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Is suicide the only way out? Please, no one word answers. (link)
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Suicide is NOT the only way out.
Suicide is a permanent solution to what is probably a temporary problem. Not to mention that you will hurt more people than you can even imagine if you choose that option.
I know that when you are in pain, you may not want to think about the pain of others. It may feel overwhelming to do so. But it is a real consequence of that choice. Losing someone to suicide is deeply painful. It makes you question everything you ever said or did to that person, sometimes for years. Do you want the people who love you to suffer that way? If you dont, then try something else first.
Talk to someone you think is intelligent enough to help direct you to someone who can really help you. (A counselor or a psychiatrist who may prescribe anti-depressants) Whatever you are going through right now, it will pass, or your feelings about it will change. Human beings are in a constant state of flux, both physically and emotionally.
Emotions and feelings tend to come like waves, with high points, and with low points. Some people go higher and lower than others. But generally, no matter how low the low, it will pass in time. I dont know how old you are, but often in adolescence or young adulthood, people do not have the experience of the passing of the lows, and they think it will be that way forever. It probably wont.
Reach out for help. Call a suicide hotline if it feels like no one in your personal life can help you. There are other ways out of that feeling of despair. Its just hard to see them when you are feeling so bad. Let someone else help you look for them.
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I'm 15 years old.. a freshman.. and i like his sophmore guy. lets call him D. my friend is R. well anyways my R has liked D for about a month. but ive liked D for like.. around 5-6 months.. she has NO idea what i feel about him.. in fact i told her that i didnt like him cause i couldnt trust her with my secret.. D told me that he dislikes R. R doesnt even TALK to D.. only on msn for liek.. 2 min once a week!
WHAT DO I DO (link)
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First of all, you need to stop calling people your "friend" if you cant trust them. That just confuses issues like this one.
If "R" is your friend, really, you need to tell her that you have liked him for 5-6 months and you need to apologize for lying about it. Then you need to sort out with your friend what to do about it. (Decide if one of you will back off for the other, or let the guy decide and you two agree to abide by his decision, no hard feelings.)
If "R" is not your friend, really, then you dont really have a problem concerning the guy. You dont need to worry about damaging a friendship that doesnt really exist, do you? However if this is the case, you should stop pretending to be R's friend if you really arent. Apparently R is confiding in you, so R may not realize you are not really friends. Honestly, that seems like that may be at least partially your fault.
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okay so there's this boy in my year who im good friends with. I sit at the front next to him in maths and my friend at the side of me. He's so funny but is a rebel. He's up to my boobs when i hug him but i don't think i mind that much. He has friends what are rebels aswel. I think he likes me and i think he is going to ask me out soon. I don't want to say no because i no deep down he's really sensetive and will be upset. He always flirts with me. He's touched my boob, slapped my bum and always runs his fingers down my back. I don't no if i like him or not. He's intrested in going further than kissing and i don't think i'm up to anything else further. What should i do? (link)
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Well, I think you MUST like him or you wouldnt let him touch you, and you would mind that he was shorter than you.
So, if and when you do go out with him, you should tell him up front that you do not intend to go further than kissing. You do have the right to set the rules about what happens to your body, liking someone does not obligate you to let them set the pace.
Dont be afraid to say pretty point blank that this is what you want, and how you want it to go. Its much easier to set those rules up front before things get heated than it is to try and set them when you are in the backseat of a car with the windows fogged up. If he likes you, for more than sex, he will understand that. Most boys would love to have sex, but most boys also know that the girl is the one who makes that decision. Many of them will even respect you for having the backbone to set the rules for yourself.
Lots of boys grow out of being a rebel, and end up very respectable gentlemen with good jobs and lovely families. If you like him, dont let that dissuade you at his age, unless he involved in criminal behavior.
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This really isn't about getting advice. It's just some things i've wondered about girls.
1) Why do girls always go to the bathroom in groups? What do you guys do in there besides pee?
2)why are girls embarrassed to be seen in their bra and panties but not in a bikini.
3) Do girls notice when guys get boners?
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1) Girls go to the bathroom in groups to talk about the people who are left out of the bathroom, or to console one another about their hair, looks, butt, or makeup.
2)Girls are embarrassed to be seen in their bras and panties because they are taught to be. If they thought about it reasonably, they would realize they cover the same stuff. Plus, bikinis are usually more fashionable than your comfy old panties that say "Wednesday" on them or have cute little froggies. Bikinis are chosen to create a public impression, while undies are chosen for more personal reasons, and as such, they are more intimate.
3) Not unless you clue us in by trying to hide it by blushing bright red and holding your books in front of it.
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I have a really bad dry scalp and I have tried so many different types of Shampoo's and Conditioner's
are there any at home remedies, that i could use or any moisturizers that would work, but here is the catch 22 My hair gets greasy really easily so I don't know of any product to fix this problem
any ideas?
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Try not using shampoo. Yes really.
But I dont mean not to wash it at all. Find a conditioner you like, and only wash your hair with conditioner.
Shampoos have very strong detergents in them. This strips the hair and scalp of oil. (And can also contribute to breakage and split ends.) The scalp in some places can become very dry, in other places, it tries like crazy to compensate by producing more oil. Leading to problems like yours.
When you first give up shampoo, expect a couple days or even a week of slightly oily hair. It is going to take a while for your scalp to realize it doesnt need to produce that much oil. But what you should see in a week or so, is much less dryness AND less oil.
Conditioner also has detergents, just much smaller amounts and gentler ones than regular shampoo has. Use it every day, just like you would shampoo, to keep down the dirt and oil.
Many women with really long hair also know this trick, although they do it to prevent breakage and split ends. The fact that it also is great for the scalp is a side benefit.
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so my gf started actin really weird when her ex's girl was comming over to see her and her son....she told me there wasnt no one but yes to feeling she was sorry. I went to get my stuff hopin if i took it away it would help her think more...but she rushed me outa the apt cuz her ex pulled in when i was walking out. she tells her roomate i kno i fucked up dont keep rubbing it in. she says she couldnt have sex with her and her roomate said you can tell she hasnt slept and she mopes around and looks like shes been crying. i rode there over the weekend and her exs car was there. if she regrets it why was she there? i tried to talk to her today and she wouldnt talk to me. i kno im stupid for wanting her back i wouldnt jump back into it it would be awhile but whats going on? (link)
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Maybe it isnt that she doesnt care about you. Maybe she does, but she got involved with you before she was really completely finished with her ex.
What you should do is just back off. I would tell her how I felt, but I would also tell her that I didnt want to talk at all about the possibility of getting back together until she was completely finished with the ex. If you are able to emotionally, I would move into a "friend" relationship with her for now. If your feelings are too hurt, and you love her too much, I would just tell her that until her heart is free to be given, she needs to stay away from you.
It could be that she really was just using you. But its also very possible that you two could have had a future if she had been over the ex when you met. She needs time to get over the ex, and you need time to see what kind of person she really is so that you dont get your heart broken again.
If you really care about the girl, and you have the strength to do so, give her and yourself that time. If you dont feel you can do that, there is nothing wrong with just walking away at this point, and chalking it up to experience.
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My ex bf and I were obviously dating and we broke up because we didnt become best friends before we started dating. we went on two dates and started dating, we learned about each other and dated. we now decided we need to be best friends before we date. so how do i handle that. how much should i call him or text him. so far we dont talk at all on the phone or text. this pass weekend i had a party with my friends, i invited him and we had a great time together (all of us as friends). we planned to go snowboarding on thursday, him and i. i guess i just want to know how much i should be texting him and calling him. with spring break coming i also want to know how much talking we should do because we arent spending it together...i know him and i should set those boundaries but i dont want to get too annoying is all. (link)
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When you say "we" decided you needed to break up and become best friends, who really brought it up? And how did it even become an issue?
Questions like yours seem simple, "how much should I text or call" but they really arent simple. A lot depends upon whom really thought the relationship needed to change and why. (Even though obviously your both agreed at some point to try this.)
I would say it is always a bad sign in a relationship when you go fishing for rules. It shows that you dont really feel comfortable being yourself with that person. Why that is the case is something you need to ask yourself. Is it because he really doesnt like who you are? Or is it because YOU really dont like who you are, and are afraid others will feel the same way?
How much you should call your "best friend" depends entirely upon what is going on in your life. Do you have something you need to tell your best friend? Call. Do you need support from your best friend? Call. The point, (it seems) of breaking up was to establish a more "friend" like relationship, but you arent really sounding like a friend. You are sounding like a girlfriend who is very insecure and unhappy with her position in the relationship. And if he is the one who thought this whole "best friends" scenario up, I dont blame you.
That is something I would talk honestly about with my best friend. If you cant talk openly and honestly about it with your ex, that says something about how your experiment is going. You cant be best friends with someone who doesnt accept you for who you are.
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honestly, if a guys feeling you up, what would he think if your boobs are two different sizes. for me, ones like a small A and the other is a B . i know he should only care about your personality blahblahblah but i was just wondering the real truth about whether hell be freaked out or not, thanks! (link)
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Very few women are perfectly symmetrical, whether it be breasts, facial features, whatever. However, the same thing goes for many men. Not all of THEIR bits and pieces are perfectly symmetrical either.
You will probably find your sweetie's little physical quirks endearing. And, he will probably feel the same about your own. People are not perfect, and while it is normal to feel concerned and shy about your imperfections, you really have no need to. We all have them. Every single one of us.
One of the nice things about a good relationship is it shows you that you dont have to be perfect to be loved. Only advertisers want you to believe you have to be.
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I'm 23, I have always had normal menstrual cycles up until last November. Now instead all i get is about 2 days worth of dry blood when i wipe. That is it. I have taken plenty of pregnancy tests. I know I'm not pregnant. I know it's normal for irregular menstrual cycles on occasion, but something is telling me this is wrong? help please! (link)
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Please do go to see someone.
You should always trust your intuition when it comes to your own body. Even if it is not life threatening, you already know that what is happening is not normal for you.
If money is an issue, please consider going to free or low cost clinics. Many serious conditions of the female reproductive system have very small and painless beginnings. Its much better to be safe than sorry, so please make an appointment and get yourself taken care of.
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so leading up to my period i want to constantly eat everything in sight. however now i'm on the 2nd day of my period and i'm starving because i've barely eaten but i just have no appetite. i can hardly look at food without feeling nauseous and full but my body obviously wants some food in it. what kind of things can i eat that aren't too heavy and will make me feel worse? i'm in college so i have to use meal plans twice a day and i dont eat salads so most everything else we have is chicken fingers, burgers, pizza etc. what can i do? (link)
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Well, without knowing more about the foods you have available, it is hard to tell you what to do. Soups are usually a good choice to keep food in your stomach when you are really not interested in anything heavy. It is also not dangerous to "fast" for a day if your stomach really doesnt want food. It is actually considered very healthful by some. Just make sure to drink a lot of fluids if you choose not to try and put food in for a day.
One thing though, if you are using birth control, (and I am not saying you are) you may want to talk to your provider and see about possibly changing your dosage unless you have always felt that way while on your period. It sounds as if your symptoms are mimicking morning sickness, and if you are on a hormone based birth control, you may be able to eliminate that nausea with a different type of pill.
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So I recently found out that my boyfriend smokes weed. We've been going out for nearly a year. I guess the reason he hasn't brought it up before is that he apparently only does it rarely, if someone else brings it.
Anyway, when I heard this, I was slightly taken aback. For some reason, it really BOTHERED me. It still kind of does. I don't smoke weed, see a need to, or even care that it exists (plus, it's illegal..). So I'm definitely not its biggest fan. However, it's something I'd say at least 50% of the teenagers in my city do (my sister included). And it didnt' really bother or worry me to know that some of my other friends smoke it. Just him. Which is what weirds me out about this situation.
So...thoughts? Comments? What should I do about this? Why do I feel this way? Should I let this get in the way of our relationship? Etc. (link)
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I disagree that a relationship should be completely honest, as a rule, with NO secrets. I think most of us have secret moments of shame, or deep sorrow, that we carry in private. It is nice if we can find someone we trust enough to share those with, but not being able to tell someone everything does not mean you dont love them. It just means you cant tell them everything.
However, in this case, it does seem as if you feel he was deliberately hiding something he should have shared. This is NOT a deep dark painful secret, that someone has the right to keep close, this is a lifestyle choice, and one that could in theory affect you. If he were in possession, and you both were stopped by a cop, you could in theory get in trouble too.
He should have shared THIS secret with you. But he didnt. In all likelihood, he kept it secret because he knew you did not approve. That is the part that is bothering you, probably as much, or more so, than the fact that he uses at all.
A fair percentage of people, (including a few Presidents) have used marijuana in their youth. That alone is not a good reason to end the relationship if everything else is going really well. However, a tendency to conceal lifestyle choices simply to avoid conflict is a dangerous thing in a relationship. How could you know if he would also conceal a gambling habit? Or if in order to avoid an argument would make unilateral spending decisions that should be shared ones? That is what would be bothering me. Not so much that there was "a secret" but that this secret doesnt really merit being a secret, and it was a secret anyway, simply to avoid conflict.
You two need to talk. You need to sort out why he is concealing things simply to avoid your displeasure. It could be all on him, and simply the way he has learned to behave when he is facing disapproval. Or, it could also be an indication that you are not easy to talk to when someone has beliefs or choices that you disapprove of, in which case he still has fault, but you may share some of it.
Good communication takes two. If you are willing to listen with an open ear and open mind, and he refuses to share, you may have to end the relationship. However, if both of you have communication challenges, and if you love each other, you will have to work together to solve them.
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Can someone anyone tell me what sex is like. Cause I have had a lot of offers but I never done it and I wanna know what it is like. (link)
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Well, it is very hard for anyone to tell you what sex is like because sex is very different each time you do it, and it really depends a lot on who you do it with.
If you have ever masturbated, sex is kinda like that, only better, with someone who is skilled and with whom you have a good emotional connection and good communication.
If you are with someone who is unskilled or with whom you do not have a good connection emotionally and verbally, it can be a miserable experience. It can be uncomfortable, and unsatisfying, and embarrassing, and risky. (You can contract disease or become pregnant if you do not use precautions)
Even if you are in a long term relationship with someone you love, and who loves you too, sex is different each time to some degree, however. Sometimes it is just so-so, and sometimes it is great. Sometimes, it even feels like a chore, if you are tired and your partner wants to get frisky.
The best thing for someone in your position to do is to get protection, and have it on hand, "just in case." Then, just wait. Wait until you meet someone that you want to share yourself with. Sex is a lot more intimate than masturbation. And, it is a lot more emotional. Wait until you are in a relationship with someone you can really trust, and whom you know really well. And wait until you are in love, and are sure that you are loved too.
DONT have sex out of curiosity. Or because other people want you to, or because you think it is "time." Sex for the first time without love is not very satisfying. And, if you also fail to use protection, it can bring a long string of consequences, including STDs, pregnancy, gossip in school, a broken heart, etc.
Mind you I am not telling you you should wait til marriage. Thats your own personal choice. But I would wait for love. You are going to remember your first time for the rest of your life, and it is likely to be a better memory if you love the person you share it with.
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im 15/f.
And i had sex maybe 3-4 days after my period. It was not protected, and he came in me. He didnt pull out fast, but, he did pull out. I have been feeling sick. Its been a week today since we had sex. And i cant take an acurate pregnancy test tell the 23rd. Is there a good chance im pregnant?
thanks in advance. (link)
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The sick feeling could be stress, (we all hope) but there is a good chance you are pregnant. Any unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy.
You have already waited too long to use the "morning after pill" which can work up to 5 days after sex. So at this point, you are just going to have to sweat it out til you can do a pregnancy test. And please, dont delay, get one as soon as you possibly can so that all your options will be open to you, no matter what you decide to do.
And please, in the future, do not have unprotected sex. If you cannot talk to your parents, please go talk to Planned Parenthood. If you arent comfortable asking the men you are having sex with to use a condom, you dont know them well enough to have sex with them. You need to establish a trusting bond and good communication with someone before you have sex with them. If you dont, you are likely to bear all the consequences of any pregnancy alone. I would hate to see that happen to you.
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As I'm sure there are alot of people out there that can also say that...but I really hate my job.
I started working for ABC Company (Subcontractor construction company) in November 2008 as an Office Manager, even though my boss has never let me manage the office. My boss is a very poor business man, very messy (the office is always disgusting and I have to reorganize my desk every time I come in), I'm asked to do stuff for his wife while working for him (she's a VP for nursing homes and can't afford her own assistant) which I quit doing after working for her on my own time and not getting paid for it (eventhough she said she'd pay me). When I started this job, I loved it. After 3 months I got a $1 an hour raise and was given a little more responsibility, which was great. Even though this job was someone elses that was getting commission, which I was never offered. But, I recently quit doing this because I was wasting my time and the companies paper since the jobs are never even looked at and bids are rarely made. I tried coming up with different ways of helping him decide which jobs to get plans for, but it never happened.
In May 2008 I was laid off over the phone by my bosses wife because business was slow. But when I went to get my last check, 2 weeks later, I was hired back part-time by my boss. So I found another part-time job.
Since I've started working for my other job, I despise the job with ABC Company even more. I'm respected at my other job and allowed to do my work. When I work for ABC Company (2 days a week) I get so frustrated that the rest of my day is bad and I'm in a very crappy mood. About a week ago my boss took an important responsibility from me (billing) and made my time at work less fulfilling and more difficult to keep things running smoothly. (I was never given a reason why he took it away and was confused since I never had any complaints about what I did.)
I had made the decision in January to quit, even though I didn't have another job, because of how angry I always was. But changed my mind after about 4 weeks of my kids and I being sick and missing so much work. So, when I came into work last Wednesday, I was going through the emails (something I do regularly) and saw several emails from people applying to a job my boss posted on Monday for my job. When I confronted him, he said he wasn't replacing me, just hiring someone under me to be here when I wasn't. (I think he lied. The ad he posted had requirements too similar to what I do for him and the pay too high to just be hiring someone to answer phones and send faxes). Oh...and he never offered me to come back full time (which I wouldn't have anyway). I left earlier that day because I was so frustrated by him sneaking around to interview people. He called me later that week and asked if I was coming back. I said yes after he informed me that he wants me to continue doing the accouting and banking, but that he was going to give me less responsibilities (which he has not informed me of what those are).
Today is my first day here after the new girl started. Even though we should be working together, he has her come in while I wasn't here, so he can train her (which is definately something I should be doing since we'll be working together). She has already reorganized things I've had organized and worked hard keeping my boss organized with, she has notes everywhere giving me the impression that she is going to replace me. Did I mention my boss is the type of person that hates confrontation? I get the impression that he wants me to quit. I now have very little to do which is another reason I despise this job, am not sure where I stand here, and organization is confusing trying to work with someone you don't talk to or see.
No one is hiring right now (trust me I've been looking for a long time now) so I'm not sure if I should quit. I was thinking of writing him a letter letting him know how I feel (cause talking to him gets me nowhere...he never listens to me), but don't know what to say. I don't want to fret over a job I don't like. I don't want to be upset over this job either. I'm not sure what to do. (link)
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SOMEone is hiring right now. Just maybe not the kind of job you want.
If you really hate the job as much as it seems you do, and there is no hope for improving the workplace, then you should take another job, or two, even if the pay is slightly lower and the job is not as prestigious.
Life is too short to be miserable. Besides, it seems as if the dislike is sort of a two way street, and he is upset with you too. I would get out before I either got myself fired, or ended up blowing up and walking out without notice. Both of which will be things your future bosses will consider negatives.
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Alright so I'm 17 y ears and I don't believe in love for my age yet.
I don't date at all because I find it useless , it's just my perspective.
So I met this guy lets call him "S", (was out with most of ma friends and he came along)
Well S is hot and yeah I am the kind of person who cares about looks so sue me.
I kinda have drinking issues that I know of and we were at a party and i was wasted. I don't remember clearly what happened but I do remember dancing with S.
Now H is a really good friend of mine, he is a male and my best friend. He can become over protective sometimes of me. I sometimes suspect that he has feelings for me but I made it clear to him that I don't have feelings for him and I don't believe in all the dating crap.
After the party in couple of days. I was hanging out with M who is my friend but he is better friends with H and he told me that S tried to kiss me at the party and that H got really mad and threatened him and crap like that.
So i got pissed that people are getting into my business and H should have told me, I shouldnt have heard it from M. And I really kinda like S.
So after a couple of days, I was drunk at ma place and H was with me chilling. And then I talked to him about it and he got really pissed and denied it. And he really wanted to know who told me but I promised M i wouldn't say he did.
Anyways after a day, H texts me and says he is ready to talk about it. We met at a party (where i was just kinda tipsy) and we had a big fight even though he was the one who was wrong.
Then after a couple of days H calls me and he says "I'm not gonna ruin my friendship with you for S and i'm sorry and I'll tell you everything when I see you"
The same day, some unknown number calls and it was S, I was really surprised like I only hanged out with the guy for like two or three times and he seems really nice. I was also surprised he got my number ya know. Anyways he flirted and he asked me out on something like a date. And he told me exactly what happened between him and H. That he was dancing with me and then H pushed him and told him "There is something going on between me and (my name)so you can dance with her but dont dare make out with her or else i'm going to fuck your sister" That was really weird you know.
Anyways I talked with H after the call from S in two days and he was like "I told S to back off because he was taking advantage of you while your drunk" and he also apologized.
The next day, my date with S which i couldnt go 2 because I had a thing with a family member. S calls me late at night and goes like "M and H called me and they wanted to fight with me cuz i only said hi to C (who is M's girlfriend)"
That was really weird because M never gets mad if someone just says hello to his girlfriend you know. Then H told me the story and M told me that he is pissed at S for it and that he doesnt like the guy.
Now the problem is, M and H father's are big shit in this country and they want to kidnap S (for fun) and beat him up and fuck him up literally. Yes it's mean but they always do it if someone is bothering them.
S didn't do anything. And I really feel bad, what can I do? (link)
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Well, for one thing, you need to stop getting drunk at 17 and putting yourself in positions where you are at the mercy of men. (Either those who want to take care of you, or those who want to take advantage of you.) You are responsible for your own well being, and you are dropping the ball there.
Secondly, you need to tell your friends that you absolutely do not want them kidnapping and beating up "S." That whole situation just has bad news written all over it. What if they accidentally beat him to death and you all end up in trouble with the law? These things happen, and it can mess up the rest of your young life. Make it clear in no uncertain terms that you will not tolerate that. I know it is tempting to be flattered by all the male attention, but what they are planning to do is criminal. Period.
Thirdly, if you really like "S" and you are not just playing games with all these guys, to see how much attention you can get, you should tell your male friends you really like him, and ask them to take a step back and let you date him and find out for yourself if it will work. If they wont, and you really like him, you need to back way off yourself. If you like someone, you dont get them involved in complicated jealousy games that can get them killed.
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I want to ask a girl to prom and im not sure how to or even if i should. My issue is she is on prom court, and i know that the court members pair off, but im pretty sure thats just for marching in and pictures. So what should I do? (link)
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If it were me, I would ask her casually, "Do you have a date for the prom yet?"
If she says "yes" then you dont even need to ask her to go with you. Even if she really doesnt have a date yet, it will allow her to avoid telling you directly that she doesnt want to go with you.
If she says "No, I dont." I would watch her carefully to see what her body language is saying. If she looks uncomfortable, and "stiff" she probably doesnt want you to ask her. (Dont confuse shy with stiff) If she says "No" and looks you in the eye, and her body language is open, that is your chance to ask her to go with you.
You can avoid a lot of embarrassing situations by learning to ask the right questions, and by paying attention to body language. Focus on the girl, and what she is doing, and not as much on your own feelings or insecurities. People usually are trying to tell you non-verbally how they feel, but generally most of us are so wrapped up in our own feelings, we dont pay attention to the signs.
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If someone you loved & cared about got drunk and had sex with some other girl, what would you do? (link)
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I agree with the others, that drunk is no excuse.
What you should do now depends on several things.
How long were you together? Was he faithful the whole time? Or have you been suspicious before? Is the relationship really good and caring? Or is it full of arguments and drama? Is he loyal in every other way? Honest in every other way? Supportive in every other way?
If you have been with someone a very long time, and the relationship has been overall very good, with no prior history of suspicions, then it may be worth working through. People cheat for many reasons, and although drunk is no excuse, it is possible that it was a one time thing. But dont even give him the chance if YOU cant move past it. If you dont think you can honestly let it go, and rebuild, it will never work. It is very unfair to say you will try to make it work, and then use the cheating as an excuse to verbally or emotionally abuse them. If you are really friends as well as lovers, you may be able to acknowledge it as a mistake and move on. But think about that long and hard before you decide.
If the relationship has been troubled in other ways, with shady goings on, and lies, drama, and tears, you need to let this man go, no matter how painful it is. Sometimes people cheat because they want out, but they dont have the guts to break up, and so they misbehave hoping YOU will make the decision for them. Look to your past to determine your future.
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hi im turing 16 in august im female and i have had this bestfriend sience second grade and now im in tenth and well we havent seen or talked to eachother since fifth grade i never forgot him i looked him up on myspace and we started talking again and now my feelings for him are comming back i told him i still like him he dont believe me. he said b4 i told him he has no time for a gf or a love life. i wanna ask him out and tell him how i feel but im scared to lose him as a friend im so confused can you help me? (link)
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If he has told you up front that he has no time for a girlfriend, thats a hint. People who know you like them, but they dont have the same feelings for you tend to try to use subtle clues to get you to back off. Mostly because they care about your feelings and dont want to hurt you.
You have a right to tell him how you feel, honestly. And that may be the best move. Tell him you like him, as more than a friend. But my guess is that he is not interested in you as a romantic partner. Men dont tell women they want to hook up with that they have no room in their lives for girlfriends.
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people at my boyfriend is going around the school telling my boyfriend friends that im ugly and i really think are relationship is about to end and myboyfriend mom think he need to think about school before he need a girl friend and i really dont want to loose this boy this is my heart and my soul mate i really love him please help (link)
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I have a question for you....How are you finding out what his friends think about your looks and what his Mom thinks about his breaking up with you?
If you are hearing it from other people, outside the relationship, it may not be a big deal. I dont know how old you are, but gossip and drama rule school from around the 5th grade through, oh, college really. If he is saying nothing about these things, and his treatment of you is still good, I would try to just enjoy the relationship and your time with him. Nothing is more likely to ruin a relationship than insecurity where it isnt really called for.
On the other hand, if HE is the one telling you what other people and his Mom are saying, I would say that that is probably a warning that he is about to break up with you. In that situation, I would say that he likes you and doesnt want to hurt your feelings, but he doesnt love you, so he is telling you that he HAS to break up with you because of outside pressure, rather than taking responsibility for getting out more honestly.
As others have said, if he really is your soulmate, he wont let you go because of what others say. If he seems like he is letting what other people think change his feelings for you, odds are his feelings were already changing on their own.
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Hi,i'm a 14 year old girl and my best friends boyfriend loves me and i love him! Help Me! (link)
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You are in a very difficult position. The way to guide yourself through this is to act with integrity. If the boy you love is dating your best friend, it is not honorable for you to carry on secretly behind her back. While things are still innocent, you need to either talk to her about it, or make a personal decision to let your feelings for the boy go. A word of warning, if you tell your friend you love her boyfriend it will change your relationship. Most likely for the worse. But if you think you cant live without him, it is more honorable than cheating behind her back.
Men tend to come and go in ones life, especially when you are in your teens. Often times what feels so much like love, isnt. Its just physical attraction. (Though that can be no little thing at 14.) If your friend has been your friend for a long time, and you have a history of trust and loyalty, you should consider that very carefully when weighing out whether or not to break up the friendship over a boy.
I also think that you should consider that this boy is somehow giving you the impression that he loves you, but he is not discussing it with his girlfriend. Apparently, she is also getting the impression the he loves her. This could be a bad sign regarding the young man. Or, it could be that your friend refuses to see the signs. Thats something for you to consider. Those are things YOU could do to remain honorable in your friendship.
HIS honorable option is to break up with her, and tell her that he has feelings for you, or to let his feelings for you go. Aside from your telling your friend how you feel, or leaving the boy alone romantically if you prefer, you really dont have anything to do. Its not your job to break them up, its his. If he wants to. If he doesnt want to do the honorable thing, and tell her how he feels and why they should break up, then I would run, not walk, away from him. How he handles things with your best friend is a very strong indication of how he will handle things with you. Remember that.
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