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Q: i think i might have been fingered but i'm not sure if it was just touching. how do you know?also can you get anything from fingering/bjs

Uhm, I classify being 'fingered' as his finger...going in you. Just touching around you is exactly what it is...just touching. If his hands are clean you'll be fine.

Q: is there any ideas for hairstyles?? all i usually do is leave it down or put it in a ponytail..but i want more ideas..something classy yet cool..edgy but not to much..any ideas and links are appreciated..oh and btw i have strawberry blonde hair thats about 6-7 inches below my shoulders, i have side bangs and straight hair.

oh yeah another question..when i take a shower and my hair dries its always really frizzy, like not puffy frizzy, but whenever i put my fingers through it its
always in knots, even though i just brushed it, and when i stand by the sun or light theres always like my hair is standing on end with all the frizzies, ive tries straightening it, but that doesnt work..so any suggestions would be helpful
Thanx:)

I dont really have advice for the first question but to try and put it half up and half down, maybe crimp it or curl it...

As for the second question; my hair is the same way. You should try what I do. I shampoo my hair first and after I wash it out I put alot of conditioner in my hair, then I leave the conditioner in until I'm done shaving and washing everything; it is alot more managable. If it's got fly aways and it's a little frizzy, take a little bit of lotion or conditioner and run it through your hair, It should be okay after that.

Q: Ok we met on the internet and stuff he's really sweet and stuff but he likes 2 have sex WAY 2 much we met up @ this park and we were talking while standing next 2 his car with the door open and we we're talking about how much we love eachother and out of no were he kisses me about 10 times and I just ignore it but then he starts trying 2 get his hand in my pants but I wore a belt so he unbuckels it and starts fingering me 2 tell the truth it felt good but it shocked me and out of nowhere he gets on top of me and starts kissing me again I know he loves me because he writes me poems and stuff that leave me speachless and crys 2 me on the phone about how much he loves me. he's in the army I don't know what's going on I love him so much and I know he loves me I've tested him before and he's true 2 me I pretented 2 be my friend (she's a girl) and told him that I loved him on it and he told me he only loves destiny ( ps: I'm destiny) so I know that he loves me but what do I do about the sex thing

I agree with the other girl. If you aren't ready, you should tell your boyfriend, talk to him...make sure he knows that it bothers you.
If he does love you, he'll wait for you; if he gets mad...he doesn't love you, he just wants to have sex with you and that is it. You might THINK he loves you, but guys will say and do just about anything to get him some. My boyfriend does the whole crying thing and writes me letters and stuff, and we had sex like two weeks after we dated, we've been dating eight months now and he always tells me 'Sex isn't everything' and with him its true...he respects the facts that some days and nights I wont want to do it, he doesnt get mad...he just cuddles with me and what not.

Your boyfriend should be like that if he loves you.

Q: I was fingered a couple of days ago. It wasnt the first time, and the first time it happened, I didnt bleed. My period is not soposed to come for a few more weeks, and Im wondering why im bleeding so late after this insadince?

I don't think it was because you go fingered....maybe you have an irregular period...?

Q: ok i want to dye my hair red with some bleach blonde panels in it.

sort of like this:
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=4u22i4x

i have the hair dye and i have the bleaching kit. from what ive heard from people is that you do an all over color first then on top of it you can put in the bleach. but wouldnt the bleaching dye stuff mix with the hair dye making it orange? i really dont want that to happen because school pics are in 2 days.

if you know how to do this please give me any tips you can. and i dont have the money to go to a salon so that isnt an option.
thankyou

Well, dye your hair all over first...and why don't you get a highlighting kit? It comes with a platic hat with little holes in it. You have to get someone to help you...theres a small stick that comes with the hat to pull out stands of hair...then you dont have to worry about the mixture.

Q: hey im kaitlin im 13 and i like this kid who is a year younger than me is that weird?

also.. one of his friends imed me the other day and hes like EW EW YOU LIKE ERIC ( the kid i liked ) and he goes on and says EW HES A YEAR YOUNGER THAN YOU!! and i was like i dont like him (which i do) and i was like getting mad and he was like im just kidding. but i m still kinda mad about that.

and also, i REALLY wanna let eric kno i like him without actually telling him. so do u know if there is anyway that i can like lead him on? i dont really want to make it that obviouse tho.

i am also scared people will think its weird for me liking someone younger than me.
help? =]

Its not wierd! I've dated guys that were younger than me before. You can tell one of your friends that is friends with him that you like him, then tell her to tell him that you like him....but tell her to make it seem like he wasnt supposed to know...act like it was a secret. Then get his number and talk to him more and more....you'll hook up eventually.

Q: Okay so i want to go back to school with a "change" . Espicially a change with my hair. My hair is kind of long, its beneath my shoulders though, maybe three inches. I have dark brown hair and i used to have blonde streaks, but i got that two times, im sick of it. I need help with deciding a new color to put in my hair. Would a lighter brown look good? I dont know. Just give some advice please and thank you.

Confused deana.

Well, think about getting your hair in short layers (it won't be cut short, the layers will just be short)to give it an edge...and maybe dye your hair like a honey color and put light brown highlights in it?

Q: 15/f.
I have never made out. I know its sad, im old! :P But whenever I just peck a guy he tries to stick his damn toungue in my mouth. And I back away like noo! I would love to just go and makeout with the world, but I am worried I will make a complete fool of myself and then like the guys will be like wow what a loser haha. I know it comes natural, but when I'm about to makeout with someone I just get all weirded out and freaked, even with a guy I am seriously attracted to! It makes me sad when I can't just go out and have fun and kiss the cute guy I'm hanging with haha! Plus I want to actually have a boyfriend, and when guys ask me out I turn them out, because its weird to date someone without making out or doing anything. My last boyfriend all we did was hug and peck haha. What would help me not be so nervous and just do it already?! Also, after I get the hang of that, say I'm in a relationship..well I am NOT giving it up to some guy I'm dating, thats for marriage. But will the guy like leave me if the only thing we do it makeout, like not even bj or hj or any of that stuff? I would think most guys would at least want more than kissing.. :/
Thanks so much sorry its long I appreciate everyones answers and for reading all this!

Well, there are guys like that, who think that if you're gonna makeout with him, you can do more. Let the guy know that you aren't ready for anything like that yet, if he's a good guy he'll understand, if he gets mad and breaks up with you, you can do better than him. I have a friend who didn't kiss or anything, she just hugged...and she's been with this guy for a while now and she gave him her first kiss...he isnt a virgin, but he loves her and he is willing to wait...thats what it means to be in a relationship.

You've got to tell them what you want, what you don't want...and if you're with the right guy, don't worry about the kiss or the sex....it will come to you perfectly.

Q: 13/f
well i saw this kid sitting alone and he looked like he was about to fall asleep so i went over and started talking to him and asked him if he wanted to sit with me and my friend destiny. he went over and we started talking then too. i found out he was my age. And we became friends and then the next day i was over at the restraunt
again ( public bar and grill for a private lake and i know everyone up there very well) and Jess is one of the waitresses and she hangout with me and my sister and she walks over and i told her to tell my sister to stop calling wyatt chicken. They were calling that cuz thats what his dad called him and they didnt know what his real name was and i said wyatt and then jess said ill get him up to come up here. when she left my sister about fell out of her chair laughing but i acually wanted him to come up but i didnt want him over phone. I just need to know why they made such a big deal about it and then before i left jess gave me his phone #. I dont know if i should call him or what? wouldnt that be weird since he didnt acually give it to me.
HELP!

Well you've got to take a chance. Just call him and tell him your friend gave you his number. You'll just keep wondering about it until you do.

Q: my boyfriend is kinda starting to act different towards me, but then sometimes he acts the same.
and the same is being sweet, caring, wanting me ect.
but then somtimes he acts like he doesnt wanna talk or something, idk. i cant explain it.

but can some one tell me why he would be acting like that?

I've went through the same thing with my boyfriend, and I was afraid that he might be cheating on me...then he'd come over and he'd be so sweet...and the next day he'd be....idk...'bleh'. One night I was tired of being upset because I didn't know what was wrong with him and he txtd me...and he knew something was wrong...I told him what it was, because we talk about everything, and ever since then he has been the way he was when we first started dating...give him a chance, talk to him...he might go back to normal...or he may stay the way he has been: "bleh"...if he stays like that, you might want to look into it.

Q: okay so i have a friend,lets call her jenna. and i have another friend,lets call her kristen. me and jenna have been bffs since kindergarden but in 8th grade,jenna found new friends. and she did EVERYTHING with her new friends,including talking about me/leaving me out.

over the summer,kristen and I became pretty close.we both like the show,24(not the channel)and were both obsessed with it.i dont know if shes just using me or not,because i already told her that i "lost the seasons of 24" but then we were still friends. but sometimes i question,that in high school she wont be my friend anymore.

and jenna? well i dont know everytime i talk to her, i HATE her. you know? idk if i should be her friend,bc everytime i talk to her, im so jealous of everything she does. i mean she ALWAYS wins.
i mean shes so nice and stuff. but i dont know what to do

please help
i really need advice here
all myyyy friends are going to a different high school :(
thanks so much in advance!

Well, Jenna doesn't sound like a very good friend....talking about you, leaving you out? I bet the only time she talks to you or hangs with you is when her other friend aren't around. You;re her back-up friend and believe me, she doesn't care if she is hurting you...forget her...find some new friends.

As for Kristen? I think you both have stuff in common... But just in case, why don't you try talking to her...she might reasure you that she is your friend, and if she gets mad at your suspicions, I suspect that she is using you....overall...Kristen is the better friend, not Jenna.

Q: My mum will let me get a peircing but i have to be able to hide it from my dad. i dont think im slim enough for a navel peircig and im not too keen on getting my septrum(?) peirced. i like the idea of getting my hip peirced but i think my dad may see as my sis is a toddler and doesnt leave me alone. please i need help

Well I got my tounge pierced last summer and right after I got it done I went to stay with my Grandmother. My mom told me not to let her see it. My tounge was swollen for a few days; I broke the rules about not eating certain kinds of food until it healed, and not drinking just water...the only rule I followed was listerineing after every meal. I stayed there for weeks and my grandmother never seen it, and I went home and all was fine.

You could get your tounge pierced, your navel, too...gor for something you're gonna love, don't go for something that you have to settle for b.c your dad can't see it. It isn't going to hurt anyone if your father found out. You had permission, what is he going to do? He can't punish you, your mom let you get whatever it is pierced.

Q: i've been talking to this guy all summer but we've said we love each other and we talked on the phone like everynight. but we have this mutual friend Greg and his girlfriend's name is Allison. and lately this guy has been talking to Allison more than me. i mean we're not dating so hes really not cheating on me and im not the jealous type but i just don't know what to do. i mean she has a boyfriend but im not sure Greg knows about it. what should i do??

15/f

Um I have one word for this guy... 'Player'.
It's not going to do you or this Allison any good to stick around with this guy...all he's going to do is turn you and Allison against one another, and then he'll make for breaking Allison and Greg up.

I know you might really like this guy, but this guy is definetly going to be hated by someone after everything ends. Don't let him hurt you, is all I'm going to say...

Q: there is this girli used to be bestof friends withfor about 2 years, and recently i have beenhaving huge problems with her brother and family, and i have kind of grown apart from her aswell... she is a really nice girl andfun tobewith but i just feel like i need time away from her, it is like she smothers me..always calling, always sowing up at my house, inviting herself to go out with me and my friensd, or me and my family (and my family hates her) she never gives me any space... and so well i want a break from out friendship for a while.. some weeks, maybe a mont or two... but i do not want to be rude and bitchy to her, i dont call her anymore (but she remains to call me) i dont invite her out anymore (but he always invites me out and i make excuses to not go)i dont talk to her on the internet (yet she keeps sendin me emails and offline messages) i would think she would getthe idea in her head that i dont want to talk to her, but she obviously hasnt... so what can i do? i dont want to be rude, because she really is a good person.. but i dont know what to do... i know i wont be able to just talk to her and tell her, because i feel like that is not nice...and i am running low on ideas...

any sugestions??

I have had a friend just like this...and yes you can use the word 'Annoying' because it is true, she is annoying you isn't she?

What I did with my friend: One night she called me and I was just sooo irritated...I was like "I think I need a break from you...I need to think about some stuff."

It kinda felt like I was breaking up with her, lol. But she was like "Okay, call me when you're okay" and that was that...I called her a few weeks later and we were fine, no fights, not anything. We were cool, and she wasn't on my backside anymore.

Q: So I've been dating this boy for a good 8 months.. It would've been 9 if he had waited a couple of days. And I think it's lame to ask questions on here, no offense, but I'm desperate. There's so much to the story, but to sum it all up, he broke up with me for another girl. I think he wants to go back out in the future.. And he said he couldn't be with me if he liked someone else. And I don't know, it's just so hard. I've been crying and crying because it took this breakup to realize that I was actually in love with him. And up until recently, he was too.

How do you get over someone you loved SO much? I don't even feel like getting out of the house and I don't wanna meet new people. I just want him back =/

I have had the same problem, but mine happened awhile back...my advice is:

Tell him how you feel...be strong and just tell him....
If he rejects you or tells you he doesn't want you yet....forget him. You don't need that. You need someone who always wants you...he's going to keep throwing you away because he knows you'll be there, all the time, waiting for him. Don't wait for a guy...never wait for a guy.

It might sting alot...but the hurt will fade as each day goes by, and one day...you'll find the guy I'm talking about, the one who never wants you to leave. I know because it happened to me and now Im fine and I love the boyfriend I have now more than I have ever loved anyone... So give my advice a try...relax a few days, ignore him...then go out and find yourself that one special guy...then the jerk who threw you to the side will see how happy you are and how unhappy he is and he'll be sorry.

Good Luck,
Hope I helped.

Q: I hooked up with my friends ex-boyfriend. They were going out for 2 monthes and she broke up with him but she may still have some feelings for him. I hooked up with him the other night. Should I tell her? I don't want to risk losing her as a friend since she is really close but I don't want her to find out from someone else if other people happen to find out. Please help! thanks

You have to see it as, what would you say/think/or feel if she did it to you?
If your friend still likes him I think you should give it a little bit more time. Just stick with flirting with the guy until your friend gives you the okay to go out. Ask her before you and the guy hook up again.

Q: HEy!! Well, I'm having my birthday party Jan. 27. ThErE'll be mostly girls though, probably only 2 guys (onE is gay and onE has a gf, so kEEp that in mind). I alrEady know thE timE and EvErything, but I was wondEring what kind of stuff wE could do, bEsidEs sit around. LikE, what kind of gamEs and things. And what should I do to dEcoratE? Don't say Spin thE bottlE or any kind of gamEs likE that. What kind of food and drinks should I havE?? I'm sorry, but I'm rEally bad at party planning. I want to havE a REALLY GOOD party, and I don't know what to do! PlEasE hElp!!!

xoxo MEEEEE

Put on some good music and dance, have a fire out back and cook something good on the grill. Get chips and soda. Just sit and talk, dance. That's what happened at the last party I went to and I had fun.

Q: So I play basketball and so does my "best" friend Sarah. Well, halfway through the season my coach decided to make her swinger to varsity (she plays both varsity and JV) and I stayed on JV. I was happy for her but ever since she got put up she's been treating me horribly. Like, whenever I try to talk to her or hang out with her she completely blows me off and she told me before she got swinger that she wouldn't act that way cause 2 of our other teamates are acting the same way. I want to be her friend and I'm happy she made varsity but how do I tell her she's acting the same way she said she wouldn't?

Pull Sarah aside and tell her what she's doing, and tell her how she acts now. If She doesn't listen or avoides you then say to her 'If you're going to treat me like this then we can't be friends.' You may want to be ehr friend, but you don't deserve to be treated so. Find a new friend and hang out with him/her.Sarah might see what you mean and think that she was acting stupid. Then after some time, you will be friends again.

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My name is Jessica and I'm sixteen.

I like to draw and write, I'd like to be a novelist one day. I like to read as well.

I like giving others advice; Others always give me their advice, and I'd like to be one person many can turn to if they can find someone else to help them out....don't be afraid to ask me questions, I'll answer the best that I can.