okay my name is Kristina a.k.a Munchie and I would upload a pic but I cant do it because my computer is messed up! Anyways I'm 5'1 and I weigh 102 lbs. Yes I EAT! I love food, but I know how to stop when I'm hungry. I love having friends and family! I hate the fact that I'm short. I have a myspace and if ya wanna add me my email is sexyhotchick_87@yahoo.com and you can see my pictures on there! I LOVE Jennifer Love Hewitt! she's so little and cute. I'm single right now. I also have dark brown hair and a round face. LOL! I love this website! And if you need me to answer I question then I will because I love giving out advice!
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okay so at my school this girl who started crap with me last year and again on myspace over the summer. and i said stuff to her to defend myself. and she doesn't like me. and she gives me dirty looks now. and she's really mean & so are her friends. & no one likes them. & she does drugs and drinks all the time. and i heard when she was in 7th grade everyone found out she had sex with this one guy. and i don't get like why is she soo mean & does drugs when she knows she shouldn't be like that? (link)
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who is this if you dont mind me asking?
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Okay, so I bet you've heard the "So, I like this guy" story a lot... I am just so confused right now that I need your advice.
Okay, so there's a guy that I really like; he's really nice, sweet, funny, and we share a lot of the same interests. We flirt with each other sometimes, but that's only in school, and school doesn't start for about a week or so.
Well, anyways, he's one of my friends on MySpace, and he took some of these quizzes about me on my profile to see how much he knew about me, and he only got 30% and 20%, and I took his quiz and I gotta 60%!
Anyways, I commented on his profile, "Hey, what's up? How's summer treating you? Or, in this case, what's left of it... :S c/b"
And he responds to mostly everyone else's comments, except for mine. :(
What should I do? Does he even like me, or am I just wasting my time? :S
Thanks (link)
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OMG! I had the same problem. Okay so dont rely on Myspace at all! There's this guy on myspace that I think he likes me but he confuses me. It's just a game to him. He's trying to make you like him even more. He probably knows that you want him. Believe me guys can sense it. Girls are just loud and out there about who they like. Guys are often different. They play mind games with girls without knowing their doing it. I really dont understand why they pay attention and then ignore. You might want to ask a guy friend that. Sorry if that didn't make sense. guys are confusing. haha.
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well its a long story so ill give the details
theres this boy thats a year younger, he asked me out (his friend said i would say yes) and i said yes, even though i wanted to say no. we've been going out for 3 weeks and i feel bad but i want to dump him, i just started high school and theres more boys (wow that seems mean) but can someone help me? i feel so bad about dumping him and everything cause he really likes me.... but i dont want to keep on going out with him (link)
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Just tell him that you're not ready for a relationship. I know how you feel. You just wanna explore other guys. Well he cant hold you back not unless you want him to. Just tell him how you feel. It's not like you're in love or anything. He'll get over it sooner or later. He will be hurt but later on in life he'll meet somebody that really likes him. I can clearly tell that you're not mature enough for a relationship. So, just tell him that. Sorry, if that seemed a little mean. But I'm just trying to tell you the problem and how to fix it.
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K i was wondering because i am only thirteen and i dont want to get my girlfriend pregnant. When she puts a condom on me niether of us know whether to put the latex over my balls or not. the condom definitely fits since i dont have a very big peter. so all i want to know is if i have to put the condom over my balls or not. thx in advance (link)
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I'm 14 and I'm a virgin. And I'm not thinking about doing the nasty at all! haha. Maybe two years from now. Until then NO!!! You really shouldnt be either. Guys dont have sex until their mature enough. You may have gone through puberty and everything but that really doesnt matter. You're still a KID to everyone. It really pisses me off that you're trying to have sex at your age. Wait till you're 16 or 17 cause then you really know more about it. As for your question well I know this and I just turned 14 like 5 months ago and no it doesnt go over your balls. Have you ever heard of someone puttin it over their balls??? I'm sure you havent your 13. You unroll the condom and put it at the base of your penis. I really think you should wait. ok?? I'm not trying to be rude but 13 year olds having sex???? what? You having even been a teenage for like a year!
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Okay well im going into 9th grade and my boyfriend is going into 7th. And hes just not like a little kid. Hes so mature and so sweet, and i really like him, and hes always there for me, but i was wondering does anybody think that its weird that im dating a 7th grader? (link)
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No, that isnt weird! I went out with a boi who was like 2 years younger than me. I still liked him and stuff but we were just having fun. Yeah! You can date each other. I know a girl whose boyfriend is 15 and she's almost 17 so its not strange or anything. it's different because usually the guy is older because girls like me!!! like older guys because their more mature and serious about you. So, dont freak out its really no big. People might tease you about it but its not the freakest thing ever. I really liked the guy im talking about but he had other girls in mind. That doesnt mean your boyfriend has other girls in mind. haha.
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So one night I was sitting around thinking about how to break up with my boyfriend and I met this guy from a town like an hour and a half away. We got to talking and we pretty much spent the whole night together and he kept kissing me and hitting on me. I really liked him so I was pretty happy after breaking up with my boyfriend the next day. I knew that the guy from the other town didn't want a relationship, but I thought he was still interested in me cause we texted and talked on the phone a lot and we always talked about how we're going to have sex when we see eachother again. But I met up with him and his friends the other day and I don't think his friends like me..they're all really edgy and I go to school in Connecticut so I'm kinda preppy. I didn't think his friends opinions would matter to him but maybe they do cause he hasn't called me lately..I don't think I'm his type. His last girlfriend had a lip ring. But we have the same taste in music..so why would he judge me by what's on the outside? I don't want to nag him for not calling me because we're not even going out but I don't know what to do.... (link)
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Okay if he really cares then he wont care about what you wear. He cares about who you are. If your sour inside then he wont care about you. But he will not if you guys really love each other. haha. I hope that helps you.
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hey i am 15/f and i am a really depressed person i have a really really low self esteme and i don't know why i mean i am not ugly but sometimes i feel like i am and feel that i can't go anywhere because of the way i look i feel like i would look grose to people even though there is nothing wrong with me and alot of people like me and alot of people think i am really pretty but sometimes i just don't see it
can you help me find someways that will help me see that i am not ugly
how can i look at myself and actually like the way i look for once (link)
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Well , you sound like me. And I"m not ugly all the time to myself. Every girl feels this way though. Even my beautiful cousin thinks shes ugly and sometimes fat. It's not true. You're probably really pretti. The think is if you think in your head and you keep telling yourself that you're pretty and skinyy then soon enough you'll look like that in the mirror. I used to beat myself up and people would tell me that I'm really pretti but I always thought I was the ugly girl that wasnt gonna ever get a date. So I started saying to myself that I was pretti and skinny and I do look that way to me now. It's not about what other people think. You have to feel pretti 1st. ok!!! hope that works 4 you!
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Okay.. I'm going to break up with my boyfriend of 1 year. He is probably going to cry etc. but i want to make at as painless as possible and just get it done and over with. How can i make it easy on the both of us? (link)
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YEA! wow it's not going to be that painless. It was a year. I do have some advice for you though. You should tell him the honest truth. use the "I" message thing. Which means dont make him feel like its his fault at all. Dont say its not you its me ,either. That one is sooo over played. So just be honest. Tell him you dont feel the same and you feel like you've changed as a person and you are confused about your emotions. This will hurt him but he will think about it and realize that you are changing. Break ups are never easy. Their a part of life. So don't worry he'll understand. I've seen a guy break up with a girl that was truly in love with him and she got over it pretty soon and it was like a 3 year realtionship.
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school is starting soon and i want a boyfriend! like way in the winter-ish we have this thing called "Winter Wonderland", which is like a special dance around Christmastime for 8th graders. and you can go with your friends, but its kinda better if you have an actual guy date! i want somebody special.. but some people just get in relationships really easily.. for me its either that I like them, but they don't like me back, or the opposite. I guess I can be picky at times, but I want my first boyfriend to be someone I wont regret. Plus, I don't know what my parents would say or think.. and if they'd want me to be hanging around this guy a lot, especially if we go on dates and stuff. but I want my first boyfriend to be a good friend of mine, not JUST a boyfriend. and also.. when is the right time to ask a guy out? how do you know if he likes/dislikes you back? haha i know this is too early to think.. I mean school hasn't even started yet, but I want to like be prepared! ;)
13/f (link)
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Yeah. I think you're too young to have a 1st boyfriend. Just go out with somebody you like. You're too young to be getting serious with someone. You need to worry about school and friends. Not guys! Not yet! I"m 14 and I've never even gotten close to having a boyfriend and I'm not ugly. so yeah. You're only 13 so just slow it down a lil bit there.
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14/f
I seem to have a problem, I always like guys that aren't available. Sometimes I fall hard, and then get really depressed because I know I can't have them.
A few times in the past, boys I've liked have asked me out, and before I've had time to think about it, I've said no. And after I think, what did I do that for?
And boys I've liked have chatted me up at parties and I've got away from them quickly. And I always regret it.
Now, I've been in love with this boy for the past 4 months. And he really is the most amazing boy I've ever met. He seemed to be in a really serious relationship with his girlfriend and I'd cry all the time because of it.
A few days ago he told me he likes me as more than a friend, and I was ecstatically happy. Although I didn't think anything would happen for quite a long time because of his relationship with his girlfriend.
But then he said he's not sure what's going on with them at the moment, and recently has been talking about breaking up with her, although he's not sure. And his best mate keeps making comments that make it sound as if it's because he wants to be with someone else.
And suddenly I feel like I'm in a panic, and I don't feel as happy and I feel quite worried.
And I don't know why, I mean, I've wanted this for months now, right?
Yet I can't help it, it seems as soon as someone starts to like me, I pull away.
Do you have any idea why I do this? Is it to do with commitment? And how can I stop it?
Thanks in advance, sorry it was long, xxx (link)
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haha. Yeah I just think you're young like me and you're not ready for a serious relationship. I know what you're saying. Guys act like they really want me and stuff then they turn around and screw or go out with some other girl. Enough about me though. Ok. So I'm not sure if it has anything to do with a commitment but he probably still has a lot of long hard feelings for her. People can break up and never talk to each other and it doesnt matter how long they've went out or anything. because I know a guy that broke up with his girlfriend of like 4 years but the realtionship changed and they never really talk I don't guess. They still have no communcation and they went out for like ever! So, don't worry you can lose feelings fast. You just realize you need to move on from them. thats that!!! ok!! bye bye!
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Okay, so lately I have been feeling very apathetic about things like; school, relationships, friendships, and my family. I used to be such a 'nice' person according to my friends and family. But then suddenly my personality's changing, and I really don't know why. It's not an existential kind of problem, but more of 'I don't know who I am as a person' kind of problem. It's been really bothering my lately, and it has been deteriorating the relationships I have made around the people that I really care about. I didn't think that I needed help for this, but it's really bugging me. How can I know who I really am as a person? (link)
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You didn't give your age but sometimes when your 14 and 15 you start changing. But its just you're maturing in some way and that can effect the way you think. I guess. Because I used to be all about music and now I barely know any of the songs but when I was like 12 I knew every new rock song. I don't anymore though because it doesnt make me happy like it did. other things make me happi. You're probably going through a change that will make you the person that you are. I often really don't know who I am either because I'm still maturing and changing. So don't worry it will pass. haha.
`krissytina!!!
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ok so i've been dating this guy for over 6 months and were great together. the only thing is he has a friend whose a girl. and there sorta close and it bothers me.they like talk alot on the phone (like 4 hours once) and shes around him some in school. i know he would never do that to me and i trust him completly , im just more worried about her, b/c i know she likes him. and i told him she liked him before we started going out and he denyed it. and we used to joke about it, but its not really funny anymore and kinda hurtful. and i told him about it and i asked him to stop tlkn to her on the phone, he said he would but he still did.i dont wanna be a controlling gf, but i can't help it. and of course she hates me and i can't stand her. i trust my guy completly and i love being with him. i just dont want this to turn into a big thing. what should i do?
XromanticX (link)
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OMG! you sound a lot like Kursty my cousin. Are you her? B/c she has a boyfriend named Daniel whose close friends with his friend Maria and Maria likes him and it get on Kursty's nerves. And she just told me a few days ago that Maria hates her. OMG! this has to be Kursty so I'm sorry I can't give you advice. And plus Maria and Daniel talk on the fone way too much to just me friends. And they go to school together. They're even in the same grade. And Kursty and Daniel always joke about stupid things like that. You should make him realize that this really hurts you. If you're kursty or anything like her you probably arent serious so he doesn't take you in a serious way. He just says ok I wont. You have to make him understand that that really hurts you. I mean how would he feel if you had a guy friend that was always around when he is away. That would piss him off. B/c Kursty's got a friend named Daniel well he's the other dAniel and her boyfriend hates when she's around him. So, yeah. there's really nothing you can do. You can't just say go away! or stop talking to my boyfriend.
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I cut. I need help. I want to go to guidance at school.
What happens once I go and tell them?
Other than call my mom. (link)
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They will probably tell your mom. But they will not be really mean and say okay we are putting you away. You're not in trouble you need help. You may not want them to help you but they will help you get better. This is not right to do at all. This to me is a mental disorder. People will and can help you with this. It's not going to be easy. But you'll make it through it you really try. ok.
`munchie the munchikin!!!
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hi im getting my bellybutton pierced and i was wondering how bad it hurts or does it hurt at all im scared so please let me know
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It hurts like hell. but its worth it. So you should get it done. It will bring a lot of attention. Mine gets infected every now and then so keep it clean. Okay? I really hope this helps.
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idk if this is in the right catergory but oh well
alright well im thirteen: in the beginning of the school year i was outgoing fun perky and always happy and now im always just blahh &the exact opposite:
did i just change? am im going to be like this forever? whatsss happeninggg :(
i need tips getting through this too: pleasee
thank you in advance! (link)
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Umm. Well, little girl you have a long road ahead of you. Let me tell you about my 7th grade year. Okay? ok. Anyways so it was 7th grade and I was so happy to see all my friends again. Then I quickly realized that all my friends hated me and nobody I knew were in my classes. So I didn't have any friends to hang out with or talk to. and plus I had a teacher who was always stressing me out with homework and classwork. I started failing my grades and guys didn't like me or anything. I didn't do anything to change it either. I just stayed positive. Now, things are better this year but they still suck. I hate 8th grade because my friend sabrina is always back stabbing me and trying so hard to make me mad. Anyways this is a stage and it feels like forever and stuff but its not going to be. Just stay positive and know that one day things will change and you'll be happy or content with your life. I mean people still hate me but I have some good friends that I talk to every now and then. People will come into your life and make you happy. You are just young right now and you're not ready for that. You're body and mind is maturing and can sometimes make you feel very unhappy with your life. it will change though. stay positive and happy. ok? okay. bye bye.
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ok, so the last few weeks i've been feeling like total shit. i'm fed up with numerous things and i dont know how to control my anger. I'm trying to lose weight for the new school year, but i get so "blah" that i overeat and lose control. I'm really mad at my image..for example, i think im ugly and fat. [even though im not, i sometimes have low points in my mood and i think im so ugly // fat that no one wants to be my friend and etc.] i have so many more like.."mood" problems, that they wont fit in this question. i think all of this crap has to do with some sort of wierd mental illness, but my parents dont believe me. i dont know what to do! pleaseeee,please help me.
thanks. (link)
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Okay. Yeah I'm guessing you're between the age of 13-15. Yeah. Well guess what I feel like this right now! I know what you're saying and no you are not mentally ill at all. I hate to say it but its a stage in life that every girl has to go through. It's confusing and sometimes you just want to end it all but you have to stay positive. If you look in the mirror and you don't feel pretty then just keep saying you're pretty in your head. So when you look in the mirror again you'll feel prettier. Also being pretty only gets you so far in life. You're not always happy because you're pretty. My cousin is beautiful but she isnt always happy. you really don't get any special treatment because of the way you look. also those people that don't want to be your friend will be sorry when you get new friends that really care. Dont mess with those people. All they will do is hurt you. All the time. So leave them alone and make new friends or just talk to people. And you are having mood swings because your hormones are all jacked up and makng you feel realy happy then really sad. Yeah! I have those too. I go from being happy and then crying in less than two minutes. Its strange. And about your self image. Okay yeah I feel fat even though I know I"m smaller than most girls my age. Which is funni. Because sometimes I think they look better than me. So you'll get through this. But stay positive. okay? okay. bye bye.
love the munchie from the south side. haha.
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Ive noticed some things about myself and i was wondering if these are normal and how to change them.
I could go outside with my family and have the best day of my life, but then come home and after a few hours be misreable and angry.
When i am having a great day, it never seems to last. But after a little bit i can cheer myself up. But then ill be sad again.
I get to sleep at about 11 (or somtimes 2) at night (or 2 in the morning)
I have wierd eating habbits where i dont get hungry (expt i always love candy/munchies) until late at night, when i need to go get somthing to eat.
I'm a 13 year old girl
I broke up with my boyfriend (who i had been datin on/off for a year) out of the blue. (The day after i had heart surgery and he has been so suportive about it, saying he would visit me and everything) He was perfect and amazing but i didnt think i loved him and some days im over him and im happy for him and whatever new life hed like to have and i want him to get a girlfriend and move on and other days i just want him back. But i know i cant because i dont even know what i want.
Some days when i think about things my ex-boyfriend would do or say, it would make me be thankful it was over and other times the same things make me miss him.
I know im smart enough to get straight As but i get As and Bs because its so much simpler in theory. I get to stressed from all of the pressure of quizes.
I have high expectations of myself and i seem to fail most of them.
I used to think i had the best body but now im losing faith in my self image.
Im in-consistant in everything.
I used to think i needed to be perfect in everything..
Im inspired easily but easy come easy go.
I feel like my life is ina downward spiral and that im going crazy. But tomorow when im happy everything will look so clear.
What is my problem? Why am i like this?
Please help. Id love any advice that you can give me. (link)
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Okay I understand you because I used to be you age. It's confusing and diffcult and sometimes I just wanna take a gun and shoot everyone. Yeah I'm 14 now I'm still going through this shit. I hate it but I understand that I'm maturing and my body and mind is changing all the time and I have no control over it. I often feel very lonely and like people don't like me because I'm me. It's not like that though. You need to be positive about your self. Because if you think you're ugly and fat in middle school then guess what you'll always feel that way. Another thing is life always changes its not gonna be like that forever. and I know it feels like it never ends. It does though I've seen people go from being really depressed when they are your age and when they turn 16 they start gettin new friends and they get a good healthy social life. The real truth is that you're young. And you have to go through this so you can mature and be able to have friends and boyfriends. so just wait it out but always think positive thoughts. Don't self destruct like cutting yourself. Also this has a lot to do with hormones not you or anybody else just hormones so when you feel like everyone is coming down on you or you're coming down on your self just remember this is all hormones. Okay?
Okay. I really hope this helps sweetie. Stay positive!
~ Munchie!
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i can't take life. i honestly can't. every morning when i wake up i'll try to think of something good that might happen today, but the truth is it's just another damn day. where i'm still my miserable and lonely self. everything in life is too disappointing. I don't have friends or a boyfriend, well i used to have a "friend" but she always tried really hard to make me feel worse about myself. Just now she even asked my "why?" when after she said that guys stare at her 24/7 and I told her they do the same to me. She's such a hurtful bitch.
Every time i have a date set up w/ someone who is interested in me, HE BREAKS THE FREAKING DATE. So all my relationships end before they really begin. See it's just my luck.
I want to commit suicide but I can't because I'm afraid of the pain.
Please don't say anything like "Oh everyone feels this way sometimes." because i feel this way ALL the time. all the god damn time.
people ignore/exclude me whenever they can. i don't even do anything bad/mean.
and also please don't say "oh honey everything's gonna be okay things will get better!"
because i've already heard that too much.
therapists/counselors don't help me. i've seen too many of them. can i be put to sleep or something? like a dog? is that possible?
what can i do to take life? i just want to die so badly. don't say anything like "oh just pray about everything and it'll be okay." I'm not a christian and i never will be again. i'm agnostic because it's the only true religion.
it's not like i've had any horrible tragedies or anything, but i still am just as miserable as anyone who has had them!
god i want to die. help. (link)
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Well. I hate to say this but yes it will change. I'm going through the same fucking thins. Everyday I get up and I realize I have no friends and guys don't like me. Yet people tell me I'm pretty all the time. They don't understand because they're not going through this shit. i honestly think this is the worse time of my life. And I feel like all my fucking friends arent going through it and i am the only fucking one and I hate that! I hate them. I hate life. Just like you. WE ALL GO THROUGH THIS!!! You seem a lil' pissed off. Because you feel like everybody's telling you the same fucking thing. And nobody cares. WELL do shit that makes you happy and fuck the rest. Thats my advice to you. Thats all you can do at the stage of fucking life!!!!
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how do i tell a girl who i lost feelings for that i want to break up with her when she is still crazy for me? (link)
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You should really try to just tell her the truth. Making her think you love her is worse because she'll think you were a fake the whole time. She'll be confused. So you have to give her little signals that you don't feel like you did. Explain how you felt in the relationship from the starting point. She will still be sad and all but it's easier on her if you don't act like you love her a lot and then out of the blue break up with her. I really hope this helps somehow.
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Lately I've just been feeling terrible. I don't even know - lost and miserable and like I can't turn to anyone with any of this. There's nothing really wrong with my life. I just can't stop crying. (link)
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Sometimes last year I felt this way as well. I didn't change anything and I think that there's something that's maybe bothering you and making you feel sad and it must be something you don't have a lot of control over. I understand but if you feel like crying then just cry and let it out. You might need some time to think about your life. You write down your feelings on a piece of paper. You could also figure out what you don't like about your life. You just need time to think things over. Once you find whats wrong then it's easier to make it right. My advice to you is just do stuff that makes you happy. Life is TOO short for you to be sad. all you gotta do is find something that you like. This will help you forget about whats wrong. You really don't tell me a lot so I don't know what's wrong. If ya wanna talk then just drop one in my inbox.
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