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How do you know?
16/female.
i just want to know how do you know when you're in love?
I mean, I really want the real answers. I know it's different for everyone and I know "it's something you can't explain. you just know."
But I really can't tell between real love, physical lust, or just plain hormones.
I know I'm young and apparently, too young to know what love is.
But it feels so real.
I liked him from the start. He was smart, witty, charming, fun, nice, interesting. Everything appealed to me. Eventually, he had me completely. my heart, my mind. just everything.
During the summer, I really wanted to get over it because he's leaving for college next August and I went 3 months without talking to him and the feelings still were the same. I didn't like him any less.
It's hard for me to flirt with other guys now. It's weird. I just don't feel attracted to anyone else and the more I try to flirt with another guy, the more I miss him.
It's just something that's there..I don't know what it is.
We used to like each other a lot and we were close to dating but not anymore. Do you have to be dating someone to be in love with them?
so basically, my two questions are
How do you know when you're in love and it's not hormones?
and do you have to be with someone to love him?
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no you do NOT have to be dating him to love him. you just have to have a close relationship.
physical lust is when his emotions don't appeal much to you, just his body.
hormones is when you go through roller-coaster-feelings. you really like him one minute, then you're all over another guy the next.
love is when he's the only one you want. constantly think about him and how grateful you are to have him, how good he makes you feel(not sexually). if you were to lose him, any other guys just couldn't compare.
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when your inn love you definately will kno. people are right when they sayy that itts something that you cant explain. when imm around the boyy that i love, i never want too leave. even when were nott doing anything && just sitting there itts still the most amazing time ever just because imm there with him. he makes mee feel amazing && wouldnt wanna be with anyone else. itts the person who iff your friends invite you outt, youd rather be with him. everytime you think of him orr hear his name you get all happy && get the butterflies. && i dont think you have to be going outt with someone too love them....because iff you really kno them && they make you feel special then you can have feelings for them too. just depends on what that person means too you.
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Nobody in this whole world can tell you whether you're in love, only your heart can tell you.
Love cannot be told to anyone or can be explianed, you just know. Trust your instincts because nobody on this site can tell you how you feel, only you can answer that question.
To love somebody means that you've got very strong feelings for that person, which means you can't be with just anyone and love him. It has to be true, warm and straight from the heart.
This is the most difficult question i've come across, sorry if this didn't help.
Triquetra
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You are old enough to be in love when you are old enough to DECIDE to be in love.
I know, that sounds horribly unromantic and there are a million rose-wielding people out there who will say shit like 'you just feel it!'
I have feelings everyday of my life: love, hatred, misery, lust... Love isn't just a feeling. The man who beats his wife might honestly 'feel' that he loves her, but clearly whatever he is feeling isn't prompting him to behave as a 'lover'.
So when do you know you are in love? You are in love when you can behave like a lover. When you point to someone and think, despite all their faults that you choose them, and the world be damned. If love were just something you 'feel' there would be no divorce and no breaking up because frankly, it’s EASY to feel it. It’s tough to act love.
Do you need to be with them to be in love? In my opinion, yes. You can't really be a 'lover', that is, behave with love towards someone, when that person is absent.
For better or worse, this guy is absent from your life. You and he, because of your age, because of school, because of whatever, weren’t free to choose to love. You both have other things you need to do right now. That doesn’t make you bad people. That just makes you people. The feelings don’t conquer all and don’t make the choice possible.
Your obsessed and your are seriously infatuated. I know teens hate to hear it, but it’s still true: Most people have been there. It sucks, and it hurts and it drags you down for a good long while, and then slowly, you pick yourself back up and find yourself surprisingly attached to another person who seems even more perfect then that silly old crush.
That part just takes time.
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