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i have a huge problem....i am completely in love with my ex, but he has a girlfriend. i have known this guy longer then i have known anyone besides my family. he was even at my first birthday party. we were together off and on for 3 years and i cant get over him. i have gone out with several guys this year trying to get over him and its just not working. and like 2 months ago we had talked about getting together but then we just stopped talking out of no where and the my "bestfriend" went out with him and then cheated on him. so they broke up and now he is going with this nice girl but i have never really liked her anyways. i love him so much and i want to be with him more then anything and i knwo you are probably thinking he has a girlfriend so just get over him but i cant. he has my heart for the longest time and i dont want anyone else to have it, i think he still has feelings for me because he always choose me first over everyone and vice versa and he goes out with a lot of girls but never stays with them long but he did with me , we were together once for 6 months last time.... please help me because i need help so bad to get over him or get back with him.... thanks in advance (link)
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wow your story sounds so much like mine. Its been a year now since my bf and i split up. Hes had a gf for a year too(ya, jumped right to the next one) 5 mos into their relationship he was pouring out his feelings for me. I was so hurt and angry that i didnt let him know how i still felt about him. Just recently, him and his gf broke up. (theyre 5th time at least)
We were talking online one night and he told me to call him later, so i did. It was midnight on a school night, and we talked for 2 hrs. He wanted to hang out on the next night, so we did. First he told me to come to his work (he told me he worked till 8 and he tolded his other ex he worked till 11) I wasnt there for more than 30 mins. when guess who shows up? You got it! She proceeded to tell me how he calls her up at night telling her how much he loves her and cares about her.
Well they fought. He told her he was taking her back home(she walked there)i just gave him a look and left. 1 hr. later, he called me, and told me he didnt want to be with HER! i was happy!
He took me to his house and he made all the moves. We cuddled, wrestled, i gave him a back massage, and yes>we did make out!(nothing more)he told me thats its obvious that he still loves me.
The next day we went out for lunch then he took me back home. I didnt hear anything from him for 5 days(im the one that called him)
I knew something was up. He called me back 2 days later, and said that being with me made him realize how much he loved "her". He told me that a part of him will always love me. Thats so bull, because if that was true, hed dump his little ho.
I still have feelings for him, but i cant keep letting him do this to me. This time im not looking back anymore. Its not worth all the heartache hes put me through this past year.
If it hasnt happened for you yet, hun its not gonna. I dont mean to sound negative, but guys dont know what they want!
I think we both need to move on and find that special guy out there whos worthy of our love.
Get rid of all the memories> like pictures, gifts, and everything else. Avoid talking to him too if possible. Whenever you get a thought about him in your head, think of something else!!
If they have our hearts, then they better give it back, because they obviously dont know what to do with it, but crush it!!
Good Luck Hun!!
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Okay I'm 13/f and I have liked this one guy scince last year. Me and my one friend talked to him about it. He said that I'm prude and weird to my friend and when I asked him about it he said that He loves me and never would say that. Then he asked if I could give him a hand Job. At first I said sure but I didn't really feel like doing it becuase I was neruves. After that he asked my friend if I would let him eat me out and let him finger me. Then my friend asked me if I would and I said I dunno and she told him IDK[I odn't know] and then he asked if I would give him head[blow job]. I wanna do this stuff to him. Like I've fingured my self before and like I want him to do it. I'm just kinda worried. Would he like it shaved. Would he like me after. Should I do it?
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i cant believe youre even thinking about doing it. Cant you see thats all he wants you for? Hes gonna use you, thats it hun!! If you wanna make a name for yourself, then go right ahead and be the school slut! If thats all a guy wants a girl for, then he wouldnt be worth my time. A decent guy would never want a girl for his own pleasure at this age! Hes only thinking about himself! He wants to be cool so he can go back to his friends and tell them how easy you are.
If you think by doing that with a guy is gonna make you popular, then by all means do it! It doesnt make you popular, it makes you look naive and slutty!
Youre only 13. Guys at this age just want easy ass! You must have a pretty low self esteem if your even considering letting a guy use you for his own selfishness!
You shouldnt even be thinking about that stuff anyway yet! Your gonna get USED, ABUSED, and spit back out. Then your gonna be crying wondering how he could do that to you. Then hes gonna act like he doesnt even know you after that.
Whats wrong with waiting until high school when your in a committed relationship for a long time.
A guy doesnt care in the least about a girl if all he wants is to do sexual things with her.
Dont say we didnt warn you!
You obviously dont care about your reputation, or wanting a guy to respect you, do you???
Good Luck, i hope you dont make the wrong decision! Its your body and whatever you do, you can never take back!
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umm when you are kissing someone do you move ur mouth at all or just your touge im a little confused about that?
if you can explain it that would be great thanks!
and do guys notice when your there first kiss or not?
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Every1 starts out not knowing what to do. After some practice, it all starts working for you. If your really into the guy, and hes a good kisser, you will just follow, and everything will just flow as if youve been doing it forever!
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Hey Im really scared.
I am 14 and my mom's friends's son, who is 17,came over to stay with us for the night. My mom went to get groceries and the boy insisted and pulled off my clothes and started to have sex. Today, I took the test. results are, yes, Im pregnant. The guy I don't know his name and im scared to tell my mom. Please help (link)
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Im sorry, but you really dont sound too upset that he did that to you. You failed to mention that you were NOT a willing participant. If you werent, he basically raped you if you said NO!
Your mom needs to know. Shes gonna be upset, but thats a normal reaction. She has a right to know!
Good Luck!!
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ok i play basket ball and i have a game in a couple of days and i am on my period and i wear a white jersery with whight shorts and i am scrared that ill leak and it will show up all on my shhorts so how do let it dont leak out (link)
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put a new tampon in just before youre game. Leaks happen when your period is heavy and you havent changed it soon enough. So when you change it JUST before your game, you wont have to worry about leaking. Use the right absorbency that goes with how heavy or light your period is.
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okay. i really need my braces off. like i got them in 6th grade. and im now a freshman! i dont wear my elastics, and if i wear them they'll come off. and to those that have already had elastics and braces, approx. how long will it take for my teeth to not have an over bite anymore? i really need my braces off!!!! (link)
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wearing elastics is the most important thing when you have braces!! If you dont, youll be in braces twice as long. Alot of orthodontists will discontinue treatment if the patient isnt cooperative. So the more you wear your elastics the sooner you will get them off!!!
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I ma starting a business in selling pretty and urban jewellery but i cant think of any names. Just wondered if anybody has any ideas. (link)
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thats awesome ,but i think before you start your business>you should know how to spell "jewelry"
Good LUck
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okay this friday i'm going to hangout with this boy, lets call him charlie. I want to become FWBs(friends with beninfits) but i dont know how to make the 1st move or get him to make one. any suggestions? ill be in a hot tub and walking around with some other people (i rate high)
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friends w/benefits is really lame. I have to agree with other people on that. Why would you want to be used like that. Your only gonna eventually get a name. Either get a bf or just stay true friends! Friends with benefits only wrecks what you have with that person.
Be a decent girl and respect yourself, then guys will respect you!!
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I guess you could say that i am prude...but I have made out with a guy and he has felt me up, but I am really scared to be in a situation where he wants to finger me or he wants me to give him a handjob,or do anything else for that matter.(he is my boyfriend) I just think it would be awkward and i dont know what im doing when it comes to sexual stuff. can u jus give me advice on what to do if the times comes? Sorry so long...i rate high (link)
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The feelings of awkwardness comes from being young! When you have to ask for advice on sexual things, Hun youre not ready. Just because hes youre bf doesnt mean you have to do anything sexual with him that you dont feel comfortable doing!
Unless your prepared to deal with the consequences after a break up, then by all means go for it!
Youre not prude, youre smart!
Guys will come in and out of your life, make sure you know what you want and who you want to do it with!!
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ok, theres this guy and i really really like him, so i want to ask him out. I have a feeling he likes me, but im not sure about it. Ive nevr asked a guy out before so i have no clue what im doing. i need ideas on how to ask him out w/o being too direct or too indirect. keep in mind that were both 13 and im very shy. thanks! nellie (link)
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ok first of all, i hope your asking some1 that you like hang out with and are friends with.
You dont just ask some1 out just because you like them. When you ask some1 out, you both know how each of you feels about the other person, and youre already spending time with each other.
Think about it. i know this is alittle extreme, but kind of look at it this way> What would you do if a guy that liked you suddenly asked you to marry him? What im trying to say is> just because you like some1 you dont need to go out with him first before getting to know him. Relationships begins with friendships!
Dont ask a guy out unless your prepared for rejection! Besides> whats wrong with having the guy ask YOU out when the time is right? Youre both very young yet. Take time to let that friendship grow before taking the next step!!
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My boyfriend of a year and 2 months and i have been fighting a lot on and off. We had really good week where we barely faught at all, but now were really starting to fight a lot. We disagree on a lot of things and were both really stuborn. I love him and he says he loves me but he doesnt seem like he really wants to see me that often. Tonight i wanted to see him but it was raining. We couldnt really go anywhere except the movies but he didnt want to. Then i explained to him how its like he never wants to see me when he has the opportunity and then he wanted to go. I told him i didnt want to at that point. And when i need to talk to him but i cant on phone because my parents are by me he just continues to play his stupid video game and not come online. Dont get me wrong he can be really sweet at times so its not like i wanna break up with him. I really love him, but what should i do to really let him know that it hurts me when hes not affectionate or doesnt see me when its possible? It may seem like im asking for too much, but then he feels bad and hes tells me im sorry. Im really not sure what to do! Please Help!! Thank YOU! (link)
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For 1 thing>try and pick youre battles! Dont sweat the small stuff.
Arguing and fighting all the time get old really fast, especially for a guy. Just give him some space, without questioning it.
When you and him have a chance to spend some quiet time alone, then tell him how youre feeling, and ask him the same!
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ok i have this friend and hes my ex but we are still good friends and for a week iv had the same dream when im snuggling up to him really close and we are kissing and some other think (holding hands...) but i dont know what this means! is it something thats wrong with me? should i ask him out again? if its any help i still have a cup he drank out of from my best (girl) friend's b-day party and her party was in June! please help im desparete im afraid ill do something stupid!
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DREAMS (ex-boyfriend/girlfriend)
It is very common for people to dream about ex-partners. Individuals that have been an important part of our lives continue to take up a part of our mind and heart. It is impossible to very dramatically shut the person out of thoughts and feelings.
You will continue to dream about your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend until you "let go" of them on a very important level, or until you learned your lessons from that relationship. Either way, dreaming about your ex-romance does not predict future involvement. It may be wish-fulfillment, reliving memories, or working out old issues. Dreams are very rarely prophetic!
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I'm completely fed up with tampons. I want to use them but I think Im putting them in the wrong way. Can anyone tell me how exactly you know its the right place/ right way and why they don't go in all the way when I try to push them in? (link)
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the best way is in a half way sitting position.
like lift yourself off the toilet so ur standing up just a bit not alot. it goes in much better than standing up. Relaxing is very important too.
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my boyfriend of over a year and a half recently broke up with me/ decided we should take a break because he was confused about how he was feeling and he wanted a break from being tied down. it was really sudden and it confuses me. he still says he loves me from time to time so that kind of give sme hope that maybe this isn't over for good. do you think he just needs some time without me to see what our relationship was worth? or what? does he jus tneed to be single for a while. Everoyne tells me when loves for real it lasts froever and we both know it was as real as possible.. so do you think he will come back? he neve rreally wants to talk about the situation either but what can i do to convince him to come back or let him know what we're worth? help plz thank you will rate hihgh (link)
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When a guy says he needs his space, what hes really saying is, his feelings have changed and he doesnt want to be in a relationship anymore. Because you and him were together for over a year, means he doesnt want to hurt you by telling you the truth. If a guy wants his space, he doesnt need to break it off. He could simply choose to not see you as much.
You didnt mention your age! Maybe he wants to see what else is out there, and not be tied to 1 girl just yet.
Theres really nothing you can do, its all up to him. Just be there if he needs some1 to talk to, but thats it. If youve been involved sexually, stay clear of it. It wont make make him change his feelings.
Being apart is either gonna make him miss you, and realize that he still loves you, or move on without you!
If its meant to be, you and him will someday be together again.
Good Luck Hun!
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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help (link)
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well,i think you should put yourself in your best friends place for a moment. How would you feel if 1 of your friends liked youre sister?
Being protective means he loves her, and he'll even protect her against his best friends if he has to. I think it would also put some stress on yours and his relationship, not to mention his sisters.
Do you know how she feels about you? Are you getting any hints that she likes you in any way?
I think for now, because for 1 thing shes probably only 13 or 14, you should probably leave things as they are. My bro is 3 yrs older than me and all his friends just saw me as his lil sis. Until i got to be in like 8th grade, then my bro started to get really protective of me too, and i basically grew up with his friends, and thats all i saw them as. None of his friends i could have seen myself dating so its kind of a touchy situation.
You have time. Wait and see what developes down the road. If things are meant to be with you and her, you will find each other someday!! Just be patient~
Good Luck~
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Does anyone know symptoms for being pregnant?
Like, if I did it on Nov3?
Help. (link)
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well, for 1 thing>its too early to tell yet! The biggest hint that you would know is, if you miss youre period. After that, symptoms will begin to show. Queezy, morning sickness.
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ok sorry its long but... i have a lot of problems and i dont know whats wrong with me. there are just so many things...here are just a few:
1-i cut myself...like really deep to the point where i pass out and wake up with blood all over
2-i pull the ends of my hair on urdge
3-i feel tension and stress about everything bad
4-i over analyze EVERYTHING makeing it scary and bad
5-i think about suicide all the time
6-my mood can change in an instant-one minute ill be all happy and something will happen or someone will say something and ill go all depressed
7-i burn myself on occasion
8-i find it really hard to express my feelings and what imthinking b/c ik that noone will understand...they will try but they just dont get what im going through unless they r goin through it too
9-i am always tired all the time b/c i dont sleep much...i havent in like a week
10-i have lost a lot of weight b/c i refuse to eat and when some one makes me eat i throw it back up
11-at times i will find my self sitting in my room and all of a sudden i will just like start crying and i will cry for hours
12-for the past year i have been trying so hard to make it sound like i am happy and im so good to the point where my parents think that i am a "happy delightful young lady who is fun to be around"
you see? there are so many things wrong with me and like i have tried sooo many different ways to cope with the stress in my life but like nothing that i have tried works! its just realy hard and idk what to do.
ill rate high for good answers...nothing cocky plz
♥ rrenef ♥ (link)
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It really sounds like DEPRESSION. If i were you, id seek outside help!!
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My girl and I have been together for 2 years we have a 1 yr old the past yr has been hard for both of us we have been fighting very verbally and sometimes physically about 2 months ago her mom who we lived with told me to get out my girl and I agree that we need the space and have been trying to work things through. We both started seeing counslers and since then things have been alot better well to make it short last week she decided that she doesnt want to be in a serious relationship with me and that we can be friends and need to be friends before we can be anything else she says she loves me and will still support me and let me see are son we hung out yesterday and had a great time but i am confused because we was all over each other in a good way. My question is should i try doing the friends thing and show her that I am responsible and continue to do what i need to do (she wants to marry me and be a family one day still but right now we need to work on are own mental issues she says) I just feel that everything i have done recenlty to show her that i love and care about her was not good enough i have stopped the name calling and am not so moody thanks to the counsler and some meds. Has anyone else broke up becasue of problems and worked it out in the end??? Her and my sone mean the world to me and I love them both dearly and want to be in a stable family home with us together (she says she wants this to but we cant becasue of are problems) is there hope??? thank you for readint this and respnding (link)
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You failed to mention your age. Seeking counseling was the first step. You both saw you were heading down a very bumpy road, and did what you needed to do.
Verbal abuse is just as horrible as physical abuse, and i think youre girlfriend just wants to be sure that counseling is truly helping you.
You have to mean what you say, and stick with it, no matter what. Just give it time. It may take a long time, but she needs reassurance that your not gonna fall back into your old ways again!
If you lose your temper fast, leave! Go for a walk, and just talk to yourself. You dont want your son to pick up on your behavior. It will carry on down to him, i guarantee it!!
Be patient! If you both have a strong love for each other, youll come through this, and hopefully be that happy, and stable family you want so bad!!
Good Luck to you!!
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On sunda is my boyfriends little sisters birthday party. It will be the first time I have ever met his parents! I want them to know I am a really nice girl and that I love there son alot. What kind of things can I do to show them that I am really nice and that I will treat there son well. I love him and I want to be with him for ever!
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Hun> the biggest thing you can do is BE YOURSELF! Thats what made their son fall in love with you in the first place!! You cant be something youre not!
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ive been in love with my boyfriend and hes in love with me for about a year now. but now were starting to fall apart, over the summer we used to hang out everyday now we hang out like once a month. and hes the kinda guy that flirts with alot of girls, but i trust him. yesterday i told him i was mad at him (because i was infront of him talking to him nd he was ingoureing me and ran to another girl) and he was like i dont care. that hurt alot... then today i was asking him why he said this and he was laughing about an inside joke. then he came online, and this was ower convo.
HIM: do you think its time time for a change?
ME: what do you mean...? 'change' of what
HIMME: no tell me
HIM: nvm
ME:k
ME: well your really acting like ur gonna break up with me... just get it over with if you r gonna.
HIM: jump to conclusions muchh?
ME: umm... well your acting like your gonna
HIM>: how does somone act like there gunna break up with somone
ME: they act like they dont like them....
hIM: well
>HIM>: do you wanna break up?
HIM: or take a brkeakk
ME: if i wanted to break up.. i would of broken up with you already....
HIM: o
ME: whatever
HIM: k?
ME: if your gonna break up with me then just do it now cuz im leaving soon...
HIM: fine
ME: fine what..?
HIM: uhh i dont no
then i signed off. but i dont no if i should break up with him, i love him to death and i really dont wanna break up with him. but it seems like were falling apart.=( should i? or no?
--confused.
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He wants to break up, but i think he wants you to do it. Hes giving you signs! Ignoring you, flirting with other girls, and not wanting to hang out like you used to.
I know you love him, but hun> i dont think he feels the same. Save him the grief, and just end it, because thats really what he wants you to do.
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