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ok. this might be long and if it is im sorry. anyway. first of all, im 14/f. i said i would always be straight, but there is this one girl. shes 17/f. i dont no. just every time i no im goin to see her i get VERY happy. when i dont see her i kind of get depressed. we play softball together in the fall. she only talks to me then. whenever softball is over, we barely talk. when i see her and she doesnt say anything to me, it kills me. when she looks at me and smiles, i go crazy. i want to be like her and have everything she has. it kills me. she is also graduating next year and i will prolly rarely ever see her after that. and that thought CRUSHES me. sometimes i cry myself to sleep because i can barely talk to her. i want to get to no her and maybe (?) start a special bond with her. also, she is bi (i think, that is what everyone says). whatever she asks me to do for her, i will do it in a heartbeat. is this really a crush, love, or jealousy? im tellin you, i CANNOT live without this girl!
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My best friend went through something similar, infact almost exact. That was about two years ago, and we talked about it often and we came to figure this: It wasn't exactly love. She just admired her so much to the point that she was obsessed and wanted to actually BE her. My friend just looked up to the girl so much, and there WAS a little bit of jealousy. For years she thought she had a crush on her, but she realized it was a little bit of jealousy and admiration. Maybe your just so fond of her and her company and love being around her. Although, their may be some chemistry between you and her. Maybe you do love her? It's not strange. I am 100% gay. You may want to look into that, and finding yourself. Do you have feelings for other girls have you noticed, or just her? Can you see yourself and a relationship with this girl, or do you think your just so obsessed with her company, and love being with her because you wish you could be just like her? I think it wouldnt hurt to sit down and just think one day about all this. I know that I don't have the answers, but hopefully you can look into and maybe you'll find the answer within your heart
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This is... normal, for lesbians. There is no problem loving someone sexually with the same sex as you. It's cool that you are like this... I don't have anything against it. I think it is an obsession, but that's not a bad thing. You love this girl and she [possibly] loves you back. Keep talking to her. Maybe... if you're brave anough... youch her leg and see if she likes it or not. Take it from there. Yall could have a very special relationship. Luv ya!
~~~Kayla~~~
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sometimes when we go through our teen years girls AND boys can get confused about their sexuality....its a known fact......it could easily just be a phase.
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look up OCD, no doubt that's what you have, you're OBSESSED with this girl, and it's not healthy, i think you might need professional help.
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I'd say this is a crush, because you're not in a year round friendship, so it could be hard to be genuinely in love with her. But crushes have the potential to turn into more.
Unfortunately, her going away to college next year makes things much more difficult. It's an age difference that wouldn't matter if you were in your late twenties, but at this point it does. I'd say - enjoy your crush and your feelings.
Maybe take some risks and approach HER. I've heard it's better to regret the things you've done rather than the ones you haven't - I don't know if that's true or not, but imagine how you might feel if school ended and you had never tried to get closer to her.
If things don't work out, don't fear. I'm sure a girl (or guy, whatever!) your own age will come along. You could be gay, and this crush could be a SAFE way of being gay as so far you haven't had to really risk your feelings with this person. Lots of people do this sort of thing, so you're not alone!!
Best of luck.
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Obsession. Weirdness. You'll probably never see her again once she leaves.
One question, if you like her so god damn much why havent you asked for her number? You're both friends so just ask for her number so you can call her when she moves. Gosh, its really an easy fix.
Besides, quit obsessing over her and start obsessing over me, im way cooler you know!
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