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Cutting
I've been cutting lately. I just moved for the quite literal 10th time and the last place I lived I actually made friends and a boyfriend for the first time, so it realllly depresses me to leave (I'm a teenage girl by the way). Also I'm bisexual but can't tell my parents because they don't believe in anything except straight. If I told them my dad would probably yell at me and/or hit me and my mother wouldn't take me seriously and/or say that it's "just a phase" (it's been a while, I know for certain that it's not a phase). Finally, I'm not really excepted here at my new school, so that just adds on the pressure. All of these emotions are putting me on sensory overload and it's causing me to cut. I barely cut deep enough cause anything more than a scratch because I don't want my mom to know but I'm afraid that it will progress into something worse. Finally I have a demented perception of beauty so I think that the scars are beautiful in their own way. What can I do to stop cutting???? Please help!
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I'm also a bisexual and my parents won't believe me. I tried suicide at one time. But to tell you, cutting and other forms of suicide are not the good way to escape problems. I can understand why you are cutting yourself.
Life is too short to miss all the wonderful things in the world. If you still continue to cut yourself you'll lose coz depression only last for a little while while the worth of happiness brought by great experiences in the world last forever.
The best way to get rid of depression is keeping yourself alive. That meand that you must keep busy, interact people at school and make friends with them. You should engage in a new hobby and search for new things. Make friends in your new school and meet new guys. Don't think that you don't belong coz you are and you are worthy to be accepted. I was also forcedfully transferred into a school that I really hate. I left my boyfriend and the close friends for long and it really caused me a great depression. But that school where I transferred changed me alot and accepted me for veing a bisexual even I was a total rebel at that school and almost being kicked. So, I believe that you can start a new beautiful journey in your school even you hate it. Soon, you will have good friends and start a new love then. So don't get depressed.
Try to get involve in sports. Go out and hang out with friends so you will not think of your problems always. Try a new look, like customizing your look into a skater girl or anything you like to. Be happy all the time coz you will be more beautiful if you are happy. And also stay out of troubles as it will caused you more depression. And also find friends that you share common interests and friends that are like you.
I hope this help and be safe.
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Its a tough economy. Perhaps Dad had trouble finding working and then keeping it. I don't know what he does for a living but some job require moving around, like finishing a work project and moving on to the next location. Thats something you really have no control over. All you really have control over is your own thoughts and feelings and reactions to a bad situation. You're not the only one. Theres others who've written that have to move often and its affecting their life too.
About being bisexual, there are support groups for anything if you go looking hard enough. When you're in a difficult situation, sometimes its helpful to be surrounded with others who have to face the same things. You don't have time to find friends and grow that level of trust needed to open up and share such a thing and they may not be bi anyways. Its easier to find others like you and thats one great thing about the internet, there are groups like that and though you dont really know them, it's easier to talk to an accepting understanding stranger on line sometimes. Heres a link to one teen group with 121 members. Hopefully you find and join more.
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There's another but I dont think its strictly for teens and has people of all ages. over 2000 members
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I am not sure what to say about not being accepted. Usually it takes a group of people some time to warm up to a new comer. How long have you been at the new school? I remember as an adult joining a club of people interested in the same pastime. Something silly like that and all people did was sit or stand there and stare and watch me and not approach. Humans are funny that way, watching and waiting for someone else to approach you first to see how friendly you are, how you handle yourself, if you seem fun to be around, if you seem to have low self confidence. So the thing to do that makes people more likely to approach you is looking upbeat, happy, friendly, in love with life, interesting, and fun to be around. Looking interesting in a way that makes them want to get to know you is going to be hard when you are already depressed. So perhaps its the way you look and act being depressed thats causing the other kids to not be quick to accept you. It is depressing to be hanging out with someone depressing. I think some counseling may be helpful with what you describe to be your feelings regarding cutting. You know by now that cutting only distracts you and doesnt improve your situation. Why keep trying the same thing if it doesnt work? I suggest you go to a school counselor and tell them what you told us and ask them to find you some help if there is any that can help.You can't know exactly how your parents will react if they found out about being bisexual. Some are so against something that is different than what they grew up with but flip and switch to being supportive when they find out a family member is gay or whatever and realise they've been narrow minded and judgemental. Others do not change at all and harrass the family member. Sometimes its helpful to have another adult break the news in a situation like this, someone looking out for your welfare in this. I don't know how well schools are set up to refer teens to help agencies. If you have an adult sibling or adult cousin who may be openminded and supportive, you might go to them first and perhaps they could stand with you when you tell the parents if thats what you want to do.
I know of some things a person can try to get rid of depression but yours would be instantly back due to things you have no control to change like parents moving often and your natural sexual preferance. So I couldnt tell you how to stop cutting because the things that cause you to be depressed enough to cut are still going to be there. It makes more sense to work on the situations. At the very least let them know how depressed you are from the constant moving and not being able to have any long lasting friendships. If you must, tell them know you want some counseling for the depression cus you don't want to end up doing something to harm yourself. If they ask what, say I don't know but I am my wits end and upset enough to do something that could end up badly. Let them think what they want, suicide or whatever, but what matters is that they agree to get you in for counseling. second choice if they aren't taking you seriously is to see a school counselor .
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Look i know cutting seems like the answer but its not. You feel like you dont belong because you may be different in way but the truth is you belong just as much as the other girls in your school. Its all about doing some soul searching and finding yourself and accepting who you are. Once your comfortable with who you are you'll find it easier to make friends. Right now focus on making yourself feel better try a new hairstyle,hair colour, change your look a bit, get involved in an activity (music,sports,social group) whatever it takes to make yourself comfortable in your own skin. Than from there starting talking to people at school or if you take up a sport or any group talk to people in that group and make friends that way. Take baby steps and eventually youll find that you wont need to cut to feel better. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me :)
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