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Q: ok well i have this problem, I will shave my armpits in the morning or at night and either that night or the next day they will be gross again. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!

try getting them waxed.

Q: I like my friend's brother and now that she knows, every little thing he does she always looks at me. It's weird. I want to get to know him better, but just because I talk to him I don't want her staring at me. Plus, how can I get to talk to him when he is in another conversation. I don't want him to think I'm rude and that I just join in on other people's conversations. It's really hard for me to get the chance to talk to him because the only time I really see him is on the bus, so thats my only opportunity to get to know him. So, how do I get to know him without sounding rude or nosy?

well ill give u a few opptions and you pick the best that suits.
1. give him your number and say if he ever needs to talk, needs help on homework or just wants to hang out to give you a call.
2. ask him if you can start calling him & tell him you want to get to know him.
3. find out a movie hes been dying to rent & ask if hed like to come over and watch it with you.
4. ask him if hes like to grab a hamburger sometime after school or an ice cream.
5. does he play sports tell him you would love to go see him play but if he wins you insist on taking him out for his favorite meal.
good luck

Q: OK this might sound kind of weird but I'm really scared that I'm dying or something... I exersize the correct amount of time each day but lately when ever I eat, even the smallest thing like a bowl of cereal, I'll be full for the rest of the day and sometimes even more, the longest I've gone is 1 week, am I dying.. thx :)

no are you on some kind of medication where the sidifect might be loss of appitite? if you are becoming under weight or seem not to have any energy then you need to see a doctor if not then its probably just a fase.

Q: Ok so ive really liked a female friend of mine for a while now (im 18/m), but shes had a boyfriend for about the past 6 months, and ive all but given up on pursuing her. she has a friend thats pretty cute and seems really nice that im thinking of asking out at some point down the line but heres the thing, im worried it might destroy what litle chance i have with my friend if her and her bf ever break up. so onto my question in readers digest form, do girls have a problem with dating a guy thats dated one of their best friends?

YES!!!!!!!! but they have even a biger problem dating one of their own freinds or best freinds!

Q: This may seem like a weird question to ask, but sometimes i get vaginal discharge. It is like gooey white stuff in my underwear. I read in magazines that is normal when you are about ready to get your first period, but its been along time and i havent gotten my period yet! I wash around there every night and i wear pads to keep it from not killing my underwear but it still smells bad and keep coming! What should i do?

well it could be that your horny because the vagina gets really wet when your horny. is it cottage cheese looking? if so then thats a yeast infection and you should definatly go see your gyno. if its clear then its regular discharge.

Q: On myspace is there anyway to delete a group I have joined?I also created this group but don't want it anymore.

you go to my groups then push on the group you dont want to be in and then push the square thingy that says resign and about the deleting a group i dont know about that one sorry ask tom.
i think if you tell tom you want to delet it then he will if not im sure if u put porn on it he will eventually delet it.

Q: Does any one know face stuff for acne and stuff.. and can you tell me how fast it clears your whole face

i rate 5's

acutane the only real tcure for acne i took the pill once a day for 8 months and havent had a pimple since. it also takes away scars i dont have to use washes, toners, scrubs creams, or medication for my acne anymore for up to ten years.

Q: I want to wax my bikini line, but im not sure what kind to use. I tried Nad's once but it didnt work and it hurt like hell, really really bad. I tried plucking lol but that didnt work too well and it still hurt bad. I want to wax cuz shaving, cream removal, and all that other junk doesnt work for me. So im asking for some suggestions for bikini waxing its from like CVS or Wallgreens, you know general stores and such. Also, my skin is really sensitive and i dont want it to look really bad because im going to a hotel and were swimming, so want it to be close and stuff. Thanks to anyone who has any ideas!!!
-KaTe

the only way to do it is to go get it prefeshinially done.

Q: Ok this guy really likes me. He asked me out today. I didnt want to hurt his feelings by sayin no so I said I dont know. And he started crying. I felt soo bad. What should i do?? He's 15/m and im 13/f. Please help. I rate high.

just say your not looking for a boyfreind right now but if you were that you would have said yes. and that he is really nice, smart & cute & u dont want to loose him as a freind because you really need him as a freind right now not as a boyfreind. hope everything works out.

Q: i have these HUGE addiction to coffee and diet coke. it'd be ok if i wasn't 14! i think i'm not growing as much because of it, but i need the morning shot to make me awake. i need to be taller but i also need my drinks! help?

well if you want to quite just go off of them slowly, and gradually. like lets say and this is just an example if u have ten cups of coffe every morning go down to 9 cups then the next week 8 & so on till your off. and i dont think it should cause too much trouble in the growing department mabey just alittle bit

Q: Ok i have weird skin..It's really oil when it's hot or my skin feels "clogged" but then i have flakes in some places below my nose and near my eyebrows. I recently started changing the medication i've been using to see if it would get rid of my zits and help my skin. Here is my face-cleansing schedule: First, I wash my face with this heat phisoderm..and then I apply Vaseline (body moisterizer), then I apply Zapzyt...I haven't really noticed anything..Any advice to what I should do??

*I just started trying these new medications like 3 days ago..

ACUTANE!!!!!!!!! go ask your dermitaligist about it asap its the only thing that works i had really bad oily skin with scars & everything i took the pill once a day for 8 months and now i have the best skin ever! no scars no pimples you cant even tell. i dont have to use creams or special washes or toners or take pills for my acne anymore for up to 10 years. look at my pic on my profile. i bet you think i was born with that perfect skin all the modles and actresses are using it. good luck hope u become pimple free real soon!

Q: Okay so I am 16 my boyfriend is 18, he is leaving for college in august, We were talking last night about how we go so well together and he was telling me how lucky he felt to have me and such. I asked him about what he thought was going to happen after he left, if he thought it would still work and he said "Whell prolly not" I thought he was kidding maybe, so I looked at him blankly and he replied with "well not to be an ass but those situations never really seem to work out, I hope it does but I just dont know" So then I just let it go and said "well we dont have to think about that yet". Ugh it was just really sad, I want to know if I should get out before I fall in love and then he leaves and I have my heart broken or if I should just wait it out and see what may happen, I think that I could be already falling for him...and Im not sure if I should tell him that and if I do im not sure how.....thank you guys :)

well just tell him you need to know if he is willing to really work at keeping your guys relationship going. tell him you think you are falling for him and you need to know if he realy likes you. say that you are willing to comute to see him if he is willing to do the same. and that you are willing to call him half the time if he is willing. tell him you think your guys relationship is worth working hard for to keep going and ask him if he feels the same if he dosent im sorry but at least you found out now instead of later and move on and find a sweet hottie in your town. good luck hope you guys stay together!

Q: Me and this boy are really serious. We have been talking for like3-4 months.But this other guy asked me to the dance and then we started to talk cuz i kinda said yea since the first boy doesnt go to my school.Then he asked me to come outside and we were walkin around all day.Then he fingered me like 4 times,. But i feel really guilty cuz i love the other boy.What do I do? IS this cheating? Do i tell the other dude.

yes its cheating. you should always be honest in your reationships. but if you want good advice on how to not to get dumped dont tell him get rid of this secound guy & go on with the first guy if you really love him. but you have to ask yourself if you really loved the first guy would you have let the secound one finger you?
if you want the do the right thing advice then tell the first guy what happend because trust & honesty is the #1 thing in a relationship just remember he may break up with you for cheating. its your choice if your willing to take that risk. hope i helped.

Q: Female 16...
My friend and i haven't been talking for about a month now and its all because she started spreading rumors around school about me and she also went out with a guy i really really liked, that i had told her about.. After she had hooked up with him she cheated on him with her so called ex boyfriend.
The guy i like has become a really good friend so i had to tell him. If i didn't i would have felt really bad about it..I actually have a few questions about this though.....
If he askes me out should i go out with him?
Should i keep this friendship between me and teh other girl?
and was it right for me to tell my friend about what she did to him?

it was wrong of you to tell him about your freind freinds are suppoe to keep secrets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Q: well theres this guy at my school and ive always really liked him. but hes one of these guys that everybody likes and is really popular so people just think hes out of their legue and so forget about him. well that what i thought anway but now ive found out that he likes me. he asked someone for my msn address and so ive been talking to him a lot. then he asked me for my number so we have been txting each other a lot. and the thing he has been saying are seriously flirty! and sayin what we could do when we are together. but heres the thing he hasnt asked me out or anything so we arent actually an item or anything. and my mate has asked him if hes goin to ask me out but he just said not yet because he wanted to get to know me but now im thinking does he just want to be friends? does he really like me? please help me! i rate high if its good!

well ask him if he wants to come over and watch a movie at your house or go have an ice cream its hanging out without it being to much of a date so he feels confortable and see how it takes you if he makes up some stupid excuss then just say ok well i guess ill just invite suzzy or whoever i think she really wanted to see that movie and just forget about him and play it cool like you just wanted to hang out.

Q: I am having a party in two weeks because its the end of the school year. I have this one friend who I just met this year. I really like her and I want to invite her to my party. The only problem is that some of my friends dont like her. They think she is annoying. I really want her at my party but I dont want to upset my friends either. Some of my friends said they wont come if she is there. I really want my new friend there but I also want my other friends to have a good time and come. What should I do? Thanks for your help!

you should invite her and to tell your freinds its your party and that you want all your freinds to be there and have fun its not fun to be left out exspecially by a freind and if they were truly your freinds they would ome to your party anyway.

Q: i didnt know what catorgory to put his under but my brother is 17 and has done the following

> stole my moms bank card n stoel all of her money out of her account
> stole money out of her purse many times
>stole the truck while not having a liscense and wrecked it
> ran up paperview bills and cellphone bill and jsut doesnt care
my mom didnt press necharges and now she had kicked him out of the house but hes only 17 so the family he went to called the cops and the cops told my mom to wait til hes 18 and kick him out my brother has stoel from my mom again and has began stealing from me but lies about it i think she should be punished for his actions and should get sent to jail or somewhere he needs to go somewhere and i need help of what to do and i need it fats before he steals again

well there is plenty of places for him to go your parents can send him to boot camp, put him in a home, jovinile hall, talk to a counseler at school about what he does to you im sure she will report him and get him sent away.

Q: ok well i like this girl i have never met her in person.. we were this friday but im not going to be able to because i have a baseball game. and yes i know that doesnt matter. anywho.. we talk on the phone like every night till like 11. she lives about 30 minutes away from me. she is a grade lower then me but i dont care. she likes someone at her school and im not sure if i can do anything about it?! i think she did like me but im not sure anymore. how can i tell? and should i go out with her even though im going to be in highschool next year and she will be in 8th? thank you. i rate high to people who give me good answers.

well first of all dont plan anything till you meet her because in person you may not like her. and a year diffrense dosent matter if the girl is the younger one especially if you really like her. meet her see how you guy hit it off in real person and go from there.

Q: 13/f - Yesterday I think my mom walked in on me and my BFF watching porn on my computer. Im not positive if she saw EVERYTHING because we clicked out fast, but its been akward between us all morning! I dont know what to do/say or if im just being paranoid and she didnt see. What do i do here?! My friend just went home, but still my mom hasnt said a word about it. i feel SO AWKWARD! HELP ME PLEASE

just play cool like nothing happend im sure if she had seen anything she would have talked to you about it by now just forget about it act like it never happend pluse tomorrows mothers day you dont want to act weird and ruin mothers day for her do you?

Q: Well I knew this guy for three years. His name is Joe and I went to school with him for 2 years and we were just friends and now he goes to a different school and we chat online everyday and our bond has gotten stronger. We meet up sometimes.We joke around a lot. He's always saying I owe him a hug. Recently I saw him and when we were talking he asked me if he looked good and I told him he was hott. And he told me I looked cute.. THe next day he told me that someone was telling him that I had a crush on him and so I said yes a little. So now Im confused what do I do do I wait or what should I ask him?

well it sounds like hes crushing on you if not then hes a major flirt player if i were you id call him and find out how he feels. but it definatly sounds like he likes u saying your cute and how u owe him a hug and everything!

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my name is Alex i love fashion, movies, chocholate, fairys, hanging out with my freinds & family. animals, the beach, being with my boyfreind. I'm very outgoing an basically your tipical teenage girl. I have a myspace account my url is http://www.myspace.com/princessalex. if ive given you advice id greatly appreciate it if you would please rate my advice it dosen't madder if you thought it sucked or if you thought it was great & id love some feed back.