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im 19 yrs old, college sophomore, i met my ex "james" when i was a senior in high school. strangley enough my friend "pat" put my pic up on hot or not and "james" saw it and clicked meet me. come to find out he went to my high school and graduated a few years ahead of me. his brother was also one of my high school friends.

he was in the army when i met him, (this was in december of my high school year) he had been over seas for 2 years. we talked online and on the phone to eachother every chance we got and he came down on leave for his brothes grad party which i was invited to because his brother and i were friends.

we started hanging out and eventually dating. i broke up with him before i left for college because i didnt want to worry about having a bf and his school and mine were 2 hours apart. he told me he loved me but i broke up with him reguardless

he now has a gf "kerry". he started dating her 2 months after we broke up. apparently he used to date her before he left for iraq. they have been dating ever since.

well the reason i am writing is because after him and i broke it off we still continuted to talk and even hang out on occasion. he has been cheating on "kerry" with me for the past month and 1/2.

"james" tells me that he is probably going back overseas to fight in october. he told me that i should get over him because he isnt sure when or if he is going to come back. and i deserve a guy who is going to be there for me(he is sched for 2 years over there. i dont know what i should do. i dont know if he is still with "kerry" because he loves her or if its not the right time to break up with her or if he is going to break it off when he goes, if he loves me still i just dont know what to think. i need someone to look at the situation from another stand point and give me some advice, i am at a total loss.

oh my, apparently I'm no longer getting emails when I get things in my inbox. I'm quite sorry I didn't answer this sooner. I will now, even though I know it's been so long you probably made a decision ages ago.

I would say that if james want's to be friends, go right ahead. But don't date him. I think in telling you to get over him because he might die in war, he's trying to break up with you gently. It's likely that he cares about you, but right now you are the "other woman", and it doesn't sound like that's where you want to be.

Everyone has different standards for relationships, and different ways of relating to people. A general rule of thumb is that if a man leaves someone for you, he's going to leave you for someone else. It doesn't always happen that way, but well, lets just say that no one is surprised when someone tells that story.

Be his friend, if you can still do that without "dating" him. Servicemen definitely need friends. Make sure you follow your conscience. If you find yourself feeling guilty, or getting paranoid about "kerry" finding out, or if it bugs you constantly, these are signs that the "dating" part of the relationship is stressing you - and something has to change.

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OK i really need help...I really want to have sex and I don't know how to tell my boyfriend, I've already had sex before so it's no big deal or anything but how should I tell him? We have been going out for 9 months and I just can't wait any longer

please tell me what to do

P.S. we are 13 and where should we have it without our parents noticeing


I WILL rate 5's for no one who bitches to me about how young we are im just sooooo god damn horny all the time


Sex is always a big deal. If it wasn't, you wouldn't be asking us how to talk to him about it. It may not be the same kind of big deal that most people make it out to be, but it's still an activity that that has the potential to change your life every single time it occurs. There are diseases, pregnancies, and crazy social repercussions.

There are plenty of ways to enjoy sexual activity with another person without intercourse. Many of them involve orgasm. If you've already been engaging in these activities, then suggest intercourse the same way you suggested the other ones. If your not, and need suggestions, ask me. I've got 15 years experience on you.

Don't forget about condoms - even for oral sex. Since it's so hard to find dental dams, cut the tip off a flavored condom and cut it up the side to get a rectangle that you can place over your vulva before he eats you out. Latex barriers are your best protection against disease. They don't prevent all STDs, but they go a long way. And they're helpful in preventing pregnancy too.

Remember, masturbation is a good way to deal with being horny. For starters, you don't have to wait on someone else being around. And generally, I tell anyone who doesn't know how to approach the topic of sex with their significant other that there's a really good chance that their relationship is not ready for it.

Best of luck.

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my boyfriend and i talk about moving further. he wants to eat me out and everything but ive never been eaten out and sorry but i dont watch porn. what is he suppose to do and how is it suppose to feel? haha wow thats probably the dumbest question ever but whatever.

"eating out" is a term for oral sex - usually for oral sex performed on a woman. Oral sex is sexual activity involving someone's mouth on someone's genitals. Simply put, he wants to lick your vulva and suck on your clitoris. (Let me know if you need links to anatomy sites.)

Like all sex, most people feel it's good to start with kissing and fondling. Being eaten out will probably feel good. The clitoris is a very sensitive part of your body, and gently touching it can bring you to orgasm. Let him know if he sucks too hard, or not hard enough. If your really really nervous, it's probably not going to feel all that great no matter how good he is. Also, if your really nervous, your probably not ready to move on yet. A little nervous is one thing, and will go away once you get started. If anything feels "wrong", stop. You can always try again later.

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I dont really know what category this goes as so I guess I will put it under "spirituality".

I'm getting older, and I dont want to turn into those kind of brats who think their parents are nitties, and are trying to ruin their fun and that they dont understand them. I really dont. Though I just dont understand why they dont understand sometimes. I try to be good, but being the middle child is tough. I have a older sister, that can be a good friend and sometimes annoying, and a younger brother, that is 13 years younger than me. I dont know if Im jelous of him getting all the attention, but Im sick of being misunderstood and, well.. the middle child! I try not to act like Im upset, even though I am, by trying to be optimistic, but I am just upset about things I dont even know, and I try to act normal for others benefit. Sympathy bothers me, kind of. Also, if Im told to do something, and I was about to do it without being told, it just makes me not want to do it anymore. Sometimes I still wonder who I am, and I just dont know how to express it into words here. I always have fantasies of things that would by far come true, some involving magic (which I believe in) By the way, I dont take drugs, or smoke, etc. Also sometimes I get extremely.. well I cant think of a word for it. Cautious? Like when I turn off the light, I get scared and make sure that the light is turned off all the way, because I fear fires. And so on. I dont mean to blab, but, I just dont know. I SO do NOT want to be a pessimistic, and a depressed person, that gets so depressed that they kill themselves with a needle or something (which I think is extremely nasty and not worth it) and I will try to see the cup half full.

Er, Im not sure how you are supposed to answer this, since its not exactly some sort of question, but if you have any advice that may help me, then please, please, type away! :D

Being a teenager isn't going to be easy, and the truth of it is that sometimes you parents won't understand. Learning to express yourself well goes a very long way - and not just as a teenager. If you have the chance to take a public speaking class, do so. If you get a choice between an english/composition/writing class that you can get an easy A in, and one that you'll have to work hard in, take the harder one.

Some people find that taking psychology or sociology classes helps them learn how to talk about what's going on - others find that it's just a bunch of gobledygook. I usually end up with the class that's about 1/2 way between. :)

It also depends on what you've got available at your high school - and if you live somewhere that has cheap community colleges that allow high schoolers to take a class or two while still in high school. California is good about that, I don't know about other states.

Everyone has a few illogical quirks and fears. It's part of being unique. :) Having a healthy imagination is a *good* thing. So is having spirituality (not quite the same as religion).

Being optomistic is not the same as always being cheerful. Everyone has ups and downs. Everyone wants different things when they are up and down. You know you don't want people to fawn on you and be sympathetic when your not at your best. Perhaps you prefer to sit in the sun? Or to curl up in bed and read a book? Figure out what you do want, and then tell the people who love you how you prefer to be treated. For instance, "Actually mom, thanks for the invitation to play with you guys, but I'm still upset that I had to clean up the mess my little brother made and it caused me to miss the first 10 minutes of my favorite show. I'd rather not play candyland with you two; I'd like to go to my room and read that book I got from the library last week." doesn't sound bratty at all. It's also better than pretending your happy to play with him and keeping it bottled inside. There's only so much you can stuff in before it explodes (and that's a different amount for everyone). Your feelings are important too. It's good to learn how to express them constructively.

I know all about the frustration of going to go do something and on the way there having someone remind you to do it. Used to make me want to throw something through the wall. Never did though - I just screeched. I don't recommend it (tends to get parents all upset). The best advice I can give there, is see if your parents will agree to wait 5 minutes when they want to remind you to do something that they know you already know you should be doing then. Sometimes that doesn't work - but sometimes that extra 5 min can cut down the reminders from a few times a day to a few times a week. And that's a big difference. :)

It really sounds like your a normal teenager, and a good kid. It may get a little bumpy, but you'll make it through ok. :)

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i just started my period... im a little late .
what should i use tampons or pads?

Start with pads. You can buy disposable ones in the store, or make your own reusable ones. They come in a variety of sizes, but none should be worn for more than 8 hours at a time.

If you want to go swimming, or don't like pads for some reason, tampons and cups are both worn internally to collect the blood. If worn "around town" (not in water), many women also use a light pad in case their internal protection fails.

Tampons are disposable and work like pads in that they absorb the blood. They are not good for light days, as they are uncomfortable to remove when not completely full. Most should not be left in for more than 8 hours, but they do have directions on the box. It's very important not to keep a tampon in for longer than the box says to. A pad might smell a little, but a tampon can cause infection when left in too long.

Cups are reusable and can be used on light days too. They can be left in for up to 12 hours, then rinsed out and reinserted.

If you want any more information on any of these, let me know. I recommend pads, unless your swimming, in which case I prefer cups to tampons.

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I have windows me and i cant find my soundcard on the comp. i have no sound and its really annoying.My g/fs mom said it could have deleted itself is that true and if so how can i get it back.ill rate high to any helpful information!!

There are a few things that could have happened. I suggest trying these in reverse order. :)

First, the hardware might actually have a physical problem. Like, you kicked the computer and it jiggled out of it's slot.

Second, Windows might have somehow "lost" the drivers. I shouldn't be able to do this, but it does. The instructions below for going into the device manager might help with that. you might also try "adding new hardware" and seeing if Windows suddenly notices it's there again. It's happened to my dad before (I don't use windows, or I'm sure it would have happened to me too).

Third, the volume may just be muted. Check out the Control Panel for sounds.

Fourth, if you use speakers, make sure the wires are firmly connected, and see if they use batteries that may have gone dead. Try unplugging the speakers and see if you can get any sound from the built in speaker. If you don't use speakers, make sure no one shoved head phones into the speaker jacks or other such silliness. ;)

Good Luck!

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this is how it all started. i like this guy named daniel. he has a cousin named rob, and my best friend michelle likes rob. well last week i found out rob likes me. NOW i found out that daniel likes my best friend michelle, and im so heartbroken. so while he was away on AIM [i know, im chicken], i told him that i have a crush on him. do you think i should keep trying or give up?


If it wouldn't be too drama filled or otherwise difficult, why don't the four of you try hanging out a few time in totally non-romantic settings? Even better, bring another girl, and have them bring another boy. With the six of you just hanging out and getting to know each other, anything could happen.

I would try to keep in touch with him, but I wouldn't push anything romantic. Such things develop over time, and honestly, it sounds like you guys are at the age where your romances are pretty short, so don't get too discouraged if he does go out with your best friend. Be happy for them while it lasts.

Most importantly, don't let guys cause problems between you and your best friend. Even if it means that neither of you go out with someone that you both like and it totally breaks both of your hearts. Friends are generally around an awful lot longer than romances.

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There's this guy that I've became friends with this year. Surprisingly, we've grown really close. We talk all the time on the phone and on the computer. There have been certain signs that have made me think he likes me:

1) He makes direct eye contact when talking
2) He's sweet to me and mean to the rest of my friends
3) He never wants me to get offline or off the phone when I'm talking
4) Though this isn't a reliable sign, he has had a "boner" twice when talking to me
5) He smiles at me all the time
6) Tries to show off in front of me
7) Makes the kissy faces online and says that it was an accident
8) Suggested we hang out sometime after school
9) Told me I look better with my hair down (not really a sign but wanted to throw it in there)
10) People always come up to me and tell me that they think he likes me

I'm not sure if that sounds like a match but, lately things have been weird. He's telling me how much he likes this other girl and she knows. Today she turned him down (even though he didn't ask her directly) and now I'm thinking he really doesn't like me. What should I do? I want to make a move because it seems like the signs point to yes but then, he likes her!

14//*jANe

If you do go out with him, be aware that a few things that you've listed as cute signs he might like you are considered warning signs. While I doubt at 14 your going to get into situation where he'd get a chance to be abusive, it's always good to know about these things in advance.

Generally, when someone is nice to you, but mean to most other people (including waitresses and bums), it's considered a BIG RED FLAG. It's a sign that they are a mean person trying to manipulate you. If you went out with him, would it cause problems between you and your friends because of the way he treats them?

Never wanting you to get offline or off the phone is more likely to be a control thing than a sweet thing. By the time your 16 it this will be a very big deal.

He may be telling you about this other girl to see if you'll get jealous. I consider jealousy to be a sign of lack of trust in a relationship, and therefore a signal of problems, but I know a lot of people - especially teenagers - use it as a way to determine if the person really likes them.

Keeping in mind that you should never let anyone purposefully cause you pain (hurting your feelings counts), isolate you from your friends and family, or pressure you into doing things you don't want to, if you want to get to know this guy better, go ahead and make a move.

Remember, you can always change your mind about wanting to go out with someone. You don't need a reason.

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i have a really bad blister on my foot/back ankle from my work shoes and i dont have money to get new ones, is there something i can put on my ankle to make the blister better, i have a bandaid on it but it still hurts. also, the place it gave me a blisterright above my heel were the top, back of the shoe usually rubs. is there anything i can put there to keep from getting the blisters because i have to wear short socks and i walk all day so a lot of time they fall or i just dont have time to make sure my sock is over the area....is there anything i can do? I know is a weird question but i walk all day at work and these are very bad blisters!!
Thanks

Is the shoe rubbing because it is too big? If so, you can try wearing heavier socks, two pairs of socks, or stuffing cotton balls in the toe so that your shoe fits better.

Is the shoe rubbing because it has become bent? You can use an iron to help bend many types of shoes back into place (it doesn't work so well for sneakers).

Is the part of the shoe that rubs you rough? Find a scrap of soft fabric, a cotton ball, and some glue. Put the shoe on, and have someone help you stretch the cotton ball over the shoe so that it's filled up the space between your ankle and the shoe. Glue the soft cloth over the cotton ball to hold it in place (on all 4 sides - cloth should be bigger than the cotton ball).

No matter what solution you use (mine or some of the other columnists), I recommend still wearing some form of padding over the blister till it heals up. An alternative to the band aid, is medical tape and a cotton ball. It provides a little more padding than a band aid.

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Ok so today I found out thta otmmorw someone in my class is planning to havea boy girl party! I wasnt invited. It not thta im a geek or w/e becasue there is only 20 ppl in my class!like 9 ppl werent invited!


13/F

While it was rude to ask your friend in front of you, the person having the party probably couldn't invite everyone he or she wanted to invite. Half the class wasn't invited to this particular party.

It's normal to feel a little envious when your friends get to do something fun and you don't (for any reason), but don't let it ruin your friendship with them.

It also sounds like your school is divided into groups - with the popular kids and the geeks (and probably a few other groups). If you are concerned that one group is worse to be in than the other, maybe you should see if you (or your parents, or a teacher) can help the groups get along better. It happen a lot, but there is no real reason for anyone to be an outcast. It doesn't have to be like that. If you can help your school become a friendlier place for everyone, neither yourself nor anyone else will have to worry about being an outcast. Then not being invited to a particular party will turn into having an evening to do something else, not a cause for anxiety.

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My girlfriend is a quite beautiful girl. And I know she knows she's beautiful. She's also pretty damn confident. But, for some reason it seems like she's insecure around me. Every time we're intimate and I try to slid my hand down her stomach she sucks it in. I guess she doesn't think I notice but, I do. She has a fine, flat tummy so why she feels the need to suck it in is beyond me. I also don't understand if I did anything to make her feel insecure. I tell her that I think she's beautiful every chance I get. I don't know what to do here.

Has she said anything about this? Because it's quite possible that she's tightening her stomach as a reaction to your touch, not because she's thinking about it sticking out. A light touch on my stomach is slightly ticklish - not enough to make me laugh, but enough for my muscles to tighten up, and sometimes enough for me to flinch away from it. Also, sometimes when I'm aroused, my stomach and thigh muscles tense up more noticeably than the rest of my body.

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I don’t think people have anything to live for at all. Most people live for other people even thought everyone will eventually die. I think life is pointless and there is no such thing as “making a difference” because in the end none of it matters. My teacher says everyone wants to be remembered after they die, I don’t want to be remembered. Some people live for God, which I think is stupid because I don’t believe in God. If I did, I would hate him, why? Because he has control over us. Killing yourself is wrong because you’re interfering with “God’s little plan”, right? That doesn’t sound right now, does it? Everything happens for a reason doesn’t it? If something happened to make you want to kill yourself then is killing yourself still wrong? If God doesn’t want it to happen then it shouldn’t happen because he makes everything happen, doesn’t he? Can someone help me understand this whole “God” concept?

I'm glad that your thinking critically about the subject. Here are some links that might help you figure out what you personally believe (the sites that host them are good too):
http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_god.htm
http://www.beliefnet.com/section/quiz/index.asp?sectionID=&surveyID=27
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religion

If you need help finding information about a specific religion of philosophical path, please ask. I've got a lot of links. :)

Some personal thoughts:
I don't think that there is a specific something to live for that's universal for all people. I also don't believe in absolute predestination, although I do think that some outcomes are more likely than others. I believe we have free will, and that we can exert our will to change the world around us. I do believe that it matters, partly because I don't believe there will be an end, and partly because "matters" doesn't have to be so long term. An example: on sunday I saw resident evil apocalypse. After the movie was over I was a little icky feeling (partly from the movie, partly cuz I had a rough week last week). My friend came up and gave me a hug and I felt a little better. It didn't really change anything but my mood. You could say that his action didn't matter in the long run, but it improved my mood then and it's given me an example to give you. It mattered a lot to me personally, right then, and it's one of many tiny acts by many people that let me know that I am cared about. So even such a small and easily forgettable actions matters.

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how can i make it so my byte size is less than 7168 or 7168? but still keep it at 50width and 50 height?im trying to make an icon for aim but i need to make it less than 7168bytes how do i make that so?

I'm guessing you use animated GIFs for aim, right?

With a gif, it's more important to use a smaller pallet (number of colors) than to make an uncomplicated picture (unlike a jpg). I have never used animation shop 3, but you should be able to either choose an option like "generate an optimal palette" or specifically select smaller pallets. You may be able to pick and choose what colors you want in the pallet. You definitely don't need anything larger than the "web pallet" (256 colors), and it's probably better if you limit your animated gif to less than 16 colors.

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does anyone know how to set up Outlook Express?

To set up outlook express, you need to collect some information first. You usually get this information from you ISP (internet service provider). However, if for some reason you can't contact them, put your email address under additional information, I will look it up. Use the form dreamingkat at gmail dot com just in case someone is trying to harvest email addy's from the site (which I think is unlikely, but it never hurts to be cautious).

Information you will need:
* POP server. this is either an ip address (like 216.48.29.167) or a name (like mail.earthlink.net)
* SMTP server. Again, this will either be an ip address or a name
* your email address
* the password for your account. (note: I won't be able to help you get your password, you've gotta find that yourself)

Once you have that information, it's pretty straight forward. Open outlook express. Go to Tools -> Accounts. A little window opens. If no one else is using your computer, delete all the accounts already listed (click on it to select, then click the delete button). Then click on the New Account button. Fill in the blanks. If you are confused and don't know what to put in the boxes, either add info to this question, or ask me a question in my inbox.

Some of the buttons might have changed names slightly. It's been about 4 years since I worked dial up tech support, and I did this from memory. If your still having problems, I'll look up the newest version and walk you through it. Just ask. :)

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how does birth control work? should the guy still have a condom on if your on birth control? and how much does birth control cost?

There are multiple categories of birth control. It sounds like your interested in hormonal birth controls like the pill. They work by stopping the egg from leaving the ovaries.

Condoms should be used even if hormonal birth control is in use. Not only is it possible for factors to cause the pill to be less than optimally effective, but pills do not protect against STDs like syphilis and AIDs.

The price of birth control depends on a lot of things. I would call planned parenthood (1-800-230-7526 anywhere in the US) and ask about clinic locations and cost. They are professional, caring, and will protect your privacy. Their website has a lot of detailed information on birth control linked to from this page: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/birthcontrol/

If you need help figuring out what any of the information means, please ask. :)

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I think that my daughter (14) has been using drugs. She hasn't had it easy and I haven't really helped that. A few of my old boyfriends hurt her and violated her. I've stopped dating because of it she doesn't deserve that and I don't want that to ever happen to her again. Recently I've been noticing that she's been coming home after 10 (her curfue is 9) and she acts differently. I've tried talking to her and she says that she isn't doing anything and that she just loses track of time. I don't know what to do. I'm not a great mother but I'm trying as hard as I can. Does anyone know how I could talk to her about this or how I can help her if she really needs it?

I will a rate high to anyone who at least tries thank you ahead of time.

While I do think the previous advice about talking to her is good, I would like to add that if that doesn't work, try to arrange for there to be someone for her to talk to. There were topics I couldn't discuss with my mother, so I talked to my friends mothers about them. Does she have any grandmothers, aunts, or adult women from clubs or church that she is comfortable talking to? If so, make a point of visiting them, and then giving them some privacy.

Someone, any experienced adult (preferably of the same gender) she will listen to and can trust, needs to have a continuing dialog with her. Not only about the big things, like drugs and sex, but about the "little" things, like what to wear to the movies, and how to deal with someone gossiping about her, and what she can do when that history assignment seems impossible. If past experiences have made it so you can't be that person, then the next best thing you can do is try to make sure she has access to a mentor who can be.

If possible (assuming it hasn't already been done) a professional councilor to help her deal with the past abuse will go a long way. Also, a councilor can help you both with your relationship with each other.

Another little thing, try to eat a meal together, every day. One that's not rushed. Dinner is traditionally the one people use, but for some people, making sure there is a full 20 min for breakfast and eating it together is easier than setting aside a 1/2 hour for dinner. That little bit of stability, an opportunity to start with small talk and then work in a comment here or there on the important stuff, and the idea that she knows that she has a guaranteed time to mention stuff to you, every single day, can be a huge help when building parent/child relationships.

Good Luck, to both of you.

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I just broke up with my boyfriend, ive been with him for a little over 2 years. i dont have anymore friends because i gave them up for him. i feel so very lonely and crushed, i dont know what to do, everything i do and everything i see brings me back to thinking about him its so hard i cant stop crying or thinking about him. hes moving today to another state(thats not the reason he broke up with me, he wouldnt say why hes breaking up with me he just said "have a nice life", and i cant get in touch with him ive tried almost everything) but i dont know where hes goin to live or his number or anything i really just dont know what to do anymore. im so alone and i miss him so bad

It's hard to rebuild a life, and to claim it for your very own. But it can be done. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of looking for a new boyfriend right away. You'll just end up turning this into a cycle, and habits are hard to break. You can build your life without him.

You have lost something precious to you - no matter what anyone else's opinion of it is (or was). You will need time to mourn. Mourning is harder when you don't have a shoulder to cry on. Do you have a relative or mentor or religious leader you can receive comfort from?

The uncertainty surrounding the breakup may haunt you, but it shouldn't prevent you from moving on. Moving on does not mean "forgetting about it" or that it doesn't' hurt any more. You won't be forgetting about it anytime soon, so you learn not to let the memories hold you back. You may indeed think about him every 10 min for the next month. I have people I think about every day - and have for over 10 years now. But now when I think about it now, it's a sad smile and a little ache, not tears. A few min later, something will remind me of someone else, or something happy. If nothing pops up, I will try to think something happy involving that person, and take it from there.

Give yourself a little time to mourn, but as soon as you feel you can (which will be before you feel ready), start doing little things to rebuild your life. I don't know how old you are, but joining a club of some sort is a good way to start. I've never been the greatest at making new friends, but if you need advice on making new friends, I will toss out some suggestions. When you run into glitches, don't be afraid to ask for help - from whatever resources you have.

It's not easy, to rebuild your life after a break up with someone who dominated it, and it doesn't happen overnight. But it's possible. Since you had the courage to ask for help, I know you have the courage to carry through with starting a new life without him. It's worth it.

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Does anyone know how to interpret dreams or w/e?
(Sorry it is so long, but it is interesting) Well, if you think you can help here it is:

I was in a car with a few eighth graders I knew pretty well (this is probably because I was in a play with them last night) One of the eighth grders was driving (kelsey) and so we went riding around for a while. I can't clearly remeber where we stopped, but I know we stopped somewhere. I got out, and came back in. While I was trying to buckle my seatbelt, Kelsey was buckling hers as well (she was still driving) and the car started to slide down a hill that broke off into a cliff. At the bottom was a shallow river. We tried the brakes but they didnt work in time. The car slid down and landed in the river. None of us were hurt. It was actually kind of thrilling.
So we get out of the car as it begins to float down the river (at this point in the dream it is more like a van) It stops at one point (again I can't remeber) and we get out on this dock-barge thing. We enter what appears to be a big mall. At the enterance it has stores, all with perfect before their name(example: Perfect Fine Jewlery)
We were walking through and stuff and then the next part I remeber is that there were none of our parents there and we were sort of releaved. Then my friend Liz (who hadn't been in the car before) was there and she met this really nice guy. They were PERFECT for each other. Then I met this guy, and so both she and I were going out with them.The funny thing was, that "mall"
was actually the whole town. It was all indoors. Then my chorus teacher (who had directed the play) was there and said we needed to find a way to get home. We stayed a few weeks because we couldn't bare to leave everyone that we had become friends with. Then we left (I forget how we got home-I think I woke up then)but not before Liz and I each kissed outr "men" and said the sad goodbyes.

I know. Weird, right? I also write ( I won this kids in print contest before and have also writeen many plays) and was wondering if this would make a good story if I substitute some names and (obviously go more in depth and come up with a better theme) I WILL RATE 5'S FOR ANYONE WHO ANSWERS!!!


Well, I wouldn't recommend writing a story about it because it's not an unusual dream. The indoor town would make a cool setting for a story, but that's not unique.

Onto the basic interpretation. The first part, where you got into the car, but before your seat belts were on, the car started going out of control. This is where you are in life. Your not quite prepared, and you don't have much control. But you also feel like that's ok, your not afraid of the future. You know that your life might be a little crazy, but everything will be ok.

Something was or is expected to be totally awesome (everything started with perfect). It will take over your whole life (the mall was the whole town), but only for a limited time. When it's over, you will be sad, but it will have made a lasting impact on your life.

I'll go out on a limb and say the dream was about the play. You were nervous before hand, and felt a little unprepared, but it was time and there was nothing you could do about it. It went well, and overall the experience was really positive. Being in the play is an important experience in your life - something clicked, or you met someone, or you learned something important/cool. You are sad that it's over and happy that it happened. Overall, the dream reflects a totally normal reaction to having enjoyed being in the play. :)

Hope this help some.

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i have these really nice white dress shoes that a wore to a dance. on the bottom they are black, and i have scuff marks ALLLL over the white part. i have to wear them today and i cant get the scuff marks off! i tried scrubbing them with bleach! what else can i use?!

It depends on what the shoes are made of.

If you have leather shoes, bleach and acetone will damage them. Use shoe polish and a buffing rag or brush.

If you have plastic shoes, the nail polish remover should be ok. I have never tried it.

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i was practicing with using tampons. ive never had my period before. i just wanted to know how to use them before my time comes. after i had used a few, i finally got the hang of it and completey inserted one. i pulled it out and it had bllod only on the tip. what is this? please help.

Since you were inserting a tampon into a dry vagina, you probably scratched your insides or ripped your hymen a little. Unless it hurts or itches, don't worry about it.

A few things.

1. Do NOT use a tampon if you're not currently on your period, or on days when your period is light. I have decided to remove my rant on this topic, but if you would like to hear it, just ask. :)

2. Virginity has nothing to do with your hymen. You can't loose it to a tampon, your fingers, or any other such nonsense. *grumbles about the dark ages*

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