Q: Well...i just find out that i wont be going to the school i wanna go to and be with my best friend.Im going to a new school now.How can i make it through a new school?Please help me!

Q: Ok me and my ma are not that close together, her boyfriend got into some huge trouble, and she is really freak out. She hasn't eatting anything,and if she does she will barf it up. I kept on telling her everything will be ok, and I hug her and everything but nothing I do seems to work. I was woundering what I could do to make things better for her? So if anyone has any suggestions I would really love to hear them!

Q: first let me give you some background information..

i have this friend (lets call him..steve). we were really good friends last year. we were going out for like 2 days but thats a whole other story. he was almost like a brother to me and we were really close. i still like him sorta but hes being really mean to me and my friend (lets call her..suzie). since we hadnt seen steve all summer me and suzie went to 3 of his football practices so we could talk to him. well that didnt work out cuz he never even glanced at us when we yelled his name (this was after practice was over). we decided to give up after the third practice. then we saw him at the street fair and were kinda following him for a little to see if he noticed we were there and we thought he would come talk to us. nope. so a couple weeks later he gets online. heres the convorsation..

ME-hey
Steve-hey
me-did you see me and suzie at your football practices?
steve-oh yeah
me-why didnt you come talk to us?
steve-i didnt want to
me-oh thanks
me-anyway..are you in the gifted classes this year?
him- i dont know
me-how can you not know?
him-i dont really care
him-i dont know how to say this but cant you and suzie leave me alone?
steve signs off

i was so sad when that happened i didnt know what to do. i told suzie the story and she was like "what a deusch bag!" we thought well what if he means leave him alone forever?? like hes too good for us now that hes on the football team. im hoping thats not what he meant. school starts tomorrow and me and suzie decided to give him some space for a few days. im really sad about the whole situation cuz i still like him and last year we were really close and i could trust him with stuff. im thinking maybe its time to move on..i mean not like him like him anymore. but now im thinking hes not a very good friend anymore. looking back, we prolly couldve given him more space then we did last year. im not really sure what to think of the whole situation.

what do you guys think? what should me and suzie do??

Q: hi :) 14/f. sorry if its long, but please helpp! okay so i have two best friends, one is a guy and one is a girl. lets call him peter and her jessica. ive been friends with peter since i was like 3 and ive gone to school with him all middle school. this year were going to different highschools because he is going to an all boys school.. but we still see eachother alot. jessica is someone i met at camp like 3 years ago and we live about 20 minutes away. but we hang out so much, you would never guess that we live that far. anyway, one day they both came over and met and they started liking eachother. they hung out a few times with me there (like 6 times in two months) and then he finally asked her out. she realllllly likes him and stuff and he reallly liked her. but now, they dont see eachother a lot and he isnt sure how its going to work with them living so far away. he called me and told me that he wanted to break up with her because his feelings for her werent that strong anymore. but then he asked me not to tell her. but i feel that i should because she is my best friend and i know she is gonna be hurt. if i tell her, then i will lie to peter cuz i told him i didnt. but if she finds out that i knew before he did it, then she will be like mad. i know i would if she didnt tell me. can anyone help me please? im like torn and i really dont know what to do!! :(

Q: My friend claire and i have been best friends with susan all through 6th & 7th grade, then she moved in the middle of 7th grade and we wrote letters back & forth to each other. but suddenly about 6 monthes ago she stopped writing to us. we were wondering why so cliare went to susans hosue with anotehr friends and we found out she is on weed. cliare doesn't want to do anything about it but i feel like i should do soemthing. susan is VERY poor and doesnt have alot of money. idk what to do, should i call the police? what would happen? and would i have to get involved? PLEASE HELP

Q: Okay, I'm 13/f
I love school for two reasons- my friends and getting away from my mom. Lately my mom had her tooth puolled and she's been whining and groaning and yelling at me and being nice to my brother. I feel like a burden, That's why I hate it at home. ShouldI get professional help w/ my problems or ask my friends because they help me with alot like I help them. I'm closer to them than I am my whole family. I've told my one of my Boy BFF's who understands (and who I like but thats different) me, but he swore not o tell and now I'm thinking I should tell this teacher who everyone loves including me, but I'm not sure soooo.... what do you think?
Jeni

Q: well to start im 14/f.. well i've been dateing this kid for about a month now.. and i love him to death! and there is this really hott guy who is a senior and he wants me to make out with him and everyone says i should.. but idk if i should because im dateing someone else.. but i wanna make out with the senior!! anyone would if they had the chance! so what should i do?

Q: Hey Lalagurly,
I am the girl who asked for advice about that guy Jake. Remember? Well, school started today and I have yet another question for you. So far, I have two classes with him. I acted calm & cool and pretended it wasn't a big deal to me. I felt so proud of myself for being able to do that! Last year, I would act so weird and squirmish whenever he was around. Anyways, during the second class I had with him today he said "Hey Lauren. I saw your sister this summer" with a half-grin on his face. I looked over at him and said "Yeah, I heard" and then went back to my other conversation. So my questions are: Do you think that was a good move on my part? I didn't want to act completley into him like I did last year because I heard that guys like a challenge. Second question: What do you think he meant by saying that to me? Was he trying to just start a conversation or do you think he was kind of teasing me? Thanks so much!

Q: okay this is going to be long but plz i need the help! okay throughout my whole life i have never known my dad because he has been in jail for like ever! he was in jail because he abused my mom and almost killed her. but i really wanna know him...he is out of jail right now and is not allowed to come around me...but recently my dad seen my aunt and told my aunt to tell me he loved me but im not suppose to know this......i only know because i overheard my aunt on the phone with my mom and my mom doesnt want her to tell me and my mom doesnt want me around my dad. 4 years ago...he was out of jail i think and as i was walking home from school my aunt from my dad's side was in a car parked on the street waiting for me to walk by and as i did she started asking me questions like if i remember my dad and stuff. so like my dad or that aunt on my dads side would have had to been like watching me and to know if i still lived there and to know what time i got out from school. then like a year after that happened we had a court date which i went to and my dad never showed up for the court date so my mom has custody of me. now like a couple of months ago i was with my mom in the store and my mom saw my dad in there and told me that was my dad....my dad saw me and my mom but he like turned around and walked the other way as if he didnt want to see me or he was just shocked or scared that i would hate him.....my mom almost went crazy in that store when she saw him she started cussing and everyhting lol. but my question is now does it seem like he wants to see me....and is it wrong for me to want to know him even though he almost killed my mom.....whenever he was in jail he would always send me stuff but my mom never gave me them things...she would throw them away...except she did let me keep this little purse with my name on it....please help me i am so confeused about all of this....it's really hard not having a dad. but is it wrong for me to want to know him and does it seem like he wants to see me? thank you so much

Q: PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME!!!!!!!!! I AM BEGGING YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am an 18 year old teenager and have a problem. I wondered whether you could possibly offer me any advice
I think i MIGHT have suffered from neglect/emotional abuse in my past. I need some advice.

You see when I first started high school I lost two people of whom I was very close to.one of these was my Grandmother who practically raised me.She was the one who took me places, taught me, supported me and basically looked after me. I used to see her almost every day.I can never remember my real mother doing any of this. However I never noticed the lack of support by my parents…..until she died.

I started to refuse to go to school on-and-off for my first two years in high school because of this...i did not want to move on and lapsed into serious depression and somedays i couldn't find the will-power to get up. I'd just lie in bed all day i felt so depressed. But my parents never helped me.they must have seen how depressed I was and yet they did nothing. Isn't this neglect. They knew I had depression and yet they did nothing.

Then i refused to go to school altoghether at the end of this second year as i could no longer cope any more. I ended up having 5 meagre hours of home tuition per week for the last three years which should have ben spent in school. my parents didn't get me any professional help or anything. Isn't this abuse/neglect.

I ended up failing almost all my GCSEs. the thing is i don't know anything about anything. i haven't been out of the house or seen people for about three years. But my parents won't teach me things such as how to use a bus, how to open a bank account, buy a phone or anything. it's as if they don't care. my mum NEVER offers me any sort or support or advice on anything.

So basically
I refused to go to school for my first two school years

I then refused to go altogether

I ended up having 5 measly hours of tuition per week for the last three years that I should have been in school

I then failed almost all my GCSEs

But throughout all this nobody helped me
I will have to go on a very low level of course at college.However I am worried that i am not going to get the support i need at home and might lapse into depression again as a consequnce and be too depressed to get up in the mornings. Because my parents sort of expect me to raise myself!Is this OK or is this neglect. My mum’s also still not particularly nice to me.

I think I need to tell the college about this lack of support. But i don't want to get my parents in trouble. MY mum is dying of ca.ncer and i couldn't live with myself if she died in prison. But i need help. Do you class what i've just described as abuse? Also thre have been many times when my mother has been emotionally abusive towards me. She can say such thoughtless things she makes me cry. then tells me to 'shut up' or says 'you're always moaning'.

I want to tell the college so that I can get the emotional support I need and also so that they can understand one of the reasons I felt I couldn't cope with school and therefore couldn't cope. I

am 18 years old now, Can i tell the college without getting my parents in trouble with the police? Or in trouble with social services? Can i tell the college without getting my parentts into trouble???? I NEED a definate answer. please help me[:(]
Who would the college contact if I were to tell them about the neglect? I DO NOT want to get my parents into trouble. Can I safetly tell the college (now that I'm 18) about the neglect without getting my parents into trouble with social services or the police??????????? PLEASE CAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME ANY ANSWERS!!!!! I AM RUNNING OUT OF TIME AND NEED ADVICE DESPERATELY.[:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(]
I LIVE IN ENGLAND

Q:
Can you offer me any advice????
Hi i am 17 years old and really need your advice. You see about 5 years ago now, my Grandmother of whom I was very close to died. she was like a
mother to me and i used to see her almost every day. however I just don't know how to
move on. I still really miss her. it's just i just don't know what to do anymore.
We had made so many plans of do together and i had made so many dreams of things i'd
do in the future(with her by my side). but now she's dead i just don't know what to do.
Should I carry on with these dreams/plans/ambitions i'd made when she was alive and had
planned to do together, .......or should i give up on them now she's dead and find some new
dreams instead.Do you t hink it would be insulting to her memory to just carry on with
these dreams.......only now without her? so you think she'd be offended?
What should I do? i just don't know what the right thing to do is.

Also i don't understand where she's gone. i missed years out of my Secondary education
so haven't really been taught about religion and therefore don't really understand it. What
can i do about this? also, she was cremated. what does christianity/the bible say about
cremation? do cremated people still get to heaven?

Also I missed practiacaly all of my secondary educationn... therefore I also missed Religious Education? I don't understand/get where my Grandma went? Do you know how i can learn about Religion now? Do they run R.E GCSE classes at college?Also this might seem an obvious question (but just needed to check) but do they give a good all-round general education in R.E in school(sorry if this seems a stupid question)?? so if I had gone to school would I now understand where she might be? I feel terriible...because i don't get where she is. what does the Bible
/Christianity say Heaven is like by the way????
Also..............do you know how I can say goodbye to her now..i wasn't allowed to go to her funeral so never got to say goodbye. She was cremated...so there is no grave. By the way what happens to the ashes?? do they bury them in one place or sprinkle them around ...IF SO THEN where DO THEY SPRINKLE THEM AT THE CREMATORIUM???????? (which i wouldn't like to have happened) i hate not knowing. I also feel like I need to say out loud goodbye..such as where she was buried/cremated? How can I do this? wouldn't people at the crematorium stare? dO YOU HAVE ANY IDEAS AS TO HOW i CAN SAY GOODBYE??I am new to this site. is this advice free by the way..if not them please don't reply as I cannot afford to pay.I live in England.
please could you reply. I AM FROM ENGLAND

Q: In 8th grade, I developed my first real crush on a guy named Jake. I loved how he could make me laugh with everything he said. I also liked how he was so different from all the other guys in our grade.

In 9th grade, I no longer had any classes with Jake. For some reason, this caused me to act very shy around him. I would write him a note but my friends would give it to him instead of me. My friends even asked him to the sadyhawkins & homecoming dance for me. He said yes to both. But he stood me up at homecoming (he apologized but never explained why) and changed his mind about going with me to the sadyhawkins dance a day after he said yes (Once again, not explaining why he changed his mind). I was crushed after he had hurt me twice, but for some reason..I still had a crush on him. I told my friends to leave him alone and not talk to him about me anymore. Of course, they didn't stop. The end of the year came and I had finally worked up the nerve to talk to Jake. I was going to apologize for my friends bugging him and ask him why he changed his mind about me so many times. I was all ready to do it after school on the last day but suprisingly enough, he was no where to be found. His friend Justin told me he had to leave early for a funeral. I know Justin wouldn't lie because he is my friend too. Embarrassing things have happened this summer too! My sister saw him and gave him my number, telling him he should call me. He never did. I feel like me being shy and my stupid friends have ruined everything. Is there any way I could still make it work with Jake? What should I do?! School starts this Monday!!!! Helllllpppp

Q: I'm currently in a relationship. And i think i'm in love... But how can i tell? What the signs that a girl's in love?

Q: Heres the deal, I'm obbsessed with britney spears. i have all of her posters, 2 pepsi lifesize cardboard cutout things, shirts a ton of picturs. every magazine shes ever been on, even when she was really young. i also have 33 of her cds( including remixes and stuff off of ebay). I even have something of hers that she was selling off of ebay to raise money for Katrina victims. well here is the problem. only about 5 people know. i never have friends over because i like briney so much cause everyone thinks she is fake and sluty and stuff. i want to tell people but i know that they would make fun of me and stuff. i'm not lesbiean or anything, i just like britney a lot. i'm in middle school so you know that people would make fun of me cause thats how middle school is. i don't care about what people think but i don't want everyone talking about me and my obbsessian about her. just think about what rumors could start. help me please!!! what should i do???!!!thanks guys.

Q:



This is kinda long, but your advice is appreciated :-)

Met this guy Gerard after a bad relationship. Wasnt COMPLETELY over it, but I really liked Gerard, and learned to love him and move on in a short period of time when I met him, like two weeks, after breaking up with the ex five weeks previous. I told Gerard I wasnt talking to the ex, but I was, didnt have feelings for the ex, just felt bad cause he was asked to leave the youth club we met.

I lied to Gerard about my grades (as he placed SO much emphasis on education and made me feel stupied at times, which I am sensitive about) and a few people I dated along with talking to my ex. In my eyes wee white lies occur at the begining of relationships and I didnt wanna cause silly arguments over talking with the ex, and I told him soon after the truth. When I did, he got frustrated, and grabbed my side, sticking his nails into my side in the process. I was left badly bruised and bleeding. I thought I deserved it for telling lies. He also started to scrab his wrists that nite in front of me, hes a self harmer, and its harder for me to accept as my brother killed himself a few years previous, which he knew. Isit right for him to hurt himself in front of me, should I have told him the truth all along, or do you understand I didnt wanna cause arguments over nothing, was his actions ok to do?

When he believed I flirted with people, he cut himself, even though I was in a friendly way, it does not justify his actions. People are flirty.

He found some porn on my computer, and felt totally hurt by it, thinking that he wasnt enough, I tried to explain it was just something I did, and that it wouldnt happen anymore. When I left my room, he searched through all my files to find them, and he also has searched through my phone once or twice to view people I know, and questioned some names.

He can be quite violent and loses his temper quickly, he full scale kicked me in front of friends when we went camping, because I wouldnt speak to him during an argument. He also has a tendency to grab harshly (Once or twicemy arm was bruisedwhich friends have noticed) me when I walk away when he argues and not let me go, which I dislike and find disrespectful. He also has a way of making me feel that most things are my fault.

I went to friends for advice over his self-harming, and told him, which REALLY hurt him, but I had no one else to talk to. Was that wrong? But friends are there when your in trouble and scared.

When we had an argument one night (as we often do), we grabbed me in the bar and I retaliated and grabbed him back, and whacked him across the head becasue in my eyes I was defending myself. If he thought it was ok, why should I hold back? My friends thought I hit him, which was lies as it was in defence, so I put him on loud speaker on my phone to prove my innocence. And he was upset and I asked him why he had to harm me, and he cameback saying "well why do I harm myself" That was not what I wanted people in the room to hear. But after they did, they saw it as emotional blackmail. Was this right of me to do?

I love him, and cant walk away, but I need advice on this drama called a "relationship". Whos in the right and wrong?

Thank you...

Q: 16/f
is it possible to be a "whore/slut" and still be a good kid?
okay. i seriously think i have a problem...like i do not know when to say no. If i get asked to do something or anything of that nature i just dont know how to say no. I'll just do what ever he asks.

and i know its not true, but i feel like all the guys i like and spend time with and get to know will stop liking me if i dont do something for them...
how do i shake this image??
thanks.

Q: Me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex soon. Neither of us have ever done it before, so we have no idea what you are supposed to do without getting hurt. I am 13 and he is 14, do you think that it to early, even with protection?? Any advice would help.

Q: My bf is such a hypocrite. Well for starters he is about 30 pounds overweight. I am about average; and he keeps telling me I need to lose 20 pounds although he never thinks he has a weight problem. He also gets upset if he thinks I'm too friendly with the opposite sex; but he flirts outragiously right in front of me. He also has said the he thinks he's smarter then me even though I know a lot more things like about movie and television trivia and mental health and other topics than he knows. He thinks he's king sh_t. It is really beginning to tick me off. He also copies ideas of mine and passes them off as his own and he never gives me any credit for them. Should I confront him? He really needs a reality check before his head swells up any more.

Q: Ok well, here is the deal... I started talking to this girl online, we talked every day, and night, we eventually became liking eachother, so after a few weeks of joking around, I decided to ask if it could be 'for real' as a relationship, She is 14, and I am 24. I know it's a bit of a age different, and no, I am not a pedophile, I never usually like people younger than me, just it's.. She acts more mature and it's really easy to talk to her, and listen to her. We have really great conversations, but we never met, but then one day, we decided to meet, and she brought a few friends with her... the whole time she avoided me, yeah I was shy also, but I would've talked to her if she wasn't avoiding me, cause I could tell she didn't want to be there with me, I mean, she did, but she didn't... and I know she's had past relationship problems, but I guess, maybe I was just another problem in a relationship, and I really fell in love with her, before we even met and she means the world to me, I just don't know what to think, she only lets me talk to her, if I ask her on this, but she speaks as if she don't know me, and I don't know what to think, any advice? P.S. She talks to me still, but don't tell me her true feelings, and acts like nothing happened, but she don't talk as much or act the same.

Q: My neighbor had a cat crawl under her house and she had kittens. So my neighbor told me, if I caught one, I could bring it home. There was something about a little gray and white one that made me want her more than anything. So I tried catching her for days on end. And yesterday, I finally caught her. I brought her home and my mom started spazzing. She told me to call my dad and tell him to take her. But then I started bawling. He came and took her away and his house is NOT the best place at all for a kitten. So PLEASE tell me how to get her back. I love her so much I've been crying for two days straight. Please, I don't care about anything else but this kitten. PLEASE give me advice please. As I'm writing this, I'm crying my eyes out because she means the world to me. I'll do just about anything. Just..please.

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