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well i lived in this one part of town for basicly my WHOLE life in that part of town .. but when i was 11 my parents made me move to across town.. it wasnt too bad cause it was just across town. but i miss them so much and i still hang out wiht them ALOT ! but its just not the same they ather hang out with there new friedns cause they think i alreadi have plansz .. so i like keep begging my mom to let me go to that school btu she keeps saying no .. so im jsut gunnah stop asking.. and my dad keeps asying i need to move on and forget people from there open ur self to the new environment.. but i cant cause im a shy person . and i just cant forget that fast.. so i keep getting reasons whybi need to hang out down there like ill only ask them to hang out or soemthign or ill lonly get a boyfreind down tehre or soemthing ... what i need advie about is how can i get more freinds in my new school and try to forget the ones at my old school ? i hope you can help ?
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I'm really sorry it's taken me so long to log on and answer your question.
Firstly, I don't think you need to *forget* your old friends. They've been part of your life and there's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with them so long as you're also open to making new friends at your new school.
I know it's not easy to make friends when you're shy - been there, bought the T-shirt, burned it. What are your interests? What kind of things do you do with your old friends? What you want to do is build on those things but in your new area. So, if you liked going to the cinema with your old friends you could try talking to some of the new people about the films you like. Sooner or later you'll find someone who likes the same kind of films. Step two is to ask if they'd like to hang out at the cinema with you. Films are just an example - I don't know the kind of thing you like to do.
If you're into a particular hobby it'd be a good idea to join a club in your new area - that way you'll have the chance to meet lots of people who have that same interest.
If you find it hard to start a conversation, look for someone who's hanging back and also looking shy. They'll be really pleased that someone else is making the effort and that should make things easier for you.
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I moved around a lot when I was a kid so I really relate to your problem.
First off, I don't think you have to forget your old friends. And there's nothing wrong with hanging out with them sometimes. But you and your dad are right - you need to make new friends at your new school and spend time on your own side of town.
Do you have any hobbies? Say you like reading - then you might join the book club at your new school. That way you're getting to know people you already have something in common with - believe me, it really does make it easier!
You might also look out for other people who're as shy and lonely as you - they'd probably be pleased to have someone to talk to.
To help yourself get over your shy-ness you could try having lots of little conversations with the people you meet. Talk about the weather with a check out girl - that kind of thing. And if that's too hard for you right now then just smile - people will smile back and it'll help increase your confidence.
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