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okay so i am 15/f and i have been dating this kid for 10 months. He is wicked sweet to me when we are alone but in front of his frends and in school he always is yelling at me for no reason. i dont know if he is nice with me when we are alone just to get stuff and is being a jerk or he is just shy in front of people. but he does call me late at night because he is talkin to his other girl friends online and he gets mad when i say he doesnt love me. is he a jerk and should i move on or is he just shy in front of people?? (link)
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He is probably afraid that other boys will laugh at him if he shows affection towards you in public, because that would make him less of a "man" in their eyes, but that's not the only problem here. Ask yourself, do you really, but REALLY love this boy? If there is the slightest doubt, it means that there is something wrong in your relationship. The only valid reason to end it are your feelings!
But if you're 100% sure that you love him, then you should do your best to save what you have. Talk to him and tell him that his behaviour hurts you, and that you have every right to expect from your boyfriend not to hurt you! If he loves you like he says, he will do something about it. If he doesn't - move on!
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sorry in advanced if its too long, but please PLEASE take the time to read it, i really need answers thanks alot!!
this weekend i slept round my cousins and his mate was sleeping there aswell. so me and his mate (alex) got on really well, after just knowing each other for like 2 hours, so this is friday night were just messing around on my cousins trampoline and my cousin starting tickling (sp?) me on my ribs and then i told him to stop bcoz i was really ticklesh there. so anyway ever since then alex has been messing bout tickling me on my ribs aswell.
on saturday, again, we were playing bout on my cousins trampoline and by saturday me and alex got on really well, so anyway we all just sorta fell back on the trampoline and alex lyed next to me and starting tickling my neck.
so later on we were playing on my cousins ps2 and i was sitting on the 1 seated chair and my cousin was sitting on the stool so alex had no where to sit so he sat on the edge of my chair and sorta slide down and sat next 2 me, so we were squashed up on the chair and he kept on tickling my ribs again. after about 5 minutes he put his right leg over my left leg and then put his right foot behind my other leg (sorry if that confuses you). and when ever we sat next to each other he would sit really close to me and sometimes put his hand on my leg.
another thing about alex he says he fancys this girl called grace at his school, but so does my cousin and im just really confused!!
so my question is, does alex REALLY like me??
thanks ALOT for reading this!!
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You also forgot to mention your age, but I suppose all three of you are in your early teens. Boys' hormones are really raging at that age, and it's perfectly normal that they will like two, three or even more girls at the same time! So yes, Alex likes you, and enjoys being physical with you. If something new happens with the two of you feel free to inbox me!
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I am posting this but I am not sure if I posted it already so if I did just ignore this one: I just want to ask you do you think people should dwell on a comment or stu about a comment that was made to
them an hour ago, a day ago, a week ago, a month ago, months ago, a year ago or years ago. The reason I am
asking is because I have an excellent memory but I noticed if I confront someone about something they said they
say to me "I said that" or they will say "I never said that".
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I'm sorry but... obviously you don't have such an excellent memory! :p
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My parents are overprotective. They won't let me go places when there are gonna be boys there. My brother, however, has a girlfirend and he can go anywhere with him (he's going to be 16 later this month.) I am 14- and when he was 14, he was able to do stuff. Any advice to say to them? HELP PLEASE...:'(
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It's absolutely necessary to have a serious conversation with your parents. Try to be calm and DON'T fight with them. Discuss the reasons why they act like this.
1) Have they (or presumably just your mother) ever talked to you about sex? Did they make sure you know everything about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases? Do they believe that you're responsible enough to take care of yourself and not do anything foolish? If you want your parents to stop being so overprotective, the answer to these three questions must be YES.
2) Another possibility is that they don't want you to engage in sexual activity at all. You have to ask them if that's the case, and if it is, ask yourself if you are willing to respect their wish. If you are, let them know, and demand that they trust you. You have every right to, provided that you've never betrayed their trust before.
3) Last but not least, they could be afraid that somebody might hurt you. Talk to them and ask them what would make them more secure about your safety. Coming back home before certain hour? Always being in company of other girls or guy friends that they know well and can trust them? Not going out to dangerous places (where there are drugs, drunk people etc)?
Once you work out the set of rules you can agree with, you will have to obey them if you want your parents to trust you. That will earn you more points for another conversation in a year or two, when you will ask for more liberty and less strict rules. ;)
Let me know if it works out for you!
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I have a really good guy friend who's name is Patrick. We've been friends for like 2 months. He goes to my school and he's in my Science class. I added him onto myspace, and then I asked for his screenname. When I signed onto AIM, I IM'ed him and we talked for 4 hours straight non-stop. I talk to him every [school] day in person, and I IM him on AIM. We talk for a minimium of 2 hours. BTW, he's obsessed with Motion City Soundtrack. This was our conversation on AIM last night:
Patrick: So are you gonna get me anything for xmas lol
Me: Maybe, what do you want?
Me: It has to be 30 dollars or less maybe like a Motion City Soundtrack hoodie or something
Patrick: Those are like 50 dollars though
Me: Oh okay. *finds a shirt on hottopic.com* [I found a MCS shirt with the bear on it that says motion city soundtrack] Do you like this one?
Patrick: Hellz yea but you don't have to buy it for me I just want a paper hat
Patrick: whats the catch?
Me: What catch? There is no catch it's just a simple gift from me to you.
Patrick: There has to be a catch. The first guy said theres no catch but then he told me to bend down and squeel
Me: LMFAO!!!!!!! There is no catch though
Me: Patrick I'm not getting you a paper hat.
Patrick: YEAH YOU ARE
Me: NO.
Me: It's not a big deal I have money saved up from babysitting and from my relatives [I have money saved up for the trip that I'm taking to Argentina so I can buy stuff over there]. I have like 160 bucks saved up.
Patrick: 160?! DAMN!
Me: LOL. Yeah.
Patrick: But why would you wanna spend it on me? I don't deserve it.. [he made fun of this poserish girl who I despise strongly] I'm selfish.
Me: Patrick no you're not.
Me: I'm buying it for you
Patrick: Fine
Patrick: But seriously, thanks
Patrick: My dad is really cheap and my mom is low on money I never get anything new anymore
Me: Yeah it's no problem Patrick
His dad had to have a heart transplant so they had to pay for surgery [their insurance isnt that great] and they have to pay for his medications and on top of that, his dad is really cheap and won't spend money on anything, but he'll spend money for new things for his car.
Patrick's friend says she thinks that Patrick likes me because he says that we're really really good friends and he always brings up our conversations and actually remembers them.
I think that he might like me.
What do you guys think?
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Well, if he enjoys spending so much time with you (and doesn't have a girlfriend!) there must be something there... :) It's really nice of you that you'll be giving him that hoodie for Christmas. I hope it works out for the two of you!
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I've been best friends with this guy since freshman year and we use to call each other almost daily on a regular basis to chat. Even after i changed schools we still talked and stuff. But recently he got a girlfriend (off of WoW3) which really surprised me since he use to grip about how retarded online relationships. After that, he totally changed. He stopped talking to me, spent so much time (pretty much when hes not in school) with his girlfriend on the phone or online (she lives in chicago, we live in cali) and just got so obssessed with her. Shes two years older and planning on moving to california when he graduates from high school and goes to college (this year). Just these few weeks, it became apparent that his girlfriend really got annoyed when i called him to talk and was bitching to him about it. And what he said to me today just hurt a lot and made me cry, since i didnt think he'd just throw me away for his girlfriend, but apparently he did.
Him: I need you to stop calling me
Him: I don't want you to think that I like you
Him: and you shouldn't ever have thought that I'd want to talk to you more than *girlfriend*
me: uh...
me: i never thought you liked me..
me: wtf
Him: Well good, just don't call me anymore
Him: It's irritating, and *Girlfriend* hates it too
I dont know how or why he said that, but it really hurt. since we use to have so much fun hanging out and talking over the phone. I just want to be good friends with him but apparenty there isnt even room for his girlfriend and his best girl friend anymore. What am i suppose to do? Just agree and stop talking to him completely? I dont want to lose my best friend just because his girlfriend is so overprotective of him and refuses to let him even talk to other girls over the phone. (link)
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God, I'm really shocked, I mean, even if he really had to say all those things he could have said it in a lot nicer way! Look, try to focus on other people who actually appreciate your friendship, since at the time being this guy is obviously, how shall I put it... not quite himself. I guess he's so infatuated with his girlfriend that he can't think clearly. Don't call him if he doesn't want that, but try not to despair - if he continues to feel that way about you, and if he doesn't realize he's done you wrong and call you to apologize, he wasn't worth your friendship anyway!
That part about not liking you probably meant that he didn't like you in the romantic sense, because he wouldn't have talked to you every day if he didn't like you as a friend. However, people change, and he has become a different person, a person who obviously doesn't value what you had. Try looking into the future instead of looking back, and don't make waiting for him to change his mind the main purpose of your life - you will meet other people, equally fun and good friends, and if he ever wants to be your friend again, great! If not, well, it's his loss, not yours, because you don't won't someone in your life who doesn't realize what a great person you are!
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Ok i like this guy i work with and we were flirting and w.e last monday i havent worked in a while and i hear that hes going out with this girl i really hate and it was a total shock to me cause i never would have thought thwy would get together. Anyway they were both at work tonight and she saw me coming so she started giving him a neck massage and he pushed her away (he didnt see me) does this mean he doesnt like her and what do you see from all this..oh and he hardly emails me but now he is, hes emailing me little things like oh my dad took away my computer thats whay i havent been on in a while, but ill ttyl. I dunno what to get from it, but what should i do... ive worked with him for over a year and this flirting has always been there and i like him a lot and i hate her lol. thanks (link)
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If he's really going out with this girl, it may have been only for a few dates and he probably hasn't made up his mind yet. He obviously likes you too. So if you really like him so much, you should act before it's too late! You don't have to ask him on a date, just suggest you go for a cup of coffee sometimes after work. During spontaneous friendly talk you should slip in the question of his availability. That will have double function - informative, because you'll finally know what you can hope for, and if he's interested in you he'll understand it means that you're interested in him too. Good luck!
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My ex & I speak once in awhile. I'll be great for a few weeks, getting over him and not contacting him, but then he'll call me out of nowhere. We'll catch up, laugh about our memories together, and he slips in a few i miss yous. Then, he won't call for another few weeks. He hurt me badly but hearing his voice feels amazing. What am I supposed to do? The minute I feel like I'm moving on, it's like subconciously he knows and brings me right back to where I started. Do I tell him how I feel or will that sound pathetic? I feel like saying I want it all or nothing at all, but I don't want to lose him completely. (link)
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I wonder if he feels the same way about you and if that's the reason why he still calls you. I bet you're wondering that too! In this situation I recommend complete honesty. You have to tell him how you feel and insist that he tells you about his feelings too. Sounding pathetic should be your last concern. There is more at stake here, and the risk you'll be taking is showing your vulnerability. Do you trust him enough to do that? Inbox me if you want to talk more about this.
From your description of the relationship you have at the moment, it sounds like you are still close enough to tell each other how you feel. Talk like friends. Ask him for help! Tell him it's hard for you to move on and that this arrangement hurts you. Don't hesitate to tell him that you don't want to break contact with him either. If he cares about you, and I'm sure he does, he will try to help you find a solution. It may be getting back together. But if he isn't ready for that, let him leave you more space to sort out your life, but don't make any dramatic decisions, such as "we'll never talk to each other again!" Maybe if you agree that you should call him when you're ready to see him again. (And that will be easiest for you when you find a new boyfriend, or at least someone who could become your new boyfriend!)
I hope this works out for you.
P.S. I think it's better to have this conversation in person than over the phone.
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i am a really nice person and i don't understand why so many people are mean to me...i mean i am really quiet and i don't bother nobody!
there is this person who is constantly putting me down and really hurting my feelings...i try not to let anybody know how bad he's hurting me....but it's really getting to me. you would think he would say it to my face instead of other people. i mean the stuff he is saying hurts me soo much....i'd rather be beaten physically than to have something killing me from the inside this much....
i really don't know what to do i just know i feel really bad about what's going on....espeacially when me and that particular person don't even know each other.....not to mention when he starts putting me down so does everyone else....
i know most people are going to say talk to him....but that's not an option...because if i talk to him i am probably going to get violent...because i am sick of this.
this is really really tearing me apart and i know you shouldn't let words bother you but after a while they began to really get to you and tear at you...what do i do? (link)
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The reason why people pick on other people is to feel better about themselves. You're absolutely right, violence would only make things worse. This guy doesn't deserve your attention. Actually, he might enjoy it! So do your best to ignore his provocations. Chances are, he will get bored eventually. Let this unfair treatment motivate you to be better than those people who are mean to you. And remember... be proud of being better than them! A little aloofness can come in handy (of course, only with the people who are rude to you! Be the same kind and sincere person with everyone else.)
What's more difficult to control is the way you feel when being treated this way. I understand you can't just tell yourself not to feel bad about it. One good thing you could do is talk to a teacher, counselor or some other adult whose opinion you appreciate. Another good thing is spending time with people you love and who really care about you. Always try to focus on all the positive things in your life. That should make those negative emotions weaker and, hopefully, they will be gone eventually.
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ok, this might seem like a weird question. But I just told my mum about this problem i'm having and she got really worried and told me i have to stop at once. it got me a bit freaked that i might have some mental problem or something, my mum just said so...
So, here's the problem: Every single thing i read and every single word i look at i have to read backwards. My mind just tells me to read it backwards and i can't stop. No matter how hard i try i can't stop myself. I know, I know, this is probably really stupid, but just thought id ask.
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First of all - don't panic! Your mum sounds like she's taking this a little too dramatically. Yes, it could be something called compulsive behaviour, but if it only started a while ago, it will most probably stop the same way it started. What you can and should do is talk to a counselor or a psychologist, whoever works at your school, and share your concern with them. It's not stupid, it's something that millions of people have experienced in one form or another. It's hard to make yourself stop doing it, but it will be easier with professional help. Good luck!
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i have a lot of discharge. its almost everyday and even when i wear a panty liner it'll go through so it looks like i peed my pants. i can't wear a pad everyday because, you just cant. so i was wondering if there was anything causing an excessive amount of discharge. im a virgin but i do masturbate. so could this be a factor? (link)
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You shouldn't be worried about masturbation, it can't cause significant changes in the amount of discharge. You said that it happens "almost" everyday. It's normal for the amount of discharge to vary during the menstrual cycle. If it smells normal and you don't experience any strange symptoms like itching or burning, there is nothing to be worried about. However, it's always better to be safe than sorry, so I suggest you talk to a health care professional. If you see a gynaecologist they can take a sample of your discharge and test it in the lab to check if there's any reason for concern.
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ok so my skin is pretty like red tinted its weird and gross and i hate it idk what is wrong with me and its ALWAYS like that is there any creams or stuff to just make my skin look normal?? i saw a commercial for one where the girls skin goes like stright from red to clear what product is this and does it work??
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You shouldn't use anything before seeing a dermatologist. I don't know how bad your situation is, but if your skin is really really red it might be a condition called rosacea. Only a doctor can give you the right advice.
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me and this guy are good friends...i tell him things that i only tell my best friend,and he tells me stuff that his best friend dosent know...but now he wants to go out with me...i think i like him...but i'm not sure...and i would feel bad turning him down cause he broke up with his girlfriend to ask me out...so,what should i do? (link)
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Take it easy. If you think you like him, there must be some kind of attraction between you and him. Just tell him you are not 100% ready and ask him not to rush you into decisions. Try to make a gradual transition from being friends to being in a relationship. Go out with him, but under these terms. One date doesn't make you his girlfriend. Hopefully you will understand your feelings better after spending more time with him. Don't do anything you would feel uncomfortable doing.
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I have never done anything like this before, so here I go. I like this guy, and I asked my friend to ask him out for me. He said okay. Then 2 days after I told my friends, they tell me that he never said anything. Then 1 week later, his sister (younger than me by 1 grade, and she is also my bff) tells me he plans on saying yes. Then a week later, my friends who is in the same grade as him (1 grade older than me) tells me that he's planning on saying no. And then his sister tells me that he likes some girl named Abby Blackfeller (Name changed by a lot!!!), and that he doesn't like me. Then he wrote me a note saying "I'm sorry If I've hurt you. I like you, but I don't know if you want to go out with me!" After recieving this note, I am the most confused person ever. This is coming 2 weeks after he wrote the note. I doubt any of you have been in the same situation as me, but answer this as best as you can. (link)
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"I don't know if you want to go out with me" sounds to me like he's asking you out. He is also aware that you might have been hurt because of him changing his mind so often. If you can't confront him face to face, use the same strategy, i.e. write him a note where you could ask him exactly what you want to know: "Are you asking me out?" Or you could try to sound playful and not so deadly serious about the whole thing and rephrase his question "I like you too, but I don't know if you're asking me out!" It is possible to keep your dignity and self-confidence while admitting that you like someone, so don't be afraid to be honest with him.
Good luck!
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Okay, so I have a guy friend who I am really close with. We're always cracking inside jokes and making fun of each other. I've always thought of him as my best guy friend, but nothing more. In my PE class, everyone says we like each other. I always shake my head and say 'no way' but I've just noticed he has never made any objection. I'm always telling my friends in my PE class I don't like him (which I don't!) and they always say : Oh really, I thought you did!
A bunch of people in my PE class are always saying how we like each other and when I say "Ewww! No!" they say, "Shutup and stop acting like a stupid 3rd grader." And I've got so fed up with it I want to slap them in the face.
Today At lunch I was by the band room with my friend when one of my closer friend from PE comes up to me and tells my that my guyfriend likes me and wants to get with me, but is afraid I don't like him! I totally freaked out and got nervous, and when I went back to my friends and told them they were all like, "You never knew that! Oh my gosh, it's so obvious!"
And appearently everyone in my PE class knew that he liked me (for sure) and none of them told me. So I was the only one in the whole class (and there's 38 kids in the class!) who didn't know. And the guy I like is in the class so I'm worried he'll think that I like my guyfriend! I don't know WHAT to do, and I need advice! (link)
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If you're really close with your friend, you should be able to talk with him about your feelings. Try to feel comfortable when you address this subject because that will help him relax too (if he couldn't talk to you directly about this, it means that he is embarrassed and could be easily hurt). Explain to him that there is nothing wrong with him, that he is a great guy and that's why you like having him as a friend (it's crucial to do this if you don't want to hurt his feelings!), but that you love him as a brother and it would be weird for you to be his girlfriend. Underline that you would hate losing his friendship and ask him if you could stay friends. If he says yes, which he probably will, talk to him about the ways to stop rumours about the two of you. If you feel close enough to share this secret about your crush with him, explain that you're afraid that the boy you like won't approach you if he thinks you already have a boyfriend. If not, just tell him that you feel uncomfortable when others tease you because of him, and ask him if he could tell his friends that there is nothing but friendship between you and him.
I hope that helps!
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