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I just broke up with my boyfriend, ive been with him for a little over 2 years. i dont have anymore friends because i gave them up for him. i feel so very lonely and crushed, i dont know what to do, everything i do and everything i see brings me back to thinking about him its so hard i cant stop crying or thinking about him. hes moving today to another state(thats not the reason he broke up with me, he wouldnt say why hes breaking up with me he just said "have a nice life", and i cant get in touch with him ive tried almost everything) but i dont know where hes goin to live or his number or anything i really just dont know what to do anymore. im so alone and i miss him so bad
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It's hard to rebuild a life, and to claim it for your very own. But it can be done. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of looking for a new boyfriend right away. You'll just end up turning this into a cycle, and habits are hard to break. You can build your life without him.
You have lost something precious to you - no matter what anyone else's opinion of it is (or was). You will need time to mourn. Mourning is harder when you don't have a shoulder to cry on. Do you have a relative or mentor or religious leader you can receive comfort from?
The uncertainty surrounding the breakup may haunt you, but it shouldn't prevent you from moving on. Moving on does not mean "forgetting about it" or that it doesn't' hurt any more. You won't be forgetting about it anytime soon, so you learn not to let the memories hold you back. You may indeed think about him every 10 min for the next month. I have people I think about every day - and have for over 10 years now. But now when I think about it now, it's a sad smile and a little ache, not tears. A few min later, something will remind me of someone else, or something happy. If nothing pops up, I will try to think something happy involving that person, and take it from there.
Give yourself a little time to mourn, but as soon as you feel you can (which will be before you feel ready), start doing little things to rebuild your life. I don't know how old you are, but joining a club of some sort is a good way to start. I've never been the greatest at making new friends, but if you need advice on making new friends, I will toss out some suggestions. When you run into glitches, don't be afraid to ask for help - from whatever resources you have.
It's not easy, to rebuild your life after a break up with someone who dominated it, and it doesn't happen overnight. But it's possible. Since you had the courage to ask for help, I know you have the courage to carry through with starting a new life without him. It's worth it.
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