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This one guy!
Alright so I'm 17 y ears and I don't believe in love for my age yet.
I don't date at all because I find it useless , it's just my perspective.
So I met this guy lets call him "S", (was out with most of ma friends and he came along)
Well S is hot and yeah I am the kind of person who cares about looks so sue me.
I kinda have drinking issues that I know of and we were at a party and i was wasted. I don't remember clearly what happened but I do remember dancing with S.
Now H is a really good friend of mine, he is a male and my best friend. He can become over protective sometimes of me. I sometimes suspect that he has feelings for me but I made it clear to him that I don't have feelings for him and I don't believe in all the dating crap.
After the party in couple of days. I was hanging out with M who is my friend but he is better friends with H and he told me that S tried to kiss me at the party and that H got really mad and threatened him and crap like that.
So i got pissed that people are getting into my business and H should have told me, I shouldnt have heard it from M. And I really kinda like S.
So after a couple of days, I was drunk at ma place and H was with me chilling. And then I talked to him about it and he got really pissed and denied it. And he really wanted to know who told me but I promised M i wouldn't say he did.
Anyways after a day, H texts me and says he is ready to talk about it. We met at a party (where i was just kinda tipsy) and we had a big fight even though he was the one who was wrong.
Then after a couple of days H calls me and he says "I'm not gonna ruin my friendship with you for S and i'm sorry and I'll tell you everything when I see you"
The same day, some unknown number calls and it was S, I was really surprised like I only hanged out with the guy for like two or three times and he seems really nice. I was also surprised he got my number ya know. Anyways he flirted and he asked me out on something like a date. And he told me exactly what happened between him and H. That he was dancing with me and then H pushed him and told him "There is something going on between me and (my name)so you can dance with her but dont dare make out with her or else i'm going to fuck your sister" That was really weird you know.
Anyways I talked with H after the call from S in two days and he was like "I told S to back off because he was taking advantage of you while your drunk" and he also apologized.
The next day, my date with S which i couldnt go 2 because I had a thing with a family member. S calls me late at night and goes like "M and H called me and they wanted to fight with me cuz i only said hi to C (who is M's girlfriend)"
That was really weird because M never gets mad if someone just says hello to his girlfriend you know. Then H told me the story and M told me that he is pissed at S for it and that he doesnt like the guy.
Now the problem is, M and H father's are big shit in this country and they want to kidnap S (for fun) and beat him up and fuck him up literally. Yes it's mean but they always do it if someone is bothering them.
S didn't do anything. And I really feel bad, what can I do?
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I say stay away from S for a while if you really care for him. I mean, what can you do if H and M are gonna bring their hot shot parents into this problem? you cant do anything.
Tell H and M you wont be involved with S anymore. and then lay low for a while. Stay away from H and M until they're used to not having you around. You can say you need to be studying or something. Just stay away from them or subtlely find a quieter, more peaceful bunch of friends.
Then H and M can finally find a new girl friend to "protect", if thats what they call them.
I know you dont want to lay quiet and give in to them, but H sounds like a very aggressive person and I hope you dont get hurt or in trouble. Take care girl!
p/s and if both you and S like each other, it will definitely eventually work out. Just as long as he is not kidnapped.
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Yes, you fucking can. I don't give a shit who is who, you know about the situation and you have a responsibility to inform others about it.
This is one of those important moments of growing up. You're 16 god damned years old, you do not need to be keeping shit like this to yourself because you're scared of possible consequences and if you really genuinely think they could murder someone and no one would care you're delusional.
Tell your damned parents. This is important. You can't act like a kid when you're talking about something like this.
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Well, for one thing, you need to stop getting drunk at 17 and putting yourself in positions where you are at the mercy of men. (Either those who want to take care of you, or those who want to take advantage of you.) You are responsible for your own well being, and you are dropping the ball there.
Secondly, you need to tell your friends that you absolutely do not want them kidnapping and beating up "S." That whole situation just has bad news written all over it. What if they accidentally beat him to death and you all end up in trouble with the law? These things happen, and it can mess up the rest of your young life. Make it clear in no uncertain terms that you will not tolerate that. I know it is tempting to be flattered by all the male attention, but what they are planning to do is criminal. Period.
Thirdly, if you really like "S" and you are not just playing games with all these guys, to see how much attention you can get, you should tell your male friends you really like him, and ask them to take a step back and let you date him and find out for yourself if it will work. If they wont, and you really like him, you need to back way off yourself. If you like someone, you dont get them involved in complicated jealousy games that can get them killed.
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