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ok the other day my g/f and i were making out and i dont know what got into me but i stuck my hand down her pants and she didnt like it. she was ok that i put it down there but not too far and one time i think i got a little too far cuz after that she seemed depressed. now i feel like a jerk. afterward she said she sortof liked it but im not sure. wut got into me and how can i make it up to her? by the way im 14.

You can't control your hormones. I think you guys need to talk about this. It's a good idea to know what you guys are both comfortable with.
♥angela

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look at what this guy said to me

*******: guys say youre white trash but ive only seen you like once


what is white trash and why do people think i am that?

white trash
n. Offensive Slang
Used as a disparaging term for a poor white person or poor white people.
Used as a disparaging term for a white person or white people perceived as being lazy and ignorant
♥angela

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im 13 and a female. me and my family might be moving away and i told my best friend (hes also my crush) and he started crying and told me that he loves me. i had him over to play the next day and whenever we were alone we huged and kissed but we arent going out because we both have other people. after the holidays we both said that we are going to dump our boyfriend and girlfriend. im afraid he might ask me out. what if he does i really love him but if i move it isnt that far and ill be able to talk over msn but it would be weirder... please help me!

**sleepiesheep**

You should go for it. After all, you said you weren't that far from him. You should be able to make time for each other.
♥angela

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LONG STORY!!!!SORRY
I'm 16 and recently went back to work at the restaurant I worked at the previous summer. I was surprised to find out that J., 20, had started to work there on the same day that I came back. We worked together last summer, I had no strong feelings for him this way or that.

I began to flirt with him immediately, normally I wouldn't do this, but I am comfortable around him. He's always set me at ease. I did childish things like throw parsley at him, he often attempted to throw it right back.

Anyway, as time went on we'd stand close together in the doorway, just subtle flirtatious things like that. Later, he began to flirt back with me by putting me in headlocks and lightly pushing me. Sometimes we'd hold hands until the next session of flirtation began.

To make a long story short (I'm sorry! I don't want to bore you! ^^;;) I asked him if he had a girlfriend, and he said he did. I almost slapped myself, was he ever planning on telling me if I never asked? I guess I should have asked earlier, but maybe I didn't want to know if he did...

So even though I really liked him I tried to not flirt with him, I felt that things were just "weird," because it feels so natural to have the flirtation between us. I don't want to hurt his girlfriend, but I can't help the way I feel...

So later after I pretty much had stopped my advances, he starts to flirt with ME again! (not vice versa!) What am I supposed to do?! I flirt back, because I still have strong feelings for him.

One night when we worked alone we got drunk (well I had 2 beers, he had 3) and we played around some more. We did the normal flirty things that we usually do, stand really close together, he holds me and runs his mouth/face over my neck/collarbone. Then our boss shows up, we scramble outside and I ride around with him in his car (I was afraid to drive).

He said he wanted to have sex with me, and I told him, "No way. I'm a virgin. I'd never have sex with you unless I really really liked you and you were my boyfriend."

I told him the last part to be nice. I'm really saving myself for marriage. Later before he dropped me off and said that he wanted to kiss me, but he said he shouldn't because, A. I'm "too young", and B. he has a GF. I gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him Goodnight. That way his GF can't be mad at him.

Another night (next week) we got drunk again at work, I had 3 wine spritzers and he had a beer. We fooled around some more and I kissed him, or he kissed me...I don't know. He told me I was a good kisser (but you never know because boys lie! :-P) and that he wanted me to kiss him again. I eventually end up kissing him more and more that night before we went over another restaurant that my boss owns. He's my second kiss, and I love kissing him. Of course, because I was drunk I told him that when I was kissing my first kiss I was thinking about him. (I was!)

He told me that he would date me if he didn't have a girlfriend already, I told him that I would wait for him...oh, he also said that he likes me.

He also told me that someone told his girl that I had a crush on him. We think it was one of the waitstaff, that told one of HER friends, that told his girl. (Yes, one big long chain of ppl ^^;;) I asked if he would act weird around me when that certain waitress was around, first he said probably, and then he said he would act the same around me. I was happy when he said that, I don't want things to change. Oh, this was also on another day of working alone together, we were sober!

So the day after our kiss, he acts Coldly around me. He tries to avoid me if possible, and barely talks to me. The next day is kind of the same, but he tells me he had a huge fight with his girlfriend (that wants to beat me up..) partly over me. He told me that he told his girl that he didn't care about me.

So here I am. I'm confused and lost. I really like him. I don't want to get burned, but it appears to be too late. I know that if I dated him, I would be the only one..but how would I be for sure when he flirts with me and has a girl?! I don't want to have these doubts, I trust him completely.

How should I act around him? What should I do? I just want to flirt with him, and he with me, and have everything be alright.

I can't stop thinking about him, and I just want him to come back to me. What has his problem been lately? I just don't understand. I can't turn to anyone else for help.

Thanks!

Wow, that was long but interesting. I guess you should go out with him when him and his girlfriend break up. I would try to stop flirting with him to be on the safe side. If yuo do flirt with him make sure he makes the first move.
♥angela

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My best friend Rachel and I are in this thing at school where we help new students. A new girl came and she was really cool her name was Ashley. She always hangs out with Rachel now and Rachel always avoids me and now they are best friends and always exclude me in activites. Should I talk to Rachel? Ehh

You should let her know how you feel. if you're friends with Ashley then you should be able to be friends with Rachel again. Do you see what I mean? Ashley will tell Rachel that they should be friends with you because you are really cool.
♥angela

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My father died about 3 years ago and now I am going out with this boy that is a lot like him...is that a bad thing? I mean I love him but he is just...a lot like my dad! Am I being stupid going out with him or is it like a bad ideas or something? I have these feelings like he is going to leave me, but I thought that maybe that is just because my dad "left" me...I don't know...I'm confusing...I know! But I would really like any help I can get!thanks!

Maybe it would be different if your dad left your family but he didn't. He died its not like he packed up and left. You shouldn't worry about that.
♥angela

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My last relationship didn't end well. My ex broke my heart and it was just horrible. Since then, I haven't had a boyfriend because I never let my feelings show and push any potential relationship away. I'm so scared of falling for someone and having them not catch me. A certain boy has come along and he's very interested in me. He says it's not fair I compare him to my ex and assume he's going to hurt me too. I can't help it though and I'm scared I'm going to push away this great guy, who I actually like. How do I let go of this fear and take a chance?

A good way to start is to not compare him to your ex. He's right it is unfair. You know the guy you like the guy, don't let something good get away.
♥angela

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hey i am stuck between two guys. not really but i have a boyfriend who i care alot about and he is actually good to me. well my ex who i fell for hard messaged me last night. he said he was sorry for all the things that he said about me and he wants me to choose between him or my boyfriend. see michael the ex we went out for a while and we even got to the point where we wanted to have a baby. and i stopped taking my birth control for him and i bent over backwards for him. and now i dont know what to do. i thought i put him in the past but i didnt all these feelings came back. but now i dont want to have to choose but imy heart is so confused. i care alot for my boyfriend now. i think about what we have and how good he is to me and how much he cares for me and then i look at michael and think god i could have a family with him but too young. and i loved him and he loves me. i done everything for him. i am so confused. please help me and if anybody has a smartass comment about it then dont write me. i want someone to help me not tell me i am dumb

Well g2g love ~me~

It sounds like you don't have feelings for the ex anymore, but him talking to you is making you believe that you do. I think it's his feelings that are creating ones for you that don't really exsist.
♥angela

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i think i might have a phobia of some sort...
before i have to give a speech or even read out loud i freak out. i have something like a panic attack. i cant breathe right, my mouth is dry, my voice shakes, i start trembling etc...
are there any medications i can take for this?

I advise you to go see your doctor for such help. It does sound like you do have some sort of a problem. The best and number one chioce is to go seek a doctor for this case.
♥angela

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Is it possible for a 14 year old girl to get a job on a cruise line over the summer as a waitress or table busser or clean up or anything like that?

For most jobs you have to be 15 or older and some jobs you're required to be 18 or older. To get a job on a cruise it sounds like you would have to be 18 or older.
♥angela

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15/m there is this girl that is like the person i can trust the most in the entire world. she's great to talk to and i never get bored when i'm around her. the thing is we kinda off-and-on liked each other last year. now i think we're both kinda over each other, or at least i thought so until last week. she gave me these gifts in school and it really made me happy. maybe it was just the christmas spirit or something. since then i've been thinking about her a lot everyday. i called her to ask her a question and we ended up talking for hours and i kinda felt like i didnt like her. so then why is she still on my mind? if i find out that she likes me, should we be friends or more?

It sounds like you like her and that you're just hiding your feelings. If you feel the same way about each other then you should go for it.
♥angela

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I am getting married in four months. I have been engaged for four years. However, my fiancee and I have at least two major issues. I just don't know if this is serious enough for me to consider backing down from marriage.

My fiancee and I are not seeing eye to eye on money issues. He feels that when we are married once the bills are paid for each person should have allowance money to spend. The catch is the other person should not ask what the money was spent on.

An example is, he spends money on CD's or a football jersey that's over $200.00. If he used it from his allowance money I should not complain. I'm not ok with this. My parents have been together for over 30 years and consult every detail of their expenses together. My fiancee feels that this is like "reporting" to the mate.

My other problem is that whenever something bothers me (other than money matters), I feel I can't tell him without getting upset.

I email him or try over the phone. This doesn't work. He never wants to hear the bad he only wants things to always be on the upbeat. However, I have issues I want to discuss.

I feel he keeps me from expressing my feelings which turn into resentment. Lately, I have really been questioning my relationship.

Please help me. I'm getting married in four months and am afraid of failing. Please Help ME!!!! Any advice will much be appreciated. I need to hear an expert's advice.

THank you

The #1 reason for split ups in a marrige is money problems, so it's best that you work this out. I think that you should have a joint account that you dicsuss everything that is spent. Then have two seperate accounts for yourselves.
♥angela

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Ok. I recently bought my first pair of Converse. They are Chuck Taylor Premiere All Star, Low, and I was wondering if I am supposed to wear socks with them. If it helps, I'm a girl.

I have a pair and I wear the athletis socks that hardly show at all. If you're comfortable with not wearing socks then go ahead and just go bear.
♥angela

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If God is the "Creator", then who created him? Surely one can not create himself. So, with that said, who said that God has all control over everything?

It sure sounds like you have some issuses with God.There had to be a beggining and he is the beggining, so with that being said there's no need to question if you beleive. If you end up going there the you can ask him yourself.
♥angela

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OK i am 14 now and my hole life i have never cut my hair ewell i mean trims and when i got gum in it but thts diff. ok its dirtyblond brownish. and past my hips. and lots of people think i should cut it but others think i should leave it alown. and it looks really good when i curl it or what ever but i don't know cus i don't look at it from other peoples point of view so I don't know what i should do with it cut it or no. and also if you have any ideas about stuff i can do with it like styling it like other than down and ponytails. please help
~Goldylocks~

Well, don't cut too short but I think that anything past the shoulders would look cute. If your cut is past the shoulders it still gives you the freedom to do the same styles.
♥angela

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Hey guys, I want to get my belly button peirced but I just need to know how much it costs and if it will hurt? I'm not very good with pain so I'm kind of scared. Also is it hard to take care of? I'm mainly worried about the pain so if you could tell me if it hurts that would be great. THANKS!

xOKristen

It costs around 40-50dollars. My friend said it didn't hurt that bad. She said that it hurts to do crunches though. Only for a while, not forever. All you need to do is to change every oncce and a while.
♥angela

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i was just wondering how old do u have to be to be able tolike get your own apartment? because i dont wanna live at home anymore and like could i go on welfare or something??

14/f

No! You should be at least 18 and have a job and you have to be able to support yourself before you move out.
♥angela

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what is a good hair dye that is cheap and last up about 5 to6 weeks...thanx

My favorite is Cinnimon Brown. I don't use blondes or reds so I can't help you there.
♥angela

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*On New Years im going over a friends and I was wondering what you thought about The Dukes of Hazards ( with Jessica Simpson).

*Rate on a scale from 1-10 .

*Something else you can help me with is if you can name some really really good movie title that you can rent. It has to be something scary funny and new.

Thank you I'll also be giving out 5's !! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~♥~~~~~~~~~~~~

I wasn't into the movie but my friend said it was great. It sounds like a good idea. War of the Worlds is pretty scary. I'll rate it a 8 1/2. If Red Eye is out, I heard it was really good. My aunt told me The Wedding Crashers was good. Th 40 Year Old Virgin is supposed to be funny also.
♥angela

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when you wear an OB tampon...should you wear a pad too? can you feel if you leak when you have a tampon in?

If you are going to wear a tampon, you do not need to also wear a pad.. they're fully effective. Well, if you are worried about it leaking, I recommend you wear a super or ultra super. Uh, bye.
♥ CALI and angela.

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