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Hi!!:P I'm Tabrisha, and I love to help people out. I am currently taken by a handsome guy named Toney(I wish you guys could meet him:)
But I'm trying to be on the flag team, stepping team, cheerleading team, and dance team and volleyball. I love a challenge.

But I love meeting new people, so feel free to email me anytime if you want personal advice or anything at all=)
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There is this guy I met that doesnt go to my school but I know who he is, his name is Jordan. And well he is like the hottest guy on this planet and well. I don't think that he likes me, and I don't even know if he even knows me because I have never talked to him, I just seen him at my basketball tournament. ANd well I really like him and I want to ask him out. Do you think that I should get to know this guy and ask him out or just ask him out? And how would I ask him out?
Who ever answers my question I will give them a rating of 5. Thanks a lot.

Hmmm... someone has a crush! =P
I've done this before.
Don't be afraid. If there's no chance of another girl grabbing him, get to know him. You'll have a better idea of what this guy is like before you ask him out. I have met quite a few "hottest guys on the planet" who's attitude was anything but hot. They were so full of themselves.

Anyway, to hook the fish, try this.

Just call his name, tell him to come by you, start up a conversation, and if you like what you hear, slip it in that you're bored and was planning to go somewhere and just casually ask him if he would like to come with.
Or tell him you gotta go, but if he would like it, you guys can finish your conversation on the phone, or tell him to come over to your house later=P
Be nice and he can't refuse=D

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16 female. See I have this feeling like i need to choose between these two guys, and i don't know why because i have nothing to choose from. The guy im with loves me and the other guy doesn't even think about me in that way(anymore), and I know that for sure. And a person once told me, never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love. And thats true and some very good advice but in my case the one i'm with isn't the one i love.
So pleaseee tell me why i feel the need to choose when i have no choice to make.

I've had this feeling before, I think.
It's really confusing, so this advice won't be the best...but like you said, you feel so stongly that you have to choose, when there's nothing to choose from.
You may feel like this because you want him, and you want to take a chance, even though you know he doesn't like you like that.
It's hard to explain...
Basically, you know that you have no chance with him, but that's not what your mind is telling you.
It still hasn't got the message yet probably, so hold on, and try to push it out of your mind when you feel this again. Focus on this wonderful guy who loves you=D
Hope I helped to clear things up some.
*Diamyn*

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ok, so me and my husband had a baby when we were 18. i know what your thinking, but no, me and him are fine. its my friend. she really liked him when we were going out, but we were secretly going out so she didnt know. anyway, she's gotten pregnant who this guy who punched her in the eye, and i think she got pregnant to get back at me. well shes had like 9 boyfriends since my daughter Isabella's been born, and its killing my husband because he's trying to protect her from these people, and she keeps getting mad at him. i dont know what to do to help, i hate to see either one of them unhappy. ive known them my entire life.

I think you're definitely right when you say she got pregnant to get back at you. It's like her saying:"I don't care you had a baby for the man I liked; look at me! I've found someone of my own" She my also be trying to keep the guy there by having his baby, so she can really say she has a guy of her own, and a family, like you.

Your husband sounds like a really nice person with a lot of patience, and she doesn't seem to care.
Some people just don't respond to niceness, and are filled with jealousy, and are programmed to try and keep up with the Joneses'.

I know how it feels to see people walk away when people are trying to help them,and I've dealt with these type of people before, so my advice would be to let her go. Try not to talk to her anymore, because she doesnt seem to be a very good friend.

But since you're really worried about her, and you'll feel guilty if you just turn away from her without one last effort for help, I think you should take her somewhere, just her, you and your husband, and explain to her, provide details and examples, of what she's doing and why you're trying to help her.Tell her you're worried about her, and you're willing to let bygones be bygones, because you can't reverse what's happened. You may want to include that you think she's still not over the fact that you and this guy are together now.

She isn't a very good friend, because she should have been there for you, babysitting and everything, instead of doing the things she's doing. I know you want to help, but after all the talks, she still may not respond. Then it would be time for you to take the right side of the fork in the road, and her, the left.
After all this, I surely hope that i helped you out at all, and that everything works out okay.
Good luck =D
*Diamyn*

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so me and this guy i really like decided to be friends. he said i was the coolest person ever and it made his day talkin to me but lately he will IM me and talk but hes weird like is like g2g bye. he stopped callin me like he did before and doesnt text me should I tellh im how im feeling or what? i rate high

I know how it feels to have someone do that.
You feel kinda... ignored and brushed off.

You should definitely tell him how you feel, because he can't read your mind.
Tell him what you told us.
You feel he's acting weird and he stopped calling you, and you feel,...brushed off?

Since he said you were the coolest person ever, he may not have deserted you. For the simple fact that he still IM's you and talks, that tells me he still thinks you're a cool person.
He may just be busy or something. So just talk to him and give it time. If he truly wants your friendship, he'll show you.
Hope I helped you some.

*Diamyn*

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I rate high....

Well me and this guy are friends I like him and stuff well he wants to go to the movies this weekend but my mom said I cant date until im 17. I told her its just as friends but she still says no. Just because she iddnt start dating until she was 17 doesnt mean she had to do that to me. What should I do? I really realllly wanna go with him.

I had this problem before.I know how bad you feel when you can't go somewhere because of your parents. There's usually no getting around parents, but maybe this'll work for you:
1) Talk to her again, and ask her why she thinks you are too young. Ask for specific reasons.
2) Tell her whatever you're thinking, and why. Tell her just that- that just because she started dating at 17, doesn't mean you have to.

This is a different day and age.
3) You two should reach an agreement with this.
Good luck=) Hope i helped!

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Okay there is this REALLY nice guy and I like him a lot.. and he REALLY likes me.. but then there is my ex bf who also likes me.. This new guy chris I havnt gone out with yet.. and I went out with my ex steven 6 times already and it didn't work out.. I am thinking Chris but a lot of my friends r picking Steven.. Please help me..

Chris or Steven??

well!
you are very confused, huh? =P
Since things haven't been working out with steven, and you both have tried about 6 times, I think it's time to find someone with much less drama.

There are countless reasons why I think you should go out with Chris. Your friends are trying to help, but their opinions can't substitue for your heart and brain=P

I vote for the "new guy"!
Hope I helped some:D
*Diamyn*

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I recently met this guy who I really am starting to like a lot. He has even talked about us being togeather, as in boyfriend/girlfriend, but I decided we should take it slow and go out a few more times. He recently admitted to me that he was bisexual. I still really like him a lot, so should this effect me in any way? I'm really confused, please help me. Thanks

Wow, I bet you were shocked!
I know I would have been.
But his being bi doesn't change anything.
You liked him before he told you this, so don't stop now!
Don't worry.He sounds like a really good guy.It must have been hard for him to come out and say it, so he really trusts you. He just wanted to be honest with you, and that is definitely a good sign! Hope i helped ya!
*Diamyn*

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is it possible to be to "nice"? like here is an example: i can't tell someone they are annoying cause im afriad it mite hurt their feelings... or ... i can't hang out with more than one friend (that's a girl) cause i think i might ignore one of them... it bothers me sometimes
(i rate high)

I am a nice person, or I think i just have a lot of patience...=P
Anyway, try to think of it like this: you know how it feels to be annoyed, so if you were annoying, you would want someone to tell you right?(even though you might feel offended)
I believe there's nothing wrong with telling someone something like that as long as you're not too rude.

As for the friend thing, try to think of it like this:
Your friends have more friends than just you, and everything fine!(I hope) You don't sound like you are feeling left out. So don't worry=)
But try not to let it bother you so much.
Hope I helped some.
*Diamyn*

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i have an advice column on this website (ask PrincezzMari) but how do i make my own website (for free) for my advice column? thanks for the help!

-Mari TG

I have tried looking for the same already=( Well, just like the other person said, you already have a web-advice column- for free!

On the main page there's a link that says"link back to our site", and it has a page full of icons that you can put in your blogs, or if you do start a website, put it on there and people will click it, and be directed straight to your column, and no place else. Then they can ask you questions and you can still be rated and everything!

(P.s.- I have already searched everywhere for a site where I can start another advice column, but to no luck. So I don't think you really have a choice for now, but if you find one please let me know!=) Hope I cleared that up for you:D
*Diamyn*

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If a guy touches your arm a lot as hes talking to you, is this a good sign?

That is a VERY good sign. It means he really cares about you. My boyfriend used to do that to me all the time, and we had a really good relationship. By all means, don't let him get away!!=P
*Diamyn*

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I have a program called powerdvd and I want to know how you burn dvds

well, i have it too, and it won't happen unless you have a dvd burner.

Assuming you do, as far as I know, you can't burn dvds on that.

But you could use these other programs to burn you a quality dvd: if you haven't tried already.

1) Windows Media Player(play the dvd in that program, and save it to a playlist, then go to burn, and burn it!)
2) Realplayer(same directions as above)

These are the ones that I know of so far. I hope that this was somehow helpful to you=D
*Diamyn*

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My best guy friend (tom) has a girlfriend. His best guy (jake)friend likes me. I like my best guy friend (tom). Should I wait for tom to break up with his girlfriend or should I go ut with jake?
-Confused

Well, I think that you should wait for Tom and his girlfriend to split. All you have to do is figure out which one you like more.

I'd be careful, though. You may be tempted, if you decide to wait for tom, and go out with jake as a bookmark boyfriend until tom and his girl split. but then tom or jake might get very mad if you have to dump one for the other. Going out with both guys who are best friends, most of the time, doesn't go too well(it gets messy, and feelings are hurt.)
In the end, it's all about who you like more. Hope I helped some!=D
*Diamyn*

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I've seen in previous people asking questions about making out and kissing.. but i'm wondering something. What is the differance, if there is any, between "making out" and "french kissing"

thanks a bundle. ha

This is a unique question!=P
Anyway, i think making out involves more touching and all. Sometimes it's like heavy petting and frech kissing. French kissing is when people kiss, but they use tongues and all the action is toward the mouth area. So there is a difference, but one is used in the other sometimes. Hope I helped=D
*Diamyn*

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OK...sorry, this will be quite long.
Well, my parents are divorced and I live with my mother. I don't see my father any more, because he got married to this lady called Karen, and she sends me loads of horrible emails, accusing me and my mother of all sorts of crap. I'm perfectly happy with not seeing him because I never got on with him, so that's not my question.
The thing is, my mother still wants me to see my father's parents. I really don't like them and all they do is complain at/about me while I'm there and I never enjoy any time I spend with them. My mother keeps going 'oh well you should do what you want I'm not forcing you to see them', but if I mention not wanting to go and see them, she moans at me and says I really should or whatever. She is really adamant that she hasn't influenced me or told me what to do in any of this business with seeing my father and his parents, but she is forcing me into seeing my grandparents!! They always talk about me not seeing my father while I'm there as well and it's driving me mad.
What can I do about this?? My mother swears she isn't MAKING me see them, but she complains at me if I don't go, or punishes me by not letting me go out at the weekend or something. How do I make her see that she IS influencing my choices over seeing that side of my family?
No answers saying that I should see my family please!! That's not my question and I don't want that answer thanks. I'm very aware that they are my family, thank you very much, and that most people see theirs. Well I'm not most people, so no preaching if you guys don't mind! Thanks!

Hmmm.. well, people in these sorts of problems, they have made up their mind and everything about what they want. Go to your mom, and tell her that you feel like you and her are in a room with closing a spiked wall and she keeps pushing you into it-or something like that=P
But seriously, you need to have a chat and tell her this. The things you are telling her now are having no effect, so you need to get serious and tell her that you don't like going over there because they still talk about 'it' right in front of you and you don't feel comfortable.
Tell her EVERYTHING. You have plenty reasons, and she should see your point.
Hope it works out!
*Diamyn*

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Okay, I liked this boy named Max for a while and then he was an idiot and I stopped liking him. He keeps coming up in my head and I am so obessesed with him and I don't want to be this way at all. I try not to think about him, but everything I think about some how relates back to him.
Anyways, recently I got an AIM from a guy claiming his name was Joe and he saw my picture from my friend Rem (who doesn't go to our skool) and he thought I was super hott. I asked how he knew Rem and he didn't remember. Joe said he lived in some place far from me and he really thought he had no chance with me. Once he mentioned he heard about my "boyfriend" which was a joke I played on Max a long time ago and I began to think that this "Joe" guy was really "Max" playing a prank on me. I told Joe that I don't think he's telling the truth on who he is and he just needs to admit hes Max. He finally did and then he denied it again! I just know it's Max and he AIM's me still being Joe and flirts with me all the time. Why was he such a jerk to me and now flirting? Is it just a thing between him and his friends to make fun of me? Or does he really like me? I'm so confused and I really need help! I'll rate super duper good! Thank you for bearing with this super long question and I'm sorry!

~ Super Confused! ~

Confusion is not easy to sort out =?
Well, you did say that this Max guy was an idiot, so I do think that this is Max diguised as Joe. Disguising yourself to talk to someone when you like them is a little immature, and that sounds like the kind of idiot you were talking about.

Anyway, he might be flirting with you now because he might have noticed that you like him, maybe cause he caught you staring at him one day, since you said you can't get him out of your mind.

He also might have realized that you are a really good person, and he might think you still have feelings for him.
I really don't know if it could just be his friends and him playing a joke, so that's why I would tell you to wait before trying to openly confront this guy.
So, it's really not that confusing; but you might wanna pay attention to him, and find out who this Joe guy is because there's a chance it may really be a secret admirer.

Guys work in mysterious ways=P
Hope I helped to clear up his mystery.
*Diamyn*

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Today i found out from alot of people that my boyfriends been cheating on me with this girl that i absolutly hate and wen i asked my boyfriend about it he sed it wasnt true and they are lying to me, but i dont know wether to trust him or not because he has cheated on me before and tryed to hide it but i found out and idk why but i let it slide (plz noone give me a lecture on that). His bestfriend even told me that which is why im questioning him but he keeps on saying its not true. I dont know what to do, should i break up with him even though hes saying it not true or should i stay with him? someone please help me! btw me and him are both 15 and weve been together for 10 months, and we also dont go to the same school. thanks for your helf

See, that is why I hate guys. They do dirt and then try to deny what they did. I think that you should break up with him because he has cheated before, and the fact that you let it slide guaranteed that he's doing it again. Even though you really like him, you have to let go and find a new guy who'll do right. Hope I helped you out any.
*Diamyn*

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i just told one of my best friends kelly im bi and now she is acting weird around me. I imed her and shes like ummm hi and im like whats wrong and then she says well idk how to act around u anymore, and im really hurt, she treats me like im not wanted, not intentional, but it still hurts, what do i do be honest

She might not know how to take the news. Some people just don't feel right around people like this because of what they see and hear about them.
Tell her that you feel unwanted, and you know she's not doing it on purpose. Ask her to tell you how she really feels about this, because she may not want to hang with you anymore. A good friend will like you for who you are, but she may just be adjusting from shock or something, so give it some time before you question her. Hope everything works out!
*Diamyn*

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Okay, so I've been with my guy 15 months, and it's been sheer bliss until lately. My stress level went up because music is taking over my life at the moment. I hardly ever see him as it is. Lately, he's been pissing me off. The problem is, I'm not totally sure why I'm so mad at him.
I want to SCREAM at him, and I never yell at anyone. He sprang this whole "I want to talk to you about the future of our relationship" thing on me on tuesday. (However, he told me I had no right to be nervous, there was no possibility I'd end up in tears, and he wasn't breaking up with me or anything remotely ike that.) He told me to call after play practice (I got the lead, so major stress there) so I did, and the line was busy. Then he told me to call after practice yesterday so we could talk. I called - he wasn't there. Today, he left for his friend's house 'cause they're doing this whole winterfest thing or whatever. He's gone all weekend.
He PROMISED me we'd talk about this and get rid of some stress before my college audition (saturday), and so far, we haven't talked about it.
He's causing me all sorts of stress I don't need, not to mention the fact that he's never quite...reliable. He never calls anymore (and if he does, I'm never there. He seems to call when he knows I'll be gone, and then never calls back when my parents tell him I'll be home.)I'm sick of chasing him with phonecalls.
The thing of it is, I honestly think he's under the impression that I'll stick with him no matter what he does (or doesn't do). I'm thinking of talking to him and telling him that though I love him with all my heart, if he continues to take me for granted like this, I will break it off. I can't handle boyfriend stress on top of everything else.
I tried to stay away from relationships, but I couldn't get rid of my quickly developing crush on him.
So what's your advice? What do I do? Do I talk to him and tell him he's taking me for granted? Do I scream at him the way I want to? I can advise everyone except myself dealing with matters of the heart, so I need someone to help me out.

Whoa! He IS causing you added stress that you really don't need right now. And we all know stress can lead to hair loss, weight gain(so I've heard) and all kinds of bad things.
But even though you care for him lots and lots, you really don't need this.
Talk to him face to face and tell him exactly whats on your mind and heart. tell him you feel that he doesn't realize what he has and you both seem too busy for each other right now. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and realize his mistakes-if it is a mistake. Tell him that you need alone time right now. If he tries to make you stay with him, tell him that you NEED space right now.
Or if you wanna break it off for good, tell him that too. No matter how hard it is, you have to say whats on your mind, because he can't read it.
Hope everything works out! Good luck!
*Diamyn*

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sheesh I knew they really werent fighting because it didnt make sense then today it made it sound like they actually where...and I wasn't even trying to think it...and then she said it was a joke between the 2 of them..and that I was punk'D and so was our other friend n that they really werent fighting...I didn't get it at all, I was playing along..now I want to choke her for it all lol..I told her if she wanted to do that she would need to think of something better.

:D Yes indeed, they did get you good...lol
But I'm sorry I didn't put my away message on. I'll be there for a little while, so if you wanna talk, now's the time.
But anyway, be grateful it wasn't real. I know I am..lol.
*Diamyn*

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my friend has kissed my very "friendly" friend and we have gone out a couple time and we still kiss occasionaly...but we havnt made out. the friend that has kissed him said he is the best kisser..and she has kised a lot of guys and said he was the best. i know he wants to do things with me but i get really nervous. should i just let him go for it? cuz i am very "blonde" and i tend to mess things up.a nd this is really important to me. my girl friend said she would teach me how..but i dont know what to do.


HELP!! I RATE HIGH!!

if you're nervous, try to relax. It's nothing to worry about. this might sound corny:), but try to breathe right before you do it. take a relaxing breath.:O
but if you're still nervous, then maybe you're not ready yet. When you're truly ready, you'll know because it'll come naturally and you won't be so nervous:) Hope I helped!
*Diamyn*

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