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ex to best friend
My ex bf and I were obviously dating and we broke up because we didnt become best friends before we started dating. we went on two dates and started dating, we learned about each other and dated. we now decided we need to be best friends before we date. so how do i handle that. how much should i call him or text him. so far we dont talk at all on the phone or text. this pass weekend i had a party with my friends, i invited him and we had a great time together (all of us as friends). we planned to go snowboarding on thursday, him and i. i guess i just want to know how much i should be texting him and calling him. with spring break coming i also want to know how much talking we should do because we arent spending it together...i know him and i should set those boundaries but i dont want to get too annoying is all.
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When you say "we" decided you needed to break up and become best friends, who really brought it up? And how did it even become an issue?
Questions like yours seem simple, "how much should I text or call" but they really arent simple. A lot depends upon whom really thought the relationship needed to change and why. (Even though obviously your both agreed at some point to try this.)
I would say it is always a bad sign in a relationship when you go fishing for rules. It shows that you dont really feel comfortable being yourself with that person. Why that is the case is something you need to ask yourself. Is it because he really doesnt like who you are? Or is it because YOU really dont like who you are, and are afraid others will feel the same way?
How much you should call your "best friend" depends entirely upon what is going on in your life. Do you have something you need to tell your best friend? Call. Do you need support from your best friend? Call. The point, (it seems) of breaking up was to establish a more "friend" like relationship, but you arent really sounding like a friend. You are sounding like a girlfriend who is very insecure and unhappy with her position in the relationship. And if he is the one who thought this whole "best friends" scenario up, I dont blame you.
That is something I would talk honestly about with my best friend. If you cant talk openly and honestly about it with your ex, that says something about how your experiment is going. You cant be best friends with someone who doesnt accept you for who you are.
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I think you should only call him and text him maybe liker 2 3 times a week i think thats good enough because you dont want to be too clingy and this will give him a chance to call you as well and this will make being friends way easier with it being awkward and all. :D
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you should call him or text him like maybe once a week? or every 5 days. hope i helped!
nikitathecheeath♥
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