular there.
well, there is this guy [lets say his name is] jimmy. kay so jimmy hands a note to my friend lynn telling her to give it to me. so we pass in the hallway and she gives it to me saying "it's from a boy. hehe." so i'm like "okay?"
so, i open it and it says "hey, i'm jimmy. you are really cute, i'm the tall guy with brown curly hair."
well, jimmy is pretty good looking and really popular, but all my friends say that he always goes for the new girls and always has to have a girlfriend. so that was a turn off.
AND on top of that, he hasn't talked to me at ALL. and all my friends have talked to him and he's like "yeah i really really like her, i wanna ask her out" and stuff like that.
so,
my question is, is he worth my time? he doesn't even talk to me and based on what my friends say, he sounds like a jerk.
what do you think?
thanks. :] (link)
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If you like the guy, see about being friends for a little while first, then if he turns out to be okay, go for it!
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There are these really mean girls in my first people. I just started a new school last Wednesday and they were spitting stuff at me and calling me ugly and stuff. [btw i know i'm not ugly]. Anyways, they were being super nasty to me and I just kind of ignored it.
Another girl came in the next day, but she wasn't new, she was just absent the day before. I made friends with her and she told me they were being like that because I was sitting by a girl they hated, Tori. So, the next day I sit away from Tori and they are okay with me.
But now, it seems like they are planning something, or something like that. I was passing notes with the new friend [who's friends with them], and they asked her "is she scared of us?" and stuff and my new friend said "no, she just doesnt want yall treating her badly."
now, they wrote a note to me saying OHH YOU ARE SO AWESOME stuff like that.
so now i'm really scared, because my new "friend" wants me to hang out with her, but i'm afraid they are gonig to do something because they seem SOO fake.
so, two questions.
1. if they keep being mean to me, how do i handle it?
2. does it seem like they are doing something? or are trying to be nice?
please help, cuz i'm kinda scared.
thanks :\ (link)
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Damn. these girls sound really evil.
New schools are always hard (I should know, I've moved 6 times), but there's got to be someone to hang with. Once you get someone to accept you, everyone kind of just lets you settle into the hierarchy.
If they're being evil a week from now, just start ignoring them again. find other friends.
And it does seem like they're okay, but don't trust anyone just yet. be careful, and don't do anything risky for a little bit.
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ok, the other day i was speaking to my cousins mate online (him and my cousin are 13 im 14) and my cousin's mate (alex) he gave me some boys email address and said that he was in his class at school so i added him and he came online and said who is this blah blah blah...
anyway we got to talking and i said who i was nd that nd he said i think i know you send me a pic of you so we swapped pics etc. and i thought he was cute, but then i thought and i remembered he's like a year younger than me but i keep lookin at his pic and i just keep thinking "he is sooo cute" and it was right after he had seen my picture he was acting really nice.
But, he's a year younger than me, i dont really "know" him and im never guna meet him (he lives like half an hour away) but i think he's like really nice but all we'll ever do is talk on msn!!!
so, do i just keep on talking to him blah blah blah...or should i not talk 2 him as much bcoz i think that he more i talk 2 him, the more i might like him :S...i really dont know!!!
thanks for ANY answers
xxxx
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No way! Online talking is great! you can tell people things you couldn't mention if you actually knew them, because there's very little embarassment room. I prefer IMing so much to talking, just because its easier to be myself. don't ditch the guy, and don't say you'll never meet him. Never say never, unless you mean it enough to say it 3 times.
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My ear on the right is blocked from me hearing from it. I can probably assume water, wax, and soap is trapped in it. I am not getting any pain from it, because I have been using antibiotic and ear wax removal drops for the past few days, but it's still not helping with me hearing from it!
does anyone have any at-home methods I can try to get rid of this? I have already tried tilting my head for hours, including overnight. So any ideas?
I know I might need to see a Doctor but before doing so I would like to try some new ideas to see if that will work before I consider going to one.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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this used to happen to me all the time. Try putting in the wax removal drops, lying on your side with that ear up so they don't spill, and leaving a heating pad over it, with a towel in between. after about a half hour, flip over and let all the liquid drain out, with the heating pad still under the towel. when there isn't ear stuff spilling, take a Q-tip and see if you can get some of it out. if this doesn't work, go to your doctor soon, it could be an ear infection.
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Okay, this can get confusing. I'm 14/f and I have 3 gay guy friends. Let's call them Bob, Fred, and Joe. Bob and Fred are both in 9th grade with me and Joe is in 10th grade. Bob and I have been bff since ever. I met Fred and Joe at the end of last year and I'm good friends with both of them. Bob, I love that kid to death and i would never ditch him for another person.
Well, so my problem is that I stopped riding the bus inthe morning and had my dad drop me off in the morning. Then I found out that Joe gets there early too so I just hung out with him in the mornings. Well, there are these two girls, let's call them Tina and Kay? [I was really good friends with them last year but I hate them right now and I'm trying to pull away from them right now--long story] Well, one day Tina was like "Where' Bob?" --In the morning--And I went idk. And then she asks why I didn't know since we rode the same bus. And I told her "I'm not riding the bus anymore. My dad's dropping me off plus I get to talk to Joe"
Let me explain Joe and my situation. We're both in IB Prep and we're both going to be IB sutdents soon [yes, I know we're neerrdds] IB kids..it's like a cult and people out of IB can't be in the cult. Almost all the time anyway. So, Joe and I are usually really busy to tlak on the phone or IM, we don't have any classes together. And so we have on lunch and in the mornings to talk. So one reason I get there early is to talk to Joe and finish hw.
Well, Tina and Kay keeps on telling me "You switched gay guys on Bob!!" And making me look bad. But I really am not. I just want to talk with him like I would with any other people. Also they're saying that because I went to one party with Joe and his friends. ONE!!! They say that in front of Bob too. So I'm like wtf!! But I really am not. I love Bob to death and Joe can never replace Bob. And so one day I asked Kay "Give me 5 reasons and 5 people that says I'm switching gay guys." and she lists 4 people..including herself and Tina and some girl that has no relation to this "problem" and some other person.. And she never gave me the reason b/c I went off on how the other girl doesn't count because she doesn't know crap about this situation blah blah blah.
So my question is how t=do I get it through these girls' heads that I'm NOT switching gay guys? I mean they think that I can have only one gay friend and only the firends I had last year. They don't get that because I make new friends doesn't mean I'm going to ditch bob!! (link)
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wow.okay. these girls are really homophobic. ouch.
tell them that they're being orientationist. ask them if its OKAY that you have more than one straight friend. Cuz chances are, they wouldn't care.
Both Bob and Joe sound like great guys, and I'm glad you have them as friends with serious witches like that at your school. PROBABLY, they're jealous because you chose this Joe over them.
Think about it. you stopped being friends with them around the time you got really close to Joe. They want you back, and now that they're realizing you don't like them anymore, they're being witches with a capital B.
Just tell them that you can have as many gay friends as you like, because if they were REAL friends they wouldn't bug you about this.
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This situation is a litte weird. So I'm 14/f and this girl, let's call her Jane, is in my grade and let's call this other girl Lisa, is in a grade level high than ours. So Jane and I were good friends last year but one thing piled on top of another and I really dislike her now and I'm tyring to pull away from her deviously as to not cause any drama [I know, unavoidable] Lisa, is a trouble girl I guess. She's doing drugs, she smokes, drinks, and all that stuff. She also goes out with guys/girls for the max 2 weeks and in b/w she screws them [she lost her viginity when she was 13 or 14]
Well, guess what. Jane and Lisa are going out. Jane is already doing drugs so that won't effect her. But Jane and Lisa..well they're both horny all the time and I swera Lisa will get Jane involved in some sexual activity soon. They're already making out in front of everyone at school and they've been going out for 2 days now?
Should I be worried..should I just leave this alone...should i step in...what sohuld I do? (link)
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Okay, I'm not POSITIVE that your school will have one, but most schools have a box type thing where you can ANONOMOUSLY place referals to the guidance counselour for yourself or friends. Don't put it in there if you aren't worried about Jane and Lisa. Also, if you think they might think it was you, don't put it in yourself. Ask someone you TRUST to put it in for you. I've done this for a bunch of people.
I know that it's probabaly hard to rat out someone, but if you're really worried, its the right thing to do.
EDIT::: SO if you don't, just write a letter to the guidance counselour. Put in the letter that its anonomous just for your safety, and that you really don't want him/her to doubt that you're telling the truth.
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I am capable of putting eyeliner on the top and the bottom, but what i'm struggling most with is how do you put pencil black eyeliner on the inside of the eyes (the tear ducts, i think)?
Whenever I try to get eyeliner on the inside, it is easily smearing and sometimes goes inside my eye! how do you prevent this? and is there a better explanation of this?
thanx! (link)
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pull at the skin around your cheekbone, and it'll leave a space between your eyeball and the lower lid. that way you won't poke yourself in the eye, causing smearing. Hope this helps!
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say for my sweet 16, i wanted to go out for dinner with about 6 of my close friends .. since it's my birthday party type thing, would i have to pay for dinner or would they pay for their own food? what's appropriate and not rude? if it's not necessary that i have to pay then that'd be great =] not to sound cheap but dinner for 7 or 8 people can get kind of expensive (link)
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It depends where you go. It could be rude if you ask them to a REALLY expensive place without consulting them about whats in their price range. Just check with everyone first about how much they can spend, because you don't want someone to feel uncomfortable about it; its supposed to be fun!!!
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if a boy draws a pcture of a heart with wings and it says will you be my valentine would he do that to a girlfriend or he likes somebody else help (link)
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hearts from a guy are a bit more serious than from a girl. NO WAY would he do this if you aren't at LEAST a good friend. and most guys wouldn't say that except to flirt.
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I'm a teenage girl (raised catholic) who has been atheist/agnostic/unsure since the summer. I have encountered several recent events in my life that have lead me to believe that there really is a God after all. All of my friends are really strong christians- but I just don't think that God is real.
I don't know if Christianity is right- or even real... but I'm feeling compelled to recommit my life to Christ. What does that mean anyway? How can you "commit your life" to someone who isn't even real? Who IS Jesus? I mean this whole thing makes no sense. How can there be a God when there are so many other religions like islam and such? My prayers never came true as a Christian.
Oh, by the way- I hate going to church and i don't see the point in doing it. It never even brought me closer to this so-called God. To be a true Christian (not a poser) do you HAVE to attend mass? What if I just want to have my OWN faith? I also don't believe in Bible verses and stuff- like I don't think that the people in it were real. Why can't we just have faith in GOD and not all the crap that goes along with it? (link)
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Wow. You remind me of my best friend in the world. Only she wasn't raised Catholic.
The reason that there are so many different religions is that people disagree on how to live. If you REALLY compare Islam to Christianity, they aren't that different. And Jewish Allah is the same God as that of Christianity. Jesus is the only real debated thing. The Islams believe in Mohammed, who was a prophet, instead of Jesus.
No, you don't have to go to church to be Christian. The main purpose of church is to have support in tough times. Like AA meetings. Sometimes I think church should be called CU, Christians Unanonomous, because once you're in, people remember. They know your name, where you live, and how many sisters your aunt has on your mom's side. Church is there to keep you from getting discouraged and saying screw it.
The Bible is what Christians believe to be the word of God. However, NOT ALL Christians believe in it, like yourself.
I don't know why I believe what I do. I just have the strong feeling that it is, you know?
We CAN just believe in God. Faith in God is enough to move a mountain. Strictly scientificly, it all adds up. The Bible has a special code to it, every so many letters in sequence there is a J E S U S. all the way through. Written by 52(approxamately) men, and it happens all the way through.
Thats a pretty cool coincidence, don't you think?
As for the question about is Jesus real, well, I PERSONALLY think he is. But I'm not the world authority. I'm just a girl, same as you, with lots of questions. But personally, I think Cathlocism is the strictest form of Christianity.
I hope you work this out, *hug*
P.S. Church is way better if you find one with teens. Christian rock is pretty okay most of the time, and most contemporary services are more singing than listening to a boring guy in a suit anyway. ;)
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I was just wondering , what would be a good present to get a boyfriend for valentines day? Cause i never know what to get them. Hes soon to be 14 and i would really like some ideas. Thanks! (link)
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How about this:
starting the week before, begin leaving little stuff; heart shaped candies, cartoons from the newspaper, or stuff that he loves, like for an art nut photos of paintings or a skater a skate mag. DON"T TELL HIM ITS YOU. Anyway, on the last day, leave a note telling him to meet you or else. When he meets you, give him a kiss and reveal yourself. Then give him the most random thing ever. Like two years ago I gave the guy I liked sheet music to his favorite song(he was a trumpet player). Just think on what he spends his time on, and come up with something sweet! Girls are the only ones who brag about what they got.
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I was told to remove my makeup with certain cleaners/removers
Then wash my face with hot/warm water
And cleanse it with some cream OR pads.
then wash it off with cold water.
That.. is really not helping me.
What's your routine? (link)
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I wash my face with a cleansing wipe(these will also take off makeup, I love them right after shows when I've got it caked on), then I usually use an astringent pad, and then put some acne meds on when my skin's all clean.
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i have dark brown hair.
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=48814272&imageID=1463341078
i hope that will work. my hair looks kinda redish from how i changed the colors in the pic, so the bottom part of my hair is how it really looks. but anways what is it called when you dye you hair underneath? i was thinking about getting black underneath or a reddish color, what do you think? and when you get a color underneath do they put it in the top of your hair too like highlights are? (link)
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its called lowlights, and they might do a bit on top, depending on where you have it done. DON'T dye your hair if you want it back the way it is anytime soon. I did mine purple a few months ago, and it was supposed to wash out in a few weeks, but its still there. Make sure you can live with what you pick.
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