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whats sup im kierra. i luv to give my advice to people becuase im good at it. i will try and answer ever ones questions as they are giving or asked. now some question i cant answer becuase the answer us always in yall face but hey some people cant see. i aint mean but i will tell it like it is so dont ask a question if you know you anit goin to like the answer holla!!!!!!!!!!!!
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ok i am going on a blind date should i ahve sum of my firneds come with me or not incase it goes badly and so i will have sum one to hang out with instead ir what
i think that you should have your friends close by but dont make it seem like you have someone watching you all. you should go somewhere public just in case he/she try to do somthing that can in danger you.
i know that breaking up with someone you love is hard. especially for me.
well let me tell you about my relationship.
his name is josh. hes smart, sweet, and sensitive.
we been together for about 2 months or so. Although its been a very short relationship, i think that its time to say goodbye.
Josh moved to california about a month ago, and he is not coming back to hawaii for another year or so. and there is no way whatsoever that i can go to california due to expence.
the question is, i still like josh, but i dont want to have this kind of relationship. Everyone tells me that the worst way to break up with someone is in email, text, letter, or phone. but how else am i going to breakup with him. There is no way we can see each other, and i am NOT going to wait a year.
so what i am asking you is... How do i do this the nicest way possible??? I cant see him, and i want to break up. but yet, i still love him. So how would i break up with him? tips are welcomed:)
[just to let you know, josh is very sensitive, and i dont wanna hurt him]
i thank you in advance. you have no idea how much you would help me:)
thanks.
sorry this is long.... kristy:)
fisrt let me say if you love him as you say then you would try and wait!
now breaking up is not so hard but you say he is sensitive so i would say call him. now during this conversation you tell him that you dont think the distance between the two of you is good for a relationship. now then you write the letter telling him everything this way he would know you care and know you want to be with him but distance is not good.
im sure he will understand. try asking him for a break in stead if breaking up. this mean yall can see other people untill you to are togather again. dont date other people cause then your feelings will be in a blits.
hope i helped
okay so im 15....
and
pregnant! i just found out...
yes i know i am very young to be pregnant.
i will be 16 in 2 months.
so please dont write about how im too young and blah blah blah...i already know....dont need to hear it more. thank you.
anyways....today i was on the laptop and my dad was next to me and i was looking at abortion pictures and saying how horrible it was. and my dad was like so if you got pregnant you would keep it? and i said YES I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY! and then we had this whole argument on how its not a baby at a certain amount of weeks and whatever...so i showed him an article on how they get nerves at 4 weeks so they do feel it and he was like I DONT CARE ID DRAG YOU DOWN TO THE CLINC AND MAKE YOU GET ONE! i just kept saying you cant make me..
REMEMBER....HE DOES NOT KNOW IM PREGNANT!
also when he found out my mom was pregnant with my little brother he yelled and screamed at her and dropped her off at the clinc..she sat there for HOURS crying...finally went in but they said she was too far along to get one...thank god.
so my dad is capable of having the heart to leave me at a clinc.
how do i tell him im pregnant without going through that? im keeping the baby, im still with the father and he is staying with me so i have help.
when i tell my dad should i immediately tell him abortion is out of the question?
can he really force me into an abortion? thats my right though isnt it? its not like since im under 18 he could make it get it by law right?
either way i need to tell him soon because i want this baby to be healthy so regular checkups to the OBGYN and getting put on healthy stuff is needed asap.
i live in florida if that helps?
thank you.
NO i dont think you should get an abortion. a baby is a gift from god a blessing you were blessed. now im giving you this advice.
tell your dad. i dont think you have to get an abortion if you dont want one. i do know you have to have an adult in the room when you get one becuase you are under age.
dont listen to these people who say your to young....yes you are but i think you were women enough to lay down and have sex and get pregnat you women enough to take care of what will come out.
you should know though babies are expensive and a lot of work. now if you are willing to be the best mother you can be at such a young age and he is willing to be a father at such a young age then you do it sweetie.
i know you say your daddy will me mad but he have to understand god work in this kind of way for a reason and he should know this. if you get that abortion you could regret that for the rest of your life knowing you killed your first born child not giving ii life that can hurt someone for a long time.
i just want you to think though do you want to bring this baby in to the world and give it a life full of pain but teach it lifes leasons or kill every chance it can have?
you dont always have to have an abortion you can make your baby happy just by giving life and just give it up for adoption that way you wont feel bad about killing it.
i hope i helped think about it that murder even though it is not living yet!!!!!!!!
I was wondering after a mother is killed who does her child go to if the biological father has never been involved in the childs life? Can the child go to the mothers boyfriend?
this depends on the court system. but i know that even if the father have not been thier the child can still go to the father just becuase his the biological father.
f/13.
i'm in love withe my best friend.
and she's in love with me.
but the thing is, i'm moving soon.
and she has a boyfriend.
her boyfriend is cool with it, because he and i are great friends.
he wants to see me and her make out.
and we're going to.
but what should i do.
i don't wanna let her go.
but i have to.
i'll still talk to her.
but i really don't know.
what should i do.
please help.
first hon i dont see how a guy can be cool with another guy being in love and wanting to be with his girl. i think something is going down. i think that you got past the rocky part the boyfriend knows about your love for her. if she want to be with you and you want to be with her then make it happen. no amount of distance can make you to stop loving eachother.
no on the other hand this guy is a little to accepting about this. he knows you are moving away and see it ass well ill let him get this off and when he moves she will still be my girl. you should be carfull with the cards you throw on the table i dont want you to get hurt.
if she loves you she will let her boyfriend go and say no she dont want him to watch you to make out thats you all buisness not his.
hope i helped
hey thanks i talked to him and nothing there was no use tellin him..he moved on and it hurt and im allways going to love him but i dont need to be treated like that ...i love lifetime and i watch so many movies about controllin...cheating boyfriend i dont need that thanks
you welcome. we as young ladies dont need guys who will bring us down and make us feel such pain i wish you luck with who ever you are with next. you are stronger then you think!
I'm 17/f and on a club team for volleyball. One of the teams we always play there is this girl, and she's 18. When we first played I thought she was an amazing volleyball player and gorgeous too, I passed that off as admiration. Afterwards she came over and we talked, and then almost naturally we started flirting with each other. Now I'm not gay or bi, I LOVE guys, but she was just really attractive. She was the kind of girl that guys drool over at school, but the one that wasn't afraid to knock a guy out. Every tournament it's like I can't focus on a game if she watches, when my teams play against hers we both always try to impress the other. I don't know what's going on and it's scaring me. What does this make me? Gay? Bi? Is this bad?
Thanks to any who answers
i dont think you are bi hun i just think you like her. now if u want to have sex with her and roll around in a field of flowers then you could be bi-curious meaning you just wanna know what will happen if you did. now if u do then your bi sweety. now its okay you admire her and it seem to me like yall can be good friends or a good couple so do whats your heart wants of you.
hope i helped
Okay so me and my boyfriend broke up but we still see eachother because were friends with the same people but he makes it so awkward. like if im in a group of people he wont go up to that group because im there.or if i go up to that group and hes there he'll like walk away. Even though I'm not over him, I'm mature enough to be friends and i told him I didnt want there to be any tension or for it to be awkward and he said he didnt either but he still acts that way. What should i do?
you should know this first he still likes you girl. he aint over you no way no how. if he walks off follow him and ask him whats wrong why he keeps acting this way. comunication is key girl. he might be acting fun becuase he dont want people to know yall broke up or becuase he dont want people to ask whats up with yall why he keeps walking away you know. talk to him.
hope i helped
okayy well i am always texting.and of course i have a nosey mom. and she checks my texts.and i love talking dirty to boys thats just kinda what i do.and she confronted me about it.and i cant stop doing it so i just keep getting in trouble. so what do i do to...satisfy myself.?
girl after you send the massages deleate them that way she wont know what is goin on. when they send you some back delete them to just so when she do try and check she wont have nothing to look at get what im saying.
help is here girl xoxo
ok so this one guy who stoped talking to me for like 2 months, started talking to me again. and he wants to chill this summer.
he told me that he still likes me more than a friend and all that, but the thing is, he still has a girlfriend.
he said he would never cheat--but i think if i made a move on him, he wouldnt make me stop.
i kind of want to tease him some, so should i be all flirty and like kiss him just to see what happens? thanks!
girl i was in this samn position.YES tease him. guys lie all the time. if they could have there ice cream and cake they will eat it to. deep down he is a cheater if he is tryna holla at you and i think his girl should know. he wanna play with your head play with his. when u kiss him suck on his bottom lip this will have him in a trance trust me. when he try and touch let him but dont let him go to far. play him a game boy girl show him u on to his game.
hope i helped
Ok so im a junior in highschool and like many other girls in high school i like a guy. well its more than just like. anyway it gets just a little more complicated than that. a good friend of mine is in love with him...but he turned her down. i know he feels the same about me. but i dont know what to do. what should i do?
dont assume you need to talk to this guy. girls these days should stop hiding there feelings and let people know whats going on. go up to him and keep it 100 with him. let him know you like him but dont say you in love with him that will scare him off if you do this. try and be calm. you should let him come to you that way you would know he likes you. try saying hi ever now and again this would get his mide thinking about you alease. be reserved. remember the worse he could do is turn you down. if he do turn you down make he see what he will be missing. guys always say dang i should have got this girl when i had the chance.
hope i helped xoxo
I was with my ex bf for about 2 years opn and off....I was sooo in love wit him...he wasnt the best bf...he was very controlling i couldnt do anything ...I had enough so I broke up wit him....I was happy for a while but now i want him back...How can I still love and want to be wit a guy who treated me bad...I have guys who ask me out who r really nice but I dont know why im so stupid ...i could have a nice guy but instead i want my ex back....what do I do im such a nice girl ....i dont diserve this....
it seems to me like you did not want to break up you just wanted a break and you made the wrong choice. i know how you feel you have al these other guys but you only want that one person. if you still want him tell him dont be shy. let him know you made the wrong choice and was hoping for another chance to be his girl. i think in a way you liked the way he was treating you. you liked the fact that he controlled everything bottom line you like tough love. if you want him go to him let him know. you should be out talking to him about this. i wish you the best of luck with this guy. but you should know what happends in the end with guys who are like that i think you should watch life time.
hope i helped
Ok I'm 13 so this is pretty typical... There's this guy named Josh. I like him a lot, but he's dating my best friend, Angela. Today he just told me that he likes me but he just realized this. Angela is getting tired of him and I only know this because she told me. Josh really understands me, and I feel like I can really open up to him which makes this even tougher! I don't want Angela to be mad, but I really want to be with Josh! What do I do???
Angela is your bestfriend. you should know that if you go with josh this is kinda betrayal. josh should know that he might can come in between what you all have and that he should stand down. i know what its like to like your bf boyfriend and have him like you back but you cant go with him. there will be other guys down the line. plus why would you want a guy who likes two friends. who is to say he might end up liking another one of your friends. you have to think about what will happen if you date him. your friend might get mad and think you were not a true friend in thew first place. just think this through and i hope you make the right choice. your friend of her soon to be x josh.
hope i helped
I have a somewhat awkward relationship with my mother. We are a very proper family, and I discuss school and literature with her but never personal matters. How do I comfortably tell my mother that her perfect daughter might have a vaginal infection?
i know it will be kinda hard but you should tell her. if you dont tell her bad things can happen. you do need to see a doctor and if youu wait to long it get worse. try sitting her down and talking to her as if third person was involved. if you 18 then you can take yourself. she is your mother she post to help you with these things.
hope i helped
HII :]
I had my baby April 14th :]
We named her Riley James Court.
I ended up moving in with my boyfriend in feb.
we are getting married in August.
im super excited.
but i need some wedding tips and ideass.
help me out.
thanksss.
im happy for you but on the day you marry dont wear white. white let people know your a vergin and your not lol. you should decide on two colors for your wedding. i think i should be red and white. you should get a dress thats red mostly with a white trim(so cute). you also can go with your fav two colors as well. you dont need a big wedding you still can have fun.
wish you luck on your big day!!!!
Hi, I have horizontal white stretch marks on my hips. i think it is because I grew taller quickly. Do you know what white stretch marks mean. Did i loos or gain weight. Did I grow taller quickly like I think? Also I REALLY want to get rid of them. i have been using BIO OIL for about a week now. What do you recommend I use? Have you used BIO OIL? If so what did you think? Thank you!
girl i know what you mean. you might have the marks bc of you getting taller. they are hard to get rid of i use coca butter it works well. if you use this you should see a change. make sure you apply it every day.
hope i helped
hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??
this guy can that you are sending pictures to can get your address by knowing your cell number and he knows what you look like so you need to stop no matter how poor you are.
now your boufriend is right to be a little mad. this guy is trying to conversate with you meaning he want to get to know you in your boyfriend eyes. tell him why you are doing this. you need to have a talk with your bf and tell him what is going on. you should be of age where you can get a job hun.
you should not degrade your body its your temple.
hope i helped
Im 19 and ive bin going out with my girlfriend who is 17 for 1 year and 4 months. I live in PA and she lives in NJ. I am obsessive with her. I want her all to me. She use to have alot of guy friends like that was all her friends. she told me that she isnt happy and she wants to hang out with her guy friends and im not good with that. i call her alot more than i should. she said that i have till the end of the summer to change or she is leaving me. She has bin the best friend i never had. I love her to death. im just afriend that shes gona meet a guy better than me cause theres alot better guys that she could have.
I need steps on how not to be obsessive. i want to be with her longer then 4 months.
well you need to back off a little. give her space. you know what happends to fire when it is covered and dont have air dont you........it dies. think of that as your relastionship. give her her space and let her enjoy life. no girl wants a guy thats always in her face or in your case calls alot. you can still call just call dont call as much. your relationship should get better;.
hope i helped
So, this guy really likes me, and I really like him a lot. He's amazing, and instead of him calling me "hot", He tells me I'm beautiful, incredible, amazing ect. And I love it, he makes me SO happy.(: But, he always asks "Wanna hang out?(:" and I always say yes becuase I really do, but then at the last minuet, I find myself making up things to get out of it. I still don't know why. My friend asked me the same thing! And I just realized, I have no idea. She thinks it has something to do with my dad leaving when I was like two, and I never got to know him. But I have no idea. Help?
i dont think its somthing to do with your dad. i think your just a little scared of what might happen if you two where to hang out.
but on the other hand do you think its becuase of your dad. you should not let that stop you from having a social life.
to me this guy really like you. he is knockin at your door so let him in. dont be afraid to let a fun time happen.
if you keep puttin it off he will stop asking you and he might think you are playing with him and trust some guys hate to be played with.
hope i helped
15/f
So basically I have this wonderfully amazing boyfriend! I love everything about him, he's just so perfect. But last night I had a dream about another guy. I hate this guy but in the dream I was in love with him. Does this mean I'm cheating? Or that I don't really love my boyfriend as much as I thought???
I'm so confused.
dreams are our desires, wants and needs. so lests think about this. you might say you dont like this guy but in a way you might like him. no your not cheating it was after all just a dream all in all. you should take time and evaluate this subject though.
hope i helped