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There's this boy...
Hi. I'm Penny, 17 years old, college freshman.
So, last week I think I realized that I liked my classmate. We've been classmates since the school year started and I've been sort of liking him on and off. So, anyways, now that I've established the fact that I liked him, I decided to try my best to engage in conversation.
So the other day, we were together in school because we were both headed to the same building. So it was just us two. Alone. I'd ask him a question and then he'd just answer and then it'd be quiet again. I kept going at it but it still ended the same way. We decided to eat a little before getting to class and well, whenever I said something, he'd just answer, and then it'd be quiet and then it'd be awkward. I felt so defeated it's almost as if I wanted to give up (but I don't intend to).
Anyways, there. I don't really know what to do. I've studied in an exclusive girls school for four years of high school and I think I've forgotten how to act around guys.
Aside from this, our relationship is kind of complex. I don't know if we're like friends or merely classmates. But we've been around together lately 'cause we have 3 classes together. He tends to make fun of me sometimes (and he does it to other people too, unfortunately). I tend to make fun of him as well. And somehow it's kinda weird to transition from that into idk something else? Well, idk. This is why I need advice.
So, please help me?:( I really wanna know how to handle the situation (and maybe someone could give me flirting tips and tips on what to talk about, etc.). Thanks in advance!
xoxo
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It's possible he's just shy. But you can only give him so many chances before you have to just give up; if he won't talk to you - if he just closes down every attempt at conversation - well, either he's not interested in getting to know you better, or else he's just not trying hard enough to overcome his own shyness. Either way, there's just nowhere to go.
Maybe before you give up on him (as a romantic prospect), you could ask him out for a dinner date unrelated to class. That's if you're really attracted to him. If that seems like more than you want to do right now, well - maybe make a few more attempts and then just put him the 'acquaintance' zone. Don't worry - more guys will come along.
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Alright so you need a refresher on flirting. First off make eye contact, but don't stare. You can occasionally give him a glance in class if he catches you look him in the eye for about 3 seconds then glance back to the teacher or your work, phone... something.
Do your best with your makeup ( if you don't already dab some lip gloss on... dress cute. don't go over the top)
Laugh at his jokes ( your normal laugh) and smile. Maybe next time compliment him on something... shirt... hair... anything. Maybe ask if you can look at his notes over dinner at a place a little more fancy after class. Ask him about something that will require him to talk. Where he grew up at, hometown, life goals.. whatever to get him talking and to find out more about him.
Classic flirting tip is to occasionally brush against his hand or touch his arm when you're walking together and laughing. If he has a facebook or email or something get it. If he does have a facebook don't stalk him infact I don't suggest even adding him but give him a poke.
Give it a little time and see if things change.
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