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I just started a website called "Teensy Triumphs".
Users basically just drop by to share an accomplishment and to support that of others.
here is the link: http://teensytriumphs.yolasite.com/#/
do you think it's a good concept?
how can I improve?
Also, feel free to post on the forum :) (link)
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Hi, I really like this idea for a website! I was just thinking yesterday, how sometimes as a parent to two littlies, it seems like such a huge thing to get something (which would normally be little) done, as I am just so darn busy making food, feeding, cleaning, changing nappies, playing, teaching, etc, etc, and how good it is to celebrate those small, yet at the same time magnificent achievements!
Are you still interested in running this website?
If you are let me know as I would love to blog on it.
I definately think you should update it, with your new details. Also, when you detailed yourself your end sentence saying that you don't seem very interesting, is such a downer and doesn't match the site. Starting a website like this is a great and interesting thing, and you should be proud of it, and kick that low self esteem in the butt!
I am really interested in if you are going to start this up again! Daily achievements of your own would be really good to read :-) Then a major mailout to everyone we know asking them to join or read it, perhaps? Not spamming, but people who like us who may be interested.
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i have a herpes sore that just wont heal.could a herpes outbreak turn in to a staph infection after so much time has passed without it actually healing up? is there a such thing as a vaginal staph infection??are there vitamins that i can take to help it heal faster?? (link)
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Hi there! There is an amino acid that naturally occurs in your body, called L-Lysine.
When you run low, herpes can break out.
Luckily you can by this in health food stores and pharmacies.
You can take a tablet a day to keep it away, or 'load' whwn you have an outbreak by havin 2-4 tablets per day. Check with your pharmacist/homeopath as this may vary depending on the strength they sell.
This is very effective!
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Me and my boyfriend lets call him Kyle, have been going out for 4 years. We have never kissed or even hugged. The most we have done is hold hands. How should I go about kissing him? (link)
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I read the other questions you have asked, and one of them said you are trying to pick between three guys at the moment. Is 'Kyle' one of them?
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so I said yes to go to prom with this guy. he isn't the best looking but he's really nice so i couldn't say no. he's just one of those guys that i can't picture dancing with though :/ what do i do? (link)
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Hi,
You do dance with him! If he is nice even though not good looking or good at dancing, and you don't dance with him, you will be very shallow and cold hearted.
Plus, you may have a good time, just chatting and dancing as mates.
It's an honor to be asked by someone, and if you are planning on not dancing, then you should have said no so he could at least ask someone who would be nice and dance with him.
So, you be the nice one!
He's not going to ask you to marry him, but in all honesty, marrying a nice guy who is less good looking would be better for you that dating a really great looking guy who turns out to be awful with anger issues or as a cheat! And plenty of average looking guys end up looking really lusty at 30, and the guys who looked great in high school look bad by 30! Go figure!
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Me and my boyfriend were watching a movie.and He randomly started touching my boob and rubbing it and I didnt mind it to much so I let it go. He then started rubbing up and down my arm but when I did the same to him his penis rose up in his pants( so much that I could see it) It was very awkward and I dont really want it to happen again lol WHAT DO I DO? (link)
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Hi,
If you don't want to get in that awkward situation, don't start the physical stuff, like rubbing, etc. Guys always start small then work onto bigger stuff, and they will become aroused, and you will see it!
He didn't randomly start rubbing your boob. He would have thought about it for ages trying to get the courage up to do it, and guessing what your reaction might be.
If you let him get away with one small thing, next time he will try that and something bigger.
Try doing different stuff where you are actually busy, but can still be together, enjoying hanging out with each other, like go for a bike ride, rock climbing, walk the dog, do some volunteering somewhere. Anything where you are not in a place to sit, relax and have him start the physical stuff.
I also read your other questions that you had previously written in, and I think your mum would be disappointed if you had sex. It needs to be that you try and hold out, instead of hide it from you. She knows that it will be the best thing for you and she is right.
Your virginity is a once in a lifetime gift to give away, and while you may be really into your boyfriend, I think that when you finally marry your husband, he will be gutted if you gave such and important gift to your boyfriend when you were 15.
And if this guy ends up being your husband, he will be stoked he waited, as anticipation makes it soooo much better. Marriage sex is great! No hassles, no worries about bumming people out, and if you get pregnant it's a joy not an issue! (contraception doesn't work 100% of the time)
Think about your future husband!
I hope this helps, and if you have any further questions I would love to answer them.
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ok well when my bf uses a condom i am only 12 so how much would sex hurt ??????? (link)
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A couple of things.
First, your virginity is a once only special gift that you can give to someone. You will not marry this guy you are with now, so your husband will probably be bummed out if you didn't wait to give him your most special gift, seeing as he loves you so much to marry you. If your current boyfriend does love you that much, get him to prove it, by being with you until you are 18 and then marrying you. Then you will have proof that he loves you and deserves this once only special gift you have to give away.
Secondly, have you had your period yet? If you have (and actually even if you havent, but are just about to get it for the first time) you can still get preganant even if you use condoms, the pill, and other forms of contracteption.
The reason that I am saying this is because if you are worried about the size of his penis with a condom hurting you, you should think about how much a baby's head will hurt you! It hurts grown women who's hips have expanded and who have bigger vagina's that have had lots of sex, so it would really hurt, and could possibly damage you.
Anyway, if you wait until you get married, the sex is WAY better, and you have no regrets.
Don't be bullied or pressured into this. And even if you are interested, maybe reconsider, cos once your virginity is gone you can't get it back. It has to go to the right person, and even if he seems really good now, how will your husband feel?
Try doing something to fill up your time, so you feel good, but don't have a lot of spare time to think about this, like volunteering somewhere. A lot of places would love some help.
If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. We love to help! And most of us here have been through a heck of a lot, and have some great ideas!
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My son is 4 years old not even close to 5 yet. He is involed in a pre school. He has a speech problem which got better with speech therepy but his ear drum had burst and they put new tubes in but his speech has gotten worse again. He doesnt try or doesnt even focus in school. His teacher and speech teacher say they know he could do it and get better if hed just try. I cut the sugar way down in his diet no soda or anything. he can have a little sugar like every other day. His behavior is awful you can tell him the same thing 20 times and he still wont listen. if he finds something he likes hell do it. he unloaded a truck of wood the other day then swept the truck out didnt want any help and did it all him self. wouldnt stop until it was all done. hes a good kid i just dont know what to do about his behavior its getting so hard to handle. I think he has ADHD his doctor thinks so to. He did blood work that showed his thyriod elevated and is sending him to a Behavioral clinic to be evaluated. but all this stuff takes so long. (link)
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Hi, I am qualified and experienced in both junior school teaching (5-7 year olds), and audiology (hearing testing and hearing aids), just to let you know a bit about where this advice is coming from.
I really feel that you need to get him to an audiologist for a complete hearing test. Not just a tympanogram where they check the ear drum.
I have seen a case like this before, where the boy was so severly deaf, yet it never got picked up until I tested him at 12, at a country show, for free. The sad thing was, by that stage he was in foster care, and was continually being shifted from family to family due to his poor behaviour.
The reason people didn't click that he was deaf was because he was very good at lip reading and also reading peoples behaviour.
The reason people thought he had crappy behaviour was because they could be right behind him and talk to him and it seemed as if he just wanted to do his own thing and was ignoring him.
Try a couple of things.
When he isn't facing you, but is in the kitchen with you, drop something that will make a really loud noise, or bang two pot lids together and see if he turns around. He may, and still have a hearing loss, but just may need sounds loud to hear them.
Sometimes when he is sitting very close to you, whisper quietly that you want him to pass you something, or point at something in a book. Or maybe ask him if he wants a piece of chocolate. See if you get a response. Do this first into his right ear, and then on another occasion into his left ear, and see if there is a difference. Sometimes only one ear can have a loss.
but really the best thing is to visit an audiologist, and soon!
There is so much I want to say to you about this! If you want my email address to discuss this out of this site, let me know.
Next, there is a condition called Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) its when they can hear but the brain doesn't really make sense of what it is hearing very well. Talk to the audiologist about that. I didn't work with people with that condition, so you need to find someone who does, to get better advice on it, but it is definately something that you should ask about, because he does have some unusual symptoms that sound similiar to those of people with APD.
Next, A mountain of research has proven that sugar doesn't amp up kids, its the food colourings and preservatives and additives.
So a spoonful of sugar may be fine, but 3 or 4 drops of red food colouring in a glass of water may send him wacky.
An incredible book which I really recommend is called The Chemical Maze. Very easy to follow, and it tells you about different chemicals to avoid in foods, to help eliminate particular behaviours/problems etc. And it's easy to do!
Also, I was wondering if he may be gifted? Now before you laugh, gifted kids who are bored get into all sorts of trouble! And if he has a hearing loss or something along those lines, and is gifted you will be getting all sorts of craziness! I wondered about this after you described how he unloaded the truck of wood by himself. Also giftedness isn't just someone who is good at reading or writing. You can have a gifted person who has dyslexia and yet can be a brillian gymnast or build something really well. Giftedness comes in all shapes and forms, and you can get Twice Exceptional kids, those who have some kind of difficulty, but still do other things really well for their ages.
You can get his IQ tested by a psychologist, but I recommend looking up the Gifted Association or whatever you have like that in your city/country and getting them to recommend a psychologist who specialises in gifted kids, because sometimes regular psychs refuse to test kids, saying they are too young. If a kid is gifted, they are not too young, as they work at a much higher level, and an experienced psychologist will know this, and will recognise behaviours from what you tell them and what they see anyway.
I know this may all seem random, as I haven't mentioned ADHD, but it is really only fair to your son that you check these things first, before they stick him on any kind of drugs.
Please write back through the 'ask bewise a question' button if you have more to say or have further questions.
I hope this helps!
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where can 13 year olds get jobs
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Hi there,
Do any of your parents friends own a shop like a bakery?
You could do things like cleaning the trays and sweeping etc, either voluntarily or they may just give you a small amount of cash for helping, without them putting it through the tax system. Sort of a thank you, but without you being an official employee.
Maybe a hair salon could use you to sweep up the cut hair?
It's tricky, as like the others have said, you can't be legally employed, but I am sure if you are clever and motivated you will come up with a nice idea.
Maybe:
Window washing
Ironing: You could say that you will iron a load for $5
Weeding
Dog walking: Some girls where I lived started a business doing this and it became very popular and busy!
Dog washing
Small pick ups and deliveries, ie, if an old person needs some milk from the shop but it's hard for them to get there.
Sewing repairs/alterations
Childminding: This is like babysitting, except you play with the kids while their mums are at home cooking dinner,etc. You become very helpful because you entertain the children which free's their mum up to do other important jobs around the house. This also covers you legally as you are not left alone with the kids. I wish there were more people near me offering this service, so I bet you would be snapped up quickly, particularly if you can have some good character references, say from your mum, teacher, aunty, neighbour, that let people know how good you are with kids and that you are trustworthy and reliable.
If you have any other questions, please feel free to click on 'ask bewise a question'. I would love to help you!
By the way, I think it shows good character that you are looking to work! Not lazy, and motivated! Well done!
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Hi my boyfriend wants to have sex but i keep telling him no we are to young and he says if i dont he will break up with me and i love him what do i do? (link)
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Wow! What a jerk! DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM!
Think about it like this.
Your virginity is a once in a lifetime gift that you can give to someone. It needs to be someone you love and someone who loves you.
Whilst you may feel love for him, even if he says he loves you, he doesn't really, and you can see this by his behaviour.
When a person loves someone truly, they will respect them and care for their needs. This means if you say NO, he listens and respects that even if it is hard for him and he doesn't like it.
But what your boyfriend is doing is using threats to manipulate you into getting what he wants.
Don't be his throwaway hookup.
Your virginity should be given to someone who would wait 5 years to have sex with you because they love and respect you so much.
Another thing is, I think you can fall in love many times. There are so many incredible people in the world, and while you are with this guy, no other genuinely nice guys will even look at dating you.
The longer you are with the bad guy who doesn't really love and respect you, the more chance of missing out on the nice guy you have.
Breaking up with someone is hard, but it is worth it. I am so glad now that I am with my husband, that I didn't stay with the guys who didn't treat me well before, even when I felt in love with them.
Maybe make a list of all the qualities you think a good husband should have and see if not loving you properly, manipulating you and disrespect are on that list, and then decide accordingly.
You only have one chance to give your most special gift away. How would your future husband feel if you gave it to some guy who didn't even treat you right?
Be strong, and stick to your guns! You are right to not have sex with him!
If you would like to email me back, I would love to hear how you go. Use the 'ask bewise a question' button.
Go well and be strong!
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heyy
well to start of im sorry if it is a lengthy question
i am 15/f and i have made a huge mistake. nothing sexual or anything but a mistake between this guy i have a crush on.
anyway a couple of days ago i had the worst possible day of my life,so many things went wrong.
well afterschool i was taking the bus home and having a nice conversation with my neighbour (one of the only things that was going right that day) when my crush came up (he's the bad boy type you could say)
now dont get me wrong but i really like him but that day was so bad and then he legitly stuck his head between us annd then i told him to go away but then he asked why and without thinking i said "because i dont like you"
and now i feel horribe and guilty. i think that i may have hurt his feelings but my best friends say that i probably didnt and if i did he would have brushed it off by now
anyway i feel like an asshole and a jerk and i see him everyday and i want to apologize because its killing me but i just cant talk to him now.
we werent good friends but we could talk to each other and now we cant even do that.
but dont get me wrong i am very nice not to be cocky but everyone says i am the nicest person they know.
i just feel like a jerk and i have to make it up to him for one i cant sleep or eat because of it and two he is my neighbour and my crush
what should i do?
please help asap
thanks
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I agree with the answers you have received. Everyone has bad days, and being polite and apologize is the right thing to do.
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16/f.
I know I'm young, but I was just wondering. I have dark circles like an old lady's and nothing seems to work. I can't afford expensive stuff either. The things I've tried are--
All CG concealers (minus the Queen and Simply Ageless collections)
Maybelline Dream Mousse Concealer
Maybelline Coverstick
And none have had enough pigmentation to make them any less noticeable. So I'm wondering if I need to step it up to the anti-aging formulas or if they don't help any more, but just a different consumer group. (link)
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Hi, I think that you should try and find the cause of the undereye circles.
I heard a few years ago, something like they were caused by some kind of mineral deficiency, so it could be worth going into a few different health/homeopathic shops and asking for the opinions of their TRAINED & QUALIFIED staff.
I also learned a really useful tip for applying concealer to the undereye area, which is to apply it to ONLY the dark circle bit, and not outside of there otherwise it makes it more noticeable.
I hope that helps!
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I just got your comment, and good idea about the multivitamin and sleep! I have heard that multivitamins can sometimes just have a little of lots of different vitamins, but maybe not a lot of the particular type you need?
How about increasing your water? That always makes skin look better too!
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In the past 8 days Ive been having mouth issues. At first I just had swollen lips and a white lesion on my bottom lip, also the corners of my mouth are dry and cracked and bleeding. Within the past 2 days my white lesion on my lips is gone, but now there it is on the bottom of my tongue and there are a few of them. They look kind of like white patches and come off easily if scratched off but then reapear. The bottom of my tongue is sore and so is the gums behind my teeth which now feel scratched. My lips have stayed swollen throughout the entire time and the cracks at the corners of my mouth are still dry, scabby and bleeding. I am wondering if this could be thrush. i am pregnant and a bit concerned. Has anyone had this before? (link)
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Hi, It definately sounds like thrush to me. If you go to a pharmacy and ask to see the pharmacist, then show him/her, they will probably be able to confirm and them give you some pharmacy only medicine. Just make sure they know you are pregnant, so they don't give you anything that could hurt your baby!
Sorry if you read the extra bit which I have now deleted. I think I got you mixed up with someone else on here. My mistake.
Good luck with getting your problem sorted.
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How do you get a bigger butt in a week? There are places that say you can but they all want a bunch of money before they tell you anything at all. Is this a scam? (link)
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Hi, yes this very much is a scam.
The only way you could do that in a week would be butt implants with plastic surgery. It would cost a lot of money, but the surgeons would certainly tell you all about it before you paid.
I am glad that you recognised this could be a scam, and asked about it before doing anything!
If you google 'scambusters'you will find a few companies who deal in scams and hoaxes. You should email them and tell them about this one, to help protect others.
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Thanks for your advice. I actually did call him to tell him I would be interested in a date ( I used the word date). He said "woo-hoo" or something like that. I explained that I had been put off my his comment that he wasn't sure (when i asked if we would be going to proposed ball game as "buddies"). He stumbled around and said "it's all so new" and saved him and said "no pressure, i just wanted to put it out there. He was driving with a coworker, indicated he would call back at a better time. The next day his number was on my caller id (landline, not cell) but no message. That was 2-3 day ago. Last night I left him a message (via slydial so it went right to voicemail) and told him I had seen his number on my caller id and it reminded me that I wanted to let him know that i had popped his umbrella in the mail (he had left it in my car and we are going through a rainy period here). I ended the message by saying" hope you are well. bye" Feedback? (link)
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Hi! Thats excellent! I think you handled that in a really great way.
I too am over the 'games' people play, so basically I refuse to do them, and it seems to work out better. I think games are for kids, and adults have decent relationships.
I guess we forget that guys can feel uncomfortable too and stumble as well. You saved him nicely, and I am sure he will be grateful for that!
You sound really nice, and whoever ends up having you as a wife will be a lucky man!
My next advice is always look out for warning bells with any guy, and also make a list of good character qualities that you would like in your husband, and line the guy of interest up with those and see how he goes. No one is at all perfect but if can help you to see some little glitches that may become big problems later.
Every thing gets bigger with marriage. The love, the fun, but also things like laziness and anger, so keep your eyes open.
(I am actually sure you probably know this, as you seem really mature and smart).
I would love to know how the date goes!
Have fun!
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I started birth control about 3/4 weeks ago. I'm on the "fake pills" right now. The placebo pills. Well last week I had sex (I was on the 3rd week of pills) and the next day I started bleeding very lightly. I thought I broke my hymen because that was my first time and we went all the way and it hurt like hell. But then I thought it could be spotting because I heard thats a side effect for birth control. So I used pads and each day hoping it would stop. But then it got heavier and heavier. So I assumed it was my period. Now its been a week and 2 days and i'm still bleeding. I'm starting to freak out a little.. I heard that you bleed more because of spotting.. but is this normal? I'm on placebo pills right now. I started bleeding last week (during my 3rd week of pills) and i'm still bleeding. What is going on?? :/
Oh and I don't think i'm pregnant because i've had sex 3 times so far and each time, he didn't cum inside of me. we used condoms and im on birth control. so I doubt i'm pregnant.
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Hi,
I'm just a bit confused.
On March 16, you wrote in your question about birth control, that you had already 'done in once' and lost your virginity.
Now in this post you said that when you had sex it was your first time.
Which is it?
As for the rest, go to a doctor. They will explain how it all works and answer any more questions you have.
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I loved reading your story. It was amazing. I have heart cancer. I live in the United States in Georgia. I saw the movie My Sisters Keeper. Thats kinda my life story. I watched it like ten times. I have a diary but rarely write in it because Im usually tired but ill start something on my email. Im feeling...very weak and tired and I dont even want to raise up to eat or anything. I havent been eating so with chemo and everything I throw up water. My treatment is almost over so I can have a month of not suffering as much but until them I throw up a lot and have to take tons of pills. I wear a bandana on my head and my eyes are purple around them. But i am mostly tired. Thankyou so much for praying. I dont mind continueing to write to you. Im sorry about your earthquakes. And yes, im going to heaven and I cant wait. (link)
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Hi! Thanks for writing back!
It was quite a mission to get your comment into my inbox for answering, as it went into Dangernerds box and i had to write to him and explain the whole thing, and then get him to send it to my inbox, so I could answer you, so sorry if it has seemed like ages since I have written.
I am so pleased that your chemo is just about over. I can't believe what you have to go through. If they think you are going to die so soon, then do they do the chemo just in case it works and makes your life longer? i really hope you are okay. If you live thats great and if you go to Heaven thats amazing, so that is good, but I know about wanting to be alive and be with your friends and family.
How are things going with your friends and family? And any more word on how your cancer is going? Does it hurt? What symptoms did you have for them to think that you had heart cancer?
I really like hearing from you, and check every day to see if you have written.
What was your life like before cancer? what things did you like to do, etc
Talk soon :-)
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How do i know if my cherry has popped or not? (link)
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If a penis has entered into a vagina, it has happened.
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So I absolutely love your advice and decided I'd try asking you for help since everything else wasn't working. This is long, I'm sorry.
16/f
So I've liked this guy for 2 years now. I've dated guys but I've always had a thing for him. He goes to my church and I'm best friends with his sister. I guess that's how we got close because I was always at their house. He's also two years older than me. So he's left for college now.
He's probably one of my closet guy friends and has been there for me with my guy problems and stuff.
We kinda admitted we liked each other back in September after I broke up with my boyfriend.
We'd text everyday and were pretty close. We talked on the phone all night a couple times and one time we kissed.
We told each other not to wait for each other because he's gonna be gone and if he finds someone there he doesn't want me to be crushed.
It was fine up until he left in January. He started talking about sex a lot and he knew I didn't want it. He always told me not to let guys touch me like that but now when it comes to him, apparently it's different. It bugs me so much.
We ended up getting in a fight after he called me. He started saying the things he didn't like about me, like my trust issues. I know I have a problem with it, I was raped by my ex and he knows so I don't know what his problem is.
He sent me a long text afterward apologizing and we didn't talk for 2 months. I gave him his space.
He texted me in March and it was fine again. He said he just needed time to grow up.
Well he started all that up again, telling me he wants to mess around when he comes back home. I told him I'd only make out because I don't want to go any further. He gets it and says he only wants to do what I want to do but he's always pushing it.
I was upset one day because I was thinking back on my ex and started thinking about this guy and afraid he was just using me. So I texted him telling him I didn't want to be anything more than friends. We talked for a bit but now we haven't talked for a week.
The thing is, I want to just stop it all with him but I like him so much and he was always a good friend. Just this one thing kills me.
Plus I like the fact we can't actually be together because I like dating or talking more than a relationship. I feel too young for something so serious. Is that weird? I feel like with him, we know we like each other but keep it as friends until I'm old enough.
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Hi! Thanks for writing to me! I am really flattered that you like my advice. I love giving it, and so it has made my day to have you let me know you like it!
I think you are really clever and have a good idea of the right thing to do.
The fact that he told you not to let other guys touch you and then wants to himself shows a major character flaw, that has my warning bells ringing!
It is very inconsistant, and it also shows that he is not thinking about what he should do in light of God, ie, his focus is on his penis and not God.
He is also seriously disrespecting you, as he knows where you stand on the issue, with not wanting to, and also because of the rape.
It is a shame that you used to be such good friends, but I think you have to let him go completely.
Often guys like this will be nice and then try it again and then blow up at you, then go quiet and then try and be nice, then be dirty/angry again and it keeps going around in a cirle.
There are really nice guys out there who are like super men, ones who will respect you, and love you, take care of you, and help you to do the things you love most in life.
Someone who really loves you will put you before themselves.
That is great husband material!
I think it could be helpful to write a list of the character qualities that you would like to have in your husband, and also a list of what God says guys should be like with their wives (ie, husbands love your wives, etc)
and then compare any guy you are interested in with your list.
No one is perfect, but through this exercise you can look at a persons traits and see if they are similar or if there is anything that rings your warning bells (even a small bell is worth listening to), such as the guy with the inconsistant values and pushing the sexual stuff.
A really wonderful book which I really recommend is: Boy meets girl by Joshua Harris
It's about courtship leading to marriage, instead of dating and sex.
It's excellent!
After I read it, I did what it said, gave it all to God and then ended up with the guy who was to be my husband!
Please use that 'ask bewise a question' button as some replies aren't coming into my inbox.
I would love to help you more, and I would love to hear how it goes with this guy, and what you choose to do, etc!
I also say, OBEY and PRAY.
Obey God, and then pray and he will give you the desires of your heart.
God Bless you!
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im in highschool 17/f and i need help with concentrating on my schoolwork. im so easily distracted!!!! does anyone know i can concentrate better so i dont fail??? thank you:) (link)
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Hi,
What a great question!
I think setting yourself a schedule for your time at home is really helpful.
So instead of going out, or being on the phone, or mucking around in your room, you know that on Saturday between 10am-11am you will study maths, and then have a snack and toilet break, but at 11.10am until 12.10pm you will be studying English.
Without a regular study routine at home you really risk the chance of failing!
So, here are some examples of what you could do:
If you want more help setting up a schedule or have some more questions, (I love this type of stuff!) go to the place in my column where it says 'ask bewise a question', I would love to help!
I'm in New Zealand so our schools finish at 3pm, so I will do the examples using that time. it would be helpful to know what time your school finish and if there are other commitments to work in.
Monday: 3-3.45 get home from school/change clothes/get something to eat/ go to toilet/ chillout for a bit
3.45-4.30 Maths
4.30- 7pm help with dinner prep, eat dinner, clean up, chill.
7-8pm science
Tues
3.45 - 4.30 English
7-8pm Art
Wed
3.45 Geography
7-8 Maths
Thurs
3.45 English
7-8 Technology
Friday
No Study
Saturday
Either a chunk in the morning or the afternoon
9-10 Art
10-10.15 break
10.15-11.15 Science
11.15-11.30 break
11.30-12.30 Technology
It may seem incredibly boring especially if you are a really social person (like me!)
but keep plodding along and doing it, as this will make the difference between succeeding or not.
The character quality of being able to set a task, stay focussed and finish it even if it is most boring and there are so many more interesting things to do, is SUCH a good one, and one that will really help you in jobs, and as a parent running a household later on.
I am only just learning it now, but it is so freeing! I am getting so much more done in a day than I would have in a week, and I have so much more spare time to do fun stuff because I am just getting the hard work done, without mucking around and delaying it. I just do it, then it is over and then I can do what I want!
I really encourage you to give it a go!
Also, put your cellphone in another room, and only check on breaks.
Don't answer the house phone,
and announce to everyone that you are planning on doing this and that you want them to respect this and try to be helpful by not interrupting you.
Do it in a place you are comfy, but without distraction. For me it used to be lying on my bed, or on the lounge floor, or at the library at school.
Each has its downfalls though, like other interesting things to look at or people to talk to.
Plan something to say to people and don't be afraid to say it! Like:
I will ring you later, but I really need to do this now.
or
That sounds really cool, but can you tell me more later as I have to do this now.
Sometimes people don't even realise your priorities or that they are interrupting, so you can tell them nicely and it is okay.
I hope this help! let me know if you need other ideas!
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15/f
We were in class one day and he had made some kind of reference/motion to alcohol that I didn't get so I was like, "HUH?"
He was like, "PARTY."
"And?"
"DRINKING!" He said.
Then it hit me and I of course went, "OHHHH!!"
He said, "God, you're so retarded. You're so childish. I swear, I just want to yell at you sometimes! You're so frustrating."
And then he looks at me and starts laughing. I pound my head against my desk in frustration and he just laughs harder and says I'm "so funny", like he says all the time.
...I know I overthink things a lot, but is my friend bipolar or something? We're not close at all, just acquaintances more or less, so should I ignore him? After all, I'm not exactly childish, I'm just slow on the uptake on the darker things in life.. Why is that so annoying to him? Something like this seems to happen every time I don't get his jokes, but today he really kinda blew up.. (link)
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Hi there,
You are not childish, and it is really a good thing to be "slow on the uptake on the darker things in life"!
He behaved really poorly, and it is worth ignoring.
Often people try and put other people down to make themselves feel better, which is what it what it sounds llike he is doing as well.
It would be really worth hanging around with people who don't demonstrate behaviours like his.
Anyone running you down cares about themselves more than you. Not a great friend.
And at 15 who cares if you don't know about drinking at a party!
Maybe get into something like volunteering at an animal shelter, old peoples home, church, food bank, anywhere, so that way you have an excuse:
I have better things to do!
You will get way more out of that and will meet some really kind and likeminded people that way too!
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