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Friends of more? School or long-distant friend?
I have many best friends. As a sometimes tom-boyish girl, atleast half of them are guys. I'm 13, as of the 6th of May. Anyways, one of my friends, I've been friends with for about 3 years now. We had a relationship as "boyfriend and girlfriend" for one year, then kind of stepped out of it. Then, it started again. He lives very far away, though. Over 50miles away. Then, there's my 2nd best guy friend at school.. I've really started to like him as more than a friend (and have told him). But neither of the guy friends know of the other. I am pretty much void of anything but friend feelings for the first guy, but I'm afraid to tell him. I don't want to hurt him or anything, but its haunting me, thinking each night how he thinks I care so much for him (and, don't get me wrong, I do care for him alot, just.. we're just friends, nothing more). I'm afraid of becoming more than friends with the guy at school, because it could ruin our friendship if nothing good comes of it.. So I'm just confused. I don't have any idea of what to do.
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break it off with your boyfriend rather tell him then he finds out
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Sorry to say this but you gotta be honest. Call Friend #1 (lol) and tell him what you told me. Something like, "I'm sorry but I think we should just be friends. I know this may hurt, and I'm very sorry. I just think it would be better. I care so much for you as a friend that I don't want to ruin our friendship. Is that okay?" I know it sounds corny, so edit it to make it sound more like you! This would be better in a letter or email. As for friend #2, hang out with him for a while. Eventually, start doing more one-on-one things. Sooner or later it will be the right time to ask to the movies, etc. From there, "I've been thinking about it for a while, and I really think that we should be more than friends. What do you think?" (Again, modify) Good luck!
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You know one of my best friends is currently in a relationship like this. You know what i will tell you the same thing i told her. Go for it. Go out with this guy if you really want to if nothing comes of it then you know that you tried to make it work. Just when you start to drift apart tell him that you will always be a friend maybe nothing more but definatly nothing less. You should follow your heart if it says that this will work and is a good way to go then i would do it. Now on the other hand you have this friend that lives almost 50 miles away and it sounds like you guys are still pretty close. Well if I were you then I would tell him that you are starting to like someone else if he cant handle it then he is not a good friend. He should be happy that you are moving on a nd getting to know other people. Many of these situations come to me during the day because i am the one many people come to for advice. You are not alone alot of people have this problem and i tell them all the same thing... Go with what your heart tells you... Just remember it is always good to have new friends but never for get the old, one is like silver and the other is like gold. Just keep that in your mind and you will do fine. Hope my advice has helped and if you still cant do it ask around i am sure other people at your school have this problem. Speak up Speak out.
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