Hey my name is Ashley, Im very down to earth and truthful, all my friends come to me for advice whether they like what i have to say or not, thats the gift I have I can solve anyone elses problems except my own. I want to be a writer or a journalist someday, but for now the most I can do is give you people advice about anything so let me know whats on your mind.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and I am sixteen, and he is eighteen. He is going to the Navy in December, but he says that if we last until I am eighteen, he wants to marry me. He seems really serious about it, and it's not like I'm afraid of committment, but I kinda wonder...
He is extremely mature and when he says something, he means it. I'm not worried about him changing his mind, but should I be cautious with this relationship if he brings it up this early? Or is it really serious?
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Well, marriage is a big decision especially that young but if he brings it up he wants to marry you and if you cant picture being without him then my guess is you want to be with him guys dont bring up marriage if it hasnt crossed his mind just something to think about
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The guy that I think is "the one" is moving 1,959 miles away from me and I having a hard time imagining life without him, sure we tease each other but it will never be the same without him. Also I don't know whether to tell him if I love him so much that I can't live without him or wait to see what happens. He is also my best guy friend and we have a very strong friendship. We talk to each other about everything and I really need some advice before I get too depressed. Please anyone? :'( (link)
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well look at it this way if you really love this guy you dont wanna look back on your life and always regret letting him go so my suggestion is to tell him how you feel even if it isnt the outcome you wanted because this decision will follow you for the rest of your life hope this helped...
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how do i tell heim i love him? (link)
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The best thing to do is be honest and just say you love them
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Hw do i know ma boyfriend love me coz he is always away in college in another town de last time we had sex was in april is this love i feel real or am i lying to maself help (link)
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first of all not every guy cheats and lies and you should know if its really love all by yourself if it feels right then it is if he says he loves you he just might
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Me and my friend Rylee have been friends since 2nd grade now we are sophmores in highschool and we have growen distent she always picks boys over me and i always invite her to my birthdays and she and she hasnt invited me to one of here since 5th grade. When I go to her house i always want to talk and go jump on the trampoline and she is always busy on the internet. What could this mean help me please (link)
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Well when people are friends from a young age once they eneter middle school they change and develope their own persionalitys dont take it personal you 2 are not who you were when you first met in 2ed grade and thats normal
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I met my best friend in 2009, I Didn’t get close to him until October 2010, since then we have been inseparable. Phoning, texting or emailing each other constantly, since October, there hasn’t been a day where I haven’t spoken to him.
In February he told me he had feelings towards me, but not entirely, he was unsure of how he felt. I only saw him as a friend. Until April where I told him I felt the same that I was confused about how I felt towards him but we were still more friends.
Since then, he held my hand and held me close in his arms whenever we were alone, I knew we had crossed the friendship line
All our friends teased us about each other, since all we did was hang out together and talk to each other, wherever he was, I would be.
In may, I realised I had fallen for him and he had always told me to tell him if my feelings towards him changed, but I told him I wouldn’t because I was so scared of rejection.
I told him and he said he felt the same, of course I was overjoyed
Until a week later he told me he had changed his mind and didn’t feel the same and he only saw me as a friend.
I felt like I couldn’t trust him anymore, if he could change his mind in a couple of days
It took a couple of weeks and I thought I couldn’t bring it up anymore or it may lose our friendship
Last week he told me that he liked another girl and that he had completely fallen for her, since then he barely speaks to me, not even to say hi or ask how I‘m doing
Everything has changed, wwhen I ask him how he is doing, he answers with vague answers saying he’s feeling low and he won’t tell me what is happening
Its like he’s shut me out of his life, I realised the other day that I was putting more effort into keeping this friendship alive, more than him, so I gave up and now I barely speak to him
And today I may have asked him if he was still alive and he responded immediately and so I asked him if he hadn’t spoken to me because he was just ignoring me and he said
I don’t need you hating me too and he stopped responding
Can you please help me with what to do?
I feel like I’ve completely lost my best friend, I feel so lost and upset, I am so hurt but I miss him but feel that it’s the end. How do I cope?
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what you need to do is sit him down face to face and be straight forward with him this aint about liking him anymore this is about saving your friendship so don't hold back tell him how you really feel it cant hurt especially if he doesnt wanna be your friend anymore
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So there's this guy in his early twenties that I've been talking to for about 2 weeks now; we work together and he was hired recently.
I talked to him first: Besides the fact that I was drawn to him for some reason, I wanted to be friendly to him because he is new to the job. Turns out he has a really great personality and lately we have been flirtatious. The problem here is that we are both in relationships already.
Our flirting is all done in the workplace: very casual, mostly verbal although he has tried to make it physical - for example, today he poked me, and I playfully responded, "poking me? what is this, facebook?" and when he asked me for my number a few days ago, I told him I had a boyfriend, because I don't plan to take things further with this guy while I am in a relationship, although I do enjoy flirting with him and am anxious to see him again.
For the 9 months I have been dating my boyfriend, I have been completely faithful to my boyfriend, but I must admit that I have noticed this work guy - I mean, I'm not married and am still young so I guess it's okay to always have your options open, right? I am wondering: Do most guys think that way too about their relationships, or is it just me?
I am wondering why the guy from work is flirting with me despite the fact that he knows I have a boyfriend, (pretty much every time I encounter him lately he says, "where's your boyfriend?") and I know he has a girlfriend but I have not met her.
It doesn't seem like he is flirtatious with any other girls at work, so I guess I'm wondering if he is interested in me in spite of his relationship. To be honest, I've been thinking about him...guiltily of course.
I guess I need some evaluation on why I am flirting with him and why he is flirting with me. My question is: Why would someone flirt while in a relationship if both people involved are already taken? (link)
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Flirting is alright while your in a relationship as long as thats the way it stays but if your thinking more about this guy it could be because you like him which is very dangerous 9 monthes is quite awhile these days now it sounds like this guy likes you and your right your not married but your bf deserves to know whats going on whether you stay with him or not especially if he has been faithful to you now the only other reason you might flirt is because when your with someone for that long the new relationship feeling fades and everythings the same from day to day basis and you want that back.
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My boyfriend and I get invited to the same parties, and he tells me that he doesn't want me there, so I don't go (even though i really want to), and he does go. When i say that i am going to a party he is also invited to, he will say he doesn't want to go. Should i take a hint from this or not? It just makes me feel like he doesn't want to spend time with me. Also, we have gone to parties together and it was fine, so? (link)
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well not to be rude it aint about not wanting to spend time with you its more about being embarresed by you or cheating because if he was a good bf he would want you there or if he didnt wanna go he shouldnt
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is my boyfreind be loyal to me?
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What makes you think he isnt?
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Okay well he broke up with me and then later that night he said he acted stupid and asked if I would take him back. He also said he loves me and has loved me since two years years ago when we started talking. I'm so confused on what to do. So should we stay broken up or should I give him another chance? (link)
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I would give him one more chance because he realized he rather be with you but if it happens again don't take him back cuz this could be a reacurring thing with him
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Well first off I am a 30 year old Pastor. I have a lovely wife and 6 children with another on the way. Last night I had a few drinks and ended up having intercourse with another man. The worst part is I enjoyed it. I know Im going to hell for doing that with him. But do you think Im gay? (link)
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VoiceOfReason you cant believe in Heaven if you don't believe in Hell look it up :-)
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I feel like "Will you be my boyfriend/girlfriend?" is grade school. When you're an adult how do you know?
I've been talking and seeing this guy for a couple months now and I don't really know how to bring it up. I'm ready for a relationship with him but is he? I don't want to seem like I'm rushing him into it or if he even wants one period. (link)
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Ask him to dinner or for drinks its more to the point
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my boyfriend just ended our year and a half realtionship over a text message telling me he lost feelings for me and he isn't feelin it anymore and all this and that. he had been treating me like he didnt care, but his response was im just not affectionate like that i never have been. and his sister and parents would say yeah he's never been romantic. anyways, we broke up and we went from being together all the time to nothing. not to mention, we work together. although i am moving on, i just think about the day he'll come back and say he made a mistake. but im wondering if since we still see each other at work that will be a bad thing? by this i mean will he not even miss me cause he sees me a couple times a week, or will this be harder for him because he has to see me still to move on? (link)
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The thing is it will be harder on him because the way I see it is you wont ever stop loving someone unless you never loved them at all the mind may forget but the heart doesnt let go
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I mostly listen to eminem Justin bieber Taylor swift and the ready set. what are some good love songs with that kind of style of music to it.
I'm a 13 yearold girl and if the songs are about boy friends and best friends that you have crushes on when they feel the same or they don't. what are some good songs along those lines? (link)
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Tank- I can't make you love me
Brandy- Have you ever
Mariah Carry- We belong together
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Well, I have a problem. I like this guy, but he recently broke up with his girlfriend like a week ago. And I want him to ask me out cuz he used to have a crush on me. And now, I like him. He says Im cute but nothing happens. He wanted to kiss me when he was dating her. But, the problem is that, she's one of my best friends. And he broke up with her but im scared to go out with him because I dont wanna hurt her feelings. And she still likes him, but she doesnt know that I like him. (link)
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Well what matters more to you honestly because if shes really your bestfriend you shouldnt hurt her like that its not what friends are sopposed to do you will met another guy theirs plenty of them but true friends only come by once in a life time
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Ok so My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 months, when we had our first kiss i felt something i never felt before, im guessing that's the spark, So we just kissed like normal (not making out ) then after 2 months of dating we decided to start making out, every since we started making out i dont feel the spark .... Is this normal, I love kissing him and all but i havent kissed him normally for a month now :/ i havent felt the spark for a month, should i tell him or... Can i make there be a spark when we make out ? (link)
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well if he makes you happy thats the real spark you don't need some kiss to make you feel something for him sometimes you don't always feel it but if you care for him and he cares for you thats all that matters
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I have been single for awhile because I cant seem ta find my match and I refuse to settle for less again. Im only twenty but im ready to be in love again wheather it involves finding someone at a local place or online. Any suggestions? (link)
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well, how do you know when you find your match if you don't try you just have to give it time you could be passing up an amazing guy just walking down the street you are only 20 and practice makes perfect you cant go walking around with a check list because that isnt how love works you love them because of their flaws as well as anything else you just need to be young and let love find you because once you stop looking love will be knocking at your door
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I've been with this guy for a year. he's been nothing but good to me. He used to tell all his friends "She's the one." "She's the one i want helping me make a life." we're packing 'em up for college here in August.. I need help, before i can't get out.. I've lied to him. My friend was having a sleep over && we, kissed. i mean it was no make out or touching but (kiss).. I mean not horrible? && i haven't cheated.. But, i talked to my ex. He text(ed) me a time or two? i text(ed) back. I felt as if i had no other choice! he was trying to get to me threw my sisters.. once my boyfriend found out the my e was trying to get with me, he went & beat the snot out of him! when he found out i talked back to him.. he was pissed.. i mean.. he didn't even care if i wasn't flirting or not.. he didn't leave but, i know how bad he wanted to.. he says i'm a horrible person && that he has no more trust in me. i asked him the other day why he was still with me and he answered with, "cause." I'm not a bad person?.. everyone makes mistakes right?? why is he still with me?? (link)
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he hasnt left because he does wanna build a life with you everyone makes mistakes and yours arn't that bad when you truely love someone you accept all of them. He may not trust you now but that doesnt mean he doesnt love you love for someone doesnt fully ever go away it just gets pushed aside
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i lost my virginity when i was 13 with my first ex boyfriend. at first i was afraid of doing that act, but he really wanted to do it with me.. i couldnt resist him because i love him. so we had sex. we did it 3 times. but then i broke up with him. because i felt he really did not love me and he's just using me. i regret of letting him use me:( now i can't resist having sex with boys i like. at the age of 17 i already had 11 sex experiences. i always regret when i think about it. im so sad, i think im a slut but i dont want to accept it. im so sad:( i dont know what to do.. im afraid and hate to accept than no other guys would love me because of these past experiences. i wanna die :(((((((((((((( (link)
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I've had a friend much like you just so you know your not a slut losing it at that young age put pressure on you because you think if you don't sleep with them they will leave you but thats not true if a guy falls in love with you they fall in love with all of you the past an all but dying aint worth it if you really want help you can go see a counciler
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I am of 16 and female....it my first love ever....i love him a lot and i know he love me too...but i dont what had happened to him, his reaction was changed suddenly....he always says i love u a lot and i cant live without u,u r too sexy, too beaution,amazing,etc.....i love him too...and i know i cant live without him....suddenly his reaction towards me changed and he started saying dont text me or dont call me by mistake also...i will change my no. And will never talk to u.....it hurted me badly....i love him madly....seeing his changed attitude made me cry....and made me to do hillarious things like cutting my hand with knife,etc.....i know he love me more than anything in the world but at the same time i cant bear his changed behaviour too.....please give advices....i need u all... Thank you! (link)
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First of all, you are only 16 he isn't going to be your only love, it seems to me you just like how he made you feel and thats understandable but there is so many other people out there you shouldnt waste your tears on a jerk you have all the time in the world to find someone who will put your ex to shame theirs so much more to life that you have let to learn and the cutting forget about it having someone make you feel that low is never worth it it hurts now but time only heals
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