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I dont know what to do!!
I guess you could say that i am prude...but I have made out with a guy and he has felt me up, but I am really scared to be in a situation where he wants to finger me or he wants me to give him a handjob,or do anything else for that matter.(he is my boyfriend) I just think it would be awkward and i dont know what im doing when it comes to sexual stuff. can u jus give me advice on what to do if the times comes? Sorry so long...i rate high
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first you dont have to do anything you dont want to, if he trys somehting and you dont want to do it just say no if he brakes up with you or anything then hes not worth knowing anyway its not that hard you could even talk to him and tell him that you dont know what to do he might be cool about it dnt freek out tlak to him mell probubly understand!
becca~~~
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i don't think you're prude at all. you're just not ready, but when to time is right you will know. be fair to yourself and don't force yourself into something, that you may regret later. because many people who have sex young always end up wishing that they waited until they were older. just because he's your bf doesn't mean you have to do anything sexual. and if he gets mad because you don't, he isn't worth it! hope i helped
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The feelings of awkwardness comes from being young! When you have to ask for advice on sexual things, Hun youre not ready. Just because hes youre bf doesnt mean you have to do anything sexual with him that you dont feel comfortable doing!
Unless your prepared to deal with the consequences after a break up, then by all means go for it!
Youre not prude, youre smart!
Guys will come in and out of your life, make sure you know what you want and who you want to do it with!!
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well i would be honored to give someone a handjob or have them finger me.
i wouldnt be scared if i were you
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If you don't feel comfortable in any given situation with a guy. Say so.
Just simply tell him you are not ready for this. Any guy worth keeping will understand.
Here is a website for you to check out. Should answer any questions about sex you may have. We can't tell you how to do all that.
Just remember you can say no. Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with just to hang on to a guy. :)
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That is so not prude. That is so far beyond not prude that it is in the.. unprude world.
♥ cali and angie
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well if it comes down to him asking you just tell him that you want to take it slow until you get the hang of it. And when he wants to do you ask him to take it slow. until you feel comfortable with him doing it to you. You both have to communicate and tell each other if it hurts or you injoy it. hope i helped
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Just relax. Believe it or not he's nervous too. So just take it slow and ease into things. Its not bad to be scared. Just be confident..that sounds silly to say but so true. Just remember he is having the same insecure nervous feeling your having but he's a man and they wont come out and say it...
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Don't worry about the longness or the rating - I answer because I want to help! :)
If you're 100% comfortable stepping onto the next level, you should talk to him about how he would like you to do it. Don't act stupid, just ask what he would like which would pleasure him the most. But please please please, only go for it if you are happy and comfortable doing so, don't be rushed into something you don't like. And if it ever feels like that, stop.
Hope you make the right decision! :)
x Steph x
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It is ok to be scared I mean it probably would be your first time. If he is your boyfriend he would understand if you said no or your scared or your not ready. Everyones first time is probably akward. It also depends how long you have been going out with the guy, tell him you don't want to rush right into this if this is a short relationship so far.
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if you find yourself in this situation...all you do is say "no" or "i dont want to" Thats all there is to it. Your bf wouldnt want you to be uncomfortable or do anything you wouldnt want to do. He wont push you about it..and if he does you need to seriously have a talk with him because if he really cares about you, he will be fine that your not ready.
Another idea is to bring up going farther in conversation, this way you wont find yourself in a situation where your having a makeout session and he wants to go farther . (like i said before just saying no your not ready is fine..) but if you bring it up in convo how your not ready, you wont be in the momnent saying 'no' i hope i helped..feel free to inbox me anytime
-melissa-
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First of you need to tell him that your scared. That way it wont seem like your playing the i know everything game. Second, you shouldn't let anybody tell you how to give hi a blow job. You should ask him cause there may be a certain way he would like you to do it. Then once you get the hang of it add your own flava to it. And fingering is all him. All you do is the screaming cause trust me it hurts.
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Being scared and not ready or not knowin what to do hun is very normal for a girl.. its not somethin your born knowing..*you learn it like anything else in this damn world*
Well if he ever wants to finger you make sure your comfortable with it.. don`t let him do it unless you want him to..ANd make sure its something you don`t regret.. well when he fingers you..You don`t do much of anything but lay or sit there while he does it..
When you give a guy a handjob it really isn`t that hard i mean if he doesn`t like what your doing he`ll either tell you to stop or help you out.. *thats what my boyfriend did to me* Well all you do is put your hand around his penis and kinda grip it a little bit but not too hard cuz you don`t want to hurt him lol.. and just move your hand up and down make sure you still are grippin a little bit and also you choose the speed of how fast you want to jack him off.. you also can rub on his testicles he`d most likely like this very much atleast from my experience.. also if your comfortable with this maybe spit on his stuff a little bit.. ♥ Dez
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Being scared & not ready is normal. If you ever don't want to do anything, make sure you feel comftrable saying no. I'll tell you how to do these things but if you don't want to do them don't.
Making out- You already know how. Since you're still young, I'd stop right there.
Fingering- You don't really have to do anything, it's all on him. Make sure you're comftrable with it though.
Blowjob/head- This should be something you do after you guys have been going out for a while. I'm sure you know that all you do is suck his dick. First you rub & then grab his penis and began going faster. Then put your mouth around it and swirl your tounge around the tip of the head and start deep throating it while still sucking and rubbing in circular motions ( If you play with his balls, he would enjoy that as well. It may sound complicated but once you get it, its fine! That's just hot to do it.
The last step would be sex. If I were you, I wouldn't go there just yet.
Good luck with everything.
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