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What are some good exercises to do in the winter? I know like in warmer seasons you can go outside and play sports and stuff, but when its cold out being outside is not very enjoyable. But I need to keep my work-out going but I'm not one to do crunches or anything more stuff that is fun to do and burns calories. What are some options/activities? (link)
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It's coming into winter here in Scotland and I'm facing the same problem - going out for a walk in the wind and rain isn't that much fun!
I suppose it depends on what exercise you're doing now and whether that can be transferred to an indoor venue. If you walk then you could use a treadmill at a gym, for example.
Or you could step up the exercise that you do so that you'll stay warmer - if you walk at the moment, you could try learning to run. Believe me, that'll really keep you warm!
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Right well we got a swimmin pool built in our school last month and when the girls are on their periods they aren't allowed to sit out but are forced to use tampons!!!!!! I haven't been on since it was built but oomg. I am so scared. I have never used a tampon and I'm never GONNA so don't suggest I do. Isn't it like illegal to force us to use tampons or somethin? My friend even got her rents in about it and they still made her use tampons!! What can I do on swimmin days that I am on? I'm not using a tampon but I'm not standin in the changing room arguing bout whether to use one or not with the PE teacher its embarassing!! (link)
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I think this is terrible - and it's an infringement on your liberties (or something).
I think your best bet is to ask some of the parents to get together and contact the Head Teacher - a group of parents will carry more weight than just one or two speaking up individually.
I wish you the best of luck - I can imagine how distressing this is.
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well i lived in this one part of town for basicly my WHOLE life in that part of town .. but when i was 11 my parents made me move to across town.. it wasnt too bad cause it was just across town. but i miss them so much and i still hang out wiht them ALOT ! but its just not the same they ather hang out with there new friedns cause they think i alreadi have plansz .. so i like keep begging my mom to let me go to that school btu she keeps saying no .. so im jsut gunnah stop asking.. and my dad keeps asying i need to move on and forget people from there open ur self to the new environment.. but i cant cause im a shy person . and i just cant forget that fast.. so i keep getting reasons whybi need to hang out down there like ill only ask them to hang out or soemthign or ill lonly get a boyfreind down tehre or soemthing ... what i need advie about is how can i get more freinds in my new school and try to forget the ones at my old school ? i hope you can help ? (link)
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I'm really sorry it's taken me so long to log on and answer your question.
Firstly, I don't think you need to *forget* your old friends. They've been part of your life and there's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with them so long as you're also open to making new friends at your new school.
I know it's not easy to make friends when you're shy - been there, bought the T-shirt, burned it. What are your interests? What kind of things do you do with your old friends? What you want to do is build on those things but in your new area. So, if you liked going to the cinema with your old friends you could try talking to some of the new people about the films you like. Sooner or later you'll find someone who likes the same kind of films. Step two is to ask if they'd like to hang out at the cinema with you. Films are just an example - I don't know the kind of thing you like to do.
If you're into a particular hobby it'd be a good idea to join a club in your new area - that way you'll have the chance to meet lots of people who have that same interest.
If you find it hard to start a conversation, look for someone who's hanging back and also looking shy. They'll be really pleased that someone else is making the effort and that should make things easier for you.
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well i lived in this one part of town for basicly my WHOLE life in that part of town .. but when i was 11 my parents made me move to across town.. it wasnt too bad cause it was just across town. but i miss them so much and i still hang out wiht them ALOT ! but its just not the same they ather hang out with there new friedns cause they think i alreadi have plansz .. so i like keep begging my mom to let me go to that school btu she keeps saying no .. so im jsut gunnah stop asking.. and my dad keeps asying i need to move on and forget people from there open ur self to the new environment.. but i cant cause im a shy person . and i just cant forget that fast.. so i keep getting reasons whybi need to hang out down there like ill only ask them to hang out or soemthign or ill lonly get a boyfreind down tehre or soemthing ... what i need advie about is how can i get more freinds in my new school and try to forget the ones at my old school ? i hope you can help ? (link)
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I moved around a lot when I was a kid so I really relate to your problem.
First off, I don't think you have to forget your old friends. And there's nothing wrong with hanging out with them sometimes. But you and your dad are right - you need to make new friends at your new school and spend time on your own side of town.
Do you have any hobbies? Say you like reading - then you might join the book club at your new school. That way you're getting to know people you already have something in common with - believe me, it really does make it easier!
You might also look out for other people who're as shy and lonely as you - they'd probably be pleased to have someone to talk to.
To help yourself get over your shy-ness you could try having lots of little conversations with the people you meet. Talk about the weather with a check out girl - that kind of thing. And if that's too hard for you right now then just smile - people will smile back and it'll help increase your confidence.
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Ok ok ok ok .....a while a go i started to REALLY like this boy jack, and we were just a lil friends. and he didnt know i liked him. More recently(past few months) i met this guy devan, who i also REALLLY like. for the past few weeks now, jack has been hangiing a lot at my house (cus he smokes weed and gets it from my neighbor, we live in a duplex) but when my Naybr isnt home We hang out alot. And i think weve become better friends (btw i DONT smoke)well he asked out today ..and i wasnt real sure. Like i do really like him , but theres this strange feeling, idk if its because of him smoking weed, or if its cus i have strong feelings for devan too. I dont know. But also Theres just this slight issue that if devan askes me out what do i do? iREALLY like both of them and ive been wanting to go w=out with jack for a long time, but i like devan just as mcuh and its prob. a once in a life time chance for both, and i dont wanna hurt either one. so just some one help. i rate high. THANKS (link)
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Who do you like best?
Go out with that one :)
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my sun conure *bird* squacks so much! its so loud and we cant stop him... any ideas to get him to quiet down? i dont want a website i want real advice (link)
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I've heard that putting a cover (like a towel or something) over the cage can quiet a bird down and that certainly used to work for my mother's budgie.
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my friend, lora has been acting a lot differently lately. i'm not sure how to explain it. she's just more wild. if her parents knew then she would be in big trouble. i have a close group of 6 friends including myself, and one of them. but since this year we've been getting farther away.. and i see to be fine with that. she's starting to drive me crazy. she copies everything i do.. and its so annoying. like little things. i cant stand her. i have other friends too. and she's going to a different high schoool. what should i do about her? i think that her boyfriend is helping to this.. i just don't know what to do. (link)
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Not all friendships last forever - especially the ones we form while we're growing up.
You have two choices: Sit her down and tell her how you feel or grit your teeth and let nature take its course (I think she'll drift out of your picture).
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Everything was going perfect for me & my boyfriend. Even the day he broke up with me, we were fine & saying I love you. Then he said he had to go & when he called me back, things were over. His reasoning was an accumulation of things but mostly because of a talk with his parents & the fact that the feelings just aren't there anymore. He stated that he wasn't sure if he liked me as a friend or more than that anymore. This really hurt since we were very serious & I'm guessing that's why things went bad all of a sudden. It was him though, that often brought up marriage & staying together forever even though we're only 13! Needless to say, he wants to be friends but it's just so hard. I love spending time with him & we have so much in common but I still have feelings for him & he knows that. How can I make this friendship work & how can I win him back?
- Jenna (link)
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I think it might be a good idea for you to take a break from each other. It's really, really hard to just be friends when you have feelings for the other person especially if you're boyfriend-girlfriend one minute and just-friends the next. But it's not impossible to become friends again if you give it time.
Winning him back ... You can't make him have feelings for you so I think you might be best to forget about that for a while.
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There's this girl I like, she's 13, kind of shy, asian, but I dont know how to approach her. And is 13 too young to start a relationship? I would appreciate you peoples' help thx. (link)
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I think it's fine to date or have a relationship at 13 so long as you go really, really slow and don't get in way over your head.
Why not ask if the girl'd like to go to the movies with you?
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can you be in love when your 13? (link)
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Yes, I think you can.
I also think that your definition of love changes as you get older.
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Alright, I dated this guy for about 2 months. And we just broke up about I guess 2 weeks ago? Well before we broke up, things were going great. A few nights before we went to a football game and he was telling me how much he cared about me and how happy it made him that he could hold me and junk like that (Corny I know). Well a few days later he talks to my brother and tells him he has to break up with me. I was devasted to say the least. So I called him. He told me what had happened... that he just had too much going on in his life right now and couldn't handle a relationship. We rarely were able to see each other and the only way we could talk was after he got off work at like 11:30 at night. And sometimes he was so tired that the conversations weren't that long. So I understand why he did it. He kept telling me on the phone he still loved me and he cared about me and that he hoped it wouldn't be a permanent thing, ya know? And I told him that it was fine and that I understood. Well now things are weird. I see him every other day or so whenever my brother wants to go and see him at his work. And I can handle seeing him just fine. But we don't really talk. He'll say a few words to me and stuff like that, but that's about it. He'll joke and crap. One time when I went up there, he hugged my brother really short and then hugged me and I thought he wasn't going to let go. Anyway, he claims he cares about me so much and that he wants us to get back together eventually, but he never even calls. Even when he's off work... and I'm just confused. I'm trying to figure out if he still feels anything for me and why he doesn't even call. If any of you could help me I'd be more than glad to rate... I'll rate high too!!
Thanks so much for reading this.
xoxo (link)
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It's possible that this guy does care about you and is trying to do the best he can in a difficult situation. It might be painful for him to be around you when he can't have a relationship with you. Or he might feel that you'd be better going out with someone on a more regular schedule and therefore not want to stay close to you so that you turn down someone else.
Unfortunately it's also possible that he's young, confused and selfish.
In either event I'd suggest that you get out and live your life. If he's genuine and you're meant to be together then his circumstances will change and he'll ask you out again. And if he's a jerk then you'll get over him quicker.
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really like this boy, and my friend found out that i liked him, and she's being stirring rumours that arent true and she found out that the boy i like has alot of common things with me and she is trying to be his perfect image which is me i recently found out that they are going out what should i do
and now the person that i found out that she thinks there is something going on between me and him
i don't know what to do and she's always saying how they are moving to california after her degree.
help i am hurt, confused (link)
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This sounds like such a painful situation.
Basically you like a boy, your friend found out and now she's going out with him? She's not much of a friend, is she? But he has the right to go out with whomever he wants so there's really not much you can do about their relationship.
I'd suggest that you concentrate on your other friends and interests just now. If they break up then by all means see if you can go out with him next. But until that's a possibility you just have to make the best of it and live your life - unhappy though you are at the moment.
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i just broke up with my bf of 3 years....it was over some differences...im really depressed...how do i cheer myself up and stop feeling so depressed? what are some things i can do to make myself feel better.....please dont say go out with another guy, im not ready for that yet (link)
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Break ups are horrible. But kudos to you for not wanting to jump into another relationship.
I'd suggest that you take some time out to pamper yourself. Bubble baths are good. Chocolate is never inappropriate. Walks on the beach are pleasant.
When you were going out were there any things that you thought 'Oh, I wish I could ... but I can't because I have a boyfriend ...' If so then make plans to do them now.
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my friend has a boyfriend. he can be really nice. but this summer he did a lot of things with girls this summer [not sex or anything like that] but lots of stuff that he shouldn't have been doing. and my friend, was like "i'll never go out with that player". but of course he asked her out and she said yes. now they're always with eachother, that doesnt bother me. but what she doesnt realize is that he's a bad person. me and my other friends were talking about it and we were like "yeah she should break up with him." but i dont know what to say to her. if i said anything like that she would probably get really sensitive about it. and trust me, i'm not jealous at all. i could never date him. it's just annoying that she'd choose him over her best friends. and he is bad.. not the greatest grades, all that summer stuff, and everything else. in high school he'll go crazy. what can my friends and i do?? (link)
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It's really hard to watch your friend make a mistake, isn't it?
If she doesn't know what he got up to over the summer then you could certainly inform her. However, it's *her* decision who she dates not yours and she has to make up her own mind.
The best thing you and your friends can do is try and stay in touch and be there for her should she need you in the future.
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Okay so. This boy is sending me mixed signals and it seems like he is playing mind games with me. He liked this girl like 5 days ago and now he doesn't like her and before that he liked me then BOOM he liked the other girl. Now he doesn't like that girl and he talks to me a lot more and he's asking me a lot more questions and he asked me if i still wanted him. It's just so confusing. How can I definately know that he likes me? And what should I do? (link)
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It sounds like you're not the only one who doesn't know what this boy wants. I don't think he knows himself!
If I were you, I'd steer clear of him until he makes up his mind.
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I have liked this guy for like 2 years straight and we've gone out about a million times and everytime we go out i end up breaking up with him because of dumb reasons. I have a boyfriend now but i still kinda like the guy and i recently found out that one of my so called "best friends" was telling him that she wanted to fuck him.. I'm not sure what to do about it do i confront her about it or just leave it alone because i have a boyfriend n i shouldnt care
that comes to my next problem. i dont know why i still care if he talks to other girls and stuff its like i really like my boyfriend but the other guy is always in the back of my mind.. wut should i do? (link)
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I think it's perfectly normal to still think about guy. You've liked him for a long time and having a boyfriend now doesn't mean that you stop liking other people.
However, I think what goes on between the guy and your best friend is their business not yours. You're not going out with him so it's not up to you who he talks to, sees or sleeps with.
It is insensitive of your friend to make advances without letting you know but, unfortunately, I don't think there's a lot you can do about it.
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i am 14 years old and very caucious of my pubic hair. When i go to teh beach in my bikini i am scared my bathers go see through and everyone can see! i want to get my bikini line wax but i dont know if its normal for a 14 year old to get it done !? HELP! (link)
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There's absolutely no reason why you can't get your bikini line waxed if you want to.
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i am 14 years old and my frendz all think i am balemic well my besties do. and they have been to the welfare people about it and everything. then they decided they didnt wanna b frendz anymore so i am left anlone. lucky i have great guy frendz and a boyfrend who r looking afta me. but i wanna hang round with otha gurls but i just dont no how to break into a group.? (link)
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Friendships can be really complicated when you're in your teens. Do you have any hobbies? I'd recommend that you join a club or organisation to do with your hobby and get to meet new people that way. When you have something in common other than just being girls it sometimes makes the relationships easier.
Alternatively look out for other girls who've lost their group and make friends with them so that you have your own group.
I don't know if you have an eating disorder or that's just your friends making mischief - if you do have problems around food do talk to an adult about it.
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okay well on my progress report i got a 75 in 1 of my advanced classes. well my mom told me to pull it up or no more football games(which i love) & i would be grounded forever..well on my AR tests i got an 80/300 so it pulled my grade down to a 50 & i have this paper my mom has to sign with my grade average on it. i got it on thursday but ive hidden it because im scared to show her. my scores arent really my fault though. the books i read 2/3 of them werent AR. so it led me to have to take 1 test on a book i never read & i got a 20 & the other i was almost finished but not quite & i got a 60. what should i do? im really scared to show her.. (link)
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She's going to find out eventually (even if it's just because your school calls to find out why the form hasn't been returned) and I think you could be making it worse for yourself by putting it off.
If you don't have the right books for the subjects you're being tested on then there's a problem so how about enlisting your mom's help to sort it out?
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okay I was brushing my teeth, and then I threw up. It was only like a little cough. Like *cough* and throwup came out while still brushing my teeth.
Is that normal or Is there something wrong about that?
and Is that called making yourself throwup? (link)
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I think it can happen for any reason it's just the peristalsis which churns your food in your stomach gets a little confused. I wouldn't worry about it unless it keeps happening.
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