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Parents and sex
F/15I have told my parents I was thinking of having sex for he first time with my boyfriend we've been dating for about 5 monks and He is really sweet my parents agree with me and hy say it is ok to have sex with Alejandro (boyfriend) I don't understand why they said yes but me and my boyfriend are pretty happy abou them saying yes along as we use protection why did my parents say yes I dnt get it
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Your parents probably trust your boyfriend. They most likely trust you two together and know nothing will happen!
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The below answers pretty much cover all you need to know, so I'll just post a request. If your parents said yes, use this opportunity to get on birth control. Don't be satisfied with just condoms, if a condom breaks you can still end up with a baby on the way. Double protect yourself by getting on a pill, and being on it a month (without missing days or anything) before you have sex.
BC can be really cheap, your local planned parenthood can probably have you taking it for under 25 bucks a month. Ask your parents and make an investment in your future, get on birth control so you can have that and a condom making sure you don't have any accidents.
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Educate yourself, use BC, be safe.
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Well, here is a thought: Most of the time when kids tell their parents something bad... it is because they have already done it, but they don't want their parents to know they did it.
So, when a parent hears: "I want to have sex."
... what they might really be hearing from you is: "I already had sex, but I want to see how badly you react before I tell you the truth, so I will tell you I am only thinking about it."
999 out of 1000 times, the kid will be lying. In your case, you are telling the truth, but being parents, the only reason you would tell them this, in their mind, is probably because you feel guilty for what you already did.
I don't know your boyfriend, but I have been around a little longer than you, so please, PLEASE watch for danger signs:
Now that your parents said yes, if he starts talking about marriage, then makes excuses why he can't marry you, but still wants to have sex, "FOR NOW until we can get married" this is a really bad sign.
If he starts getting REALLY sexual with you where he wasn't before your parents said yes, this is a bad sign. Usually it starts with you show me yours and I will show you mine, then once you did that, he would move it one step further until you are having sex.
The usual thing they say is: "You already did the last thing, so the next thing I wanna do is ok too, right?"
If anything like that happens, you are being used for sex. No other way about it.
Please use your head. Just because your parents said "yes" doesn't mean this is a good idea, and you know it... otherwise you wouldn't be on here asking this question, right? :-)
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Your parents are probably either cool parents or they dont want to react badly because they are afraid you will rebel even further, hide things from them, or not use protection.
It's great that you can talk to your parents about it. Being open will certainly help you.
But are YOU ready for sex? Going out for five months really isn't a long time, especially when you are fifteen.
Are you prepared for the consequences? What if it isn't what you expected? What if things become awkward between you and Alejandro? There are plenty of situations where the boy has sex with the girl and then stops talking to her. Would it be okay with you if he left you after you two had sex?
Are you prepared for the pain? The first time having sex does hurt, trust me. Are you prepared to start going to the gynecologist? After you become sexually active it is important to get checked out regularly.
Have both of you been tested? Can you trust Alejandro not to have any STD's? Some symptoms go by unnoticed, so you could have seen his penis and still have no idea.
Do you have the protection you need? You have to purchase condoms, and it is also good to use two methods so maybe you should be on birth control also. You have to make sure that if the condom breaks or you skip a pill that you won't get pregnant. Are you ready for that responsibility? What if things get really heated and you forget to put on a condom?
Are you prepared if you feel different? Some girls feel weird,used,depressed, or dirty after having sex for the first time. Can you handle that if it happens?
Sex isn't a simple thing, it involves many choices and precautions and consequences. I urge you to consider all of it before doing it.
Besides, I've never heard of anyone who regretted waiting a little bit longer, just people who regretted doing it too soon.
If you make a promise with each other to wait for so long, like a year, then you will find out if he is truly dedicated and devoted to you. If he says no, then obviously he doesn't care about you as much as he should. The extra time will give you the chance to be closer to him, to learn more about each other, and to make your relationship strong WITHOUT sex. You may think you know him now, but from my experience I get to know my boyfriend a little more every day.
Whatever you do, please be smart and responsible. Give this a lot of thought, it's a big decision.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Probably because you talked to them about or told them. They probably know that you're gonna do it anyways with permission or whatever.
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