If you say anything about "There's a reason for you to be here" or anything about God or giving life a second chance, shove it. I'm 22, have had diabetes since I was 9, have had multiple sclerosis for over a year, have been the president of a club on faith, and have done so many other things that people have suggested. No one gives a shit about me, and that is that. People who I've taken care of for years don't care about me.Life, is bull shit. What is the best way to end it, in your guy's opinion? The least amount of mess too, I've thought about using my pistol, but then there will be brain matter for others to clean up. What is the easiest and cleanest way to commit suicide?
You know what is BS is writing this. You are giving up and letting life beat you at its own game. I don't really care if you give me a bad rating... I can't read this and ignore the fact you are planning to kill yourself. To take your own life. I KNOW that people don't give a crap about you, EVERYONE is hurt everyone feels lonely, some more than others. You are going to do something that will change the lives of the people around you. People you see but may not know. Do you have any family? Anyone at all, think about how you're hurting them. You are only Twenty-two years old. TWENTY-TWO You have your whole life ahead of you!!!! You don't need to get involved in clubs to find friends you need to get a hobby and meet someone who has the same interests as YOU. If this makes you mad then good... I just hope that you will consider giving life a second chance. As far as diabetes goes things could be worse. You are alive, you are here... don't end your life because your to scared to live it.
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F/15I have told my parents I was thinking of having sex for he first time with my boyfriend we've been dating for about 5 monks and He is really sweet my parents agree with me and hy say it is ok to have sex with Alejandro (boyfriend) I don't understand why they said yes but me and my boyfriend are pretty happy abou them saying yes along as we use protection why did my parents say yes I dnt get it
Probably because you talked to them about or told them. They probably know that you're gonna do it anyways with permission or whatever.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 8 months. He is also my first boyfriend, which I know is a little weird since I was 17 when we started going out.
Before him, there was only one other guy who I briefly casually dated a few times but it fizzled out. Other than that my guy history is empty.
Whenever my current boyfriend asks me about who I've last dated I change the subject or dance around it. To me its awkward and embarrasing to talk about since he has had numerous people he's dated before me. I also know that he deserves to know this stuff and it shouldn't be a big deal, but it just makes me feel weird.
I really don't know what to do about it, but the subject does come up from time to time.
Any advice on how to approach this?
Deja Vu same thing happened to me. I only dated ONE guy before meeting the love of my life. I felt so ... inexperienced I guess you could say, never kissed anyone before either. Finally I just told him about the one guy. He was shocked and I thought .... oh no... he thinks I'm a freak :/
HOWEVER he was shocked and he was glad... he couldn't believe it but he didn't think I was a freak at all. He said that it showed that I don't date around I truely care about someone when I chose them. 7 months later we are still together
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16-F.
I need new clothing stores to shop at.
Please don't suggest;
Old Navey
Kohls
Gap
Target
K-Mart
Buckle
Victoria Secret
Charlotte Russe
Deb
Forever 21 (Including it's sister stores"
Wet Seal
Macy's
American Eagle
Aero
PacSun
Tilly's
JcPenny
Bebe
Aerie
Limited
Rue 21
Or Aldo.
I'm mostly in plus sizes. Please list stores that over size ranges with at least 36 for the bust size, and 4 or 45 for the waist.
Thank you!
I don't have a list of stores, sorry. But I love Fashion Bug. They have a huge selection. Their regular and plus sizes are all together, not shoved over to one side or anything. I Love it! I can find jeans not only based on my size but my shape. They have different kinds. They also have dress clothes and dresses, shoes. I Love the people that work there they are amazing. ALSO they usually have awesome sales and they aren't over priced :)
CD
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So Ive never had sex with a guy before but I have had boyfriends and we have "fooled around". So its not like Im a prude or something. Ive been a little crazy since I got to college mostly having fun. I have gotten more confident with my body after realizing that it gets me a lot of positive attention. Like Ill wear more revealing clothes and let guys touch me where as before I would not because I lacked confidence. So because of this Ive noticed that guys always ask for sex. But Ive never done it before and I dont want to get pregnant or a disease so I usually just say no. They never really ask me if Im a virgin I guess they assume I just dont want to. But last weekend a guy who I was making out with and doing more stuff with, asked me if I was and I lied and said no because I was embarrassed. He started to pressure me and asked me what I liked in bed and stuff. I couldnt really tell him because I dont know so he told me something he really liked to do that girls like. And Im not sure but I think the tip of his part went inside me. I wasnt drunk. It felt really good and didnt hurt at all. Do you think I should ask him? I sort of stopped him after I realized what was going on and I think he thought it was weird.
In my opinion you are going to have to be careful. Chances are you aren't pregnant but freak occurances are possible so just make sure you get your period and everything. I wouldn't be conserned. HOWEVER you could still get an STD even though nothing really happened. I would, for my own peice of mind, get tested. FROM NOW ON though you're going to have to watch what is goin on or you will have to actually be worried about pregnancy or an STD. As far as being a virgin... to me it is a conscious decision. If you feel you are then you are... I think you are but that is just me. Many religions would say no. But its you who really decides that. If he had went all the way then you wouldn't be.
CD
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If you had an c section are you able to have a natural birth
While yes it is a possiblity it is NOT recommended. If you have already had a c-section there is the risk of that interfearing as your baby is going into the birth canal. This is potentially fatal to the baby. I do agree that natural birth is by far a 100x better. However in this case I would go for the c-section. I would want as few complications as possible! Talk to your doctor or someone about this and they'll explain. Congradulations if you are expecting or thinking about it... or to whomever this may consern. Babies are little miracles,
CD
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so my bf and i have been gng out for awhile and everytime he comes to kiss me like french kiss i get all nervous and pull away and its starting to worry him. i know its stupid but its also starting to worry me..... any ideas????????
I agree with WingYang start out a little softer get close arms around with closed mouth kissing. Shut those eyes and feel what your body is telling you. When you're ready open your mouth some and he will get the hint.
Going slow is actually better in my opinion because it just builds up... also I suggest putting your arms around his waist. I mean I know its ideal for them to be around his neck, but having your hands around his waist just seems better to me.. idk.. try it
CD
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Hi. I'm Penny, 17 years old, college freshman.
So, last week I think I realized that I liked my classmate. We've been classmates since the school year started and I've been sort of liking him on and off. So, anyways, now that I've established the fact that I liked him, I decided to try my best to engage in conversation.
So the other day, we were together in school because we were both headed to the same building. So it was just us two. Alone. I'd ask him a question and then he'd just answer and then it'd be quiet again. I kept going at it but it still ended the same way. We decided to eat a little before getting to class and well, whenever I said something, he'd just answer, and then it'd be quiet and then it'd be awkward. I felt so defeated it's almost as if I wanted to give up (but I don't intend to).
Anyways, there. I don't really know what to do. I've studied in an exclusive girls school for four years of high school and I think I've forgotten how to act around guys.
Aside from this, our relationship is kind of complex. I don't know if we're like friends or merely classmates. But we've been around together lately 'cause we have 3 classes together. He tends to make fun of me sometimes (and he does it to other people too, unfortunately). I tend to make fun of him as well. And somehow it's kinda weird to transition from that into idk something else? Well, idk. This is why I need advice.
So, please help me?:( I really wanna know how to handle the situation (and maybe someone could give me flirting tips and tips on what to talk about, etc.). Thanks in advance!
xoxo
Alright so you need a refresher on flirting. First off make eye contact, but don't stare. You can occasionally give him a glance in class if he catches you look him in the eye for about 3 seconds then glance back to the teacher or your work, phone... something.
Do your best with your makeup ( if you don't already dab some lip gloss on... dress cute. don't go over the top)
Laugh at his jokes ( your normal laugh) and smile. Maybe next time compliment him on something... shirt... hair... anything. Maybe ask if you can look at his notes over dinner at a place a little more fancy after class. Ask him about something that will require him to talk. Where he grew up at, hometown, life goals.. whatever to get him talking and to find out more about him.
Classic flirting tip is to occasionally brush against his hand or touch his arm when you're walking together and laughing. If he has a facebook or email or something get it. If he does have a facebook don't stalk him infact I don't suggest even adding him but give him a poke.
Give it a little time and see if things change.
CD
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My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now, and as we get closer and closer I find more and more things to love about him. He has been telling me he had something he had to tell me but every time he would try it would be really hard for him and he would just say he would tell me another time. Well last night we finally talked. The story is way too complex to share all the details, so in a nutshell, his ex-girlfriend he was with for 3 years had an abortion. She is bipolar and he had reason to believe she wasn't even telling the truth. He went along with it until the day she actually took care of it.... I could tell by the way he was telling me and by him crying that he feels so guilty. This girl was cheating with him on another guy and so he will never even know for sure if it was his baby or not. But the fact that there is a chance that it could have been his just eats away at him. He told me he felt like I needed to know in case it ever came up down the road. He just sat there crying and saying how he was a bad person and how he should have stopped her...... what can I do to help him with this guilt? I have no experience with this matter and I have no idea what to say....... I really want to help him....
You have been together for quite some time now. So I get that you feel for him, maybe love, idk. I know how it feels to love and care for someone but not being able to do anything to help them. In my case it had to do with family issues. BUT in any case you have to be there for him. Show him you care and you are trying to understand. You need to show empathy for him and what has happened don't act like you feel sorry. Try to relate to how he is feeling. Try and pull him back down to life, I'd just hug him if he wants to cry.. cry. You don't want him to think that you think he is weak by crying and showing emotion.
Next I suggest talking about it some more and if he can't with you then someone else. He has to get these feelings out or they will eat away at him forever.
It might help by saying that what happened was awful. But he can't change that. He has a future ahead... maybe a family ( maybe with you).
I'm sorry you are in this situation and I feel for your relationship. This can make it stronger though. Couples who overcome things grow closer. If you need someone to talk to about what you're feeling let me know. I'm sure that this has affected you in some way. Be there for him, comfort him,
CD
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(f/19)So i just decided...I am ready to move away from this hell hole of a life. I go to a community college as of right now, but i want a universaty i can go to and call my own. So far i haven't foudn any im drawn to.Any one want to convince me to go some place, got any good reasons? btw im thinking of majoring in zoology or something maybe pyschology, III DON'T KNOW!
I suggest you figure out what kind of school you want. Like a liberal arts college or public. Then RESEARCH and VISIT. I found my college on a campus tour at a place in a small town. I always thought I'd move out into a big city and be independent. But MSU in KY is the place I fell in love with. From the close relations to the nice campus with an awsome outdoor area. I love it. I suggest you do the thing walk around and see what its like. I'd try and get an email of some dorm directions and ask about campus life as far as clubs and stuff go. Glad you decided to go for the college experience, its amazing!
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So, my boyfriend & I broke up in August. We'd been dating for 11 months. Hes a junior, Im a freshman. We were in love, but i guess i got too clingy or something and he just didnt feel the same love as before. Its now February, and for about a month I've been talking to this senior. He's super nice, but I think he still likes this chick he had a thing with a few months ago. I dunno how she feels about him but whatever. So yeah I kinda like this senior. DONT tell me Im too young, because at my school this happens all the time. My ex and I still talk, but he's such a flirt sometimes I dont know if its genuine. Recently he seems to like talking to me again. Obviously I still have feelings for him, I always will. But I kinda do wanna give this senior thing a try, & he's also nice and we have things in common already. Even after typing this all out, I'm thinking to give the senior thing a go, but I'd like a little bit more experienced advice please. Thanks very much! :)
You are definetely not too young, I hated when people tried to tell me that. Keep an eye on this other girl though guys sometimes use someone new to either make the old girlfriend jealous or maybe he is trying to forget about her and use the new girl for a distraction. I'm not saying this is the case. Of course you know him better than I do. Just watch out because it hurts to have your heart broken, which I'm guessing you know. I guess if I was in your position I would just ask my ex what is going on. From past experiences I wish I would've done that with one of my ex's in highschool. I always felt like there was something between us, like there once was but I NEVER asked. I wish I had. It's better to know. So once you figure that out I'd just do the whole " follow your heart" thing and if you wanna try this new senior go for it. Just remember to watch out.
CD
inbox me if you need anything or just wanna talk
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I met this guy on this chatting website last summer. We started talking alot & we even started texting. Now it's been like 8 months since we've been talking to each other as friends. We flirt & stuff (; ahaa but its just normal convos. He always texts me first, but in some weeks he doesn't textt me at all. Should I text him? Do you think he wants me to text him? Or does he just not text me because he gets bored of me? Pleasee help. I would like to know . Thnks (:
Text him... you never know what is going on he could be overwhelmed by school work or sports. From personal experience, maybe he likes you a lot and is afraid you don't return the same feeling. Don't be afriad text him and and ask what is going on.
CD
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My exboyfriend and I broke up less than a week ago and he has some serious issues and thinks im crazy (because im not going to lie i got angry and said some hateful things, but doesn't everyone do that after a bad breakup?), but thats just to make him feel better for the decision he made. I am unemployed and have applied at over 30 places and the one place that calls me back is in the same shopping center to where he works (and it looks like we will be working the same hours). Once he sees my car or me going into work he is going to think im stalking him or "oh she got a job right beside me so she can spy on me or harass me" i just want to get over him and hope that nothing will happen. my plan is to just go to work; in and out with my head down and not even look his way. I wish i had a choice to not take this job, but i need it and have no choice. How am I going to deal with working right next door to him? what if he blows it out of porportion and starts to harass me? Please help!
If he has a problem tell him that he is completely paranoid and that you could care less if he was in the same place or not. You've moved on and that you think its time he should too.
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i'm 18/f, weighing about 106 pounds. i'm 5'6" and have a BMI of 17.1. needless to say, i'm underweight. i want to have a child someday soon, my boyfriend and i are moving in together at the end of the summer. (we'll be done with highschool and we are both employed, if you're wondering) i'm beginning to think my lack of body fat and low nutrition may foil my chances to carry a baby. i took a test and i'm fertile enough, i just don't believe my body is strong enough.
the problem with this is, i eat EVERYTHING. what i want, when i want. no matter the calories, it doesn't affect my weight. does anyone know a good way to gain a few extra pounds? i wouldn't know what else to do except eat, but that doesn't do anything. thanks
HIGH protein diet. Eat lots of meats, especially red meats. 5 meals a day and snack such as peanut butter, nuts, etc.
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does anyone know of any tottally free websites that i can use to create a website of my own without paying for it?
www.webs.com
But your url will be like this:
www.example.webs.com
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hi. im a senior in my school and i will graduate pretty soon.
but i actually don't want to because i have a big crush on one of my last year's teachers who is 10 years older than me.
i dont mean to brag or anything, but i am a kind of nice looking girl and 4 guys in the school keep asking me out. but i avoid all of them just because of him :(. he is really nice to me, he always says hi to me, always hugs me, stares at me, and sometimes even winks at me. and every time he does not say hi i get depressed. but i try to run away from him, because i think it will be embarrassing if he finds out about my feelings.
do you think i should tell him about my feelings?!?
i really really like him. what should i do? helpp!
STOP, don't tell him anything. Atleast not yet. If you do care about him then wait till you graduate and find out how he feels, atleast so you'll know. Then decide if you want a relationship. I wouldn't advise you to though especially if you are going to go to college and start a future, this man is 10 years old than you and I know age doesn't matter, but a whole decade???
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I'm a 15 yr. old girl. My cousin is also 15. He has been fighting with me a lot lately and he's gotten closer to our 16 yr. old girl cousin. I feel a little left out because she and I were close at one point. Now my boy cousin is treating me like crap for no reason. He told me he wants nothing to do with me but when I ignore him he gets mad. I have asked him what the problem is and he tells me he doesn't know. I dont want to tell him how i feel about being left out because he will tell our other cousin who isn't close to me anymore. please help me. I'm out of options and I hate being treated like this.
I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION... this is weird reading about yours, feels like Deja Vu. I hated the feeling of not only being left out and treated like crap but for no apparent reason. Turns out the other cousin he started hanging out with ( in my situation) didn't like me... at all. So he ditched me ALL the time. In my case I had to get out. I couldn't deal with that stress anymore so I found someone else and started hanging out with them. I basically removed myself from the situation and I found I was happy. I miss our close friendship but I am happier now than when I was always being left out and upset. Now me and my cousin are okay. We talk and stuff whenever we are near but I don't feel like I have to hang out with him anymore. I don't feel left out.
I would try and do that same. I know you'll feel bad at first, but I promise eventually you will be like " I should've done this sooner"
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so i am a young female and still growing and stuff but i know girls and guys get pimples and what-not but i think this is a problem. I thought people get pimples here and there...but on like one side of my forehead i am getting alot i mean alot of pimples and its really bothering me. they are not huge they are actually not even that big or pussy or anything but there are lots on one side and i think its gross. what is happening?! i dont do anything differently for whatever reason from one side of my forehead to the other...i dont know why i am getting these pimples on just like one side...thanks for letting me know AND also because i havent used any acne solutions or anything but if you guys know of products that cure or help acne blemishes, please tell!!! thank you guys!
I would try proactiv, while yes it can be expensive. Try the 30 day kit and see how it works, its strong and it helps a lot of people. You can always cancel if it doesn't.
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k so i have a huge problem... i had a long distance relationship with a guy i admit he was kind of a jerk most of the time but recently he's been doing things right, he cares and proves it to me that he loves me, he's about to come to my city to visit for a while in about 3 weeks, ive stayed faithful the WHOLE time, but then i just recently met a new guy who's just here on exchange and he will be leaving at the end of the semester so either of these guys won't be here with me for long, i do love my long distance bf cause we've been through alot ! and the fact he cares so much to come all the way over here he literally lives in the other side of the world...but also ive been spending alot of time with this new guy and i do like him alot aswell although i dont know his intentions yet ( like just hook up or to be a couple ) i mean tbh i thought ok so he's just looking for a hook up and we didnt do anything but kissed and he has never tried to do anything other than that with me, which to be honest its impressive cause most guys who are here just temporarily come to look for girls etc and meaningless encounters ... but he hasnt tried ANYTHING but to hold my hand kiss me and hold me even when we're at uni which to be honest seemed weird ! cause most guys here who are just fooling around wouldn't actually want to be seen with just one girl....so i feel VERY bad for my bf i mean we were finally gonna meet and he was gonna be here for quiet a long time and hes comming in about 3 weeks !! so it's like...i don't know what to do !! i wanna keep hanging with this guy and see where it leads but sometimes im dying out of guilt !! when ive been with him all day and then find out i have tons of missing texts from my bf ....and i have to lie to him about it, he has always been paranoid about me cheating and the truth is i never did !! not even close! i dont know why like i just didnt care about getting close to other guys even if it was just a one time date ! even if theye were hot and all! and this guy comes and i dont know why i agreed to go out with him ! but at the same time i dont wanna choose between the two of them ! i feel i NEED to meet the other guy cause after a very long time he is finally comming (he had trouble with money etc) but at the same time i like the idea of being with the new guy cause at least id be able to see him often of course until he finally leaves FOREVER ....and my bf i could keep seeing him through months cause he's gonna start receiving alot of money per month which means he can come more often....i dont know what to do ...... i have never done anything like this before ever :S and now im just so confused and feeling guilty !
Alright, you're cleary in a tough situation. You need to figure things out ASAP. I'd just talk to the new guy. He sounds great and caring, and just ask him what his intentions are. So confront him about it and if he wants to be in a relationship then talk about how you are going to make this work sinse it would be long distance. No he won't be gone forever ,if you can make your relationship work with your BF then you can this new guy too. I wouldn't tell your BF anything until you find out what you're going to do. Find out soon and if you decide you want to try this relationship with this new guy I would. I'd tell your boyfriend that things are complicated right now and you need to take a break. Maybe if you tell him soon enough he can put this trip on hold for awhile. Then you need to go out with this new guy some and if you truely are feeling things for him you have to end the long distant relationship with your boyfrine. Never lead someone on. Don't tell him you are dating someone but if you have to just say you're interested in someone.
I hope things workout for the best, CD Inbox me if you need to talk
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hi CD, i'm the girl in trouble with my male best friend. I tried to talk to him yesterday but he seems to be avoiding me. This sucks because I almost told him now he seems to flee when ever I'm coming. I don't know what to think, we're so awkward.plus now i'm second guessing myself. do i give him up and move on or risk it and lose him completely?
This happened to me and my boyfriend as well. Only it was the opposite when he started to mention that he liked me I freaked out and ignored him... for me it was simply because I thought that he wasn't serious and I REALLY did like him.
I'm not sure what you told him to make things awkward... but I wouldn't stop now. I mean your gonna have to talk about it the sooner the better. Fine a good time and privacy. Tell him that you like him... LIKE him LIKE him.. however you choose to word it. Be frinedly not flirty and tell him that your sorry. You clearly weren't planning on it.. it just happens. I'd tell him that its alright if doesn't feel the same and that you understand (which is a lie of course it will crush any girls feelings but we live) then see what his response is. Make sure to say that you value this friendship and don't wanna lose it. Maybe give him a couple days and see what happens. Ugh I don't know why guys have to be so complicated sometimes... In my opinion they have as much drama as girls do. I hope he comes to his senses, I'm not promising that you won't be let down.. I've learned to expect nothing and hope for the best. Let me know what happens if you want.
CD
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