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shouldnt he be put in jail?
i didnt know what catorgory to put his under but my brother is 17 and has done the following
> stole my moms bank card n stoel all of her money out of her account
> stole money out of her purse many times
>stole the truck while not having a liscense and wrecked it
> ran up paperview bills and cellphone bill and jsut doesnt care
my mom didnt press necharges and now she had kicked him out of the house but hes only 17 so the family he went to called the cops and the cops told my mom to wait til hes 18 and kick him out my brother has stoel from my mom again and has began stealing from me but lies about it i think she should be punished for his actions and should get sent to jail or somewhere he needs to go somewhere and i need help of what to do and i need it fats before he steals again
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Well, I wouldn't really blame your mom so much. Your brother is old enough now to make decisions on his own, independent of your mom. You may disagree, but think about it, your brother made all of those decisions himself, right? He decided to do it, knowing what would happen. My own brother almost had charges pressed against him by our mom, but thats a bit different becuase he's 28, but your mom could opt to put him in counseling or have him put in juvenille. Some states are different about their laws. Here in Michigan, a kid can be kicked out of the house at 17. If you really love your brother and care about what happens to him, sit down and talk to him. Have an intervention if you need to. And if you've already done that and it hasn't worked, its not your fault or the family's fault, you can't force him to listen to you guys and to take your advice. To give him a jolt of reality though, have him spend a night or two in jail to see what its really like, then maybe he'll stop stealing. If you want to find him somewhere to go for the time being though, call up family memebers and friends and see who is willing to take him in. Look for half-way homes or boys shelters that he can stay at until things blow over. I hope things work out for you and ypur family.
MAd love,
Victoria
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If your mom doesn't know that your brother steals tell her. If she does then tell her again and add that since he's moved back in he is stealing from you and he denies it. Say to her that you can't wait untill he is 18 that you need to act now.
Good luck.
Karazi Kenzee
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well there is plenty of places for him to go your parents can send him to boot camp, put him in a home, jovinile hall, talk to a counseler at school about what he does to you im sure she will report him and get him sent away.
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yes, there is a thing called juvenile court. they'll take care of him
-hitler
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keep everything away from him he might be doing this because he was neglected growing up as a child and just wants attention
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Hi,
Well I'm a law student but that's in the UK and English Law. I can't advise you on the US law. In the UK your brother could be kicked out at 17, he could have been kicked out at 16 in fact. And certainly in the UK your mom could press charges against him. I would imagine your mom could have him arrested for this, what we are talking about is several counts of theft and a count of frord - I would be very shocked if she could not. Talk to a lawyer! I don't know how old you are or if theirs an age limit on who can see a lawyer in the states, in the UK you could. If not, talk yo your mom and get her to see a lawyer. Something has to be done about him he can't be allowed to go on the way he is. Derfel XX
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I don't know if your brother can be arrrested, it depends on what State you live in. But she would have to press charges. Your mom must be at her wits end. You have to protect yourself. Treat him like a stranger and don't trust him. Your mom needs a tough love group. They will help her. There are parents in the tough love group who have been through what she is going through and they will have some good advice for her. Good luck to you all.
Michele
Try the Yellow pages, or the blue pages, or the white pages of your phone book. Look up tough love. Heck try the internet. Look up tough love Maryland. Also in my state we have an info line called 211, it's like 911, only 211 gets you information on social services like tough love, AA, suicide hotline, etc. So maybe your state has a 211 info line you can call for the location of the nearest Tough Love Group.
M
Well, I don't want to bring more trouble on to your mom, but you have rights too. If he hits you then you call the cops. That is domestic violence. Domestic violence does not have to be between a husband and wife, it can be between parent and child, or brother and brother, and of course brother and sister. SO if he hits you, I mean enough to show a mark, because you have to have something to show the cops. Then they have to arrest him. At least take him to the station. And maybe that will scare him. Of course your mom could interfere, I guess and stop it. But let me say this. My brother, and this was many years ago, he was living with my mom, but he was not a kid, and he attacked her, the neighbors called gthe police. He got arrested. They took him to jail. I made her fill out a "restraining order" against him. so he could not come home. He ended up in rehab and sobered up, and went through drug withdrawal, and he has been OK since and it has been 15 years now. Also he spend the weekend in jail, and that really woke him up. Now he and my mom get along great. She was also part of the problem, but no matter, it is NEVER OK to hit someone, and that is why he got arrested.
So, you might want to try that. Good luck to you. You poor kid, your mom should be stronger, so you have have to go through this.
Michele
Well, is there someplace you can stay for a month, aunt or grandmother? IF you make the arrangements first, then tell your parents, maybe they will OK it. I can't believe your dad laughed at you! In fact, I assumed that there was no dad in the house with your brother acting that way. What is everyone thinking. I have two teenage boys and they would never behave that way. It all starts with mutual respect and it starts when you guys are young. Your brother has no respect for other people, and he knows no boundaries. Especially for the people who keep a roof over his head. But I would have to say that he was dis-respected first, but at a very young age. Usually, unless there is some chemical imbalance, kids are not born this way, they learn this behavior, and it just gets worse as they get older, and they get much better at it, and usually become better at being mean and vindictive that the person who first did it to them. Well, I know it won't help, but I'll pray that you get through this
Michele
I hear ya, hey any time you want to just vent, you can write to me, I will listen. my email is michele@personaladvicecolumn.com But I only have access to that email at work 5 days a week, or you can leave a message in my inbox here. I check advicenators each day.
Take care
Michele
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if hes only 17 then its illegal but when he's 18 then yes he should be in jail cos you shouldn't steal for your family cos they love an protect you and all he's doin is stealing from her?!?!
luv nicki xxxxxx
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What your brother is doin is wrong! Why is he so out of control? It doesnt matter, using your moms credit card and taking all the money out of her account will get him put on probation! Thats pretty sorry, i think you need to talk to him and tell him that what hes doin is wrong and omg i bet your mom is really upset! I hope everything works out, write me back and let me know!
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