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mean dad
He always yells at me and bosses me,and any time I get upset he mocks me, and some things he calls me like a gerk or bitch or asshole really hurts my feelings. But he doesn't care, he yells at me so loudly, and charges at me, and sometimes he slaps me, then claims he just taps me, but just now he made my thumb sting numbly, it's hard to explain. But a few times he left red marks. I kind of got used to it, and it's not just me, he screams at the top of his lungs at my 3 year old autistic brother, wich is harsh, don't you think? I've also heard him call my mom a hoar and a hoe and a stupid bitch, and other horrible names, and I'm not even going to share what he does to my sister. Once he took one of our cars (we've got 2) and didn't come back for a couple days. Honestly, I would rather my parents get a divorce. What should I do?
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That dad is mentally ill. You need to report your dad to the police and show them the marks that your dad left if they are still showing up. Talk to your mom and tell her that your dad is totallly wrong. And tell her that you are totally agree that they will get divorce.
You are verbally and physically abused by your dad and so is your mom. Next time he comes home and still abuse you, call the police immediately or if he stops you go to your neighbours and ask help from them.
Be safe. I hope this help
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What your dad is doing is abuse. Mom is being abused too and at this point doesnt have enough personal strength to reach out for help. It is not okay to hit another person ever. trying to hit you and missing, is assault, actually making contact is called battery and both are misdemeanors. If mom can't be strong enough to call for help, you'll have to. What you need to do is call the police. He'll probably get fined for the offense and it goes on record but probably wont go to jail. If calling the police doesnt get him to shape up and treat you all better, CPS needs to be called in to help. Its Child protective services, if there is no mark on you to prove it at the time, it may be hard to prove and they may not be able to do anything about it until they have some proof. Laws may have changed since i last had contact with cps. I cant say for sure.
It is also good to talk to a school counselor about it right now. tomorrow. don't wait until he hits you again. They will contact the right people to help you. It must be something awful if you can't share what happens to your sister. All you kids are going to need some major counseling some day in order to lead a somewhat normal adult life. If Dad isn't hitting but is forcing your sister to do things against her will that involve anything sexual, taking nude photos, touching her sexually or forcing her to have sex, thats a crime. The authorities need to know.
My ex was verbally abusive towards me most the time, the kids sometimes but never hit the kids. Just witnessing the verbal abuse was enough to mess up all of my 3 girls emotionally. One is still trying to work through it on her own cus she can't afford counseling but wants it, the middle daughter has problems starting a healthy relationship with a guy and is afraid of them as far as opening up to be emotionally intimate with and trusting them. At 25, she's still single with 3 crash and burn relationships in her past. The youngest found a boyfriend from what I've heard from relatives, who is somewhat like her dad, not as bad but it's not the healthiest relationship and she has to put in all the effort while he puts none. Don't think bad treatment like this wont have repercussions later, even if its mostly yelling and verbal abuse. The verbal kind in some ways is worse than the other cus theres nothing to see for others to get you some help.
So no matter who he is attacking next, call for help. If the only phone is in plain sight where he can see or hear you, leave the house and go to a neighbors asking to use the phone to call the police. Any neighbor woould be concerned and willing to allow you to do so. Just dial 911 and explain whats going on. Once the authorities have enough calls out to your house with your dad being the offender, they may step in to get him the professional mental health he needs, he'll be taken away for a psychological exam and put into treatment for whatever is causing him to be this way. Its not going to stop and can only get worse if you say nothing.
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Talk to your mom about everything going on at home and how you feel unsafe and if that doesnt work talk to a school counsellor or teacher they will help you. What your dad is doing is abuse and its wrong and the only way to stop him is to get help and make him realize that hes wrong.
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