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My friend told me that I was a natural flirt, meaning that I flirt with almost every guy without knowing it. He said I do this thing with my eyes that gets guys to come over and talk to me and flirt back with me.I don't recall ever doing that, but how can I stop? Because a lot of girls hate me because of it because the guys do flirt back, so what can I do?
It's okay to be nice when someone comes over, but be sure to remain clear about your intentions. People can easily misinterpret body language, but you can make the situation better by keeping conversations simple and clean (like you do with your teacher or religious cousin). Don't try to show off or lean in towards your visitors but remain respectful.
As to other girls, it's their problem if they feel deprived of attention. In the end, it's the guys who have to come towards you, flirting means nothing if nobody's interested.
if your pee is really yellow does that mean you dont have enough to drink, or is it the other way around?
Yes, you might be dehydrated, but you also might be getting a lot of vitamins (getting more than enough water-soluble vitamins tends to make pee darker as your body gets rid of excess), or just holding your pee in long enough for it to get concentrated. As long as yellow is the only color your pee is besides clear, it's nothing of major concern.
I'm not having sex, but the month is almost over and I haven't had my period yet. I run track and that's about it. Is there any reason why it hasn't come on? Please help me asap. thank u
The most likely causes are that you are really stressed out, you're not getting enough calories to make up for the physical activity and/or your cycle hasn't become "regular" yet. If you're still in the first year or two of having periods and there's no other problems you're having, I wouldn't be too worried. Though talking to a doctor will probably be the best way to put your mind at ease.
My friend is always complaining about her figure and looks and it annoys me because she is one of those girls who have perfect looks skin and figure. I am overweight, not the best looking girl with bad skin and am seriosuly over my age height. I want to make her feel good about herself but she never does and everytime she starts it makes me feel bad about myself. I want her to feel better but when I reassure her she doesnt believe me. I know its wrong but I am scared I will end up like her. I used to like myself but now I have started feeling really depressed about it. Any advice on shutting her up and getting myself back how I was before? I hate the NEW me
Try taking and keeping the focus off personal looks. If she's intent on the subject, simply tell her that you feel hurt she would focus on a such a sensitive subject. The trick is to avoid making the statement a personal comment about her, but one about you (even if it is completely her issue). If that doesn't work, just show her in actions that you don't want to hang out with someone who beats themself up. You also might want to talk to a cousellor, at least for her sake.
Hello My Name Is Rachel. I'm 13. Im dating this kid name Bret. Hes amazing and exstremly cute!!! But I'm worriedd.... cause sooo many girls like him and i'm worried that he'll go to one of them instead of me... I mean i do get jealous really easily but still. Because it just seems like everyone thinks hes cute and they all like him but i dont want to loose him... and i also get really jealous when other girls talk to him and I just dont want to loose him and i dont know what to do? HELP PLEASEE!
The biggest thing is to not go digging for signs. I cannot express enough how annoying it is when females try to find hints that their guys are cheating, just to prove their fears right.
What you can do is honestly, and without finger-pointing, express your concerns to your boyfriend. Let him know that you'd appreciate that he make a point that he's with you to the other girls. He doesn't need to actually say anything, but holding your hand and cuddly behaviors do mean a lot.
Past that, just trust that he has indeed chosen you and nobody else, that any affection involving others is purely one-way coming from them. The attention of other girls means little if your guy is only interested in you.
I've always been a little chubby. Not fat, but just kind of some chubbiness on my stomach and thighs, etc. In the beginning, I was 14 years old and I weighed 136 pounds, and I'm 5'2. Ever since November, however, I've been determined to lose weight. I don't know what inspired me to do it, but I believe it was basically because I wasn't happy about my body and how it looked, and especially since in gym we have to wear our bathing suits, and I didn't want to be that self conscious.
Now it's almost been 5 months. I'm 123/124 pounds and turning 15 in a week. The change is really noticeable. The thing is, though, that my mom believes I'm close to having a problem. It's just that I count my calories VERY accurately and workout as much as I can. If I go over 2000 cals I'll hate myself for it. I write everything I eat down and how much calories they are, including beverages. If we go out to eat, I have to count the calories of my possible order beforehand or I'll stick to a basic soup and salad meal. It's not that I don't eat anything; I do--including candy, ice cream, etc. It's just that I have to know how many calories are in each specific meal.
Not only that, but if my weight goes up to 126 (since sometimes it tends to shift back and forth) I cry. I feel like all my hard work had been put to waste and I'm gaining it all back.
Since I do a lot of running, a lot of weight has been dropped from throughout my body, including my face. Recently, my aunt, who came with us to a restaurant, asked my mom if i was sick because I looked like I was losing a lot of weight, especially in my face. After that, my mom has been really concerned with me and trying to stop me from working out, even telling me that my face is beginning to look "haggard" and my face doesn't look good when it's skinny. Even though I won't stop -- I still look at myself from time to time and think to myself, "Do I really have a problem? Am I really sick?" My friends think I look amazing. They think the change in me is great. But that doesn't concern me at all. It's what my family thinks.
What do you guys think? Is there a problem here I should be aware about? Thanks in advance and sorry for the longness of it all.
Working to become healthy and fit is great, but it does sound like you've taken focus across the line to obsession.
This is basically what you've told us...
1. You worry constantly about food and your weight
2. You become depressed if you gain any weight back
3. You have low self-esteem
Aside from talking to a counsellor, I suggest trying to wean yourself off the calorie counting. As much as people are obsessed today with calories, the important thing is not the number but the balance of how you get them. Once you aim to just eat healthier rather than keeping under a certain weight or calorie amount (which might just be unreasonable for you), the stress you'll have freed yourself from will make you feel better both emotionally and physically.
I was being interviewed cause I applied for peer counseling. First, I felt uncomfortable because I was being glared at. It was all a blur. When they asked about my brother I said that right now he is in Iraq then they asked me if I was scared of something bad happening to him. and all of a sudden all of these bad thoughts of something bad happening to him pourred into my head and I just started breaking down and I cried. Because of what I did I felt that I failed my interview and I feel stupid and horrible at the same time. and when they asked why I was crying I just said that I was really nervous. Now the people in peer counseling are talking behind my back and are saying all of this shit about me. How can I deal with all of this?
Peer counselling isn't about judging people, it's a way to reach those who need help by providing someone who can identify with the issues. As such, I think the people who interviewed you have some explaining to do. I suggest talking to the real counsellor about what happened. You were asked a very emotional question on top of being stressed out and should not get a bad mark for being rightly upset.
I think i might have OCD
-Ive got a habit of washing my hands after everything or whenever touching something. Even when im by a sink i wash them.
-If a word comes into my head, i have to say it otherwise i panic, no word in particular just anything.
-I brush my hair every 5 minutes.
-I look in the mirror all the time
-If somethings out of place i have to move it back.
-I have to double check everything like make sure the doors are shut.
-When i touch something i have to touch it with my other hand aswell so its equal.
and so much more
what do you think?
I doubt it. It might be slightly on the side of perfectionist, but it all sounds pretty normal, especially if you're trying to impress somebody or under a lot of stress (just look at what people do around a big event such as a interview).
It's when your actions become uncontrollable and interfere with normal living that you might want to seek help.
I'm 17/F
I have had a boyfriend for 2 steady months
and I used to like this guy and he saw me kissing
my boyfriend. He gave me a rather hurt look. Does he finally like me? I'm so confused what should i do?
The key wording is "used to". There's not much point in reading anything into the expression when you've already moved on and currently are dating someone else. Especially when you don't know for sure what you saw was actually disappointment (or disappointment for the same reason as you're thinking).
If things naturally don't work out with your boyfriend, sure, consider the crush. However, don't put at risk a perfectly good relationship over something that never happened.
My fish have been getting sick and dying for several weeks and we found out it was because of cross breeding, overstocking, etc. (beginner's mistakes since we did raise 150 fish from 5 starters)
Now we've got them all healthy, we've been trying to give them away to try and get down to a 2 female to 1 male ratio but its not happening fast enough. Besides many of our friends are using the platies as starter fish, and each time I choose which ones to give them, it feels like I'm choosing which ones do I want flushed down a toilet.
I was just wondering if we should just restock the tanks entirely or try giving away those fish to private fish stores? I'm unsure whether or not the fish stores will take the platies if they find out they all come from 5 parents and I don't want to get "rid" of them.
For a big fish-nut like myself, the matter of "5 parents" being a problem is funny. Inbreeding is normal in the fish world, in fact, it's how many of the guppy, platy, and swordtail varieties came to be.
On giving fish to a pet store, you may be able to negotiate a small amount of store credit for providing healthy specimens, but don't expect too much and once you pass on the fish, it's up to the store to care for the fish on its own terms (whether for good or bad).
If you're concerned about toilet flushing when friends ask for their own fish, then tell them the price is to read a paper on properly caring for their fish. Your friends might try to laugh or complain their way out of it, but make a point that just because fish are fish doesn't mean they should be treated worse than our furry friends (cats and dogs).
ok so in november i got a puppy from the animal shelter...she was 19 weeks when we got her...she deffinately has terrier in her and we think beagle and maybe a little greyhound...but she bites like crazy and she is very wild...does anyone know like what we can do to train her...because we bought books but nothing has really helped...
I recommend the "ouch" tactics, but it really helps to make sure everyone is part of the training. Part of why I find pet "ownership" so frustrating (and hence why I made the intelligent decision of no more cats or dogs), is that often guests and certain family members are allowed to break the training rules. This results in the animal learning that it doesn't have to always behave (whether we credit them with it or not, most animals are more intelligent than what we think). Everybody in the house needs to be part of the discussion about how to respond to bad and good behavior, that way the dog is getting the same message from everyone.
My cat is in heat...what can I do to stop her from bleeding/cuming...or being in heta for less time?
I agree that neutering will stop future heats, but your cat may be now used to acting like it if she's gone through a few and doing so makes some cats gain weight easier. You may need to keep an eye on her for training not to spray if that's an issue. The best method may be a water spritzer (I've heard a little citrus extract helps) to get her when she does it, but be sure not to aim for the face (that may work, but the point isn't to be cruel).
my beta has not eaten for about 6 days? does anyone know why? i have been giving him tetramin and betta pellet food and he has not done anything but let it sit there and float to the bottom..so i end up cleaning the tank about every 1-2 days..i dont want him to die either does anyone know what his problem is? HELLPPPP!
Miss May
While it could be related to temperature (valid point), there could be a few other factors.
Bettas have gotten a few popularity boosts in the last few years and that's increased the faulty information along with true facts about them.
First, don't try to give a lot of food. Just a pinch of pellets at each feeding and let the betta get to it at it's own timing (if you stand too close, the betta might be distracted from eating). Pay attention to how much food is left on the bottom after an hour instead of immediately. I've had a few betta that only became interested in food while it was sinking or had been on the bottom.
As to cleaning, you need to absolutely make sure the water is chlorine and soap free. Don't let soap get anywhere near inside the tank/bowl, no matter how well you think you can clean it out. Chlorine/chloramine neutralizers can be bought from pet shops.
Also, consider the age of the fish. You probably don't know for sure, but only a few bettas get to 5yrs. If you bought an older fish to start with, you'll likely see the effects of aging sooner.
If you cannot figure out at all what's causing the issue, take a sample of your water in a clean container to a pet shop and have them test it, they might be able help you figure out how to fix things knowing more of the story.
I am thirteen years old and I have two dogs and two cats. As much as I love my dogs right now, they are very old and they cant run or play or anything. Ive always wanted a small dog of my own but my parents say I cant have one. Should I keep on trying to get them to let me have a dog or should I lay off?
There's two good ways to go about this.
One, as a few others have said, appreciate the older animals. Some actually are great with puppies, but eventually older dogs and cats require as much responsibility as the puppies (due to medical and/or behavioral issues) and that's a lot of stress to deal with.
Or two, see about volunteering at a nearby pet rescue (such as Animal Aid). You get to help a variety of pets that'd appreciate your energy. You'll probably need your parents to okay it, but while you're talking to them about it, maybe they'd allow you to foster some of the needy animals.
It may be really difficult to back down when you're set on having your OWN pet. However, even low-maintenance pets require a lot of love and attention, something that may be difficult for you to provide if you decide to get active with school or friends (be honest with yourself about other commitments). A good pet owner must keep in mind the needs of the pet throughout it's life, not just when they're healthy, cute, and energetic.
Ok their is this guy that goes to my school he is a grade ahead of me but he always sits by me one the bus and he said i was hot and he always flirts w/ me and stuff like that so i totally thought he liked me but when my friend asked him if he liked me he said he didnt wanta go out??? whats going on>?
There's two likely things. The guy just likes screwing around and flirting with you is another game. Or he could just think you're cool but isn't really interested in a relationship. Frankly, I would suspect the first. I suggest considering how he behaves towards you other places and with/without his buddies with him. Though in the end, if he said he doesn't want to go out with you, then he doesn't. There's lots of reasons why somebody might flirt but not really want more.
ok i like this kid and my friend asked him why he didnt like he and he said it was because i was too skinny. like i kno im skinny but not so much that you shouldnt like a person because of it and its really bothering me b.c a lot of people lately have been commenting about my weight.. i just dont gain any no matter what i eat.. its not my fault. but what should i do?
He might have actually said that because it was the easiest thing to grab at. However, he did make a pretty good point he's not interested in you. No point in pressing the matter with him.
As to your weight, the important thing is that you are eating properly and taking care of yourself. If you have other problems that you think are related to being underweight, please visit your doctor. Though I imagine she or he will say you're perfectly fine.
I know it's hard, but don't let strangers hurt you with their ignorance about weight. I'm also a very skinny person, but I found it works very well to laugh at the matter. As in, if someone mentions I'm skinny, I might say "Yeah, it's great!". That lets people know I don't have a problem with myself and they're less likely to be rude about it.
My boyfriends(mike) best friend(Eric) who I am also pretty good friends with told me that Mike told him that he wanted to break up with me and that he regrets giving me a second chance.
He broke up with me a few months ago for reasons I wont say but we got back together. Now, we've been getting in all of these little annoying fights so I guess that would be his reason for saying that stuff to Eric.
But, when I asked Mike about what Eric said he said, he swore on his life that he never said such things.
So know I don't know who to believe. I totally trust my boyfriend so I think I'm leaning towards him. But then again, what reasons would Eric have to lie to me?
I know this isn't a lot of information because you guys obviously don't know me of the 2 guys but who would you believe?
18/f
Don't let someone else tell you how your boyfriend feels. Regardless of whether it's accurate or what reason there might be for telling. Usually that causes more trouble than might have been in the first place.
Seeing as the can has already been opened though, there are some points to be considered. It is possible your boyfriend said something like what Eric repeated, but you admitted you've been fighting and Mike might have said it when he was worked up. As hard as it is, it's best to let go of those things. While they can be vaguely useful, people do tend to say horrible, false things when angry.
I don't thing this is a matter of who to believe but people needing to cut out the drama. If you feel there might be honesty in the comment, you need to work it up yourself to have a calm discussion with your boyfriend about what problems you have. Messengers are innapropriate for relationship issues.
Is it possible to fall in love with someone if you're not attracted to them pysically?
I have feelings for an older man (he's 45 and I'm 26). He isn't very good looking, he is overweight and has grey hair.
He is really nice to me though and we get along and have a lot in common.
Most younger guys that are cute don't make me feel the way he does.
Should I go for him or just stay with guys that are closer to my age?
While the point that you love him is perfectly fine, I doubt it's a boyfriend-girlfriend love. He probably makes you feel better than guys your age because he's had time to mature and learn something about how to treat a woman. However, if you're sure you want a closer (even if nonsexual) relationship, then go ahead. But beware of how you go, if things don't work out like that it's more likely to be uncomfortable later.
I suggest taking a good look at how he treats you. Yes, he's nice but in what sort of way? I can't give hard rules on what means what, but as previously said, he could think of you as a daughter. Or maybe a younger sister.
Please help me somebody i got a free ringtone from katazo becasue i thought they were free now they charge 50 cents a day for the company ive tried unsisscribing on my phone but they still keep sending the messages do i have to wait till the month is over to unsiscribe me? please help somebody
I went to the Katazo website and the free ringtone came WITH the subscription. Go to http://www.katazo.com/help/terms.php and scroll down to the section of the services you signed up for. There is instructions on how to unsubscribe to each. Most services say "Subscription cancellation will become effective at the conclusion of the Subscription Month in which we receive the cancellation request." This means you indeed have to wait it out this month.
If the billing continues past the end of the month, then talk to your phone's service provider. They will help you take of it.
Okay, here's my problem. My one friend is just a very clingy person. She tends to become best friends with people, and then they stop. This happened before with her one friend. They were best friends, and then they spent too much time together, then they started fighting alot and, stopped. Now it's me. Well the problem is.. she keeps trying to become friends ( who don't like her too much =/ ) with my friends and whenever i try doing things with them, she always finds out and wants to join us. So I can't ever do anything iwthout her there. And I just spent ALL summer ( literally.. like, everyday cause I can't tell her no =/ ) at her house. So I already saw enough of her during hte summer, and this year I want to spend alot of time with friends and stuff and she makes it really hard. Like today, I made plans with my 2 friends ( one is starting to become friends with her ) to go to the mall... and then later that day, my one friend ( whose kinda friends with her and doesn't know about my frustrations with the clingy friend ) walks up to me and is like," Hey, is it okay if ___ comes with us?" and i kinda just didn't say anything. ( in my head I was goin' NUTS ) I mean I don't know what to do. I want this girl to be my friend, but I want to hang out with my other friends, without her. HELP!
Love,
Me
p.s. Sorry if all the "friends" were confusing.. I didn't know what kinda fake names to give em'. lol
Hang out with her a little bit, but if you already have something planned, tell her she'll have to wait til next time. Just make sure she understands you need to have one-on-one time with your other friends too. If she can't handle that, she'll move on. If she wants to fight, let it be a one-sided fight.