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I am a very hard worker. I am studing to become a Psychologist . I am very good at giving advice. I specialize in relationships but i will answer just about anything. Do you need advice or help with a problem then i am here to help you. My column is for everyone young and old. It will be a place to express to me what you feel. If i have learned one thing, it is that you can deal better with a problem by telling someone about it and getting their imput. Never be embarrased you have nothin to loose with my column. I hope you all feel comfortable. I am here just to provide help and advice.

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im 15... i have noticed that there is cloudy substance on my thong constantly.. it is embrassing and sometimes smells... what is it what can i do am i normal?

*scared*

Well by your age i am pretty sure you have started your period if not then this milky substance is a sign that you may start soon. If you have already started then it could be that you are going to have your next period soon. If this substance has a strong fishy smell and it hurts when you urinate then it could be a baldder infection. If this last one is true you should go see a doctor asap bec ause this infection can spread and be very very painful. If you masterbate or are sexually involved with someone this substance can mean you are aroused and/or pregnant. if you have skipped your last couple monthes of your period I would take a home pregnancy test. Let me remind you you cannot get pregnant by anything except for semen from a man. ( Some people when I tell them this they freak out so I remind people of this. )Well i hope this helps you
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ok, me and my ex broke up..and i want him back but he has a new gf now..and i dont think he wants me back..we went thro a lot..we are still good friends but i dont think he wants me back and ive tried to move on..i just cant...what should i do?

Start by asking your telling your self " okay we broke up we are over he has a new girlfriend and I need to move on" If you agree with what you just said then well yea you should probably move on. Maybe try getting a new man yourself. On the other hand if you answered no then you need to tell him or maybe try to talk to him about how him and his girlfriend are gettin along. If that sstill doesnt help then try writing down pros and cons to each situation
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do girls really like to get eatin out and are there any special tricks to it?

Well I guess it depends on who the girl is and whether she likes it or not. If you searck on the net you might be able to find something.

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17/f
Hey!
oookkk i need major advice lol cause my friends def. dont give me any. i really like this guy, but he does a lot of stuff i dont like. he smokes a lot, drinks to much (i like to drink but he drinks all the time) and hes just kinda known as a "bad boy". a lot of people tell me i could do a lot better. he gets into trouble a lot and starts fights with people, but im really comfortable with him and i like the way he makes me feel. i dont know what balances out more or if its worth going through stuff he does... and if i should keep being with him cause i really like him but i really dont wanna get stuck in his drama and the stuff he does. i dont want to lead him on either... so if i should get away from him i need to. hes a really nice guy and he has a lot of friends and i know he would never hurt me... but the things he does really bothers me... and i dont like to see him get hurt or get in fights. I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!!
-kelly

Hey
I dont want to be the bearer of bad news but you should really let him go. Just from the way it sounds. If the things he does bothers you then maybe your body is trying to tell you something. Just think if one day he gets drunk and trys something whether it be rape or try killing you. When you are drunk you dont know what you are doing or what is going on around you. It is even hard, believe it or not, to control your actions. Think of it as if you are in a dream or nightmare and you start talking in your sleep but you dont know it or maybe you start to sleep walk this is how a drunk person reacts to everything. If he is really nice to you and you think that he loves you then try checking him into a alcholic adictions center. Or a support group. Maybe even sit down with him maybe with an adult listening from another room( for safety) and talk to him about it. Tell him exactly what you told me. Tell him that if he doesnt straighten up and pull his act together you will leave him. If you do go to this resort then follow through with it. You dont want him to think that you are weak. If he thinks that you are weak he knows that he can push you around. Again just make sure that you are safe and there is always an adult around just incase he lashes out or something. You should also make your parents aware of the things that are going on. Just promise me one thing be safe. Oh please be safe. I would rather have you get out of there and report him to the police then see your name under the obtuaries in the newspaper. If you feel you cannot get him under control then let the feds take care of it. Remember it is all for his own good. Always follow your heart and never let your gaurd down. You are a women stand tall and proud.
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I really like this one guy, but the bad part about him is that he's a flirt. He is currently single, but he's constantly flirting with girls and he even has a little black book with dozens of girls' phone numbers in it. He's got a very perverted sense of humor and always asks me if I could do perverted things for him involving taking off my clothes. He's just kidding of course, but is this kind of guy worth my time?

Ask yourself if you could have a serious relationshiip with him. Only if thats what you want if you want someone to just goof around with more as a good friend then go for it. Hope i have helped.
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I'm a 17 yr old female, and I and my boyfriend of a year and 3 months just ended our relationship about a week ago. It was mutual because we both were fighting a lot over petty things and not acting quite like bf and gf, but more like good friends. Part of this is my fault... I guess maybe a couple month or so ago I started to get this crush on another guy about my age, and I didnt know what to do. Things between me and my boyfriend had been slipping a little bit even then but I still care a lot about him.

Although he said it was mutual hes said he misses me and I think given the chance I think hed want to get back together. I still care about him a lot and I don't want to hurt his feelings. but I and my crush are both interested in each other and I dont know whether we should hook up or even hang out together bc I dont want to hurt my ex. I I realize its too soon now to do anything but how long should I wait and how can I stay friends with him if I decide I want to be with my crush? And would me doing this block out any chances of my ex and I getting back together in the distant future?

Well first say these words "He is my ex we are no longer together and I need to move on" now think about what you just said. Do you really mean what you said? Is that what you feel inside? if you answered no then you should get back together with your ex. If you said yes then move on and go for your crush. If you are still confused write pros and cons to each relationship. If the pros out weigh the cons with either relationship compared to the other then go for the best. Looks like you have alot to do so instead of making you read a very long advice paper. Go out and get a man. Hope my advice helped.
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There is this boy... lets call him Andy! I really like Andy... but how can I tell him again? I went out with him before because he liked me... but that was only for a day! He has a girlfriend that is like really nice to me and I dont want to break them up... And I dont want his girlfriend to get mad at me and not want to talk to me ever again! I know they love eachother because on their shirts his girlfriend wrote I love Andy and Andy wrote I love (his girlfriend) Just because i am afraid to talk to him does that mean i dont like him? Whenever i talk to him i talk all like flirty but i dont know if we have anything. I really dont want to break him and his girlfriend up but IIIIIII really like him.... I think.... :(....... AHH HELP!!!!

Well you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. If you are dropping hints maybe hes already got it you just dont know. And maybe he hasnt told you because he doesnt want his girlfriend to hear and misinterpret it. Maybe if you call him or pull him aside and ask if he still likes you. That might answer your question. If you dont want to break them up then act friendly and only friendly. Dont drop huge hints like touchy feely. That will really tick off his girlfriend. If you get along with her try starting a conversation with her about him. Become her confidont and then you will find out how she really feels about him and if she likes someone else. You said you think you like him if you are not sure dont put their life through hell and then realize you dont like him. The only thing left to say is follow your heart and then do what it tells you to do.
Hope this helps
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Well, I have a reeeally embarassing problem.
My nipples are always erect, whether I'm turned on or not, and no matter the weather.
All the time.
Now, some guys think it's hot, especially when I wear a tighter shirt but I can't stand it.
I find it embarassing that you can notice, even when I wear a sweater.
I don't want to get jellies or a padded bra, I'm a size C already and that's enough for me...
Is there anything I can do to remedy this issue?
Oh, and I'm a girl in case you couldn't tell.

You know there are many things that you can do. try to wear maybe two bras like a regular one and a sports bra over it. Or maybe layer your shirts to make it less noticeable. If all else fails at least you know that the guys are lookin at ya. Keep your head high and always be proud of who you are.
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I have many best friends. As a sometimes tom-boyish girl, atleast half of them are guys. I'm 13, as of the 6th of May. Anyways, one of my friends, I've been friends with for about 3 years now. We had a relationship as "boyfriend and girlfriend" for one year, then kind of stepped out of it. Then, it started again. He lives very far away, though. Over 50miles away. Then, there's my 2nd best guy friend at school.. I've really started to like him as more than a friend (and have told him). But neither of the guy friends know of the other. I am pretty much void of anything but friend feelings for the first guy, but I'm afraid to tell him. I don't want to hurt him or anything, but its haunting me, thinking each night how he thinks I care so much for him (and, don't get me wrong, I do care for him alot, just.. we're just friends, nothing more). I'm afraid of becoming more than friends with the guy at school, because it could ruin our friendship if nothing good comes of it.. So I'm just confused. I don't have any idea of what to do.

You know one of my best friends is currently in a relationship like this. You know what i will tell you the same thing i told her. Go for it. Go out with this guy if you really want to if nothing comes of it then you know that you tried to make it work. Just when you start to drift apart tell him that you will always be a friend maybe nothing more but definatly nothing less. You should follow your heart if it says that this will work and is a good way to go then i would do it. Now on the other hand you have this friend that lives almost 50 miles away and it sounds like you guys are still pretty close. Well if I were you then I would tell him that you are starting to like someone else if he cant handle it then he is not a good friend. He should be happy that you are moving on a nd getting to know other people. Many of these situations come to me during the day because i am the one many people come to for advice. You are not alone alot of people have this problem and i tell them all the same thing... Go with what your heart tells you... Just remember it is always good to have new friends but never for get the old, one is like silver and the other is like gold. Just keep that in your mind and you will do fine. Hope my advice has helped and if you still cant do it ask around i am sure other people at your school have this problem. Speak up Speak out.
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ok i haven't had my period yet but i have a question. When ur having ur period and your swimming, what do you wear- pads of tampons so u won't leak?

Definatly a tampon, pads break up and start to decompose in water.

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im 16 and when i give my boyfriend a hand job
it takes a few minutes for his penis to get hard is this normal? He is about the average size
but he's a bit worried about it.

Well yea it is normal not every guy becomes erect the instant you touch them. If he is so concerned about it then have him try a stimulant to help his arousal time. If that still does not work then have him talk to his doctor. Yes, it is a hard subject to talk about but maybe he can request a male doctor to speak with. Hope you have some luck.

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Hey Advice columnist i was wondering if you coud help me with a problem I have.

Okay I'm a 14 year old gurl and have had my period sence I was 12, But I have always used pads. What my question is, there really as many risks to using tampons than just pads? my mother keeps saying that they'er awful and that they can get stuck. I have done my home work and know that they'er is very slim chance of getting TSS. But what I want to know is do they really get stuck? I don't believe that they do but I'm asking this for a reason to make sure.
I'm jsut so tired when i have my period that im wet. EWWW!!! and summer will come and I can't go to pool parties with my period unless Im wearing a tampon.

The only way that a tampon can get stuck is if you are not on your period and you use one. Even then there is a big chance that nothin will happen. It will just hurt really bad pullin out when you are not on your period. But other than that there is a very slim risk of TSS. You are right. I kno what you mean with the feeling of being "WET". It is ok to use either one. Good Luck

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Ok, so I am a girl, and I used to hang out with this guy I know. He was really nice, and we are interested in exactly the same things- computers and fantasy. He's a lot older than I am, and not many people his age like those things- they're mostly into makeup, boys, etc. Since he's so much older than I am, it never occured to me that we could be an item- but then one day, he made the love sign to me behind his back! I tried to ask him about it, but it was a total disaster and I probably embarassed him a lot. He denied it, but I think he does like me. What should I do?

You should talk to him over the phone and try to get to know him. Then really start to drop the hints and see where it goes from there.

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My best friend just became really close to this girl named Briana. Briana's really fun to talk to, but I recently found out some bad stuff about her; she cheats on her boyfriends, backstabs all her close friends, and she smokes pot. She told me about the pot thing and even asked if I wanted to join her! I, of course, said no. I don't know how to tell my best friend, because she'll accuse me of lying because "Briana's so nice!" I'm just scared that Briana will get my friend into smoking and stuff. HELP.

Well, you are in a pretty hard place between these two people. You should still try to tell your friend she diserves to know the truth even though it might hurt. If that still doesn't work try to get your friend to catch briana in the act. If nothing seems to sork try just backing up your friend and giving her self-esteem. The number one reason that people start smoking is because they are not confident in themselves and peer pressure can easily take them over. I hope that everything works out! Bye.

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Hey I've liked a certain guy for a long time, and I really want to tell him how I feel. I'm too shy to tell him in person, so I thought I'd write a note. What should I write on it? I don't want to sound creepy, or not know what I'm talking about. Help!

You should just try talking about all the things that have happened to you. A letter is always more interesting if you can answer things as you go. So throw some questions in there and try to make them interesting not the boring ol' how is the weather. Really think about what their answers would mean to you. Hope you have agreat day.

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I'm five feet six inches tall and I weigh nearly 180 pounds. I want to weigh 118 pounds again, maybe less. I have been eating a lot less but it seems like the weight just doesn't want to come off. I don't have a whole lot of time to exercise, but I try to squeeze in a walk around my neighborhood when I can!
I have 3 bottles of those Stacker 2 pills but I haven't started taking them yet. They're the kind without ephedra. Does anyone know if they work and if so how should I use them? Also I am on the antidepressant Lexapro and I heard this can cause you to lose some weight. Does that work?
Any other "miracle" cures you can come up with, well hey I'm willing to try. Just please do NOT tell me to go on the Atkins or South Beach diets!

well i can't tell you if those are going to work or not i suggest that you see a doctor first. There could be a drug interference when taking your antidepressent and the diet pill. I have found that Optifast works really well. I have been on that diet for a month and have lost 12 pounds. but you may think that it doesn't sound like much i also lost 2 pant sizes. But it costs alot of money. and it is a controlled diet i hope that you can find success in what ever you do .

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Hello peoples,
well i was just wondering what happens when a guy goes through puberty, like i know about girls (duh cause i'm a girl) like they bleed but what happens to a guy? Do they have to wear anything? Like I know girls have to wears pads and tampons, do boys have to wear anything!!! Please please please please tell me!!!thanks

well not really see when a guy goes through puberty the most they ever have is wet dreams and erctions you probably think that that is really unfair but it is true.

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Hello,
well i am really good at singing and i really want to be a singer when i grow up. Could someone tell me how i would get a cd out or any websites that have like a singing contest???!?!!? I really really love singing and i think i could do it so please answer back.

Well you could try contacting your local radio station and suggesting if they have a contest almost like american idol and if you could be a contestant. Or go to one of the singing contest shows webpage. EXAMPLE- American Idol, or there are a couple more. Just do alittle research. Wish you luck

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this is a bit embaressing my girlfriend and i
decided to have sex but when i tried to put my penis in i lost my erection we tried again a little later it happened again and im not sure what to do my penis is quite small is that the problem or is there something wrong with me?

It happens alot with first timers. But there is something you can do try using a hormon suplimant and maybe try to keep your erection alittle longer before you try puting it in. It usually doesn't have to do with size but if you feel that non of these other things work try a pebis enlarger pump. If you still are having problems then go and see your doctor maybe he can provide something. I wish you luck!

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I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and now I just found out that he's gay. Do you know if he could be lying to just make me jealous or grossed out? I don't know what his intentions are...

when a guy tries to make a gurl jealous they usually try to make themselves look good. Unless this guy is weird i would not use gayness to make myself look good. I think that he is tryin to gross you out. He is being a crazy guy. Don't worry he will grow up sometime
LOL

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