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What could I have done?
Okay...backround info: I'm a girl, and I'm in my sophmore year of highschool. I have a boyfriend named James and he's a junior. We've been going out for 9 months and I love him...no...I'm in love with him, and I know he's in love with me too.
Fairy Tale ends there :(
Problem:
The past couple of weeks he's been acting sort of strange. He's been more affectionate at school and he'll just get me these random gifts...he trys to be with me every single second... and he's being way overprotective lately.
It's not that that bothers me either, but sometimes I just kind of caught him staring at me with this kind of worried expression or he would be really quiet around me...pensive.
So I decided to bring up his behavior after school today and here's what he said.
James/Botfriend: I love you and I don't want to lose you.
I was so shocked!
What could I possibly have done to make him think that he was losing me? Honestly I need advice here.
I was about to ask him about it, but I didn't get over the shock until his teacher was calling him up to the stage for rehearsal...
I don't know what to do now...or what to say to him...or even how to act?
What could I possibly have done to make him believe I didn't want to be with him?
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You need to talk to him. Not angrily, you need to talk to him to comfort him.
Obviously, there is not enough communication. You need to be understanding and sit him down and ask him why he thought he might lose you.
Something to keep in mind. At 17 or 16 in junior year, he isnt going to be fully formed and confident in himself. I remember being that age, and occasionally getting worried that someone might leave me or something for some reason. Sometimes there wasnt even a justification other than my own self esteem causing mental issues for me.
Get him to talk to you. Tell him that its ok, and you want him to be truthful because you DONT want to leave him or anything like that and if he has worries then he needs to tell you so that you can talk them out, and you can assure him that everything is fine.
Communication is key. Be gentle and understanding.
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Sometimes that just happens. He may have really strong love for you. I did that with my boyfriend. He's probably taking every minute and cherishing it instead of being a jerk and taking advantage of it. He's probably thankful he's with you and wants to show you that he really does care. What a sweetheart! Just let him know that you love him too and that he won't lose you, or whatever you want to say to him.
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You may well have done/said nothing at all. Is it possible that someone in school, or even his family may have inadvertantly said something that has caused him to question your loyalty? Perhaps there is a rival for your affections (or even his) and they are trying to split you up.
Please reassure him that he is the only one and you have no intentions of leaving him. Ask him to share with you what has caused this problem and then you can deal with it together.
He does sound a little insecure and only your reassurance will help. However, if he gets too clingy you may have to ask him to back off and give you some space. He needs to trust that you won't hurt him. Best wishes.
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