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How can I say goodbye?
Can you offer me any advice????
Hi i am 17 years old and really need your advice. You see about 5 years ago now, my Grandmother of whom I was very close to died. she was like a
mother to me and i used to see her almost every day. however I just don't know how to
move on. I still really miss her. it's just i just don't know what to do anymore.
We had made so many plans of do together and i had made so many dreams of things i'd
do in the future(with her by my side). but now she's dead i just don't know what to do.
Should I carry on with these dreams/plans/ambitions i'd made when she was alive and had
planned to do together, .......or should i give up on them now she's dead and find some new
dreams instead.Do you t hink it would be insulting to her memory to just carry on with
these dreams.......only now without her? so you think she'd be offended?
What should I do? i just don't know what the right thing to do is.
Also i don't understand where she's gone. i missed years out of my Secondary education
so haven't really been taught about religion and therefore don't really understand it. What
can i do about this? also, she was cremated. what does christianity/the bible say about
cremation? do cremated people still get to heaven?
Also I missed practiacaly all of my secondary educationn... therefore I also missed Religious Education? I don't understand/get where my Grandma went? Do you know how i can learn about Religion now? Do they run R.E GCSE classes at college?Also this might seem an obvious question (but just needed to check) but do they give a good all-round general education in R.E in school(sorry if this seems a stupid question)?? so if I had gone to school would I now understand where she might be? I feel terriible...because i don't get where she is. what does the Bible
/Christianity say Heaven is like by the way????
Also..............do you know how I can say goodbye to her now..i wasn't allowed to go to her funeral so never got to say goodbye. She was cremated...so there is no grave. By the way what happens to the ashes?? do they bury them in one place or sprinkle them around ...IF SO THEN where DO THEY SPRINKLE THEM AT THE CREMATORIUM???????? (which i wouldn't like to have happened) i hate not knowing. I also feel like I need to say out loud goodbye..such as where she was buried/cremated? How can I do this? wouldn't people at the crematorium stare? dO YOU HAVE ANY IDEAS AS TO HOW i CAN SAY GOODBYE??I am new to this site. is this advice free by the way..if not them please don't reply as I cannot afford to pay.I live in England.
please could you reply. I AM FROM ENGLAND
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ok well I fell the same way but I still keep my grandpa in my mind but I have a hobby to get my mind off of him when I need to. Please take my advice.
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ok well my opionion on god is he cares about everyone and everything but he cant look down on everyone at once so he inlist the help of others but only others that love you as much as he does. and so right now your grama is up there sittin on a cloud loking down on you makeing sure you are safe and happy-think of her as your gaurdian angel.she will want only the best for you and the best is what you want for your self so if those dreams are in your heart carry on with them she will be so proudof you heaven is a safe place a happy place and a place where only people with a big heart go no danger is there.your grama is fine and um to say goodbye maybe you could your guys favorite thing as closure to learn about god you could maybe ask ppl here like say i want to know about god or something you know ok and your grama is safe so dont worry and i suggest starting to think of continuing life on and if you wasnt to you could get a shoebox or some thing and put memorys in there so when you miss her she is there or put all of it on a nice table in your room or something just so you always have a touch of her
if you wanna talk i am here mizztalk_alot@hotmail.com
tell me how it goes ok promise?
~nikki~
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hey. im sorry about what happened. i think that you should definately NOT give up your dreams because she cant be there to share them with you. shes loved you and would want you to follow your dreams and be happy.
I am a christian and therefore believe that there are only two places to go when you die. heaven or hell. if she beleived that Jesus is the son of God and died for out sins then i am confident that she went to heaven. i dont think cremeation or a burial has anything to do with getting into heaven. its what you believe
to get learn more about christianity, just go to church. christians will be open and welcome to you.im sure they'll be happy to help you back on your journey to the lord. and stick with going every week. a lot of people find the lord after something like this happens.
heaven is..heaven. just absolute bliss living with the lord. its hard to explain something like that because nobody's been there and back. so im sorry i cant really help you out with that part. i know there are bible verses out there though that can shed some light on your situation. just go to church and join a small group, if they offer any, or just start making friends and talk to them. you'll find someting out there that can help you. the Lord wont ever give up on you.
just say whats in your heart for the goodbye part. tell her all of the things that you wanted to say all these years. about your dreams or any new ones. you dont have to be at a grave to say goodbye to her. just when you are alone talk. i had a loss of my own and i just talked to them as if i were sitting right next to them and then just started bawling my eyes out and said all of the things that ive been bottling up. i felt so much better. i started going to church more often and God has helped me through everything. i still miss her but life does go on. you'll meet in heaven again someday.
i hope that i helped you. :D
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hey, I'M REALLY SORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENDED!!! To tell you the truth, i really dont know what to tell for the religon/bible/secondary education, BUT i really dont know what to tell you for the religon/bible/secondary education/cremation things, BUT i can tell you that you shouldnt give up on those dreams you and her planned, because if you gave up on THEM, that means you gave up on HER. she would've been sooo proud of you, for not giving up on these dreams. The way you can say good bye is in your spirit. Just close your eyes, make a prayer and just talk to her in your mind. shes there!!! I believe that cremating somebody, will still make that person go to heaven. Your grandma is a beautiful angel know, she is watching over you. she's there! just talk to her and she'll talk back. You just have to believe! I saw in a movie "elizabeth town" that the man had somebody that died cremated and he put the ashes in a jar, then sprinkled the ashes all over the world ((africa, europe, etc...)) I'm really not sure if you could do that, but maybe you can! As for the Reliougus/bible/secondary education, try talking to a very close person, such as a family member or a best friend. Talk to them, and ask them about this stuff. They'll help you!
I hope I helped! and i'm very sorry!!!
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