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really like this boy, and my friend found out that i liked him, and she's being stirring rumours that arent true and she found out that the boy i like has alot of common things with me and she is trying to be his perfect image which is me i recently found out that they are going out what should i do
and now the person that i found out that she thinks there is something going on between me and him
i don't know what to do and she's always saying how they are moving to california after her degree.
help i am hurt, confused
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Your friend is a slut, ditch her ass. As for the guy, sadly, it's probably too late, give yourself some time to recover, then find another guy who's more into you.
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Well that's not a friend, that's a backstabber. She's just jealous. Let things blow over and you can talk to her. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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Hi there,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone does something to wind you up, but that doesn't make the issue go away. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whether your friend's just being annoying without realising, or she's done something terrible that's totally wound you up, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to see things from your point of view. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour towards you.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to change their behaviour straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
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im sorry to hear that,
but your "so called friend" is not reall your friend if she has done that. Friends dont usually
stir up rumors like that. So get another friend and start a new friendship. But as far as the boy is concered tell him everything you told me, and how mean your "so called friend" is!
i hope it works, if not forget both of them!
---from hot-amerindian---
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This sounds like such a painful situation.
Basically you like a boy, your friend found out and now she's going out with him? She's not much of a friend, is she? But he has the right to go out with whomever he wants so there's really not much you can do about their relationship.
I'd suggest that you concentrate on your other friends and interests just now. If they break up then by all means see if you can go out with him next. But until that's a possibility you just have to make the best of it and live your life - unhappy though you are at the moment.
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