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I am posting this but I am not sure if I posted it already so if I did just ignore this one: I just want to ask you do you think people should dwell on a comment or stu about a comment that was made to
them an hour ago, a day ago, a week ago, a month ago, months ago, a year ago or years ago. The reason I am
asking is because I have an excellent memory but I noticed if I confront someone about something they said they
say to me "I said that" or they will say "I never said that".
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It's hard to stop dwelling on comments especially if they're bad ones. Yea, I'm like you. I have excellent memory and I have a tendency to mind-record what people said mins, hours, mths or years ago. Why? because I have a tendency to be very calculative and that's bad. And we should try to be more forgiving.
If the comments are bad ones such as critiscims, reflect on it and try to improve yourself. But if they are just plain mean criticisms meant to put you down, forget it. It's not worth remembering them. i know its easier said than done cos I myself have problems doing that too. But I try. And you should try too.
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you see the problem with confronting people about anything they said wrong is that 99.9% of people get intimidated by people who have the nerve to confront them so alot of the time people will act stupid hoping that will let them slip through the crack
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Many humans do not like to blame themselves for anything. Hence many religions, and words such as destiny. However, it is better to stay away from those types of people because if they said something to hurt someone, they will more than likely deny it to anyone who asks them about it. Try not to think about what people say about, no matter how hurtful it is. All that matters is your opinion of yourself, and by dwelling on the thoughts of others you are only hurting yourself. This can be caused by many things that are hard to control, a need or craving for positive attention from your peers is usually the case for most. Try to remember that your friends are not always going to say nice things about you or what you do, even you want them to. If they do, then they are not true friends. True friends will always tell you the truth, no matter what.
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I'm sorry but... obviously you don't have such an excellent memory! :p
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