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Ok we met on the internet and stuff he's really sweet and stuff but he likes 2 have sex WAY 2 much we met up @ this park and we were talking while standing next 2 his car with the door open and we we're talking about how much we love eachother and out of no were he kisses me about 10 times and I just ignore it but then he starts trying 2 get his hand in my pants but I wore a belt so he unbuckels it and starts fingering me 2 tell the truth it felt good but it shocked me and out of nowhere he gets on top of me and starts kissing me again I know he loves me because he writes me poems and stuff that leave me speachless and crys 2 me on the phone about how much he loves me. he's in the army I don't know what's going on I love him so much and I know he loves me I've tested him before and he's true 2 me I pretented 2 be my friend (she's a girl) and told him that I loved him on it and he told me he only loves destiny ( ps: I'm destiny) so I know that he loves me but what do I do about the sex thing (link)
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if you're ready and you WON'T have any regrets about it, do it.
if you're doubtful or just not ready, don't.
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Hi All,
This is the low down, I have a boyfriend we have been going out for approx. 2 months it's been quite rocky as we both approach relationships differently but recently he seems to be really getting on my nerves to the point where I can't even controll my anger. He recently got a car which he said he needed badly to get to work and back and I was all for it I was supportive throughout the process. But now it's become more then Just a car for going to work and back now every week-end or randomly during the week he goes out with his brothers and friends and comes back late at night and during that period he won't even text me to say his safe and missing me. He even tells me little white lies about where he's going with his friends I have no problem with him going out because I trust him. But I've taken the backseat in this relationship because of his car. He gets very annoyed or angry when I tell him about his faults and he just replies ''ok'' to everything. I just feel neglected and I just feel his not romantic enough he doesn't even take me on dates nor do small things for me to show he cares. Nor makes time for me anymore.
If there's anyone out there who could please give me some advice on how I should handle this situation with him beacause he has an attitude when it comes to problem solving.
Thank-you all for your time.. (link)
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tell him straight up what you told all of us. if he really does care, he'll put it into consideration and change. but if he's a total jerk and doesn't care about your feelings, then honestly, he's not worth it.
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So im fifteen. and i recently noticed that guys only use me. For example i know this one guy and he soo nice but hes like send me a naked picutre of yourself send me a naked picture of yourself. I didnt want to at all. i have a really bad past and i finally got away from it. And i didnt want to but i have a problem with like saying no and he kept bugging me about it asking me 24/7 for it. and its not like him hes not that type of guy which i thoguht was weird. so one ngiht i gave in and sent him one and he never said thank you or anything about it. and i just feel retarted and i ended up telling him off. and then of course once again i was the one who ended up apologizing. I just i need someone. and like i get too attatched to guys so fast they can totally take advantage of me and i know that i just cant say no cause im afraid ill loose them and i hate loosing people. i Just dont know what to do anymore. Thanks pleasseeee help me anyway you can thanks so much. (link)
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you don't need someone. you WANT someone. there's a difference. no matter how many times you tell this to yourself nad others may say it to you, you can't let people take advantage of you. it may be hard, but you gotta be tough. as someone once told me, every one is replaceable no matter who it is. they may not be the exact prototype, but new is good. things change. if you lose people because they dont' like that you're standing up for yourself and being kinda mean, then they're the ones that are obviously taking advantage of you in some way.
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i have a bf that lives about 25 mins away so we never actully get to see each other. we've been dating for about a week. and i havent seen him since he asked me out online. and overall i've met him twice. were hanging out and watching movies at his house tomrrow and were both excited. do you think we should try to kiss?or is it to soon?i'm ready and i will but i just need a 2nd opinion.
thx (link)
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do what feels right. i know that sounds cliche, but really. since you don't see eachother very often, if you want to kiss him to leave an impression, do it! if you feel like you're not ready yet or it will be weird, then i suggest not.
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hey whatsup. my names casey.
im in 7th grade and im thirteen.i live in bermingham alabama & i go to a christian middleschool, so theres only one class per grade [sucks i know]. But lately the boys in my grade have been really immature. All they talk about is how "hot" the eigth grade girls are, and they never talk to US anymore they just talk to the eigth grade girls. They say were jealous of them. I say NOOO. Girls like to date older guys...am i right? Well then why the hell are these losers non-stop flirting with the boys in our class!?! They have their OWN boys in THEIR class!!
The point is: i dont know wat to do about getting the boys to notice that we [seventh graders] have something to offer to NOT JUST OLDER GIRLS!
HELPPPPP.
-Casey (link)
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haha it doesn't really matter what age girls and boys are, if they're hot and attracted to eachother, they flirt. that's it.
trust me, don't try to MAKE them notice you because that's considered jealousy. you have PLENTY of time and PLENTY of boys to go through so just live with it.
that's just my point of view.
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honestly people,
i hate everything. my family. my friends. my school. my cheerleading team. i cant take anything anymore..someone please help me. (link)
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you need a break, that's all. you're probably just bored with it all.
go somewhere new, meet new people. try a different style of life, observe how different it is, and maybe you'll start liking what you already have.
maybe i'm wrong.
you may want to see a doctor if you don't try the first suggestion.
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well my ex is at again... he told my bf that i cheated on him with an ex from years ago who isnt even in town and lives far away...wtf...well now my bf and ex are becoming good buddies and my bf said he was sorry for asuming in an email but then when i talked to him he said he jsut wants to drop it and he dont believe me but he jsut wants ot be with me so bad that he dont care... ok if i cheated would i be here trying to figure it out... no and i didnt and i swear on my life.... how do i get him to believe me... ps i have cheated on him once before but so has he... so taht makes it harder please help (link)
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have you sworn it to him?
does he take you seriously if you look him in the eyes??
you need to talk to him, like, not on the phone, but in person. look at him and tell him that you're serious and you want him to take you seriously. it may be a little awkward, but if things go well, you'll feel SOO much better afterwards. it's one of those trust things.
ask him "who are you going to believe...my ex or me?"
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Theres this boy ive known for about a year now. You could say we're really good friends almost best friends. Thing is i like him and people say that they think he likes me too just cause of the way he acts but i dont know! Like he always smiles at me and ill catch him starin at me sometimes and yesterday at school he kept tellin' this boy "get the blonde girl" and when i turn around he'd just look at me nd smile. Then he wrote on my binder "devon was here lol!" and he said there that way you can think of me when your walking to class. And on the weekends he asks if im going to hang out with him and i did and he told me to come back at 830 and to make sure i did and i did but he wasn't home. What do you guys think given by the information and what should i do? i like him alot but im scared to tell him but my friends have told him. THANKS! (link)
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i'm pretty sure he likes you. either that or considers you a best friend.
[i think he likes you :D ]
do the same things in return, or just flirt with him more. if things seema little more interesting between you two, then maybe you could get together [bf gf]
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Jay and i have been together for 2 weeks and a day and he told me he "loved" me and "cared about me more than anyone" and i asked him why...and he wouldnt answer because he thought that i'd call him "corny". i told him i didnt care and he still wouldnt tell me. my last boyfriend told me he loved me and i believed him. and i let myself fall in love with him and he swore he'd never hurt me. and he broke it off in less than 3 months. and it hurt me like crazy. and i told myself i wouldnt go out with a boy until im ready, but im such a pushover, and thats why im with jay. and truthfully, im still not over my last relationship. not in the least bit. and i most definetely dont wanna get hurt again. but i cant ever picture myself loving jay, i mean love him like a brother or something, but never being romantically involved. should i end it or just keep going on like this? and when he says he loves me, how can i find out for sure? how do i know hes not just saying it because he thinks hes supposed to? or for another perverted teenage boy reason? (link)
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if you don't want to be with jay like that and you're not ready for more love, i'd say end it. there's nothing wrong with a best friend, ya know? tell him that and talk to him about your doubt if he really loves you.
if personally you're not ready for a serious relationship and you can't get over your ex, don't do something you don't want. you might need time to just think for yourself and have fun. love isn't something you NEED. honestly, the right love with come along and you won't have to worry about it.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I care about him alot. With the Christmas season here he has been having to work about 60 hours a week with no days off(since about the begining of November). Now all we do is fight. I know it is because he is stressed and exhausted and I never feel like I get to see him; I also know that it will get back to normal after holiday season calms down in about a month. I just don't know what to do to make him not hate me for fighting with him all of the time. I don't want us to break up but I don't know how to calm my mood swings and fighting so he won't get tired of me. Please help... I have been so depressed because of this. (link)
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if you guys are close, all you really have to do is talk to him. tell him you're sorry about all the stress or whatever.
as for your moodswings, if you're not feeling happy, don't talk to him. tell him you need cooldown time or you just need an hour to yourself or whatnot. moodswings make everything worse, trust me.
and since he's totally exhausted from working (which i also know how that feels) be nice when you call him, say you love him or whatever you might say, and if things start getting a little hot tempered, just say you have to go so it won't make things worse.
things take time and patience, and lots of control. it's hard but you'll get through it.
good luck :)
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Ok, so my name is Mandy and my boyfriend is Evan (not our real names). We've been going out for two years, so everyone knows we're like the "class sweethearts". But anyway...
Today in science I was flipping though my book (which stays in the desk and is used by whoever sits there each period), and on one page someone had written: "I love Evan Smith - and I'm not Mandy!" And then someone else wrote below it: "Me too! And I'm not Mandy either!"
Arggh! It made me soooo mad! So I wrote: "I love him too! and I AM Mandy!" (but then i crossed it out because I thought that sounded kinda rude, like haha I'm going out with him and you're not).
But anyway, I cant stop thinking about it. I mean, I know a lot of girls think my bf is cute and funny, and some probably have crushes on him... but they actually LOVE him?? Enough to write it in a book for anyone to see?? And what are the odds of it being two people who sit in the same seat (and MY seat, at that)? That must mean half the school is in love with him!
Now I know he really loves me, so I shouldn't let this bother me so much... but it really does. Because now I'm thinking that everyone I pass in the hall is secretly in love with my boyfriend, and behind their fake smile they're really glaring at me with jealousy. And I hate feeling so paranoid and suspicious! Ugghh.. what can I do to stop feeling so upset about this?
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ha.
there's this little thing called jealousy that gnaws at every girl and irritates the hell out of us. that's what it is. i'm going through the SAME thing.
these girls probably just have the hotts for your bf, just like any regular high school. they always have the popular hottie that every girl likes, but of course he has a gf. so in the end, you're the only one that matters to him. don't take it personally. just think out of all the girls in that school, he's got you and you've got him. and if you're not planning on breaking up anytime soon, then it's all good.
more than likely they're not really in love with him, they just say it because they're immature and wishing they were you.
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okey does age really matter ...dang im kinda sorta dating a guy 4 years older than me .i feel so lucky to b wit him .he understands me and everything i do .but everyone says that age does matter ......age is just a number right......i hope i really do like him and im falling madly in love ........help does it really matter .......but is it rape
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well it kinda depends on your age. if you're a teen with an older guy with NO sex, then there's nothing wrong with it. he's just older.
if there IS sex involved, then technically that's illegal and he could get in a lot of trouble for it.
but if you're like still in jr. high people probably just see it as awkward since he's a HSer. like i said, it's not wrong if you both like eachother and are together for the right reasons.
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I feel like I can't attract guys... I want a boyfriend so badly but I do not want to be the person who asks the guy out. I don't want to be chasing the boys, I want the boys to come to me! But everytime I see I guy i like, I'm friendly, funny and happy. But they either just think of me as a friend or they just think i'm being nice and they forget about me in a little while.
I don't want to flirt or give out any hints. I want to be completely normal(as if I was talking to my best friend.) but how do I get guys to be attracted to me? Or at least think about me when I'm not there.
Like what can I do to make guys notice me more and stand out?
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dude, let me just put it this way........the more desperate you are for a boyfriend, the longer it will seem until you get one.
DO NOT BE SO WANTING OF ONE. just act normal, continue to be funny, happy, whatever you are and one will come along sooner or later. honestly, guy friends are the best to have. boyfriends are too much drama.
it's kinda like christmas...the more you want christmas day to come, the longer the days go by and then it's over in an instant.
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16/female.
i just want to know how do you know when you're in love?
I mean, I really want the real answers. I know it's different for everyone and I know "it's something you can't explain. you just know."
But I really can't tell between real love, physical lust, or just plain hormones.
I know I'm young and apparently, too young to know what love is.
But it feels so real.
I liked him from the start. He was smart, witty, charming, fun, nice, interesting. Everything appealed to me. Eventually, he had me completely. my heart, my mind. just everything.
During the summer, I really wanted to get over it because he's leaving for college next August and I went 3 months without talking to him and the feelings still were the same. I didn't like him any less.
It's hard for me to flirt with other guys now. It's weird. I just don't feel attracted to anyone else and the more I try to flirt with another guy, the more I miss him.
It's just something that's there..I don't know what it is.
We used to like each other a lot and we were close to dating but not anymore. Do you have to be dating someone to be in love with them?
so basically, my two questions are
How do you know when you're in love and it's not hormones?
and do you have to be with someone to love him?
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no you do NOT have to be dating him to love him. you just have to have a close relationship.
physical lust is when his emotions don't appeal much to you, just his body.
hormones is when you go through roller-coaster-feelings. you really like him one minute, then you're all over another guy the next.
love is when he's the only one you want. constantly think about him and how grateful you are to have him, how good he makes you feel(not sexually). if you were to lose him, any other guys just couldn't compare.
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me adn my bf have been off and on for a year in a half. i love him and go crazy when im with him. he just has a way... what im worried about is if he cares about me... how do i know how he feels without making him feel that i'm pressuring him for info ya know (link)
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well, you have two options really.
you can either ask him straight up to let him know that maybe he needs to start showing it
or
you could test him. do things, and if his response shows that he cares, then he does.
like, if you talk about other guys and he gets jealous, that's an immediate hint.
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Hey i was just wondering what si the best way to lose weight. Well not so much lose weigh because i am thin i just have a pot that i want to get rid of and get some nice abs for the summer!!!! thanks fir all the help:) (link)
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situps/crunches.
look in CosmoGirl magazine. they have weekly workouts in there that will help tone the body.
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What does the song You and Me by Lifehouse mean? Because I have always liked it and it reminds me of my bgf whom I'm gonna start dating extremely soon and it's 'our' song now too. :] he said its about two people who are so in love with each other it's all they think about and stuff. and i got it as like they are the only two people in there world? or the other person is like that persons world/that girl is like all the boy needs and together no one else matters. i guess thats what i think but i really want to know what other people think of it too. here is a link to a video of it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QCe2GwscXgo and the lyrics: http://www.smartlyrics.com/Song522226-LIFEHOUSE-You-And-Me-lyrics.aspx thanks so much and i will rate you all for giving me your opinions!!! ;] (link)
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he's pretty much saying that out of all the people in the world, that girl is the one he notices most. He loses himself when he thinks about her and looks at her, "what time is it? and in what month?" yeah.
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so i was at starbucks today and the barista is really cute and i go there a lot and we chat and today he was telling me how it was slow there that day and he was doing a crossword puzzle and was asking me for help w/ some of the answers. so next time i go i wanna let him know i'm interested. i am thinking about getting him a book of crossword puzzles and in the front cover like putting my nuumber?
any opinions on this idea? (link)
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that's cute and original. i wish i was that smart sometimes =/
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Okay...backround info: I'm a girl, and I'm in my sophmore year of highschool. I have a boyfriend named James and he's a junior. We've been going out for 9 months and I love him...no...I'm in love with him, and I know he's in love with me too.
Fairy Tale ends there :(
Problem:
The past couple of weeks he's been acting sort of strange. He's been more affectionate at school and he'll just get me these random gifts...he trys to be with me every single second... and he's being way overprotective lately.
It's not that that bothers me either, but sometimes I just kind of caught him staring at me with this kind of worried expression or he would be really quiet around me...pensive.
So I decided to bring up his behavior after school today and here's what he said.
James/Botfriend: I love you and I don't want to lose you.
I was so shocked!
What could I possibly have done to make him think that he was losing me? Honestly I need advice here.
I was about to ask him about it, but I didn't get over the shock until his teacher was calling him up to the stage for rehearsal...
I don't know what to do now...or what to say to him...or even how to act?
What could I possibly have done to make him believe I didn't want to be with him? (link)
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Sometimes that just happens. He may have really strong love for you. I did that with my boyfriend. He's probably taking every minute and cherishing it instead of being a jerk and taking advantage of it. He's probably thankful he's with you and wants to show you that he really does care. What a sweetheart! Just let him know that you love him too and that he won't lose you, or whatever you want to say to him.
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ok, 16/f. i'm gay. and nobody knows! i really want to meet a girl because i've never had a gf, and i want one, but what do i do. The thing is, i go to a tiny school, nobody is homophobic really, but some people are uncomfortable and awkward around it. for some reason, out of all of the girls in my class, the ones i'm friends with are kind of preppy, "i love boys" type of people, and the out lesbians in my grade are REALLY annoying, so i don't hang out with them. if I came out i feel like i would be expected to switch "groups" or be kind of unwelcome in my group. they wouldn't be mean, it would just make life really uncomfortable and we probably would stop hanging out. what should i do? i'm friends with a bunch of seniors who are gay or who wouldn't care, but they are leaving at the end of the year! what should i do??
Also, how do I meet a girl even though i'm in the closet. i don't really like people my age though, so it's rare that i'll immediately be attracted to a girl my age, whereas i'm always crushing on older girls.
hellpppp (link)
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go to a party, or go somewhere outside of your school. outsiders are fun. you don't HAVE to tell your school friends that you're gay if you don't want to disrupt anything. It's your own personal thing, not everybody else's business, but if you do end up meeting a girl you like and you might want a chance with her, bring it up casually. make a small move and see what she does. that's a out all i could say.
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