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Breaking up
Okay.. I'm going to break up with my boyfriend of 1 year. He is probably going to cry etc. but i want to make at as painless as possible and just get it done and over with. How can i make it easy on the both of us?
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try to make it obvious that its coming. if you completely suprise him it will hurt him more. believe me..i just went through the exact same thing. and hes probably going to want you to have like a legit reason why youre breaking up with him. if its because you like someone else.. DONT tell him that. tell him you just dont like him like that anymore but you still want to be friends. he might be mad at you/hate you for awhile but eventually he will probably come around. (it might take him a few months though).
good luck xo
p.s. MAKE SURE YOU THINK THIS OVER BEFORE YOU DO IT BECAUSE IF YOU BREAK UP WITH HIM AND THEN REALIZE THAT YOU CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM.. YOURE SCREWED BECAUSE HE PROBABLY WONT TAKE YOU BACK
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Tell him in a place where there are no witnesses,you can offer him your friendship,tell him that you don't mean to hurt him but just be honest,not lead a relationship that you don't want to be in,you're really sorry,that you hope that he understands,and you wish him all the happiness in the world to him.
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well, for one, DON'T do it over the phone, computer, text etc. Ok, ask him to meet you a certain day so you can "talk". that will kindof give him the idea that it's serious so he can have a day or so to think about it and be prepared. when you meet up, just say "hey this is really hard for me but this isn't working out." then tell him why. hope i helped!
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YEA! wow it's not going to be that painless. It was a year. I do have some advice for you though. You should tell him the honest truth. use the "I" message thing. Which means dont make him feel like its his fault at all. Dont say its not you its me ,either. That one is sooo over played. So just be honest. Tell him you dont feel the same and you feel like you've changed as a person and you are confused about your emotions. This will hurt him but he will think about it and realize that you are changing. Break ups are never easy. Their a part of life. So don't worry he'll understand. I've seen a guy break up with a girl that was truly in love with him and she got over it pretty soon and it was like a 3 year realtionship.
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