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my boyfriend keeps bugging me about sex
Ok we met on the internet and stuff he's really sweet and stuff but he likes 2 have sex WAY 2 much we met up @ this park and we were talking while standing next 2 his car with the door open and we we're talking about how much we love eachother and out of no were he kisses me about 10 times and I just ignore it but then he starts trying 2 get his hand in my pants but I wore a belt so he unbuckels it and starts fingering me 2 tell the truth it felt good but it shocked me and out of nowhere he gets on top of me and starts kissing me again I know he loves me because he writes me poems and stuff that leave me speachless and crys 2 me on the phone about how much he loves me. he's in the army I don't know what's going on I love him so much and I know he loves me I've tested him before and he's true 2 me I pretented 2 be my friend (she's a girl) and told him that I loved him on it and he told me he only loves destiny ( ps: I'm destiny) so I know that he loves me but what do I do about the sex thing
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If you feel you are ready for it then i say do it... as long as you use protection. If you have any hesitation at all then it means you arent ready! I cant tell you what to do. Virginity to some is a huge deal but to others its not really. It was to me, but looking back i wish it wasnt. That way i could have been with someone else before my current boyfriend of 4 and a half years.
Talk to him about it. Make him open up. And dont be afraid to embarass yourself!
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if you're ready and you WON'T have any regrets about it, do it.
if you're doubtful or just not ready, don't.
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give it a chance or just tell him how you fell
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i say sweety if youre not ready then dont do it no one can make you do anything you dont want to do does he pressure you then he doesnt love you he just wants pussy and if he really loves you hell wait and hold on as long as you can and see if he sticks around longer
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Stop him.
When his hands go somewhere, grab them, look him in the eyes, and say firmly "stop"
Talk to him and tell him that you arent ready to go that far.
I'll tell you, hes in the army. This means he has no chances to take care of sexual tension hardly at all. You cant have a high sex drive and be in the armed forces and not go completely insane. So when he sees you it comes out because hes very, very deprived.
You just have to have him understand that you have boundaries and if he wants you to eventually get comfy enough with him that you'd be OK with sex, that he has to not jump on you every time, but slow down and let you work up to intimacy at your own pace.
Hes also young. Just from his actions, hes either very young or very immature. Note that very young means under 20 to me. Younger guys havent learned the patience that makes you a great lover, and a great partner. They don't understand that about women yet. If you can teach him, you'll both be better off for it.
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You're not ready. Don't force yourself to do something you're not ready for. If he loves you as much as he says he does, he'll wait for you until you are ready. Explain this to him, and if he still doesn't stop, he's only in the relationship for sex, and he isn't worth your time.
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I agree with the other girl. If you aren't ready, you should tell your boyfriend, talk to him...make sure he knows that it bothers you.
If he does love you, he'll wait for you; if he gets mad...he doesn't love you, he just wants to have sex with you and that is it. You might THINK he loves you, but guys will say and do just about anything to get him some. My boyfriend does the whole crying thing and writes me letters and stuff, and we had sex like two weeks after we dated, we've been dating eight months now and he always tells me 'Sex isn't everything' and with him its true...he respects the facts that some days and nights I wont want to do it, he doesnt get mad...he just cuddles with me and what not.
Your boyfriend should be like that if he loves you.
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If you aren't ready, you need to tell him so. Let him know he needs to back off about it.
You say he loves you, but if he TRULY DOES love you, he won't pressure you about sex.
Poems, faithfulness, and crying to you about how much he loves you doesn't necessarily PROVE that he does truly love you.
All of the above, PLUS respecting you, your body, your feelings, and your wishes proves that.
ygs-29/f
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