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well theres this boy cody he transferred from another school in the same county and hes in 4 of my classes. and i'm really starting to like him we goof around and joke with each other just being teenagers well. he flirts a little but i don't think he likes me just because i'm not a skinny girl and i dont weigh no 120 something. i'm built big.. i got muscle though is half of it cause im 5'11 but anyways. i want to ask him he wants to go watch a movie this weekend. and hes in my next class.. any ideas of what i can say to him should i write him a note and give it to him..he sits infront of me. but PLEASE HELP.. because hes really what i think im looking for.
-lonley- (link)
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Even many girls don't think so, a lot of guys are attracted to girls who may be considered overweight. But you shouldn't date someone only for their looks, and you shouldn't think its impossible for someone to like you or even fall in love with you just because you don't like the way you look. The best kind of guy to be is one who likes you for your personality. As for asking him, do what you feel most comfortable with. Some people are better talking to people through writing. Others just tend to be confident, which helps them to take risks with being afraid, such as asking out guys. Don't be nervous when you ask him, despite the method, and try not to over to react to his answer. Remain calm, no matter what he says.
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hi, im 14 year old girl.
me and my EX boyfriend are still in love.. i know its kinda weird but were like best friends.
recently he told me he was moving and it hurt to know that. he wrote me this love letter and did all this really cute stuff for me and he told me he still loved me and everything he ever said to me was true, he said im the only special girl in his life. well i found out that he's been talking to another one of his ex's who i DONT get along with at all.. shes a year younger than me. so, me and this kid got into a fight because i heard that she was talking bad about me and him and he doesn't care. so i got mad at him and then he was like.. it shouldn't matter becuase i love you and only you even though me and the girl are friends so i said okay whatever and then i find out that he told the other girl that he loves her! im heartbroken.. he's leaving in 5 days and we're still fighting.. i need help.. bad.. i can't let him leave knowing that im mad but im also a jealous person.. i NEED to get over him.. no matter HOW HARD it is.. please return with advice (link)
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Most guys think its annoying when girls get jealous. It makes them think that the girl feels as though he is her property. Try not to get so jealous when you see him talking to other girls, just try to ignore it, if possible. Another you should do is approach the boy, and apologize to him. If you still have feelings for him, tell him about those as well. You'll find that it will only get easier for you to get over him once he finds out how you feel. If the two of you still have feelings for each other, however, make sure you keep in touch with him after he moves. Try not to act as though you think might be cheating on you. Trust him, and overcome your jealously, then your life will be much easier.
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Growning up I've always thought that if you have a boyfriend, everything and anything in life would be completely wonderful. That nothing else would matter, and he'd make me happy despite all the crap going on. Well..I've learned..that's not always the case. I have one of the most AMAZING boyfriends a girl could ask for. And when I say its almost perfect, I mean it. But lately..I've been dealing with a lot of issues within my life. About a year ago, things went really down hill for me with my family. I was kicked out for the stupidest reason, and when I came back, my mom and I got into a huge arguement, and she ended up beating the crap outta me. It was weird because the person I trusted the most, let loose on me with so much anger, and it was one of the worst expierences of my life. After that, I started my whole rebellion. Tons of smoking, drinking, drugs, and boys became my main focus in life. School has gone downhill for me, I've failed too many classes and it's going to be really hard for me to graduate. I'm in freshman/soph classes my junior year and its really embarrasing. My relationship with my mom is a dud, my dads depressed, and my sisters at that point in her life where her horomones are going insane. And I'll admitt, I'm a bitch to everyone. I can't really help it, but I don't see the point in being nice because it ends up biting me in the ass. I come home, take a shower, do my homework (sometimes haha), then go sit in my room and talk to my boyfriend, friends, or listen to music. Devil music according to my parents. I have really bad self-confidence issues, I feel like a complete loser, and I feel like everyone watches everything I do to see my faults. And I guess I feel really bad. With my boyfriend, I try to hide it because I don't want him getting upset. But I'm to the point where, I need to talk about it. And its fine with him, he wants to talk about stuff and understands. He also has his problems too..they're a lot similar to mine, so we can easily relate and stuff. He's been going through a lot of stress lately also, and he said part of it is because I've been so upset, and he hates to see it and doesn't know how to make me feel better. So my question is..how can I get happy again..? I'm not exactly depressed, but I have my times where I am. I just feel bad because I don't want my boyfriend thinking he doesn't make me happy..because he does more than anyone will ever know. I'm completely in love with this guy. It's just hard because I have so much going on in the back of my mind..and it's killing me. (link)
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Having a boyfriend is never just all fun and games. The two of you will have fights and arguments from time to time, and its up to you work them out. But you always have a lot of fun when you're together most of the time. Sometimes people think the best way to back life better is to doing drugs or drinking or smoking cigarettes, but its actually the worst thing you can to do yourself. All of those things only help to make you faster, and even though you may think they make you happier, they really don't. Try not to focus so much on the bad stuff in life, and put the past behind you. What's done is done, and no one can change that. Also try not to think about what other people say about you. It would also be a good idea to try and focus on one thing that would make you happier. Join a club, read your favorite, or arrange dates with your boyfriend, and try not to let things bother you during the day, and just keep reminding yourself that no matter what happens you'll always have something to look forward to later.
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I'm in an interesting situation here. First off, I have a friend who I will call Ashley. In my group of friends, she isn't really well liked. I'm her best friend, or at least one of them, but a lot of time she is really annoying, and the rest of my friends say I am too nice and I shouldn't deal with her, but I don't think she's always so bad. Anyway, I like this guy who I will call John. A little while ago I told Ashley I liked John over the phone. She asked if I actually liked him or just thought he was cute, and I said I actually liked him. Her only response was "Aww", but then a few minutes later she said she was asking him out online. It was like she hadn't even heard what I said. But I didn't say anything. John had never told any of his friends about liking a girl ever, never asked anyone out, not even said a girl was hot or anything. But when Ashley asked out John, he responded "are you serious?" and she said sure. He said "if you want to" and called her and asked her out. That made me so upset because of all people, after liking him for a long time, he goes for the girl who is already annoying. And Ashley just didn't even seem to care. I told her that I still like him and I'm trying to get over it, but I end up liking him more. He used to be really shy and akward, but every time I hang out with him he gets easier to talk to, and just so much cooler. She hardly even talks to him! He knows I like him too. This past friday me, John, a bunch of my other friends, but not Ashley, went to my school's varsity basketball game. During the game someone insulted John as a joke and John pretended to be all upset lol. So I asked him if he needed a hug and he kind of paused for a minute then said yes and I gave him a hug... and we walked to somewhere else after and he gave me his sweatshirt. My friends and I both think that he acts like he likes me and he hardly even knows Ashley, so we don't understand. And all Ashley does is complain about him not talking to her or calling her or hanging out with her. It's ridiculous.
That was only one half of my problem - there's another guy, I don't know him that well though. I'll call him Tim. He's a year older than me, so he isn't in my classes. But one of my friends in my grade, Greg, is friends with Tim, so I met him at a football game with Greg. I only just met him but I already felt so comfortable with him. I usually don't feel comfortable with even some of my close friends. But I really just felt so relaxed and like I had known Tim for a while, right away. He was really funny and nice and cute, and I could tell a lot about him from probably only 10 minutes of talking with him and Greg. I haven't hung out with him since, because I hardly know him still. But when I see him in the hallways he says hey, and it makes me really happy. My good friend Eric is who I go to with relationship problems most of the time, and when I asked him about Tim, he said he knew him and was kind of friends with him a year ago and he had nothing bad to say about him. I asked Eric if he could like tell anything about Tim or something, haha, and he said "I don't know if he likes you or not but he definitely doesn't think you're ugly." Haha so I hope he is right about that part. As my last relationship ended with the guy not only using me, and other girls at the same time, but also drugs, it was good to know Tim isn't really into all of that, and he just seems perfect to me. My only connection to him is through Greg though. I tried to get Greg to have us all hang out this past week but it didn't work because of sports. I hope it works soon, but I don't know.
I really like John. But I can't do anything because of Ashley. And Tim would be a lot less akward to be in a relationship with, but I hardly know him! Maybe I should just give up? What should I do here?
And sorry that was so long haha. (link)
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Feelings can be incredibly complicated to understand, and even harder to come to term with. That's what makes this situation so hard to handle. Your friend and her boyfriend have no true feelings for each other, even though they call themselves a couple, and even though you think you still like him, you may want to reconsider that. You maybe you only think you like him because he's going out with your friend, who not only betrayed you, but also hurt you. However, it seems as though he likes you, and may even consider you, rather than your friend, his girlfriend. Discuss the situation with him, and try to figure out what's going on without offending anyone. If it turns out that he has no feelings for you, try to get over him and to forgive your friend. If that doesn't work, and you find that you still have feelings for him, just try to remember that if you really love him, you should be happy for him and your friend.
It would also be a good idea to try and get to know the other boy better. Not only would that help you to get over your friend's boyfriend, but it would probably make you feel a lot happier and better about yourself. Ask him for his number, and arrange a date with him, then see how things go from there.
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k so i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for about 5 weeks and i am 15 and i dont know if it would be wrong to hang out with a guy while going out with someone? and yes i would tell my boyfriend and i would not cheat... but would that be wrong? (link)
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It isn't wrong to be friends with guys, despite your relationship status. If your boyfriend gets jealous, explain to him that you and this boy are nothing but friends. If he can't accept that, and tries to you pressure into staying away from all other guys, then he probably isn't a very good boyfriend. You should also make sure that the other boy knows that you two are just friends, and that you have a boyfriend, who you would never cheat on.
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Ok well i had just been dumped by my boyfriend of about 5 1/2 months.. and well i think i already like someone... is that bad... cause at the ending of our relationship... things weren't really ne thing... and this kid is really nice to me.. and he seems like he is flirting with me.. but he is a year older than me.. but is it bad that i like someone already?? ahh i'm so confused! what should i do?? (link)
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It is a bad thing to like someone, especially when you're single. However, if you feel uncomfortable getting a new boyfriend just now, confront the boy you like and explain the situation to him. If he really likes you, then he will be more than happy to wait for you to come to terms with what is going on. If he is not willing to wait, then you should try to get over him, and do your best to ignore him. As the for age issue, this will, sadly, always be a problem because there are laws reguarding such things, but don't let that stop you from being with who you want to be with. Age should never be a question when it comes to love, even other people think otherwise.
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This is to all psychologists and psychiatrists out there. How do you know if you have a good psychologist or
psychiatrist. In other words, how do you know if you have one that is helping you. Reason being I am asking
because Joe (a friend of mine) went to see one and the psychologist is helping him with work related issues but
never is right when it comes to Joes life outside of work. Joe said that he asked his girlfriend when did this
particular thing (he did this particular thing quite a few times) does it bother her. And she said why do I care; Then
Joe told his psychologist what his girlfriend said and his psychologist said oh yes it really bothers her but she wont
tell you. Joe asked his girlfriend later on that day does it really bother you but you wont say and she said no I
really dont care. (link)
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A situation is usually very fragile. This is because it is wrong to make assumptions about people or jump to conclusions about them. The best thing to do is to just try not to intertwine one's social life with a psychiatrist session. Discuss only the topics the psychiatrist asks about, avoid the topic of love-lives. This is because in the girl in question may not like for your friend to discuss their relationship without her permission, and also because it seems as though the psychiatrists knows either little or nothing about girls.
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There's this guy I like. We're pretty close friends and all, so we're kind of comfortable around each other. He says some really inappropriate things to me kind of often (see my last question for his latest comment). It doesn't really offend me, it's just that he soes it to see how I'll react, and I don't know if all his jokes about sex are because he finds me attractive and I make him think about sex or if he's just a jerk and a pervert. Should I confront him or just deal with it? I really like hanging out with him, but I can't help it when he steps over the line. (link)
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If your friends comments bother you a lot, confront him. Ask him why he says such perverted things. Try to be friendly about it. Don't try to make it look as though your annoyed or angry, even though you might be. Showing your true feelings could bring about an accidental end to your friendship with him.
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so i like this guy and he never noticed me for the longest time until one weekend and we hit it off with the flirting and such. the only thing was he liked this other girl at the time so we would talk about her and i would give him advice on what to do.(im sorry im a caring person!!) but it turns out she turned him down and doesnt like him. then he liked this other girl but then decided not to ask her out because "shes too stupid" and he cant have a conversation with her. i had conversations with him all the time! but suddenly it dimmmed down. he can be kind of an ashole though but then he redeems himself. he will say funny comments (sometimes about me) and it will hurt my feelings so i confront him about it and we laugh about it but i dont know what to do anymore. i can tell when he likes a girl and right now it doesnt seem he likes me. tell me things to say or like conversation starters or ways to flirt i miss that weekend! i need to know ways to reel him in hahaha. (link)
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One of things guys hate most are girls who try too hard to get noticed by them. It makes the girls come off as weird or attention-seeking, so try to put your first question out of mind. The best you can do is tell this boy how you feel in a somewhat comical way, and hope that he likes you as well. It is natural to be upset about it, if he doesn't like you, but let it affect your entire life. If you have a hard time telling this boy about your feelings, write him a note or send him an Email, explaining your feelings. The one of the best ways to do it would be over the phone. Try have a friend present at the time, if you choose to tell him over the phones, so they can give you some moral support in the end, despite the answer.
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I am posting this but I am not sure if I posted it already so if I did just ignore this one: I just want to ask you do you think people should dwell on a comment or stu about a comment that was made to
them an hour ago, a day ago, a week ago, a month ago, months ago, a year ago or years ago. The reason I am
asking is because I have an excellent memory but I noticed if I confront someone about something they said they
say to me "I said that" or they will say "I never said that".
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Many humans do not like to blame themselves for anything. Hence many religions, and words such as destiny. However, it is better to stay away from those types of people because if they said something to hurt someone, they will more than likely deny it to anyone who asks them about it. Try not to think about what people say about, no matter how hurtful it is. All that matters is your opinion of yourself, and by dwelling on the thoughts of others you are only hurting yourself. This can be caused by many things that are hard to control, a need or craving for positive attention from your peers is usually the case for most. Try to remember that your friends are not always going to say nice things about you or what you do, even you want them to. If they do, then they are not true friends. True friends will always tell you the truth, no matter what.
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ok, so im dating a sophmore and im a freshman. well ive only been dating the sophmore for like 2 days adn ive realized that i like one of my frineds more, but she has a boyfriend. i have seen a picture of him and just from looking at the picture he looks like hes the type of guy who just dated girls so he can get sex from them. i like her alot and i dont know wut to do. i think she likes me because her b/f goes to a different school and didnt get his date form for the dance turned in on time and she asked if i was going and she sorta hinted that she wanted me to ask her because her "date" turned the date form in too late. she sits next to me in spanish and we talk in class a little bit, but i talk to her on aim and on the phone alot. or did untill about 2 weeks ago. what should i do? (link)
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This situation has to be resolved very carefully because so many other people are involved. If you really like your friend that much, break up with your current girlfriend first. When you do this, explain to her why you're breaking up with her, but don't tell her the name of the girl you like or else there might a catfight later on in the future. After you break up with your current girlfriend, talk to your friend, and tell her how you feel. If she likes, too, give her time to break up with her current boyfriend. However, there is also a good chance that she might only like as a friend. Some girls overly-friendly, and come off as being flirty when they really aren't. Maybe she only wants you to go to the dance with her as a friend. If this is the case, try to accept and do not tell that her boyfriend is only dating her, so he can sleep with her. That is a self-made assumption that must be put out of mind or else it will drive you insane. It may even cause you to do something that you will make ruin both your friendship and your chances with the girl you like. However, what's most important is that you break up with your current girlfriend. You're only hurting both of you by dating her when you have no true feelings for.
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Do you think people should take comments made to them at face value and not read into what was said to them. If
you said yes why yes and if you said no why no. I will give you an example of what I mean: If Alice says to Sally; I
noticed that Diane looks terrible in blue; should Sally just take it to mean that Alice thinks Diane looks terrible in
blue or do you think Sally should read into that remark and take it personally.
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It is very important to protect your best and truest friends from dangers of all kinds. Insults, rumors, threats, or harmful self-abusive decisions. However, it is also a good idea to just sometimes leave the situation alone, and let work itself out. There are many times when this should be done, but it all depends on who said what, how it was worded, and why it was said. If someone says that they think your friend looks bad in something, simply kindly disagree with them, and ask the person why they think that about your friend. But it is also very important to try and make sure the conversation is nothing more than a friendly conversation, reguarding one's looks. Try to make sure the conversation does not turn into an argument over something stupid.
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How does one stop posting questions once they get an answer(s) they like. In other words how does one feel that
they dont have to constantly take polls and just say to themselves I like the answer(s) I received so I will no longer
ask the same question(s) in the future on advice column websites any more (link)
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This whole issue revolves simply around the questions you asked, and the fact that you probably do not like the answers you got. This could be for any number of reasons. Perhaps you are afraid to follow the given advice or you feel as though the answers you recieved were not good enough, even though you want them to be. The fact is that, you have to come to terms with the idea of just not liking the advice that was given to you in the past. Do not search the world for the answers you want to hear. Try thinking about your problems, and coming up with a way to solve them on your own. This is usually the best solution for a lot of people.
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sarah goes through these phases. one minute she'll be like OMG BFF Love you so much, then the next she'll kinda ignore me. it's soooooooooo annoying! for ex. i did somethin really nice by takin her, me and her other closest friends to the poconos this weekend to celebrate her birthdya which was on friday. all durin the trip she was= like really good, but then when we got back saturday night, she started like bein weird. its hard to explain.
i dont know why she does this but im really sick of it. wat should i do? i dont think i can talk to her. (link)
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People are hard to understand sometimes, but it sounds as though you are simply craving positive attention from your best friend. Explain to her that you don't think she pays enough attention to you or that she doesn't act like a very good friend by ignoring you all the time. But do not things just so that you might get something in return. Also try to consider that your friend might have a lot going on right now, and hasn't yet realized that she's been ignoring you. When you confront her, try not to seem angry about the ordeal, and try your hardest to make sure it doesn't turn into a fight. It would be a pity to end a friendship.
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one day at school i was walking in the yard and a boy on the basketball court name kelly called me over and asked me for my number and i gave it to him.the next day in my class i was talking to one of his friends (lloyd) lloyd told me that he threw away my number and he doesntlike me and all kinds of stuff then i wrote a note to my best friend ferrin who rides his bus just so happens somone took the note from ferrin on the bus and read it out loud so kelly said he doesnt like me and he threw my number away and he does not go out with me (i knew that)so i dont know why he even asked me for my number he is soo wrong for that...but the next day after that my friend charisse said that his friend eugene told her that kelly said he goes out wih me...........but i am so confused and mad i dont know what to do or what to say to himplez hlp me out
i ♥ his blue eyes (link)
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Sometimes boys can jerks. There are a lot of reason why he could have asked for number: A dare, a short-lived crush, for a friend. There is also another much more painful reason. Perhaps this boy and his friends thought you were very pretty, so he asked for your number to make it look as though the two of you were dating. When he told the people on his bus that he wasn't going out with you, he was probably angry or annoyed for some reason. But he still wanted people at your school to think you were dating him, which is why he probably continued to spread the opposite rumor at school. This boy is nothing but a trouble maker. Ignore the rumors if you can. If this cannot be done, approach him, and tell him to make up his mind. If he wants to go out with you, tell him he should have asked you out first before telling people that the two of you were dating. If he doesn't want to go out with you, then ask him to please leave you alone, and if that doesn't work, take the case to the principal and have him put a stop to it.
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Ok well me and my friend Nick have been going out for ever and i realllyyy like him, and well hes broken up with me twice for other girls, and about 3 weeks ago he broke up with me for this girl named brook, and so me and my friend derick started talking alot and we started to realllyy like eachother and i went to one of his wrestling meets and we kissed and stuff and that night nick wrote me a 2 page note about how he feels and how he broke up with brooke for me, and i didn't know what to do because i knew nick was gonna ask me out and derick really wanted to ask me out but his best friend likes me, so he didn't know if he should, but i realllyy like derick and then nick asked me out and i felt really pressured so i just said yes and now im missing every thing me and derick used to do and i tihnk a made the wrong decision, but i dont know what to do because nick is like IN LOVE with me but i kno he will probably break my heart again like hes done in the past but i would feel bad for breaking up with him sense its only been like 3 or 4 days....HELP! (link)
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The worst thing you can do to yourself is deny your feelings. Think about the way you feel about both guys, then pick the one you have stronger feelings for. If it means breaking up with your current boyfriend, be gentle and polite. Tell him how you feel about the other guy, and why you're breaking up, and why you started going with him in the first place. Try not to feel too sorry for him, though, or else it could effect your relationship the new guy, then you two might break up. Once you break up with your current boyfriend, if you have to, put it out of mind, and try not to think about it so much.
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