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Eh. The now ex-boyfriend.
So I've been dating this boy for a good 8 months.. It would've been 9 if he had waited a couple of days. And I think it's lame to ask questions on here, no offense, but I'm desperate. There's so much to the story, but to sum it all up, he broke up with me for another girl. I think he wants to go back out in the future.. And he said he couldn't be with me if he liked someone else. And I don't know, it's just so hard. I've been crying and crying because it took this breakup to realize that I was actually in love with him. And up until recently, he was too.
How do you get over someone you loved SO much? I don't even feel like getting out of the house and I don't wanna meet new people. I just want him back =/
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awe sweetie i'm so sorry.
i guess all i can say is that you don't get over it. you cope with it. you tell him how you feel and let him know that you really really want him back. don't seem desperate like you said you feel, just tell him that you miss him. you want him back. ask him what you did wrong.
if you're in love with him, it won't take him long to realize what he's missing out on and what he's leaving behind. however if he does decide to just leave you and forget about you, you most deff have much better things to do.
FORCE yourself to go out of the house.
FORCE yourself to have fun.
in the end you'll realize that he's not worth it and neither is any other guy.
be strong. :)
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Give it time.
The truth is you DO get over someone, even if you loved them, even if you ALWAYS love them. You still manage to move on. It just takes time.
In a few weeks, or maybe months, you will realize something else besides the fact that you loved him: You will realize that he was immature, made a lame excuse and wasn't offering you the kind of love you really deserve.
Seriously. The truth is EVERYONE in a relationship has crushes on other people some time. When that happens you have to CHOOSE to stay with your partner or to leave. He choose to leave.
So go ahead, cry it out, mope around at home, feel down on yourself, just keep telling yourself it wont last forever. It wont.
Do yourself one more favor, maybe not today or tommorrow, but tell yourself not to date him agian. He decided to choose someone else over you once, he'll do it agian.
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Hey Hun,
I just read your question and I would LOVE to help you out. I just went through a situation like this recently and I know how hard it is. If you want some extra one-on-one advice/talking, you can e-mail me here (beautiful_raindrop_roses@yahoo.com) and I'll GLADLY help you out.
LOVE.
~Rain
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I have had the same problem, but mine happened awhile back...my advice is:
Tell him how you feel...be strong and just tell him....
If he rejects you or tells you he doesn't want you yet....forget him. You don't need that. You need someone who always wants you...he's going to keep throwing you away because he knows you'll be there, all the time, waiting for him. Don't wait for a guy...never wait for a guy.
It might sting alot...but the hurt will fade as each day goes by, and one day...you'll find the guy I'm talking about, the one who never wants you to leave. I know because it happened to me and now Im fine and I love the boyfriend I have now more than I have ever loved anyone... So give my advice a try...relax a few days, ignore him...then go out and find yourself that one special guy...then the jerk who threw you to the side will see how happy you are and how unhappy he is and he'll be sorry.
Good Luck,
Hope I helped.
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