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can you like 2 people at the same time?
k so i have a huge problem... i had a long distance relationship with a guy i admit he was kind of a jerk most of the time but recently he's been doing things right, he cares and proves it to me that he loves me, he's about to come to my city to visit for a while in about 3 weeks, ive stayed faithful the WHOLE time, but then i just recently met a new guy who's just here on exchange and he will be leaving at the end of the semester so either of these guys won't be here with me for long, i do love my long distance bf cause we've been through alot ! and the fact he cares so much to come all the way over here he literally lives in the other side of the world...but also ive been spending alot of time with this new guy and i do like him alot aswell although i dont know his intentions yet ( like just hook up or to be a couple ) i mean tbh i thought ok so he's just looking for a hook up and we didnt do anything but kissed and he has never tried to do anything other than that with me, which to be honest its impressive cause most guys who are here just temporarily come to look for girls etc and meaningless encounters ... but he hasnt tried ANYTHING but to hold my hand kiss me and hold me even when we're at uni which to be honest seemed weird ! cause most guys here who are just fooling around wouldn't actually want to be seen with just one girl....so i feel VERY bad for my bf i mean we were finally gonna meet and he was gonna be here for quiet a long time and hes comming in about 3 weeks !! so it's like...i don't know what to do !! i wanna keep hanging with this guy and see where it leads but sometimes im dying out of guilt !! when ive been with him all day and then find out i have tons of missing texts from my bf ....and i have to lie to him about it, he has always been paranoid about me cheating and the truth is i never did !! not even close! i dont know why like i just didnt care about getting close to other guys even if it was just a one time date ! even if theye were hot and all! and this guy comes and i dont know why i agreed to go out with him ! but at the same time i dont wanna choose between the two of them ! i feel i NEED to meet the other guy cause after a very long time he is finally comming (he had trouble with money etc) but at the same time i like the idea of being with the new guy cause at least id be able to see him often of course until he finally leaves FOREVER ....and my bf i could keep seeing him through months cause he's gonna start receiving alot of money per month which means he can come more often....i dont know what to do ...... i have never done anything like this before ever :S and now im just so confused and feeling guilty !
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Alright, you're cleary in a tough situation. You need to figure things out ASAP. I'd just talk to the new guy. He sounds great and caring, and just ask him what his intentions are. So confront him about it and if he wants to be in a relationship then talk about how you are going to make this work sinse it would be long distance. No he won't be gone forever ,if you can make your relationship work with your BF then you can this new guy too. I wouldn't tell your BF anything until you find out what you're going to do. Find out soon and if you decide you want to try this relationship with this new guy I would. I'd tell your boyfriend that things are complicated right now and you need to take a break. Maybe if you tell him soon enough he can put this trip on hold for awhile. Then you need to go out with this new guy some and if you truely are feeling things for him you have to end the long distant relationship with your boyfrine. Never lead someone on. Don't tell him you are dating someone but if you have to just say you're interested in someone.
I hope things workout for the best, CD Inbox me if you need to talk
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