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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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I used to cut but I've stopped since January. Now I've been thinking about a lot again, and itching a lot. Last night I actually did cut. In a way I want to cut, but then I don't want to get into all of it again, it's crazy. What do I do? And don't be an idiot, please take this seriously.

i used to do that a lot too, but my boyfriend helped me to stop, then lately i have been thinking about it a lot as well, but whenver i start to think about it i just talk to my boyfriend about it and he helps me

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i was just wondering if anyone had any good ideas for a birthday party :-/ nothing to extrodinary,it's just with a couple of friends.
thanx for any ideas :-D

just crash with a bunch of your girls for a slumber party, you're never too old for that, get either a bunch of scary movies or some chick flicks do each other's hair and pig out on things that'll rot your teeth

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I snuck out last night and went to see my boyfriend. His parents found out I snuck out, and they're telling MY parents. How do I get outta this? I can't tell my parents the truth before they call, because what if they don't even call? I already talked to his mom, and shes not happy with me, and shes not willin to give me another chance. What do I do?

Thanks!! A BUNCH!

there's nothing you can do unless you want to tell your parents the truth, you've just got to wait

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ok this is a long one.
i dont know where to start so i might scatter, when i turned 8 my mom moved away from my dad a said we could not see him for awhile (another long story so dont ask why just accept it) my sis and i were crushed my dad was like bill cosby we spent our summers with him he did everything with us theres no telling where we would have been if the events would have been diffrent. so our whole lives we told each other that when we turn 18 we would find him. my dad had remarried and had a wonderful new wife (she was so good i called her mom) and she had a great son. the last summer we spent together was when i was 8 my brother was 3 that summer he choked on some ice, i had just took cpr lessons at camp so i gave him the hymlec and he survied.in 1996 i was 16/17 and my mom said we could talk to my dad so she called my dads family only to hear them say they are so sorry to hear what happened and asked why we werent at the funeral my mom didnt get it. she ask what what happen. so my cousin break the news she say pappa(thats what they called my dad) killed my stepmom and my little brother i was in total shock i could not breath 2months earlier my boyfriend died in front of me.and to get this news it was the worse. he stab my stepmom 66times and broke my brothers head against the kitchen floor. after he did that he cut his throat drank drano cut his wrist and and stabbed his self in the stomach and drug the knife up to his ribs. He claimed he was insane and even the prosicuters thearpise said he was insane. my question is what am i to do? can i forgive or what i love him he is my dad we have the same eyes when i look into the mirror i see him should i no is it possible for me to forgive him? my sis has been in contact with him for awhile and we came down for one of his trials 2day i saw him. i thought that if i looked into his eye then i could see the truth i had was anger inside i wanted to let him have it. but i chickened out should i scream and yell would it help me or what should i do?pls i need help

it's ok to still love your dad, though trust would be out the window, i don't think that seeing him is the best idea either. you and your brother should most likely be in therapy because that is something very tramatic to have to go through

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Im in chorus at my school. I love singing and the class is sooo fun..my teacher is the best and i love singing at concerts. We just did The Phantom of the Opera and it was fun! I know that sounds corny but i really like it. I love being on stage. Well we had to sing for the graduates this yr and i felt embarrassed. We had to wear these lame chorus shirts and blue skirts. Everyone was laughing or snickering why we were singing..i felt soo embarrassed. All my friends make fun of me and im tired of it. Should i just quit chorus or what?

not if you enjoy it, i'd never quit something because my friends were being assholes

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It was my birthday and all on May 17 and that's when this guy I used to like started paying attention to me again. We would sometimes look but that would be once or twice a week. Since my birthday, I've recieved more than eight looks from this guy. Well, anyway I told myself that I should move onto another guy because I deserve love and he's not the right one to give it to me. I mean he flirts with other girls in front of my face. I also acknowledged some things that I have been in denial about. Why has he waited to now to pay me any attention? IS IT MIND GAMES? Or is he being serious. Spring Fling is tomorrow.

it's not being rude, it's being honest, deal with it

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so I've never been kissed but pretty soon its gonna happen and well, will he know? I dont wanan tell him just because its kinda embarassing. But can he tell? !! thanks.

only if you suck at it

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i have been dating my boyfriend for 9 years. we are going to get married in july. i went to visit my brother at camp pendleton and i met one of his friends. we really were into each other. nothing happened sexually but we both wanted it to happen. now i can't stop thinking about him and my brother says that he keeps asking about me. i have n o sexual intrest in my boyfriend anymore. but i felt this way before i met this guy. he cheated on me three times. he hasn't done anything in the past 3 1/2 years. but i don't feel anything towards him. what should i do???

don't leave your man, that would be wrong and stupid, everyone gets feelings for someone else you just need to forget about it. you've got a family, deal with it and stay with the father of your children, broken homes suck

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If You have ance between your eyebrows and then your pluck your eyebrows, then the acne goes away over time, then you pluck again, can the tweezers be infected and cause the acne to come back when you use the tweezers?

thanks so much in advance! sorry thats so confusing!!

-KeLsA-
:)

here's a though, try cleaning your face everyday to keep your pores clean, and hint hint waxing works too

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Ok, when I was 8 both my parents died in a car crash. I've been in and out of foster homes ever since. Most of them were assholes and abusive and then the last family I was with, before this one, just took off in the middle of the night and left me there. I took care of myself for about 3 months before someone found finally found me. when they finally found me I weighed 65lbs. and they said I was lucky to be a live. Now I wish I had just died then. That was when I was 10. I spent 2 years recovering and then I was put in another home. I ran away from there because they were assholes who enjoyed watching people get hurt. I'm now 15 and I'm not sure of anything anymore. I can't get close to people. I'm afraid to keep living. I really just want to give up. I've had thoughts of suicide before but never like this. I feel like there is nothing left. The people I'm with now are just like all the rest and I can't do it anymore. I don't want to keep living like this. I don't want to keep living at all. But I'm scared to go through with it I'm so confused and afraid and screwed up I don't know to do about anything.

My question is does anyone know how I can make things better? I've tried drugs, drinking, cutting, burning anything to take away all the confusion and nothing helps. If anyone has any ideas of how I can make things please let me know I really need help. I don't know what to do anymore. All I can think of is suicide and I know that's wrong but I'm just lost right now. Please if anyone has any ideas of how i can make things better help me.

first off, the cutting/burning etc. isn't the answer, whatever agency keeps putting you in these homes needs to be investigated. you need to call the police and report this and tell them that the foster care agency itsn't doing anything but making it worse

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hey i have a question me and this guy are going out and like his family like his parents like arent the fondest of me like she is holding something against me. see me and this other guy went to prom together and the guy im going out with now is obviously pretty bummed about this so his mom is constantly holding this against me and just wont gimmie a 2nd chance! So i plan on writing her a letter. I need some help on what to say to her. Like explaining why i did go. I went because he proved 2 me it was so important and that he wanted to go with me. Well this guys mom (my bf) is obviously protecting her "little baby boy"... well trying. but i cant tell her why i wanted cuz she'd hate me more. So please help!

you don't need their approval so stop worrying

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ok. this might be long and if it is im sorry. anyway. first of all, im 14/f. i said i would always be straight, but there is this one girl. shes 17/f. i dont no. just every time i no im goin to see her i get VERY happy. when i dont see her i kind of get depressed. we play softball together in the fall. she only talks to me then. whenever softball is over, we barely talk. when i see her and she doesnt say anything to me, it kills me. when she looks at me and smiles, i go crazy. i want to be like her and have everything she has. it kills me. she is also graduating next year and i will prolly rarely ever see her after that. and that thought CRUSHES me. sometimes i cry myself to sleep because i can barely talk to her. i want to get to no her and maybe (?) start a special bond with her. also, she is bi (i think, that is what everyone says). whatever she asks me to do for her, i will do it in a heartbeat. is this really a crush, love, or jealousy? im tellin you, i CANNOT live without this girl!

look up OCD, no doubt that's what you have, you're OBSESSED with this girl, and it's not healthy, i think you might need professional help.

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MY friend is nice, but everyone talks shit about her, it's so aggreivating to listen to people talk about her in study hall. It's awful. I've said stuff to them before, but that jsut makes them talk about her more. I want to tell her, because she has a right to know, and last time I mentioned someone said something she kind of wanted to know what they said. When I did tell her, she started crying and was upset. People who make my friends cry.....they make me get all....dSFHSZXFNDFN. What should I do? Tell her when people talk about her, or keep quiet and tell her no one is?

if your friend's really nice then people wouldn't be talking about her. think about some of the things that they are saying and then think about her, maybe some of the things they say aren't far from the truth?

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why is it that guy find girl on girl action so attractive??
ill rate if ur advice is good

because men are pigs

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It seems like a stupid question but what's the best thing to do when you're trying to lose weight.
Eat before you work out or after? (obviously not right before or right after)
It's just a couple of people have told me eating before will give me energy and that eating after will just bring back the calories and other people have told me eating after is better because before you already have the energy from your previous meals of the day and if you eat after you'll get all the sugar, protein, etc. back that you lost during sweating.

So, who's right?

drink gatoraide and eat something healthy that will give you energy before you work out

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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave and we are right next to each other in the seat but my friend is between us and he got up and kept looking back at me and then he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened?

sounds like this was just a one time thing, he might have thought that this was just a, what's called "camp fling", or he could just be a dog, who knows. it seems to me that you're better off without him, you can get a guy who will be nicer than that. if you happen to see him again then don't approach him first, it'll make you seem desperate and he'll in total control. he'll realize what a jack ass he is and hate himself while you'll be moved on to a better guy

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okay, what exactly is a yeast infection?

a pain in the ass

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Can you wear a skirt when you have your period? Is it safe to? Because I have my school picture tomorrow and I'm due to get my period tomorrow too! So I dont know what I should do! Help me out here! Thanks

most school pics aren't full body shots, you don't need to wear a skirt, try a pair of cute jeans

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ok so this girls mom i know just died and my mom told me to go up to her and say something but im not sure what to say. someone please help me

just tell her that if she needs something or someone to talk to then you'll be there, make sure that she's got your screen name and phone number (home or cell) just someone who'll be there for her

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Does anyone know how i can get a social worker in the uk?

go to the police station and they will know what to do

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