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boyfriend problem =(
ive been in love with my boyfriend and hes in love with me for about a year now. but now were starting to fall apart, over the summer we used to hang out everyday now we hang out like once a month. and hes the kinda guy that flirts with alot of girls, but i trust him. yesterday i told him i was mad at him (because i was infront of him talking to him nd he was ingoureing me and ran to another girl) and he was like i dont care. that hurt alot... then today i was asking him why he said this and he was laughing about an inside joke. then he came online, and this was ower convo.
HIM: do you think its time time for a change?
ME: what do you mean...? 'change' of what
HIM<: i dont no nvm
>ME: no tell me
HIM: nvm
ME:k
ME: well your really acting like ur gonna break up with me... just get it over with if you r gonna.
HIM: jump to conclusions muchh?
ME: umm... well your acting like your gonna
HIM>: how does somone act like there gunna break up with somone
ME: they act like they dont like them....
hIM: well
>HIM>: do you wanna break up?
HIM: or take a brkeakk
ME: if i wanted to break up.. i would of broken up with you already....
HIM: o
ME: whatever
HIM: k?
ME: if your gonna break up with me then just do it now cuz im leaving soon...
HIM: fine
ME: fine what..?
HIM: uhh i dont no
then i signed off. but i dont no if i should break up with him, i love him to death and i really dont wanna break up with him. but it seems like were falling apart.=( should i? or no?
--confused.
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well seems to me like you have the same problems i do every once in a while, but it never goes that far to the point where were like do u want to break up or take a break, but i think you both might need some time away .. maybe only a few days .. maybe awhile. i dont know, but if you both love each other i dont think you should break up, just take a break .. then after awhile you wont want to ignore each other any more and .. yea .. well hope i helped
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I don't think the choice is entirely yours - after all, if he wants to break up with you, there's not a whole lot you can do to change the situation.
It does seem like a lot has changed - seeing each other a lot less regularly, him flirting with other girls in front of you, and also the tension and hints he's giving you in that conversation.
It might be time to take a step back and see if you're really happy anymore. Not thinking back to how great it was when you first got together - but what it's like NOW. Do you feel close to him? Do you have fun together? Do you feel emotionally safe?
If any of these answers are no, you might not be truly happy. While ending a relationship can be difficult and painful, it can often be worse to stay in one that does not make you happy.
Best of luck.
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Maybe you should give it a break for awhile I mean no one needs a guy who flirts with other girls.you could always get back together.
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He wants to break up, but i think he wants you to do it. Hes giving you signs! Ignoring you, flirting with other girls, and not wanting to hang out like you used to.
I know you love him, but hun> i dont think he feels the same. Save him the grief, and just end it, because thats really what he wants you to do.
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Online conversations aren't really a good thing to go by because you don't get to see or hear him. You only get to read what he's typing. Before you decide to do anything I think you should talk to him about this in person. That way you'll have a better idea of how he's feeling about the situation. I hope this helped you. Good luck.
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Awe!! Well he's being immature!! Ask him why he's been acting soo weird lately, and tell him to tell you whats on his mind. If he keeps acting this way sooner or later you're going to get into a fight which will ruin your friendship and relationship, so i suggest if he does keep doing it break up with him. He isn't right for you!
♥ Melissa
Good Luck Hun!!
=)
Toodlessss.
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well if you realli do love him. then just fallow whatever your heart tells you i mean yea your going to be sad if you do but it seems your hurting more when your dateing and falling apart than you are going to be if you break up. ull find someone else who cares more and is better. that wont walk away. just fallow ur heart.
hope i helped.
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You are falling apart... and having IMs like that are not helping, obviously. I think that you should see if the has any free time this weekend and you two can hang out alone and just talk and have fun. If he doesn't really want to make the time, then break up. its like enough already, you know? if he doesn't treat you so great, why do that. It doesn't mean that you can't still love him or that you won't cry when its over, but you owe it to yourself to have someone treat you the way you want to be treated.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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Sounds to me like he wants to move on but he also doesnt want to hurt your feelings. The main punch line is "take a break" thats what he wants. He is interested in other girls-and wants to explore-he sounds young and if not immature-is that some YOU want to be with? I dont mean to sound harsh sweety but its the truth I know my fiance just left me after 2 yrs-im looking for same advice so I can give it better than i can take it. If you need anything let me know and i will be here to help you
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I know this is hard to do, but it's time to let him go. You are absolutely right when you say the relationship is falling apart and from what I just read, it shows little to no hope of ever recouperating. The sooner you dump him, the sooner you can get over him and move on to someone who you deserve. Also, a word of advice, don't date guys who flirt with all the girls no matter how much you trust them. Flirting is showing his interest in someone else so how can you sit back and know your boyfriend is fooling around with someone else. Never let a guy do that to you. If you aren't his one an only, kick him to the curb. Again, I understand this isn't going to be easy, but getting him out of your life is the best thing for you. You need to find someone who deserves you cause I can sure say he does not. Good luck and hope this helps :)
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