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I dont really know what category this goes as so I guess I will put it under "spirituality".
I'm getting older, and I dont want to turn into those kind of brats who think their parents are nitties, and are trying to ruin their fun and that they dont understand them. I really dont. Though I just dont understand why they dont understand sometimes. I try to be good, but being the middle child is tough. I have a older sister, that can be a good friend and sometimes annoying, and a younger brother, that is 13 years younger than me. I dont know if Im jelous of him getting all the attention, but Im sick of being misunderstood and, well.. the middle child! I try not to act like Im upset, even though I am, by trying to be optimistic, but I am just upset about things I dont even know, and I try to act normal for others benefit. Sympathy bothers me, kind of. Also, if Im told to do something, and I was about to do it without being told, it just makes me not want to do it anymore. Sometimes I still wonder who I am, and I just dont know how to express it into words here. I always have fantasies of things that would by far come true, some involving magic (which I believe in) By the way, I dont take drugs, or smoke, etc. Also sometimes I get extremely.. well I cant think of a word for it. Cautious? Like when I turn off the light, I get scared and make sure that the light is turned off all the way, because I fear fires. And so on. I dont mean to blab, but, I just dont know. I SO do NOT want to be a pessimistic, and a depressed person, that gets so depressed that they kill themselves with a needle or something (which I think is extremely nasty and not worth it) and I will try to see the cup half full.
Er, Im not sure how you are supposed to answer this, since its not exactly some sort of question, but if you have any advice that may help me, then please, please, type away! :D
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I know how you feel exactly, Im the middle child and my little brother is 10 years younger and he gets almost all the attention and Im JUST the built in babysitter. And I have my older brother who most of the time is a cool person to hang out with but sometimes he can be REALLY annoying and I wish I wasn't his sister. It is just part of being a teenager.
Parents arn't perfect and niether are you. No one is. So sometimes your parents are gonna get on your nerves and your gonna feel like they don't even know you anymore. And vica verca for you parents towards you. Once you are older you will get along with your parents and they will understand you better, (once you are past these teenage years.)
Its good that you are trying to be optimistic because some kids get frustrated and mad when this type of stuff happens and it makes it worse and that is how they end up on drugs.
I hope I helped you out! and just remember that it is all part of being a teenager and that it will pass up sooner or later. Good Luck with everything!
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You just need to take a deep breath. You'll probably always feel that your brother gets more attention, meanwhile you most likely get as much as him unless you dont. It's normal to make sure the light is turned off all the way. I would want to make sure also. I feel the same way about doing stuff when being told. I hate it. Yea, your question was a bit confusing, i tried to help as much as i could lol. Good Luck!
~Brina~
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Being a teenager isn't going to be easy, and the truth of it is that sometimes you parents won't understand. Learning to express yourself well goes a very long way - and not just as a teenager. If you have the chance to take a public speaking class, do so. If you get a choice between an english/composition/writing class that you can get an easy A in, and one that you'll have to work hard in, take the harder one.
Some people find that taking psychology or sociology classes helps them learn how to talk about what's going on - others find that it's just a bunch of gobledygook. I usually end up with the class that's about 1/2 way between. :)
It also depends on what you've got available at your high school - and if you live somewhere that has cheap community colleges that allow high schoolers to take a class or two while still in high school. California is good about that, I don't know about other states.
Everyone has a few illogical quirks and fears. It's part of being unique. :) Having a healthy imagination is a *good* thing. So is having spirituality (not quite the same as religion).
Being optomistic is not the same as always being cheerful. Everyone has ups and downs. Everyone wants different things when they are up and down. You know you don't want people to fawn on you and be sympathetic when your not at your best. Perhaps you prefer to sit in the sun? Or to curl up in bed and read a book? Figure out what you do want, and then tell the people who love you how you prefer to be treated. For instance, "Actually mom, thanks for the invitation to play with you guys, but I'm still upset that I had to clean up the mess my little brother made and it caused me to miss the first 10 minutes of my favorite show. I'd rather not play candyland with you two; I'd like to go to my room and read that book I got from the library last week." doesn't sound bratty at all. It's also better than pretending your happy to play with him and keeping it bottled inside. There's only so much you can stuff in before it explodes (and that's a different amount for everyone). Your feelings are important too. It's good to learn how to express them constructively.
I know all about the frustration of going to go do something and on the way there having someone remind you to do it. Used to make me want to throw something through the wall. Never did though - I just screeched. I don't recommend it (tends to get parents all upset). The best advice I can give there, is see if your parents will agree to wait 5 minutes when they want to remind you to do something that they know you already know you should be doing then. Sometimes that doesn't work - but sometimes that extra 5 min can cut down the reminders from a few times a day to a few times a week. And that's a big difference. :)
It really sounds like your a normal teenager, and a good kid. It may get a little bumpy, but you'll make it through ok. :)
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