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Mood Swings?
Ive noticed some things about myself and i was wondering if these are normal and how to change them.
I could go outside with my family and have the best day of my life, but then come home and after a few hours be misreable and angry.
When i am having a great day, it never seems to last. But after a little bit i can cheer myself up. But then ill be sad again.
I get to sleep at about 11 (or somtimes 2) at night (or 2 in the morning)
I have wierd eating habbits where i dont get hungry (expt i always love candy/munchies) until late at night, when i need to go get somthing to eat.
I'm a 13 year old girl
I broke up with my boyfriend (who i had been datin on/off for a year) out of the blue. (The day after i had heart surgery and he has been so suportive about it, saying he would visit me and everything) He was perfect and amazing but i didnt think i loved him and some days im over him and im happy for him and whatever new life hed like to have and i want him to get a girlfriend and move on and other days i just want him back. But i know i cant because i dont even know what i want.
Some days when i think about things my ex-boyfriend would do or say, it would make me be thankful it was over and other times the same things make me miss him.
I know im smart enough to get straight As but i get As and Bs because its so much simpler in theory. I get to stressed from all of the pressure of quizes.
I have high expectations of myself and i seem to fail most of them.
I used to think i had the best body but now im losing faith in my self image.
Im in-consistant in everything.
I used to think i needed to be perfect in everything..
Im inspired easily but easy come easy go.
I feel like my life is ina downward spiral and that im going crazy. But tomorow when im happy everything will look so clear.
What is my problem? Why am i like this?
Please help. Id love any advice that you can give me.
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Okay I understand you because I used to be you age. It's confusing and diffcult and sometimes I just wanna take a gun and shoot everyone. Yeah I'm 14 now I'm still going through this shit. I hate it but I understand that I'm maturing and my body and mind is changing all the time and I have no control over it. I often feel very lonely and like people don't like me because I'm me. It's not like that though. You need to be positive about your self. Because if you think you're ugly and fat in middle school then guess what you'll always feel that way. Another thing is life always changes its not gonna be like that forever. and I know it feels like it never ends. It does though I've seen people go from being really depressed when they are your age and when they turn 16 they start gettin new friends and they get a good healthy social life. The real truth is that you're young. And you have to go through this so you can mature and be able to have friends and boyfriends. so just wait it out but always think positive thoughts. Don't self destruct like cutting yourself. Also this has a lot to do with hormones not you or anybody else just hormones so when you feel like everyone is coming down on you or you're coming down on your self just remember this is all hormones. Okay?
Okay. I really hope this helps sweetie. Stay positive!
~ Munchie!
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Ok, first of all, at your age your body is probably going through a lot of changes. That means hormonal changes as well, which can affect your moods. So these mood swings are pretty common for your age.
So are the sudden insecurities that you are feeling. Your body will be changing, and you will grow emotionally and intellectually as well. In other words, A LOT of changes are taking place. So try not to worry so much and realize that EVERYONE else is going through those changes too.
You said you also went through heart surgery?! That's a BIG thing to go through, for someone at any age. So considering the circumstances, I think you are doing great. And it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't worry too much. Or expect too much. Just be the best you that you can be. That's all anybody can do.
As to the second part that you added about everyone thinking you're happy all the time... maybe you are so worried about others feelings and cheering them up, that you neglect yourself?
A true friend will be there for you in good times and bad. So don't be afraid to share with them some of the not-so-happy aspects of your life. You would expect your friends to share this with YOU wouldn't you? So why are you holding yourself to a different standard?
Give yourself a break!
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i am 13 to, and i have been facing similar stuff like that, my mom tells me its harmones and it can give you mood swings, also there might be some stress, and maybe a tiny bit of after a party and then feeling a bit angry might be because you hate to see it end. you just have to try to control it, and its good that you are letting it out other then just holding it all up, and it does help to have a friend or someone close with you, but some people like to deal with this kind of things by themselves not wanting other people really in this.But you should reconsider and remember that you do have friends and family here for you, and that is one of their jobs, to help you when you are down.
hope i helped:]
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Aw i remember going through this when i was about 13, Nothing bad has happened to you it's just as my mum said 'becoming a woman'. All your hormones are up and down and everywhere right now and it's making you go through these crazy emotions and moods. I have certain times through the month...1 week i cry and cry about absolutely nothing or something silly like losing a pen! I don't feel like crying it just comes out and then i feel horrible...another week i can't sleep and go to sleep at 1-2am then wake up every single hour til i get up panicing that i'm late..I go through hot and cold phases, bloating, feeling rough every wonderful thing that puberty and now periods give you lol. If you haven't started already, it sounds like your heading towards periods as all these things are symptoms of 'the time of the month'. There's nothing to worry about it's just being a girl. Best cure for when you feel down = chocolate and shopping;) I find exercise clears your mind a lot and i'm always less stressed out when i've been in the gym or done some hockey and lacrosse!
If you find things really hard you can take hormone vitamin tablets for women (you can get them from chemists and probably supermarkets) which calm your hormones down a bit so you don't feel so grumpy:P
I found 13 to be one of the hardest years because everythings growing, you're getting a more womanly shape, moods and everything gets on top of one another, just chill and do something you enjoy when you feel down, you'll laugh about it when you're older!:)
Hope you feel better in yourself soon!
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