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I'm friendzoned by a friend. We are really close to each other and one time when her boyfriend left her I was by her side when she was really hurt and sad. And now she said that she is now looking for another love. And I volunteered but of course I made it a joke cuz I'm afraid I might be rejected. But then she said I must nit volunteer because she doesn't want to lose me cuz she treasures me as her brother. Wtf? I really like her and loved her but she just think me as her brother. Please help

The best way to escape friendzone is that make her long for you. You must not be available all the time when she wants to see you. I know this can be so hard but take some time about it. And also you must abolish the \"brotherly attitude\'\' which is you are too easy to ask for help and you are always with her. She can\'t feel that you have feeling for her because you are too good to her and are like his brother.

A little flirting can do. But if you are already trying it but the didn\'t work, I think it\'s time for you to have an own time for yourself. I\'m not saying that you must surrender about your feelings to her, but I\'m saying that you must let her think that it\'s not easy losing you and not all the time you are with her because you need to find someone who will complete you. But of course that\'s just a false alarm to make her think how important you are to her. And also by telling her that you are searching for someone, that way she can feel jelousy. At that case she will be preoccupied and she will be longing for you. So then she can realize that she likes you. Then after for few days, tell her that you haven\'t found someone else. Then ask her to go out. Ohh then your relationship will start to flourish.

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I have diff. Color eyebrows than my hair. I have dirty blonde hair and brown eyebrows. It makes my face look weird and my nose long which by the way is almost as big as my forehead!!!!!!!!!! Idek makeup looks weird on me and I just want to feel pretty for once. Ideas??!?!?!?

You are upset because of your beauty and you think you are ugly. I may haven\'t seen you but the fact is that you are pretty but then you just don\'t realize your unique features.

Having a blonde hair whilst the eyebrows are different colour, that is completely normal. You fon\'t have to be upset about it because that features are unique in you and you should be proud of it. I will give you some times on how to get along with make up and do other styles but first lemme try to imply an example that you shoulfn\'t be upset at your looks. I have a very dark eyes, hair and brows whilst my skin is coloured yellowish-brown and sometimes I would be darker. And when I visit another place, people are racist because I\'m not white and I\'m ugly. So then I managed to look new however I didn\'t change the whole me, just hair. Even I\'m totally different from the people in another place, I\'m still proud of my beauty because I\'m beautiful and I believe it.

okey here are some basic tips:
try to dye your hair to brown. And or style it to an ombre hair.
Try a new hair cut too
and also apply some light make ups that would blend to your look. Watch some make up tutorials in youtube, for sure it will help alot. You should dress cute and blend in new fashion. And also if your problem is you nose, do some nose contour to make it appear smaller. Get some light brown make up with a small circle brush. Point the brush to the tip of your eyebrows then from it make a straight line through to the end of your nose and do it as well to the other side. Watch nose contouring on youtube and some make up tips as well as hair colour styles.

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I just had bought a hamster and I'm confused what should be its name. By the way my hamster is boy.

Hamsters are really cute. I\'m planning to have hamsters too and I got a list of the possible names for it.
-Hammy
-Hamtaro
-Chum Chum
-Jibly
-Giggle
-Martini
-Andy

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We will be dating for the first time and I don't know what should I give to her because I don't have an idea. Can you help me please? Thank you

If you don\'t want to ask about what she like coz you want to surprise her, then there lots of other ways. One of the best way to ask what she likes is let her guess of the things that you will possible give to her. And of course through guessing, she\'ll guess all of her favorite stuffs to be received. So you will know what to give. And also let her make her wishlist. So she can write of all the things she like.

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facebook says "no displayable content" why is this?

I\'ve noticed this question a few times. Probably you are using your mobile phone that is not compatible to the site or the mobile model has low version to access the site. The problem about no displayable content usually occurs on mobile phones.

Or probably the link of picture,video, or status is private so it won\'t let you view. And also probably the link was flagged down due to some instances like it was banned or blocked because of some malicious content. And other cause was the link on the facebook was removed. Let\'s say you are given a link of a picture but it says like that because it was removed already so you have no access to that link you are supposed to view.

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Ok I'm 11 and I have a crush but I don't know if he likes me I ask him and he won't tell me what am I doing wroungh

Okey first, you don\'t need to ask him this time if he likes you because that would be awkward. And of course he won\'t tell you that he likes you because he is afraid he might be rejected. And also the reason why he won\'t tell you about it because probably he still doubt about his feelings for you and also he probably felt awkwardness. However, except through asking, you can still somehow know whether he has feelings for you or not in so many different ways.

You can spy him through facebook or twitter and fir sure you can find out who he likes. Well, you can know if he likes you by asking one if his close friends. Be close to him and be friendly. Then if you are very close to each other, well he may be comfortable in expressing his feelings.

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What do you do when your significant other is kind of a jerk but knows it and is depressed about it and trying to change?

My boyfriend is a complicated person. He is extremely smart, logical and straightforward. He is loyal, honest, and fair. But these qualities make him terrible with people and relationships. He just doesn't get niceties, emotions, or how to relate with people. He is kind of dry and very serious. He can't pretend to enjoy something is he doesn't.

This brings me to my problem. He has slowly been losing his friends because he's been depressed and realized that people don't like him because of the way he is. Everyone is put off by his nature and they think he always has a stick up his butt. I don't know what to do because to me he opens up about how much he doesn't want to be the way he is but he just doesn't understand/trust/believe in people. He's always gotten bad reactions from them. He is extremely afraid of ending up alone and clings to me because I'm the only one who understands.

Slowly my friends started noticing this and I've noticed they contact me less to hangout. It was minimal and I tried to ignore it until the other day they told me I wasn't allowed to invite him to hang out with them because they don't want him there.

I don't know what to do. I know he has issues but he is a good person that just doesn't get people. He is not disrespectful or rude or anything. I feel bad leaving him because I know he's good but I feel like I am losing all my friends because I'm choosing to stay with him.

I don't know what to do. They do understand he's difficult but it's not their problem to stick by him or me until he changes. I'm stuck. Help?

Your boyfriend is complicated in the way he is. The best way you can do is not to leave your boyfriend. He needs you and you are the only one who can get along with him. If your another option is to leave him because of your friends, you are being so unfair not only to your boyfriend but to yourself.

Don\'t leave your boyfriend unless he trashes you already or hurt you. Encourage him to change not for you but for himself. If he decline to change something in his attitude or emotions, help him to understand the way why people treat him like that. As you\'ve mentioned, he hardly trust and believe people and also he is afraid to end up being alone, probably he has anxiety disorder but just unnoticeable. Ask him about what bothers him and his difficulties and then talk to him about it briefly. If his problems are the cause to his situation now, probably he must seek a personal counselor about it.

He must see a counselor to help him figure out what to do and for him to able to cope up with his situation. And you too could evaluate yourself about him by seeing a counselor. He needs guidance and support, and yes you are there and his family but an expert about some narrow problems about him can dig up to his situation and can possibly help him through.

And also, for your friends, if they don\'t like him because of his personality or attitude, they don\'t care about it. If they don\'t want to hangout with you because of him explain them about it that your boyfriend needs support and thats why you are with him.

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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand?

A coronary heart disease is the most common heart disease. It is caused when the plaque caused by excess cholesterol buildup in the artery of the heart. And when it happens, the artery of the became narrowed so it would cause difficulty in breathing and heart attack and the blood flow slows and or stop.

Symptoms may be very noticeable, but sometimes you can have the disease and not have any symptoms. This is especially true in the early stages of heart disease. Chest pain or discomfort (angina) is the most common symptom. You feel this pain when the heart is not getting enough blood or oxygen. How bad the pain is varies from person to person.It may feel heavy or like someone is squeezing your heart. You may feel it under your breast bone (sternum), but also in your neck, arms, stomach, or upper back.
The pain usually occurs with activity or emotion, and goes away with rest or a medicine called nitroglycerin.Other symptoms include shortness of breath and fatigue with activity (exertion).


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I've met this girl. And we're friends for a month now. I like her so much and wanted to ask her out. I got her number and we texted til' morning. Pls help me

As you\'ve said that you are getting closer to her, why not tell her a topic that would lead into asking her out? like for instance, ask her what is the good thing to do this weekend and or if she is busy. Then at the middle of your convo, ask her out. Don\'t be shy to ask. Just be confident and be cool.

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i have a crush and when I talk to her, she avoids me. Then when we sat together in a group I asked her some questions about the topic we are about to discuss but she just said I don't know and why not ask Sally. She avoids me and ignores me. i'm totally hurt. Pls help me

Probably your crush was intimidated at you or she just don\'t like you. Maybe she just feel awkward when you need closer to her. The best thing you can do is that you should ask her why is she avoiding you and if still she won\'t talk to you, ask her closest friend about it.

Talk to her sincerely and tell her that she is important to you and you want to make friends with her because she is nice and good. So start to express yourself and make friends with her then ask her out.

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I like this girl since we were 8th grader. however she just think we're siblings. i don't know what to do. How to escape from being friendzoned?

Being in a platonic relationship is quite hard to get out. However if you exert your full effort, you can get her heart and start to date her.

You should not be available all the time as she calls for help, be a stone-hearted for awhile so that she could realize your worth and value. And also try to express your feelings for her as you talk. In your conversations, try to take on a topic that would lead about your feelings towards her. Like for instance, your topic is about love. Then ask her what she looks for on a guy. And if she\'ll tell you everything, tell her that you have all of them and the only thing that is lacking is a girl that looks the same standards of her (start to flirt) and also try to throw some puns to improve your humour. Girls love guys with great sense of humour. So just be cool and take her seriously.

i have a link that would help you also.
http://www.wikihow.com/Escape-the-Friend-Zone

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Is it safe for me to colour my pet into blue and green? It's a dog.

If you are using hair colourant for human, The answer is NO. human hair colourant can be dangerous to animals because it has toxic chemicals that can damage their skin or their organs. And also they might be allergic of it. So try to consider using food colouring if you want to dye your pet. It\'s much safer and also it won\'t cause an allergic in case your pet licks its self.

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i workout every other day. I do lifts and other hard and heavy exercise. But my mom said it's not good for me because I'm just 16. Is she right?

Your mom is somehow right. However weightlifting can be beneficial to you but take a consideration about how much does it weigh for you to avoid muscle problems. Avoid lifting weights for more than 10kgs. Lift weights at just your age. It depends on your age. And also try exercises that you don\'t need to lift like push-ups or bar hanging. It can also build your muscles.

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I'm 13 male. i'm wondering if I'm still normal because I still have m y imaginary friends. I have them since when I was still 4 or younger. And now I'm totally worried if i'm going crazy or what. Please help me. I"m afraid to tell this to my mom and or to my friends because it's embarrassing. Please do help me. Thnk you.

Having an imaginary friends is actually normal. Nothing\'s wrong with you except if you always think that you have. The reason why you have an imaginary friend is that there may be something lacking in you when you were still younger. You shouldn\'t worry about it because your brain just found a way to cope up from the things in which are lacking in you, so then your brain created an imaginary friend. probably you had few or no friends when you were younger. it just simply means that you are creative and your natural creativity is your imaginary friends. I have link for you explaining about imaginary friends.

http://daphnierealityofmind.blogspot.com/2014/04/creativity-rules-mind-imaginary-friends.html

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He always yells at me and bosses me,and any time I get upset he mocks me, and some things he calls me like a gerk or bitch or asshole really hurts my feelings. But he doesn't care, he yells at me so loudly, and charges at me, and sometimes he slaps me, then claims he just taps me, but just now he made my thumb sting numbly, it's hard to explain. But a few times he left red marks. I kind of got used to it, and it's not just me, he screams at the top of his lungs at my 3 year old autistic brother, wich is harsh, don't you think? I've also heard him call my mom a hoar and a hoe and a stupid bitch, and other horrible names, and I'm not even going to share what he does to my sister. Once he took one of our cars (we've got 2) and didn't come back for a couple days. Honestly, I would rather my parents get a divorce. What should I do?

That dad is mentally ill. You need to report your dad to the police and show them the marks that your dad left if they are still showing up. Talk to your mom and tell her that your dad is totallly wrong. And tell her that you are totally agree that they will get divorce.

You are verbally and physically abused by your dad and so is your mom. Next time he comes home and still abuse you, call the police immediately or if he stops you go to your neighbours and ask help from them.

Be safe. I hope this help

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Well, you see, my mom is mad at me for having low grades. She blames me for being too lazy. She keeps telling me stories that their mom and dad teached them to do their homework and din't have to help, so why should she. They keep saying my brother and I are a failure in school. But when I ask them if they think were a failure she denies it she keeps explaining that it's not what she means. But I'll get to the point here, my mom taught me idek but about just 48% in life. And she expects me to be perfect? What the fck? Sorry for the words but yeah.
How do I talk to her about this cause she's been in a really bad mood lately. And I have been cutting myself because my mom thinks I'm not good enough. I mean she can't expect me to act like the way she did when she was my age! In my generation, I hate to say this, but you have to fit in! Imagine letting a person from 1887 teach a human in 2014 how to live! I'm sorry for the explaination for being too mesy but I hope you get it. And, I've been bullied recently (my mom knows and she's doing something about it) so I, too, get depressed. I cut myself, a lot. I mean, I don't give her additional problems, but why she giving me some? :( I feel so enraged to the point that I want to leave the house with all my stuff and scream at my mom. You get me? :(

I think that probably most of moms are like your mom coz my mom is like that too. However, they are just being like that because they want us to achieve more.

I understand you. And cutting is not a solution to that. When I was highschool, I used to be an honour student but when I was senior I wasn\'t able to get into the honour roll coz I did something stupid and almost kicked me out. And my mom almost killed me and I tried to commit suicide alot. Your mom is teaching you lessons in here generation to your generation and it feels like it\'s so sucks. However you still need to listen because it is good for you.

You need to talk to your mom about it. Tell your mom that it is hurting you. And also tell your mom that telling you and your brother about being failure is causing you suicidal thoughts. However, you need to study harder and next grading you should get higher grades to impress your mom. I mean that you don\'t need to impress her all the time to be called a perfect daughter but to prove her wrong that you\'re not a failure.

Stop cutting yourself, it\'ll just make you a total failure. I know that you are smart kid. Try to achieve more of what you can and if it so, then your mom will be so proud of you.

Your mom is a good mom and just want you to aim more. And she is proud of you however she just wants you to get higher grades and achieve more so she is being like that. You need to understand your mom.

Hope this help.

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I've been cutting lately. I just moved for the quite literal 10th time and the last place I lived I actually made friends and a boyfriend for the first time, so it realllly depresses me to leave (I'm a teenage girl by the way). Also I'm bisexual but can't tell my parents because they don't believe in anything except straight. If I told them my dad would probably yell at me and/or hit me and my mother wouldn't take me seriously and/or say that it's "just a phase" (it's been a while, I know for certain that it's not a phase). Finally, I'm not really excepted here at my new school, so that just adds on the pressure. All of these emotions are putting me on sensory overload and it's causing me to cut. I barely cut deep enough cause anything more than a scratch because I don't want my mom to know but I'm afraid that it will progress into something worse. Finally I have a demented perception of beauty so I think that the scars are beautiful in their own way. What can I do to stop cutting???? Please help!

I\'m also a bisexual and my parents won\'t believe me. I tried suicide at one time. But to tell you, cutting and other forms of suicide are not the good way to escape problems. I can understand why you are cutting yourself.

Life is too short to miss all the wonderful things in the world. If you still continue to cut yourself you\'ll lose coz depression only last for a little while while the worth of happiness brought by great experiences in the world last forever.

The best way to get rid of depression is keeping yourself alive. That meand that you must keep busy, interact people at school and make friends with them. You should engage in a new hobby and search for new things. Make friends in your new school and meet new guys. Don\'t think that you don\'t belong coz you are and you are worthy to be accepted. I was also forcedfully transferred into a school that I really hate. I left my boyfriend and the close friends for long and it really caused me a great depression. But that school where I transferred changed me alot and accepted me for veing a bisexual even I was a total rebel at that school and almost being kicked. So, I believe that you can start a new beautiful journey in your school even you hate it. Soon, you will have good friends and start a new love then. So don\'t get depressed.

Try to get involve in sports. Go out and hang out with friends so you will not think of your problems always. Try a new look, like customizing your look into a skater girl or anything you like to. Be happy all the time coz you will be more beautiful if you are happy. And also stay out of troubles as it will caused you more depression. And also find friends that you share common interests and friends that are like you.

I hope this help and be safe.

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A freaky weirdo who hangs around without an ID and tried to abduct two kids after school lives unpunished near my school, and I don't wanna go to school any more, what if he's stalking me, or tries to harm me? I'm only 10 and I don't wanna die or be tortured and raped! We have cops and all parents and teachers have been alerted of this, but I wanna hide and never go to my school again! What should I do?

Don't try to worry too much. There will be nothing to happen to you. Just be alert. Never walk alone and always be with your buddies whenever you walk. If you sensed that he\'s stalking you, call the cops immediately and tell your parents and the teachers.

If you worry about it too much, your studies will be affected and it will turn up to the point that you are ruining it and end up failing. And you don\'t want this to happen so go to school and worry less about it.

Ask your dad to send you to school and pick you up after school so you will be more safe.

I hope this help.

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I'm a 14 year old girl and my nails are disgusting, the white bits are peeling off and it's embarresing too! I cut my nails once a week and I use Avon cream which Is supposed to keep your nails nice but it doesn't seem to work? Is it because I'm not getting enough of something?
Someone please help! I want to have nice nails :)

Nails are made up of substance callef Keratin. Try to eat healthy foods and have specific nutrients that can make your nail look nice and strengthen it.

Eat foods with this following nutrients:
1. Protein- green leafy veggies, eat eggs, meats and other foods that are rich of protein. It can make your nail healthier and longer.
2. Iron- if you have curvy and ridged nails it is a sign that you lack of iron. Iron defeciency is called anemia. Eat lots of seafoods especially shellfish. Eat lots of veggies too. And take an iron supplement. (ferrous sulfate).
3. Zinc-A lack of zinc in your diet could be the reason your nails are weak or not growing. It’s also a lack of zinc that can cause the white spots many of us notice on our nails. If you have any of these issues, it’s time to eat more of this important mineral. Oysters are rich in zinc, as are pumpkin seeds, sesame seeds, lamb, beef, and oats.
4. Biotin
The B-vitamin Biotin promotes healthy cell growth and helps the body metabolize protein-building amino acids – all good things when it comes to helping nails grow stronger and healthier. A supplement is the easiest way to get Biotin into your diet, especially when you consider that you have to take it regularly to see results. But if you prefer to get your vitamins the natural way, you can find Biotin in foods like swiss chard (a top source), eggs, wheat germ, whole grains, and salmon.

I hope this help.

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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm pretty sure this isn't normal. It's usually every morning I wake up with soaked underwear, it doesn't smell that nice either. During the day it's nit so bad but it's still happening, it's very uncomftable. I find that whenever I need to pee I all of a sudden become very desperate to go and I can't hold it in for that long and if I don't go I can't hold it in. I don't want to have to wear a panty liner or something like that, any ideas on what this could be?
I'm too scared to tell my parents about it as I would be embarrassed and I really don't want to have to go and see a doctor unless I really have to.
Thanks.

That is perfectly normal sweetie. That is called vaginal Discharge. It usually occurs and or varies during your menstrual cycle or whenever you get sexually aroused. One of the reason why you wake up with wet underwear is that while you were sleeping, you ejaculated fluids and that is called wet dreams.

You should wear panty liners and change them as often as you want to avoid vaginal itchiness and rashes. Those vaginal discharges are the natural way to clean itself. The ph balance of vagina is acidic and that means it has a good bacteria to protect itself from infections.

You don\'t need to worry about vaginal discharges and secretions unless it would have a weird colour like green or yellow and has a cheesy smell and if that so I would suggest you to see a doctor.

However there are kinds of vaginal secretions :

Clear and strechy-means thats you are fertile or ovulating
clear and watery-this occurs after you do a heavy exercise and occurs usually at different cycles.
Thickish white- this occurs at the start and end of your mens cycle. However if it constitute with itchiness around the vulva, probably it is a sign of yeast infection.
Red-means that you are near in your period
Brown- occurs after your period. It is the natural way of cleansing after your period.
Green and yellow- means of infection.

And don\'t worry about the strong smell. To get rid of the smell, eat alot of oranges and citrus.

I hope this will help.

\'blueheart\'

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