|
I need advise
Ok I'm 11 and I have a crush but I don't know if he likes me I ask him and he won't tell me what am I doing wroungh
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
at this age i had alot of "male admirers" too, and because i didnt want to put them in that awkward place or myself, i would just be really good friends, invite him to go places and do stuff with you (with or without friends is fine) but SHOW him that youve invited him into your inner most circle of people so he gets comfortable.
Then slowly over time talk to him and make sure he knows that he can talk to you about anything! be playful, and pull little innocent pranks on him, so hes always surprised by you! boys seem to like that at least in what ive experienced. Just REALLY turn yourself into his best female friend without over whelming him or smothering him. invite him to do stuff but if he says no or that he cant, dont act hurt, just say you were thinking of him and thought he might have fun but that its ok if he cant and that you understand and maybe next time. ; )
boys at this age are usually pretty simple creatures and if you can build a deep emotional bond, then you will stick with him alot of times for life. (im 27 and married and i STILL have guys that i knew from that age that still deeply care for me) they still make really good friends years later down the line too, even if your with someone else they'll still always want to be there for you. ; ) good luck sweetie.
]
You are the one crushing on him. Just because that is the case doesn't mean he necessarily feels exactly the same, having a crush on you too. He may be just friendly as a fellow classmate or even just a friend but not be attracted to you as a boyfriend. This is life! So in all likelihood, you may not be doing anything wrong so your question to him just confuses him and so he says nothing at all because he really can't point out anything wrong.
Lets say the roles were reversed. Some guy whom you are not interested in romantically has had a crush on you forever. He walks up to you one day and asks you, what am I doing wrong? When I pay attention to you, you don't respond to me in return as if you'd like to be my girlfriend? How would you answer that?
Now if you just weren't clear in explaining to me and he's someone you've crushed on and he has done things like smile at you alot and say hi to you and find excuses to be near you or paid attention to you by teasing you, or finding reasons to accidently touch you, then he does like you. At this age, girls and guys dont know much how to pick up these kinds of clues. And even fewer are bold enough to say that they like someone or are attracted to them. So if he's giving off real signs but not asking you to hang out with him or date him, then its probably due to not knowing how to. If this is truly the case that he is acting like a guy interested in you, then theres no reason you can't just ask him out first which he'd jump at the chance and say yes if he thinks about you that way. If you read the signs wrong, and he says no...then at least you tried. Learn from these venturings into attractions, interacting with guys and dating and you'll be ahead of the game.
]
Okey first, you don't need to ask him this time if he likes you because that would be awkward. And of course he won't tell you that he likes you because he is afraid he might be rejected. And also the reason why he won't tell you about it because probably he still doubt about his feelings for you and also he probably felt awkwardness. However, except through asking, you can still somehow know whether he has feelings for you or not in so many different ways.
You can spy him through facebook or twitter and fir sure you can find out who he likes. Well, you can know if he likes you by asking one if his close friends. Be close to him and be friendly. Then if you are very close to each other, well he may be comfortable in expressing his feelings.
]
More Questions: |